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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40 Posted: 2/7/2006 8:19:26 PM | Wow, littlekitty. That's a tough lesson to learn. Sounds like you haven't been treated too kindly in the past. Hopefully, your experience on POF will work out much better.
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My lesson for the day:
Always say thank you when someone holds the door open for you or does something nice for you. Good manners are going by the wayside and it's up to each of us to try to promote them. If we don't, we'll soon hear only negative, hateful speech coming from others and ourselves. Humans aren't conducting themselves like the higher, superior species they are supposed to be. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40 Posted: 2/8/2006 7:29:09 AM | Sometimes our memories are much nicer (or worse) than the actual event. It's also funny that we often remember hateful people who have died as being so much kinder/better than they were while living. Is that due to having, 'Don't speak ill of the dead' pounded into our heads?
Good morning everyone and welcome to the new folks! | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40 Posted: 2/8/2006 8:18:35 AM | Love your children when they're young.....they can break your heart like nothing else can when they grow up.
When you start a new relationship just be yourself & never promise anything that you can't continue doing forever.
Never miss a good chance to keep your mouth shut until you have your anger under control.
Don't make longrange plans with short-term people.
A mistake is wasted if you don't learn something from it. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40 Posted: 2/8/2006 2:49:35 PM | | To never, ever settle, no matter what. Life is about hard work (in relationships as well).... But, I don't think anybody should ever settle for whatever they think they "deserve". Plus, getting "old" is the best thing that ever happened to me. I know just what I want, what I'll deal with or not, etc, etc.... I've quit being a "people pleaser"... ((Usually, anyway))>>> Sometimes it's hard not to fall back on old habits>>>> | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40 Posted: 2/8/2006 11:58:43 PM | | I've learned that some privileges come with the responsibility of honouring my word, especially when the privileges are bought with the only currency, of honouring an agreement. I would advise people to be accountable for their actions, and not deflect from them when they fail to hold up their end of a bargain. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40 Posted: 2/9/2006 8:10:17 AM | I've learned that the best buttermilk pancakes in the world come from a recipe given to me by my son's great-grandmother (if you want the surprisingly simple recipe email me).
I've learned that having money doesn't automatically give a person class or manners (or even good sense).
I've learned that no matter what you say, someone will find a reason to be offended by it. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40 Posted: 2/9/2006 2:21:40 PM | OK, I guess we have to write something we learned so it is on topic and does not get closed down by the POF powers that be. So that's one thing I learned as I try to follow my new friends around this otherwise great site. lol
Thank you GoodDay for letting me know you started this Forum. It's just nice to see the same faces and opinions and feelings of others I've met here on POF. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40 Posted: 2/9/2006 2:58:05 PM | Hi Jim and everyone else,
Yes, we do need to keep on topic, as we've all noticed, as the mods don't like chat threads.
So...
What I've learned today....
* Even though I much prefer the warm weather to the cold, it's a bit uncomfortable to dress for cool weather and go out for lunch and discover it's sweltering hot.
* I've also learned that it's wiser to start off a project in an organized way than to try to organize things after you're well into it and have tight deadlines to meet.
* Also...I've learned that in times of stress, some people have a tendency to draw away from loved ones in order to deal with the problem, but most of the time, that's when you need to lean on one another to get through the difficulty. You may not feel that you need the support, but others might need you and this could be your time to be there for them.
Almost Friday! | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40 Posted: 2/9/2006 6:11:23 PM | * Don't tell others your troubles. 80% don't want to hear about them, and the remaining 20% are glad you are miserable. (Swiped from RD)
* Open and fund a Roth IRA at 18, and you'll retire at 50 a millionaire.
* Treat each passionate opportunity as though it were your last. It may well be.
* Never burn bridges, ever. Stay friends with your ex, even if it kills ya.
* Walk every day and you will never grow old. | |
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| Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40 Posted: 2/10/2006 1:45:12 AM | First post here and new to POF.
Many good things already have been said here. My advice to anyone is:
Live the best life you can, one day at a time. Look for the "good" in everyone you meet. Go out of your way to make at least 3 people feel good about themselves each day. Take pleasure from the simple pleasures in life. Treat people how you like them to treat you. Be yourself and be happy with who and what you are. Don't be in a hurry Respect life.
As I hit 50 this year, I did a lot of reflecting and soul searching. I think that is normal for people at this stage of life, especially when our lives are disrupted by divorce. I have 3 wonderful daughters who are my pride and joy. Two of them will be off to university this coming fall. They have always been the center of my life and they are my pride and joy. Up to this point in my life it has been hard to see over the next hill. I have come to realize that I have focused nearly all my energy and resources on helping my children to launch their own lives, etc. Now it's time to find my own way out there.
I haven't thought much about what I want to do or accomplish in my private life (vs professional career). I am still thinking about that one and admittedly struggling with that a bit. I guess I was figuring that I would find a new partner in life and then it would all become clear. | |
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