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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 3/25/2006 6:29:06 AM | I learned a sad lesson this week. A girl I made friends with fell off the wagon, and died of a drug overdose. She had been clean when she was here in my town and I was helping her. She moved on to another town and met up with not so great ppl and got back into it.
So, guess the lesson here is...no matter what anyone does for a living (she was a stripper), or mistakes they have made in the past, there still is a real person under that, trying to make it back. (underneath her exterior was a sweet Catholic raised girl who just wanted to be loved and appreciated by anyone)
Sometimes you can help, sometimes you can't. But at least you have to have the guts to keep trying.
Big lesson...one we have heard probably a million times: never judge anyone till you have walked a mile in their shoes, and even then. Don't. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 3/25/2006 10:09:37 AM | tigerkitti
That's very sad. Another lesson could be: you never know how much you may touch another person's life. In this instance, this girl obviously touched your life or you wouldn't be saddened by the news of her death. She will probably be on your mind, to some degree, for many years. You are probably touching many more people's lives than you know right now, too...mine, for instance. If you hadn't commented, I would never have known you are a person of empathy and I would never have known your story. It's amazing how small and interactive this world still is at times, in spite of people becoming more and more impersonal. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 3/26/2006 8:56:54 AM | | Hey Goodday. Thanks. Yeah, I think everyone who has ever been in my life has affected me one way or another. I find I feel best about myself when I am helping others, even if it fails. It is important to me to keep trying. An old priest I knew used to say sometimes, you may be the only example of Christianity people see. Even if not a Christian, a good example, and a kind heart can do more then you ever know for someone. I have experienced that many times in my life, and hope that is how people remember me when I am gone from this world. As the one they could count on, and the one who never judged or hurt anyone for any reason. Life is too short to be nasty...it is meant to be lived, and lived well. Too bad some people get to be so old before they do learn some of the most needed lessons....but never give up trying. Hugs Judy | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 3/26/2006 10:32:17 AM | I think I'll "pass" on giving any, advice that is. I prefer to lead by example in matters of the teaching or sharing arena goes. However with my children I do stress some of the matters of seriousness and tradition verbally. All be it they are my opinions I feel if my father felt them important I should keep some traditional family beliefs alive and close to the heart. Ya get my drift. Sorry for the violen music in the backround | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 3/26/2006 9:44:58 PM | Touchin other people's lives
you never really know except with empathic feelings that relate aspects of your own life experience with other people. Sometime just the ephasis [inflection of voice] on a word in a moment of recognition. you are struck by the reality and it sticks in your mind forever. Now the rest of your life has that moment as a signpost. That one word from one person in your life has changed your life. The momet is gone and the person is gone but you will never be the same again. I know these moments happen to everyone and so many of them don't really make any sense. Its the random development of you by you in your great attempt at making free choice in a non fatalistic reality. Well that was something I thought up late at night when I probably should have been sleeping.
I do think everyone is the same in their differences and Strippers are people too.
As we travel on this life experience
we touch and are touched constantly
throughout our waking lives
and subliminally at times in sleep
our media driven society engulfs completely
poles tell us who the winners are
before we choose them
tangents again ... I seem to do that like most people ...
point being...
you never know who will take to your words or being or works in what way.
we live in a random universe that has moments of seeminly ordered events.
we invented time to manage them and money to charge for the management
but the only important thing is the way we touch eachother creating society
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Cynnie
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Joined: 12/24/2005
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 3/27/2006 9:13:52 AM | Hey Cynnie,
I'm from Florida...Now ya done gone off and given me a swell head! Oh?....not referring to me?.... Darn it anyhow! LOL
See, I think girls form North Carolina are tops! Love that southern accent too! My best buddy is a guy that grew up in the back hills of North Carolina. The greatest friend I've ever had. He is a little guy of about 6'3" and 300 solid pounds. A gentle giant. He never saw a swimming pool until he was 18 years old! now that's back country! He never walked into a bar until he was 33! He is now 47. And his first trip on a plane was only about 4 months ago.
