| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 8/23/2007 7:44:57 PM | | Hmm i moved out when I was 23. THen me and my g/f at the time broke up, I lost my job and ended up having to move back in with them. I went back to college, graduated with an A.S degree in computer support at 25, and moved to texas. Now I live in memphis. Wouldnt want to live with them agian unless i really really really really had to. As long as your in college no problem, or if you move out and something happens and you have to move back in, either you have problems or they have health problems then nothing should be seen wrong with it. Its the person who has lived with them all his life and never even attempted to move out on their own is when there is a problem. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 8/24/2007 5:52:24 AM | I don't think it's a problem to live with your parents no matter how old you are. It gives you time to save up money, go to school, and help out with the family. But, I don't think many people follow that standard.
As for me, I did live with my parents until I was 22. During that time, I went to school, saved my money, and finally decided to move out. I moved away this year to south carolina, bought me a house, and living life. So now if my family ever decides to visit, they have a nice vacation home to stay in.
I could care less if my date was still living at home. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 8/24/2007 1:52:34 PM | One of my close friends (who is 39) moved back in with his parents because his mother has advancing alzheimer's disease and his dad has no idea how to take care of her or even himself! He loves his parents & his kids love their grandma & grandpa. They enjoy having their grandchildren around them as well. He is also saving the money he would have been paying for rent elsewhere because he knows that it will be needed for his parents care someday.
Would I date him (again)? In a heartbeat.
I only hope that my kids will pull it together for me if necessary someday. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/14/2008 12:33:24 AM | I know many people who state that they are only living at home to save money for their own place but in reallity they are spending what they are making on frivolus things and have nothing saved up.. so in actuallity they are only living at home because of the convienence and ease.. they think mammy and daddy will take care of them forever and for some I think this is true.. they will never really know what it is like living in the real world and will crash when they have no choice to in the future.
Yes because you know all the people who are living at home and how they are spending. there money. Anther ignorant generalization. Also how do you know when they are own they will not make it. I wish uneducated people like this would not post on this site. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/16/2008 4:57:56 AM | Wow...seems like a bit of a war going on in this thread!
Personally, I don't think I could date a man who still lived at home, by choice. You can argue that you're there 'saving money', but i'd rather date a man who lived paycheck to paycheck, and had his own place, than a boy who has money in the bank, thanks to mom and dad.
Someone made a comment about those of us who feel this way, bashing our friends who still live at home. I think this is totally true. I left home at 17. Moved to another city, went to University, got two jobs, had a very comfortable living situation, with all of my bills paid and extra money for whatever I wanted. I had investments by the time I was 18. I could not relate to my "friends" who were still living in mom and dad's basement, who had never had a job. That is their choice, and apparently it's now acceptable to be that way, well into your twenties...but our lives were completely and totally different. I worked hard for what I had, and took pride in everything I accomplished. All they accomplished in a day, was making some drinks and hanging on the deck. So needless to say, they're not my friends anymore.
My mom would be happy if I moved home permanently. I am 23 years old. She'd love nothing more than to take care of me, until the day she dies. BUT, I am an adult and realize my responsibilities, and that living under her roof will hurt me more than it will help me. We tend to get lazy, when there are parents around to do things for us. This is the primary reason I wouldn't date someone who lived at home. Granted, there are exceptions to everything, but in general, I try to steer clear of those type of people. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/16/2008 1:33:57 PM | | It depends on the circumstances. Some people are living at home because there are saving up money to buy a house. Some people are living at home because they lost their job or because they were recently divorced. Some people are living at home because they have a sick parent. Some people are living at home because they are flat out lazy. All of these reasons are valid except for the last one. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:42:52 AM | | Everyone has their own situations. I would say in most situations if your not going to go to college then you need to find a job and start making your own way an not suk off your parent(s). Not long ago this guy was like braging about fliping $100 on his mom for rent. I asked him if he thought he could even eat 1 meal per day for that amount. So to answer the question . In my opinion shortly out of highschool after a few paychecks in most cases unless your going to go into college. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/17/2008 1:50:45 PM |
f you're still living with your parents at the age of 20, you've got serious issues. If you're still living with them past 26, you're unrecoverably ****ed up and should just climb in the coffin with them when they pass on. Get a life of your own, for ****s sake. Utterly pathetic.
Wow... I am going to be 20 this July, I guess I am gonna be screwed.
I live on Long Island, one hell of an expensive place to live. On average, from what I've read, houses are about $800,000ish, and apartments in my area range from $750/month-$1,200+/month.
I'm a full-time student, and I have a job that I work about 20 hours a week, so living on my own isn't a choice at this point. Plus, I am joining the volunteer fire department this Summer, so that's another time-sink right there.
You should really reanalyze your perspective on this issue. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:54:27 AM | The simple advice is to judge a man on his character and on his character alone....
The simple fact that someone lives with their parents tells you NOTHING about their character....you have to be as subjective as possible.....
