| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 4/6/2006 7:49:11 AM | Good morning.
Just an update: I had the pleasure of meeting one of our favorite ladies yesterday. Some of you know Dceee is here in Florida to visit her mom. So we planeed a meeting for the day before yesterday. I had to cancl at the last minute since some things came up that had to be taken care of. So I was ruinning late for our 7:39 meeting. I called her cell phone and left 4 voice mails only to find out I had written the nuber down wrong! Well she finally called me when I was about half way of the 91 mile drive to meet her. We agreed it was late and made the date for the next day. Since she does not know Sarasota, I asked her for one place that she remembered seeing and we'd meet there. Turned out to be a Waffle House. I got there with time to spare. Drowned myself in coffee as I waited. But then I wondered if there was more then 1 Waffle house in the area. So when she was about 10 minutes late, i phoned her. ( right number this time) Between her description and the cashier at the Waffle house I was at, we figured out that she was not in Sarasota, but was in Bradenton. So I drove another 20 miles up the Interstate and we finally met. I was glad she was running late too! We spend a really nice couple of hours talking about all sorts of things. it was really nice! Of course I downed myself with yet more coffee while we talked. lol I offered her luinch but she was not hungry. If we had the time, I'd have taken her to a much nicer place then the Waffle House too. So we parted with a nice hug and kiss. And she is a great kisser too! *wink*
Gee, did I just kiss and tell?
Anyway, it went well. it was great to meet one of ours. Dceee..You are a super lady! | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 4/6/2006 11:53:33 PM | .
Jim meets Dceeee saga. . . . Cool! Okay, wrong Waffle House, but whatever. Sounds like Jim was running fast on caffeine there for the day. LOL
OT: Went to the funeral services for my dear little friend Alice this morning. She was always a joy to be around and, this morning I noticed that at least a couple hundred other people felt the same as I do about her.
This was an outward reminder to me to be extra nice with friends because, well, you just never know. We never told each other how we felt, she was a married woman, after all. But, when they came up to meet me for the first time this morning, her sister, and later her daughter, told me how my friend felt about me. I was surprised, somewhat, but not completely.
And now the should have, could have, would have, feelings begin for me because both her and her husband have invited me over for different functions and gatherings these past few months and I never made it simply because either I would be the only single person there, or didn’t quite fit in for some other reason. Stupid! We saw each other at two public meetings a week and took time to talk some at each, but that was it lately, except for e-mails and the very occasional phone call.
Be extra nice to your good friends, folks. You never know when you might lose them. In this case, it was but 15 short days between diagnosis and funeral.
The funny part is that I hugged her husband many times more than I hugged her. Shame on me. Of course, she was such a little thing there really was not much for a big guy to hug. It was her attitude and the interesting (and often humorous) cognitive powers that attracted me so much to her. That, and her impish grin, and the associated gleam in her eyes, that stated clearly that she could take some very interesting action on the situation, if she wished. She was much loved, and very respected, by many.
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 4/7/2006 12:57:36 AM | Sorry to hear of the lose of a good friend DbnDon.
Thank you for the reminder of always telling our friends what they mean to us. I honestly try to do that. You may never get another chance to tell them how you feel about them if a tragedy hit tomorrow.
I lost an old friend a few weeks back too. I've known him since 1984. He became ill at home and would not see a doctor. Two days later he was rushed to the hospital and while they were doing tests he had a massive heart attack and died on the table. It was a shock. Sadly, he and I had not talked in some time. I had tried to call him just several days before he left us. I took that hard since maybe I could have tried to reach him a few more times on the phone. His widow is a good friend and I did not fail to tell her how I feel about her.
And another thing I learned.........I read my post above and can see i failed to run spell check! I can spell, but I can't type, so I do get a lot of errors. My fingers always seem to hit the wrong keys or ones next to the one I want!
Spell check said I did good on this piece! lol | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 9/28/2006 8:47:40 AM | Life is a choice.
Everything we say and do is the result of a choice. Some we are not aware are choices. We get out of bed everyday and say we HAVE to. But we don't. We choose to get out of bed. We choose to go where we go. We choose to do what we do. And by not making a choice, we are ultimately choosing. Examine the things that you feel are beyond your control, that you think you have to do. You will find a choice. You don't have to pay taxes. Are their consequences for that choice? Absolutely. But by paying them, you exercise a choice. Even if you are held at gunpoint and "forced" to do anything, you exercise a choice. You choose to do what they say instead of being shot or killed.
