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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 7/14/2008 8:23:57 AM | I like stirring up the pot. Time for a good thread revive! 
Not all of us live with our parents and 'leech'. I make a very good salary - and yes, I live at home. But I do so to help my mom out by paying her ridiculous amounts of rent, considering particularly how I might sleep in my bed about five or six times a month (as I've mentioned elsewhere). However it's the only way I can help my mother out without her feeling guilty. My mother is a very independant lady, but unfortunately since my parents seperated, she wished to keep the house (do to my baby sister's and brother's requests), but this tab for this place is well out of her salary league. Me paying her "rent" is the only way I can get her to accept a financial contribution from myself. We do have a move-out date set, in two years (a little less now, actually), the mortgage will be paid off, and we agreed that would be the month I move out.
Now I'm just trying to decide if I want a house, a rental unit with a small bachelor for myself (as I originally planned on), or just rent an apartment. Oh well, lots of time to dwell on it! | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 4/8/2009 4:51:42 PM | I have been living with my parents for less than a month because I am going through a divorce. I am glad they offered me a place to stay and am grateful for that. I would expect to be out in less than 6 months certainly. Divorce is rough and its nice to be able to hunker down in a good enviroment while the storm hits.
In this specific example I dont see a issue with it. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/11/2009 7:44:29 PM | Well i am 24 years old and i live with my parents. Now where i come from Serbia, its actually very common that kids live in their house for the rest of their life, or usually build a new home close to the parents when very financial stabel. Now i live in the US where living with your parents is shameful?? it is idiotic how many people think your a loser if you live at home. I am 24 i go to school, and work 2 jobs, the 2nd job i consider just extra income 50/h teaching chess to elementary school. Now i safe quite some money...Not only that i help my parents with bills since, my mother got laid off, and i have 2 younger sisters. I have many freinds that are 24 25 or younger who are" Independent" YET they berely make the cut they pretty much work, just to pay their bills no fun, no going out, and not dinning out is that smart?? if your 24 or younger and you moved out because you have a great paying job..GOOD for you! some people are not that lucky, I personally want to get a good paying job, and even when i do get a good paying job i would still live with my parents for at least 1 or more years to save up even more and put down for a house. And all you ladies who think that guys are still living at home are losers? well think outside of the box some are but most are not, i Never really have a problem dating a chick and telling her i live with parents. If they want to have sex, they don't care, if they looking for realtionship, ?And they find out you still at home and they decide not to date you? then guess what? That women just saved me so much time for the future becuase she has shown her real face. in this though economic times, people need to think twice before they judge somebody.
down the line when i do get a house good paying job, those women who laughed will be kicking them self in the head what a great catch they messed up upon. so a real women wil understand the situation and not be materilistic.Becuase it matters what you accomplish later in life when it all maters not at young age to prove..OH i must be indepedent, if you have the money do it. if not be patient save money, and it will pay off down the road. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/12/2009 9:17:23 AM | 21's a bit unrealistic if you're going to college full-time (and thus don't have a pot to pee in financially).
By 30, you should've graduated college and be into a career that pays well enough to live on.
There are other reasons to live at home though. Maybe your parents are elderly, ailing, and need you-! So it's important to take that into consideration.
And the way this s--tty economy is going, we all may indeed be moving back in with our parents, so all of us (including our parents) can save on expenses! Desperate times, desperate measures... | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 5/12/2009 12:56:37 PM | | Here in Spain, I have a bachelor and work as a software developer but my average income is about 1400€/mo (and believe me when I say it's a "high" salary compared to the ones of my friends) thus rent alone costing about 60% - 65% of that (of course you can forget about getting a mortage from a bank if you're not in a couple) makes living on your own very difficult. So I live at my partent's house, I pay a small rent for the room, the phone bills and my medical insurance along with any other spending like dinning out, going to the theatre , ejoying a gig, traveling and so... ; otherwise my life would resume in going from work to home and from home to work. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 6/14/2009 7:44:32 PM | I cannot agree with you more. i just got back from Vietnam i was there teaching English i lived on my own for 9 months in a foreign land, spoke maybe 2-3 sentances of the language got my own job paying 16USD/hour (which over there is the equivalent of a 6 figure income) cooked all my own meals paid all my own bills and it was a total eye opener for me.
so many people in the first world do not understand how fortunate they are to be able to live on their own. Take a look at the immigrant families in Canada, the Chinese, Vietnamese, Indian, Eastern European, etc. the majority of them live with their parents because of two reasons
1.) it is financially viable
2.) it's their culture for cryin out loud.
