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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 2/3/2006 6:38:06 AM | Never pack your shampoo and conditioner in your suitcase without first putting the bottles in baggies. High altitudes make the bottles pop open and you may spend your first few vacation days cleaning all your clothes. 
Good morning all! I hope everyone is doing well!
It's Friday and we need to have a party to celebrate all the new folks, the birthdays, and just being alive! | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 2/3/2006 6:46:43 AM | i would like to add also do not put coffee in a little baggie and close tight , when taking a fight. or you will smell of coffee for the entire trip. Not to mention the hassle to clean out all those little grounds. What a mess.
life is truly an experience, a learning one! | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 2/3/2006 6:55:37 AM | Thanks, Galaxy! That's a good lesson!
I was thinking of this yesterday after
1) having the SAME fight two night running with my teenage daughter
2) seeing several folks at work butt heads
3) meditating on my past relationships and from observing the relationships of others
When communication (verbal or non-verbal) is no longer a priority, relationships start to go downhill and if corrective action isn't taken, you can kiss your relationship goodbye. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 2/3/2006 7:26:10 AM |
When communication (verbal or non-verbal) is no longer a priority, relationships start to go downhill and if corrective action isn't taken, you can kiss your relationship goodbye
oh so, true. this is not a situation that time will heel. it takes action by both party’s or it’s doomed. When one quits trying, don’t fool yourself. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 2/4/2006 10:06:47 AM | Good morning all!
Never do something because 'that's the way it's always been done.' If you decide to follow anything, you should know why and have a firm conviction. Traditions are great, but not when the reason behind them no longer makes sense or has been proven to be harmful.
I was watching a documentary on circumcision the other night and one tribe has a rite of passage for young men, which send them out to live alone in a crude hut immediately after being circumcised. The young person isn't allowed to eat any solid food or have any water until he's healed (he can some other liquid, I can't remember what right now). Only after the wound is healed is he allowed to rejoin society. Sometimes the surgeon is an unskilled person may use a dirty, dull knife, or may not bother to clean his hands and may not insist on the patient cleaning himself. Anesthesia isn't used. Some of these young men don't heal; they die. Some get infections and end up with a little stump or no penis at all. A small portion heals properly and lives to pass on this tradition.
As I watched this program, I thought about my own traditions and remembered a story I'd heard long ago:
A young woman watched her mother as she prepared a traditional holiday meal. The mother took the ham and cut the end off of it and tossed the smaller cut aside. She placed the ham in the pan, which now had a significant amount of empty space left. The young woman asked her mother why she cut the end off and the mother said, 'I don't know. That's the way my mother always did it.' When the grandmother was asked why she did it, she replied, 'The ham was too big to fit into the pan.'
Why do we follow our traditions? If we don't have reasons that defend our convictions, perhaps we should reexamine and decide if we still need to follow them. We may decide that the reasons don't really matter and we observe just to keep our heritage alive. That can be a good enough reason. At least we know why we are following the tradition and why we stand behind them. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 2/4/2006 1:44:58 PM | | The journey called Life is not very rewarding if we don't stop along the way for a thorough self assessment and examination of our beliefs, traditions, values and morals. This is what allows us to see ourselves for who and what we are. Permits us to see the changes that can shape us for tomorrow and take us into our journey prepared and ready to face whatever may come. Knowledge, to be of value, must be applied, or it is just a commodity that takes up space. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 2/4/2006 9:48:55 PM | Just turned 50 myself yet from the age of approximately 25, I learned while fooling around with a calculator that even if I lived to the age of 65 years it was only 25,550 days. Being shocked at how low that number was I learned never to procrastinate my feelings, gaining dreams and goals, being happy in the moment and constantly look for a piece of joy each day.
During sad days, I just have to think about the good moments that are stored as photographs in this brain of mine, smile then move on to something more productive.
So just giving someone their age in days instead of years is the only advise I give anyone. The question to ask then is always,
How many days are you willing to waste on being unhappy or mad
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How many moments of joy have you found today.
Works for me. I only know that if I get hit by a big bus, my last moments wont be saying, "OH SH!T". Nothing is left unsaid, unfelt or not lived. Life is good. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40
Posted: 2/4/2006 10:07:15 PM | Lots of good advice. I would also add that it's very important to NOT get 'sucked-in' to the desire to keep up with your friends, neighbours, co-workers, etc.
Be yourself. That's one thing NOBODY can take away from you. 
For me, turning 40 was almost 'devastating' but turning 50 was a 'non-issue'. Could be because I still feel like I'm 30. | |
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