....if someone wants to jump to conclusions and give themselves excuses as to why they can't be in a relationship....that's fine...they're probably not really ready for a good relationship anyways....
...the older I get...the more I realize excuses we make that hold us back have everything to do with ourselves and NOTHING to do with the other person....we're all just living in our own little realities....ego running rampant...shatter it and open yourself up..... | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:05:13 AM | I think it depends on circumstances
I left home at 17 - but now 41 !!! and back living with parents due to circumstances -
lived abroad for many years - came back a couple of years ago - just cant afford a house at the ridiculous prices - rented a couple of places which were either dirty or were broken into or were shared with people you couldnt trust ! - so back with parents at the moment
I think as long as you have at some point shown you can move out and stand on your own feet then theres no problem -
would also like to say that in divorce in seems that the woman gets the house 9 times out of ten and the man has to move out... I've come across a lot of women divorcees who got the house in the divorce and are looking for a man who also has his own place - but dont seem to realise that there arent many out there because of the divorce situation - by the way before I get set on by feminists I am NOT saying that it is a bad thing that the woman gets the house - especially if she is caring for the children - just pointing out that there may be a few guys out there living with parents because of these circumstances | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:11:22 AM | hunter makes a good point. There are sometimes reasons as to why some people live at home. I am 28 years old and still live at home. I come from a poor family, and from year dot, I've had to assist financially. The catch 22 of that is that I can't afford to live on my own. In addition to this, my father passed away last year, and as a result, I find myself looking a mother with a run- down nervous system.
You need to find the finer details before you judge a person on this | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:16:40 AM | Due to financial circumstances I was close to having to move back in with my Mum and Dad not so long ago and so I wouldn't automatically dismiss someone just because they were living with their parents.
On the other hand though
A guy I work with who is 41 and still lives at home with his parents, saw a box of lemon curd tarts on the desk and said 'I love lemon curd tarts, but Mum only ever buys the assorted box of tarts and there are only two lemon curd tarts in the box and I often miss out.'
I was too shocked to ask him if he was joking. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:00:08 AM | | You guys who are against people living at home are gonna be in for a big disappointment. The Generation Y is gonna have a harder time then generations before. I'm 23 gonna be in an internship this summer then I have one semester left. I plan on living at home for a while. I'd rather save money for a down payment on a house then live in an apartment that just throwing money away. Whatever woman thinks that's wrong isn't worth it anyways. I'm sure her eyes will look back once I'm living in a nice house. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/19/2008 8:03:12 AM | Wow... This argument is back... I really do think it all depends on where you live. It's EXPENSIVE around NYC and the surrounding area. If you aren't fortunate enough to have a kick-butt job, or you're going through financial strains like a divorce or some other serious life-changing occurrence, there's a darn good chance that you might need some help from your family. It's a two-way street because as your parents age, they might need some help and be too proud to ask.
Take care of your family first because they will always be your family no matter who you marry or divorce. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/19/2008 11:16:04 AM | I am 35 right now and living with my dad at his house because of my ill health (down to 90 lbs after my mom passed away and bad depression, and now diabetic problems, with no doctor) I moved here because I was alone for almost a year and hated it. Family is so important. I lived with my mom all my life (in a roommate situation mostly, since I was 16, I have been working, and some jobs in computers made it possible for me to pay all the rent, bills and everything, which I gladly did) Mom was also ill most of her life so it freaked me out for her to be alone and not have someone who could get her to the hospital, etc. It's sad that American culture is so hell-bent on abandoning their family, for some cheap apt, bad life, etc. Independance is not measured by who you live with, but how you live. There are way too many people out there I wouldn't even want to live with, or be fearful I'd ever see my stuff again when I got home. And just remember, when they are gone, your memories will be short for avoiding them. I'm sad every day losing my mom, but I got over 30 years of wonderful memories. I'll take that anyday.
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/19/2008 3:23:55 PM | It does depend on the circumstances ....
Sure if yourself or the parents are ill then there is not an issue.
However I disagree with Richard246 on the moving in with parents after a divorce.
I am twice divorced and the first time i divorced i was the one who moved out of the marrital home with the kids...I then rented a place. Sure money was tight but hey having my own space and independence was worth it.
I love my parents to bits, but would not wish to live with them again..as we have different ways of living our lives and i so would not want to hear that phrase " when under my roof you will do as i wish".
I think that people can get into a trap when they move back home to live with Parents after a divorce/ relationship break up...one of getting too comfy there, too lazy...allowing mum to do everything again, which most mum's will gladly do..but it shouldn't be down to the mum to say look son/ daughter i feel you are taking me for granted or leaning on me too much...it should be down to the grown up son/ daughter to not become so dependant and be grown up and stand on their own two feet...
And that is what i feel puts alot of people off about dating someone who is living at home...it is the fear that they are staying there until they find a replacement mum/ dad and that they have forgotten how to be independant...thats if they ever have been. | |
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