Now granted i cant stand my mother most of the time. I live with her at the moment because of reason number 1 and i need to find a job here until my teaching term starts up again in Vietnam. also she has a torn rotator cuff so she cant lift anything heavier than 5 pounds without strain and risking damage. and yes i do pay rent on top of helping her out with heavy lifting and physical tasks im not a deadbeat.
I think we in North America can benefit from the family models of our homelands. back there the family is one unit and they are interconnected always looking out for eachother by doing so they preserve thier family name and financial strength as the generations pass. Here...we cant even be bothered to sit at the same table to eat with them. we feel ashamed to ask them for help, and it is deemed embarassing to live under our parent's roof. When i was over there i dated a woman in her late 20's who lived with her parents and they would invite me over for dinner i would share my experiences with them and in turn learn thier customs and table manners it was an interesting experience that i was not used to. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 6/15/2009 4:12:44 AM | | I feel quite bad about myself reading alot of these. I live at home I pay half the morgage do my own cooking cleaning and washing. I havent met anyone special to move in with and the couple of friends that have moved out dont have very nice places and pay large rent on average £600 a month and alot of them have come back home again anyway. Id rat her pay the money to my Mum. Also if I moved out on my own Id be bored and lonely. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 6/15/2009 7:32:22 PM | JMO, at this point and time there are a multitude of reasons why some still live at home, There is the noble reason that a parent is disabled and cannot physically take care of themselves. Constituting the need to reside in the home till a more suitable solution can be attained.
Financial reasons? right now people are losing thier career's and livelyhoods at a record setting pace. For a short term, moving home may give both members of the family comfort.
If one judges another based on where they reside, and not venture to inquire as to why? you may just be doing yourself a grave in-justice. Alot of middle aged children now reverse the roll of care taker for the elderly parent who now becomes the one needing assistance, without the finacial means to secure a 24 hour senior assitance type residence to free you of such burden's. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 6/15/2009 9:18:20 PM | | It depends on circumstances. After high school, I went to community college and lived with my parents for two years. I then went away to a 4 year school, but still lived with the family on summer breaks. After graduating I had a rough time finding a job, and I had to rely on my family for a while once again. I permanently moved out right after I turned 24, but if I'm ever out of a job again, I would go back to live with my dad again until I find something if I absolutely had to. In the future, there may be a point where I don't live with the parents, but the parents live with me. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 6/15/2009 11:03:32 PM | | I live with my parents for now, I'm hopefully moving out soon with a friend. When it c0mes down to it though, I love my friends dearly, all of them, but my family will never do me wrong. Sure friends may not ever either, but living with family, especially in todays economy, is a fair choice. I'm still looking for work, and its picking up, but family is always importent. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 6/16/2009 3:02:53 PM | | i'm 23 years old and i still live with my parents. i did however move out on my own for about a year and had to move back in for finanical reasons. But after about 3 months i was able to get myself on my feet and i found it more reasonable for me to buy myself a Brand new car (09 Ford Focus) instead of moving right back out. Just because i live at home with my parents doesn't mean that i'm living off of them. I still buy all of my own personal items, along with paying all of my bills independently. The only thing i don't have to pay is rent. I have talked to my parents about a possible moving back out but i want to get a good tackle on my car loan. I do feel sometimes that i should be out on my own because i hear of people from highschool on their own and having kids. But i like how my life is going right now. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 10/17/2009 5:12:53 AM | This is a double standard anyhow.
Women will criticize a man for living at home regardless of the situation BUT will justify why she still lives at home.
Women living at home is acceptable
Men living at home is unacceptable.
I did helping my mom out, I chose to help her out having one parent and not two. I would explain it to women and in the end they accused me of lying. So be it. I am proud to say I helped my mother out financially for reasons I felt were a good reason.
Some would say get your own place and still help her out financially. I laughed because I was not going to pay rent for two places. But as per usual most women had their own assumptions as to why I lived at home still. When in fact it was my mother and I renting an apartment together. People will always have their judgements and you can't change that about them. You just move on.
I have no regrets for what I chose to do over the past many years. Family comes first in my eyes. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 10/17/2009 7:09:51 AM | Forums001, like I pointed out before on here women tend to be very ignorant of circumstances compared to men. And I don't see this changing anytime soon. They try to justify their ignorance but it doesn't work with me, and nothing they say will make any sense anyway.