Life is a choice. Learn to make good choices. Explore all avenues and possible outcomes. Your life WILL depend on them. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 8/24/2007 10:51:53 AM | Fair is a 4-letter F-word.
Education... education... education, and try to incorporate something you have a passion for into a paying career. It is a rare blessing and resists burnout.
When it's all said and done, the most fun and memorable times of my life all have involved being gathered with family. Never mess with a winning combination.
If they ain't blood, their love isn't unconditional (and neither is yours). Given the proper circumstances even your oldest and dearest friend will screw you but at least they'll kiss you first. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 8/24/2007 2:42:04 PM | for my kid...
don't be like me, be you...
make your own mistakes...
plenty of time to make things right if you're wrong about something but you have to do that; humility will go a long way...
don't sweat the small stuff...
heck, don't sweat anything...
take your place in the world (it won't be calling and pointing out where you should be)...
listen...
whoever and whatever you feel you are inside that's what to show the world...
they can smell a phony a mile away...
learn forgiveness early and practice it always; you'll need from others sometimes too... | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 8/24/2007 5:29:36 PM | - Always seek first to understand, then to be understood.
- What we are communicates far more effectively than what we say or do.
- Live out of your imagination, not your history.
- The key is not to prioritize whats on your schedule but to schedule your priorities.
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 8/25/2007 9:46:48 PM | You can always find someone to say yes to something that you want to do in life. Lots of people will say yes to you. But if you really want an honest opinion on what it is you want to do. Ask someone who you have a great deal of respect for. You might not get the answer you want but it's the answer you need to hear.
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 8/25/2007 11:20:25 PM | ...I attended a motivational workshop a while back and one of the guest speakers was an elder from a nearby community. ...I loved her philosphy on life and happiness...this is what we strive for right?
Do you remember when you were a kid and how much you wanted to become a teenager...you could hardly wait...that was going to make you really happy, turning 13 wow, we could hardly wait.....then it was 16, oh man when we turn 16 we are going to have the world by the tail, we'll be able to date and stay out late, all that freedom..yup we were surely going to be happy when we reach 16....then it was 21....so ok, now were married, raising our children and maybe thinking about buying a house, ....then before you know it years go by, the kids are getting older now and we can hardley wait for them to grow up and move out, we will be able to travel, the house will almost paid for by then , were going to be so happy when that times comes were going to have one big party......... Ah, finally the time has arrived, the kids are finished college, and they have moved out, the house is all paid for now...now is the time for our happiness, yes it sure is.......we look around at our empty house and we wish for yesterday....if only we could go back.....we would be the happiest person in the world.
Her philosphy was be happy with today.
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 8/26/2007 3:52:44 AM | I have found that the simplist answer isn't always the correct one. The harder it is to find the solution to the problem, the easier it is to remember the answer.
I have also found by thinking OUTSIDE the box, most times leaves you standing outside the box. But if in your heart you know your answers are true(at least for yourself) then standing alone can be very comforting.
It's ok to go against the grain, not all public opinions are correct. It takes someone to stand up and voice another opinion to open eyes and minds to perhaps another way.
Humor is one of the main sources of survival. Laughter thru tears can take away the pain, laughter thru fear can ease the fear long enough to get a grip and put yourself in a more protected frame of mind. Laughter because of laughter can cleanse the soul, and lifts one's spirit to new heights.
The one gift I have learned over the years, and I try very hard to pass this on, be yourself, be kind to yourself, because at some point there may be know one else there to do this for you.
No your limits but try to push to new bonderies each and every day. Stretch the imagination, dream the impossible, who knows one day it may just come true. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 8/26/2007 5:14:31 AM | What I've learned:
Sometimes it is best to keep your opinions to yourself.
In the end it doesn't matter whether someone else likes me or not. What matters is that I like myself.
Like the old song says, "Walk a mile in my shoes. Yeah before you abuse, criticize and accuse, walk a mile in my shoes." Through the years I have often been too quick to judge, and too closed to listen, and have lost friends - and opportunities to be a friend - because of that narrowminded attitude. Thankfully I am a much more accepting, caring person than I once was. | |
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