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lala69
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Joined: 10/31/2006
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 7/12/2007 12:38:46 PM | | I have a friend who lives with folks at 45 .He cannot leave that house due to a phobic anxiety state which he has tried very hard to overcome. Also though on welfare he does contribute to the household I would not date anyone who would not date him for being phobic as I have seen the hell it caused him. I think it is judgemental to say no without considering all circumstances | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 7/12/2007 12:59:09 PM | I guess I would take it on a case by case basis. There are all kinds of situations in life, which is something you learn as you get older. As part of what's becoming the sandwich generation, I would have to hear the whys and wherefores.
If you're living at home in the basement playing nintendo all day and eating the food your mommy still cooks for you, then - no...sorry...think I'll pass :) | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 7/12/2007 4:25:50 PM | | It depends on the circumstances,I'm 29 yrs old and still live at home to help take care of my mom who has several health problems.I feel I owe to them for doing so much for me to be there for them .I support myself,take care of the house,cook...not like I'm mooching.In the past few men I dated had a problem with me still living at home at my age..too bad..family comes first! | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 7/12/2007 4:37:11 PM | I think every situation is different. I share an apt with my mom because as a single mom I can't afford to pay rent on my own but if I could I would be outta here in a flash. but if you can afford it then why would you want to live with your parents?
When it comes to dating, yes its tough if both of us live with someone else especially if its a parent. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 7/12/2007 4:45:43 PM | I think it depends on the situation. I'm 25 and I still live at home. I have had guys stop talking to me because of it.
I did move out and go off to college. I met a guy...long story short...he left me w/ nothing except bills bills and more bills and an apartment I couldn't afford. My mom was there for me and said I could move back in with her rent free and pay off my bills. I still have some college to finish, so it helps living at home. I pay all my bills and I do help with groceries.
I hate that I got myself in a situation where I needed to move back home, but I don't think I should be judged on the fact that I have had to move back home. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 8/22/2007 10:31:41 AM | "If you're living at home in the basement playing nintendo all day and eating the food your mommy still cooks for you, then - no...sorry...think I'll pass :)"
Sounds like a great arrangement which I did not have the benefit of in my youth. So I would (if I could) take that over the risk of not being dated by some!!!!! LMAO LMAO LMAO LMAO. Instead of that .................. (that is another story)!
Got to go change diapers and bedsheets now.
Nick The Carer (and Thinker on spare time) | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 8/22/2007 1:27:56 PM | ^ ^ ^ ^ In this case your parents are living with YOU. Completely different situation.
I'm sure the original intent of this thread was at what age should you be independent, working, paying bills and not living off your parents.
I think everyone here would agree that whatever your living situation, when you are an adult you should be independent -- or if something bad has happened in your life lately that has put you in a dependent position (divorce, illness, etc), you should be working on regaining your independence.
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 8/22/2007 1:51:22 PM | ^ ^ ^ ^ Living in Greece there aren't too many POF pickings. Just for giggles I checked the number of women between 30 - 50. There were 60 -- this doesn't take into account things like preferences
My guess is in real life you don't get out a lot because of your responsibilities at home.
That would make it hard to date. No?
I realize that kudos don't give you a hug, and that's a bummer.
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 8/22/2007 2:21:07 PM | | This is such an issue in North American society but I don't think this would even be a thread to discuss in 80% of the world, especially Latin and asian cultures. Anyway..there is a difference between "STILL living with" at a certain age and "living with". I personally moved out when I was 21 because I wanted to and was living with someone. I moved back a couple times since due to roommate defections, financial crisis, breakup, and most recently my daughter and I stayed with my parents the last few months before the divorce was final (I mean, lawyer bills and legal fees kinda make paying high gas bills, elect bills and the rent somewhat difficult). I don't see why it is an issue in our culture. However, I don't understand why someone 30+ would never want to go out and explore the world and see what's out there and try making a go of life themselves, unless they had some special circumstances like aging parents, illnesses, etc. I don't look down upon someone who still lives with mom or dad as long as they are helping with the bills, housework and the like, but like I said, I enjoy being on my own either living by myself or with a partner. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 8/23/2007 6:22:47 AM | If you're a mooch, then 1 year old is too old. If you're not a mooch, then 150 is not too old. IF you're living with your b/f or g/f and mooching off her, that's worse. At least with your parents, it was part of the deal.
Besides, how do I know that they don't want the company? So I should only date people who want to make their parents lonely? Why would I want to date someone like that?
Mooching is wrong. Not mooching is right! | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 8/23/2007 9:16:13 AM | I don't know if someone posted this, bc I didn't read all million pages. lol
I think there is a difference between being a dependant, and living at home. I have not lived with my parents since I was 18. I have sacrificed and struggled and it has sucked at times, to remain completely independent. I am very close with both my parents, and I know if something happened to me where I had to move home, I could. Not to mention the fact my closest family member is 8 hours away--I don't have any family in the area, and so I don't have that thought to fall back on, so it keeps me on my toes.
with that being said--I don't think you can cap it off at a certain age--I think it depends on the intentions, and why someone is living at home in the first place.
But, sorry to say..it still kinda eeks me out when I meet a 27 year old still living with mom or dad and they are healthy and have jobs...makes me think there is something up...they simply may not be on the same level of independence as i and that is a no go in a relationship for me. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 8/23/2007 10:01:55 AM | Karma Kid,
You're the prime example of what his post meant to expose. You're a 27 yr old BUM. By your own admission you life FREE. As for those who "critize and complain" having been forced out by their mean parents....WRONG again. MOST well brought up young people have the NATURAL desire to try out their own wings (be self supporting) by an age of 18-21. I strongly suspect that the intent of this topic was to encourage discussion about the MATURITY levels of folks in their late 20s, 30s and older who still leech off of their aging parents. Dacainaru has shown a high level of maturity in thining about both the futures of herself and her children, and her parents. She recognizes the future responsibilities involved in assisting her aging parents, while YOU see your parents as nothing more than a FREE RIDE. You're saving YOUR money...did it EVER occur to you that perhaps they had looked forward to having fulfilled their financial obligations to you so that THEY could save a little of the money that THEY worked hard for? Perhaps they had dreams of buying a little one bedroom condo on a beach with a nearby golfcourse where they could enjoy the fruits of THEIR labors. Kinda hard to do with an irresponsible 27 yr old who refuses to grow up and go have his own life....INDEPENDENT of them.
Anyone who thinks that I'm being too harsh....well, too bad....I call 'em as I see 'em! One of my daughters did ask to move home with me after she'd gotten divorced....she was 26. I informed her that her room and board would be $200 a month and that she'd do her own laundry! She thought it was a heck of a deal! She lived with me for 2 1/2 yrs....didn't want to turn 30 and still be living with her Mother. GOOD GIRL! Yes, she still occassionally asks me help with a bill when she's running short and that's FINE. We never outgrow the desire to help our children. It is extremely unhealthy however to keep your children dependent on you long after they should have been on their own. There is NOTHING wrong with returning "Home" to regroup and make a new game plan; but anyone 27 yrs old who has never wanted to leave the "nest" must have some serious maturity issues, therefore making them a highly undesirable dating prospect. Who's parents would THEY live with??? LOL! | |
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