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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/19/2008 4:20:43 PM | I once dated a guy who was 40 and lived at home with his parents and I stopped over just the once...
In the morning we were having fun under the duvet so to speak and his dad just walked in to the bedroom carrying 2 cups of tea. It was so funny because i had never seen that guy i was dating move so fast...he managed to preserve my dignity very quickly and although it was nice to have the cup of tea, it would have been better for his Dad to have knocked before entering.
Also in your own place you can when on your own or when a member of opp sex stops over walk around naked if you want...not really the done thing in a house you share with your parents...
And yes i hate having sex when there are parents in the house...i so hate the thought of them laying in bed in the next room hearing the bed creaking or worse still me screaming an orgasm lol. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/19/2008 4:49:40 PM | I think the general consensus is that is depends on the situation.
I'm 21 and living with my parents, because I am still in school, and also saving money so I can move to a better school 6 hours away to finish my degree. I don't depend on my parents, I help them out when I can, and I have lived on my own before. They let me live my life and don't try to baby me or take away my independence. So why do I need to feel ashamed when I tell people I live with my parents?
My friend is 28, and he moved back home for a few months because his dad had major surgery and his parents needed help around the house. Why should he feel ashamed? | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/19/2008 7:58:46 PM | It's amazing how this culture promotes the division of family....or just division in GENERAL....if you have a good relationship with your parents....there's only one good reason to get the hell out.....
...to give them peace and quiet when you're f*ckin' like rabbits....
...or if your mom's a crazy cat lady....
...on the other hand...I can't believe why any single person would think the fact that they lived alone is a good "selling point" ....cuz nowadays...most in that situation are just living paycheque to paycheque....hey...I guess that means more nights in....f*ckin' as loud as you can stand....
...the closer I get to affording my own house....the more I realize I better find myself a woman I can live with AND FAST! LOL | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/23/2008 5:18:57 PM | In the US its usually in the 18 or 19 y/o range....somehow the culture is so different than that of Italy...where the guys live with their moms till they get married assuming in the mid-30's. In the Philippines it matters that the children stay in the family home if not married yet or if not ready to leave. Most family who love the idea of "a nucleus family" is prone to keeping the kids as they become adult at home...(to groom them on the "importance of being a family". Whereas in the US, most family goes through and place their elderly parents in a "old home" , and kids are "kicked" out to find jobs and forced to leave "the nucleas family home". It is pathetic though.... in this age everyone is out for the money and freedom to travel, explore singlehood (after being married), and left out to be on their own...The "nucleaus family" is now destroyed and forever dissapearing.....look around you!
Now going back to the question: if you love your parents and your parents wants you to live with them...then, don't break their hearts and leave. Stay with them so that they can teach you more about love. But if needing medical assistance, then its best to have a nursing home either live with them or have your parents move to them....money is a great concern...very expensive.! Since I am divorced, I still want to have a famil next to me...and yes to the second question...I would love to date someone who still lives with there parents....no questions. :)
Sincerely, Cobramatt | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 6/3/2008 5:43:40 AM | | I have to say , I dated a gal who lives at home with her mom and her 3 kids and i don't think she plans on moving out till she finds some guy who will move her out. She is looking for a free ride is all . I feel for her kids , she is showing them all the wrong ways to go about life. But I do know there are times when things do happen and there is no place like home to save yourself . I have done this myself but move out within 3 months . I showed my respect this is thier time to enjoy the bliss of getting older without the headache of have the kids back in the nest. But what parent is going to refuse the child they love so ? co-dependent sure , i have seen it heard of it . And it is great in the high cost of living . But please because some people have failed at life and are nothing more then a problem and need to grow up get a real job and move out and stay away from the nest . As for me i am will say ,I would date someone again whom lived at home . As long as they are standing on the ground with both feet | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 6/3/2008 6:01:07 AM | my daughter is 23 and still lives with me.. and im not in any hurry to see her go.. unless of course she wanted to..
she contributes to the household, she does not have a free ride, but obviously it is cheaper living at home than moving out and finding a place by herself or with her boyfriend.. i would sooner she was here and happy, than living in some flea pit with no money to be able to go out or buy clothes etc...