I don't live at home, I live by myself, but theres always the possibility in todays economy that I could end up having to move back into my dads, it doesn't seem likely, but its always possible.
Many are saying "out by 20". thats just ignorant, big time. 90% of 20 year olds don't have the kind of job with an income to support themselves fully. Most jobs that would hire a inexperienced 20 year old are too stingy to pay them a livable wage(depending on the area, anything under $12 a hour, isn't liveable)so living on their own isn't possible. And at that are or any age, roommates are always a bad idea, and are more trouble than what their worth. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 11/14/2009 6:43:55 PM | Well, in my experiences...people (men) who live at home into their late twenties and on, do not know how to boil water.
A friend of mine lives with a man who lived at home into his 40's. Yes, he financially secure, and paid for their home outright. BUT, he is so incredibly lazy, from dishes, laundry and cleaning. Way too high maintenance, and NEVER on time. Sad really.
Not only that, he lacks people skills and common sense as a result.
Living on your own makes you grow as a person, and how to care for yourself and others. Just my thought, but i moved out at 18, so I only know, what i know. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 11/15/2009 6:07:13 AM | I dont think it matters whether someone is living with their parents are not...it all depends on the circumstances. I am 28 and live with my parents and am not ashamed to admit that their is a meal on the table waiting for me when I get home from work. Now some people looking at that would think that I was weird and should have my own place by now.....
However, the truth is, I've only been living with my parents for 5 months. I actually spent a good 8 and a half years living away from home, first with friends and then in my own rented place. I then went travelling around the world and when I got back I decided to move back into my parents, while I looked for a job, which I manged to thankfully get after 1 month and I plan on staying here for 12 months while I save up a deposit to put down on a house. So in my opinion and everyone I have talked too, living with my parents while I save up a deposit to buy a house is a very sensible abd wise idea....but it is easy to see how people can jump to the wrong conclusion about a person when they dont know the full story. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 11/15/2009 8:53:11 AM |
Well, in my experiences...people (men) who live at home into their late twenties and on, do not know how to boil water.
A friend of mine lives with a man who lived at home into his 40's. Yes, he financially secure, and paid for their home outright. BUT, he is so incredibly lazy, from dishes, laundry and cleaning. Way too high maintenance, and NEVER on time. Sad really.
Not only that, he lacks people skills and common sense as a result.
Living on your own makes you grow as a person, and how to care for yourself and others. Just my thought, but i moved out at 18, so I only know, what i know.
I guess this is a fair view. Again though women tend to frown upon men who live with thier parent(s) no matter the reasons. I have found women tend to be lazy big time when they live at home. They are so used to mom and dad cleaning the house, making dinner that when they are choosing a man to date, they tend to want a guy who will do all those things for them.
Most women who live at home rarely cook, so when they date a guy they either want to go out to eat and him pay, or have him invite her over to his place and he cook her dinner.
Also many women will want to spend more time at the guy's place than at home, which over time she will more or less end up moving in. Seems to happen most times, women move from home into a guy's place. So never living on her own.
When I moved out it was because my mom didn't need the help anymore, I wanted my own place and if I was dating someone, I would not have moved into her place. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 11/15/2009 9:53:21 AM | I was out on my own for awhile...about 3 years. I moved out of my rents' place an on my own completely at 22. For a long time (aged 18-21) I was that classic mooch. I wasn't really doing any but party and go to work. I was resistant to helping out with paying the bills, doing housework, etc.
Fastforward to the present and I'm back. It is, however, much different now. After being on my own and then living with a roommate...i learned the value of money and paying your bills. Unfortunately I was stuck at not one but two dead end jobs and after a lot of soul searching and the difficult decision to move back in I'm now at a much better place in my life. I've been accepted into nursing school, which I will attend full-time for 11 months starting in January.
The decision to move back in was extremely difficult. I, in fact tried to avoid it at all costs. However, financially I just couldn't find a way to work school, part time or full time into my budget, pay rent, and eat. I had to work between 60 and 70 hours just to live comfortably, with little time or energy for other activities.
I'm still working hard, but now I have career goals and a future in mind. Thank the gods my parents are such wonderful people and took me back in :). A year and a half from now, who knows? Eventually I'd like to be financially secure enough to take care of them and repay them for all they have done for me.
So if a dude doesn't want me cuz I'm currently living with my parents? His loss. I have much bigger things ahead for me ;0)
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