Anyway, just wanted say howdy girl! You look great! Loved reading your profile too. *wink* | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 3/27/2006 9:26:21 AM | My pal Mandrake said:
I've learned that some women just never stop flirting and cheating^^^^
Is that right? You mean only women do that sort of thing? lol
Ok, on the serious side.....Something I learned. I was one of those guys that did the cheating thing. I learned that it was not worth the pain Icaused one beautiful woman, my wife at the time. If I could do it all over..........
But trust me on this one...I keep hearing people say that once a cheater, always a cheater.
To those mis-guided souls, I'd say that you just don't know me. I would never do that to someone again. Not to mention what it did to me. Let's say I've finally matured and grown. Lessons learned tha hard way are the best.
BTW, How ya doin Mandrake? bet you are still at least still flirting! lol I know I am. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 3/27/2006 9:50:01 AM | Hey pal, it was just a joke! I mean anyone that knows you or me for that matter, knows we are both so very quiet and shy. Would never ever flirt. LMAO!
I learned that flirting is a skill best saved for ummmmmm? uhhhh? Well let's see? hmmmm? .....
Oh well, I'll get back to ya on it! | |
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Cynnie
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Joined: 12/24/2005
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 3/27/2006 1:36:21 PM | Time is the most precious thing you can give someone.
Never place too much value on anything that cannot love you back.
I have more, but since I'm over 40 I have to take time to think about it ... my mind ... now where'd I put my mind ... I had it earlier this morning..................... | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 3/28/2006 7:11:53 AM | .
If we would practice today some of those good ideas we
had yesterday, tomorrow might be better.
Or:
If we have one foot in yesterday and another in tomorrow,
we’re probably pissing on today.
So:
I say quit whining and live today well because there is no
telling what might happen by tomorrow.
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 3/30/2006 8:33:03 AM | I keep being reminded of this lesson:
Good friends, true friends are there when you need them and help you with your difficult times. That person/company you work for who once in a while tells you what a great job you're doing...that's not really your true friend. Don't kid yourself. You're really just a replaceable resource and you're only good as long as you're producing.
I went to work yesterday morning just to make sure some loose ends were taken care of before I went out for 5 days for knee surgery (I didn't have to go in, but I wanted to make sure I didn't leave anything undone. Slap me for caring). My work friends came by my office to see if there was anything they could do to help me out (they have their own workloads to attend to, but still offered their assistance) and my boss came by to throw several of his personal requests at me that could have waited until my return, but he wanted them taken care of right now, before I left for the day. The contrast is always so stark and it amazes me that I've allowed myself to be surprised by seeing it again. But, companies/bosses only want to see results and in most cases, they aren't there to be your buddy. Just do your job or get out.
Have times changed so much that the people you spend most of your day with really don't get that close to one another? Maybe it's always been that way, but it seems that my mother and father had bosses that actually came by to check on them at home if they were out on sick leave (not that I want my boss to do that, but it would have been nice to hear a, 'Good luck with your surgery and hurry back!' out of him. What a dreamer I am!). Maybe these drugs are making me hallucinate and I just think people had more feelings for their fellow humans in days past. Maybe it was never there...but it must have been or it wouldn't bother people now when they don't see empathy and caring, right?
Anyway, to answer the question that just HAS to be burning in your mind right now (ha, ha!)...My knee surgery went well and right now, I can hop around a little to get to the coffeepot and the computer. What more could I possibly need!??!  | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 3/30/2006 11:29:27 AM |
Anyway, to answer the question that just HAS to be burning in your mind right now (ha, ha!)...My knee surgery went well and right now, I can hop around a little to get to the coffeepot and the computer. What more could I possibly need!??!
What else could you possibly need you ask? Well as a friend, if I was close enough, I'd be there to wait on you hand and foot. You would not be hopping around for coffee or anything girlfriend. I'd even cook for ya! I mean, what are friends for right? | |
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