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 6/3/2008 6:06:41 AM | | Ok well ill have a different view cuz I was kicked out when I was 18 but I think if they r still in school, or there for a purpose like that its ok. I had an ex who was a major moocher he lived with his mom so he woukdnt have to pay bills. When he moved with me I paid every bill. He didn't even take trash out. His boss brought him to work to save gas and his mom still paid his cell phone bill. Ok my mom never paid mine except the first month when she bought it. He was a momma boy big time and it affected me | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 6/3/2008 7:27:20 AM | | I dont see living with your parents as a big deal. Then again i still live with my mother. I pay all my own bills and rent. But i also make minimum wage so it isnt always much but i help. I did live on my own for about six months and then due to something out of my controll i had to move home and the only reason i did that was because of my son if i didnt have him i would have just moved into a neighbor hood where the kids cant even play outside because of the hookers and crack pipes. Because 4 just me i dont care i am not home enough to care but i care for him and about him so untill i can afford something better for him i am staying here. And if you are takinh care of yourself and or your parents no big deal | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 6/3/2008 12:46:02 PM | I don't think it's a question of age, more a question of situation. If you have a solid full time job and are mooching then it's an issue. But as many people have brought up there lots of good situations for living with ones parents. Whether it's you're going to school, helping them out for whatever reason, etc. However I think no matter what age you are living at home and not matter the situation there still certain things you should take care of your self. I.E. your laundry, bed/bathroom cleaning etc, helping with meals & grocery shopping and the list goes on. I think I was 14 the last time my Mom did my laundry and I remember being 6 or 7 yrs old cleaning my own room lol
Me personally I'm 23 and back living with my parents again. Notice I said back., I have been on my own. I go to school part time and work part time. I'm greatfull that my parents love having me at home, give me my personal space and that I have the opportunity to be able to go to school. My living here also allows me to take care of my horses that live on their property.
I think it's sad that so many people look down on others for living with their family these days. Call me old fashioned but I appreciate my family (well ya know for the most part). I'm even looking forward Wednesday when my grandparents invited me over to visit! | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 6/5/2008 4:43:37 PM | I'm 30 and live at home. I understand it's a problem for some. Everyone has a story to tell though. Maybe that person has a sick parent? Maybe they are in Med School? If someone blows you off for living at home without even asking your story then they simply were not in the least bit interested. And quite possibly not worth getting to know anyway.
The way I look at it is you spend your life trying to get away. One day we are all going to wake up and our parents will be gone. Will you look back and say you should have spent more time with them? After 9 years of living all over the country this is something I think about. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 6/5/2008 10:15:03 PM | I'm a little leary about this issue after seeing many friends with spouses who wanted a substitute mommy or daddy. In my (limited) experience, most adults I see living at home have several maturity issues that I have no interest in entertaining. I don't want to be someone's financial or household slave.
On the other hand, I have a few friends whose situations are different. One is a Ph. D. student. The other is in their late 30's and had to move back in with her parents after she developed celiac's disease (as a result, groceries are expensive). Both are mature people.
The first friend is also of a different culture, and it's common in their culture that you live at home until you get married, and sometimes it's even expected the wife move into the house! I've also heard someone of another culture say that in his culture it's considered very disrespectful to your parents to move out before getting married.
In other words, get to know people! | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 6/6/2008 6:15:04 AM | If as a woman, you think that living with your aging parents limits your dating? You should see the effect that being a man who looks after his aging mother has. The women usually run screaimingfrom the room the momentthey hear that my 84 year old mother lives with me.
Being sensitive is one thing. But being compassionate enough to care for your parents seems to be more than most can handle. I say most, because I would like to think there is someone who might be able to accept it. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 6/6/2008 9:10:21 AM | I would. What I like if I find a woman living with her parents she probably won't mind living in my house if things work out. Thats one thing about dating I hate is deciding if things work out where will you both live.
Personally if my mom wasn't around I might consider living with my dad or moving him in with me. He is a very busy person at age 75 and because of that he needs help a lot. I am glad I live close for when he needs me but with out mom I don't know if he could even cook dinner. My mom would get on my nerves to live in the same house as her but my dad would let me have my own life till he needs a deck built a roof on the barn or what ever.
I see nothing wrong with living with your folks. What gets me is the people that have their parents paying for everything. I know people in their 30's, husband and wife live with hers or his parents so no real bills other than the typical over used credit cards. They blow a head gasket on the car and then get their 80 something year old parents to pay for it. I see adults even having their parents paying for their oil changes. Now thats the kind of person I wouldn't date | |
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