| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 1/2/2007 7:21:52 PM | I think that this is a pretty ignorant remark.
But,…… welcome to America!
Personally I believe that there are more f****d up people living on their own then living with their parents.
In the olden days and in many places and households in other parts of the world, even today in the more sophisticated Europe, often many generations live together in the same house.
So let everybody make their own choice as it pleases them.
The most important thing is the person I am dating, and I am not dating the parents!
So if she is nice and cute and warm-hearted and we get along together and fall in love with each other, I don’t worry, she would move out sooner or later anyways to live with me. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 1/2/2007 7:36:46 PM | "If you're still living with your parents at the age of 20, you've got serious issues. If you're still living with them past 26, you're unrecoverably ****ed up and should just climb in the coffin with them when they pass on. Get a life of your own, for ****s sake. Utterly pathetic."
My previous post referred to this remark.
Sorry, I have to learn "the ropes" yet on this forum, I thought referrals were included. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 1/2/2007 8:12:27 PM | Hey, I live with my mom. I just got out of the military about 4 months ago, got divorced going on 2 months because I wasn't around enough while I was out defending the whole country. I'm now spun out in my mothers house trying to get back on my feet, but having a hard time cuz the state I'm in apperently doesn't like outsiders. Now ask me again how much I like the fact that I'm living with my mother.  | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 1/2/2007 9:12:11 PM | Navy, these young bucks and those who never been anywhere in the world will never know what you and I have seen, done, experienced, before returning home to find out how hard it is, even WITH a military background to get the jobs you want. Especially with now college degree, and all the meaningful jobs to do is mostly taken up by those who were NOT in the military. And I guess most of those of us in the USA haven't realized that you just can't walk into jobs any more and just get hired. So, if money is low and good jobs to pay the $1000+ rent and bills (not to include food and transportation) fees, what is a person to do? I am sure all these good people who think it is wrong for people to move back home are willing to date people who live on the streets then.
And ex-Navy I personally thank you for your defense of us. No one but a person like myself and maybe other former or current military men will attest to. I myself am an ex-Marine. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 1/3/2007 9:45:54 PM | There is nothing wrong with it as long as they have a career in front of them and they plan on moving out when the time is right.
I have seen plenty of people move out on there own, and majority of them end up coming back because they couldn't afford the rent,lost their job, etc... because they didn't think about all the expenses up front.
Learn the life skills while your at home, get a career, move out. Its that simple!!! | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 1/4/2007 4:22:00 AM | If I may pose a few questions to those who REALLY feel that a person living at home is not a good person to date. I challenge you to answer these questions.
1. What are the specific reasons why you would not date someone who lived at home or who had friends/family living with them?
2. What does having your own place have to show about your character or insides? You do know most criminals, abusers, rapists, murders, players, pimps, and other bad elements have places of their own right?
3. What is it you hate some much about your home or your fear that you would lack the capability to do with a person who lived at home?
4. Even if a person didn't live at home. What would make you so worthy of them in the first place? Would you want someone to base rather or not they should get to know you on the sizes of your breasts? Or if you are driving around in a tripped out car? Or because you are a big some body? Or would you want someone to love you for the man or woman you are on the inside? How would you like to know that a man only got with you because he knew what you had and wanted to take it? How many of you guys complain about women only being after you for your money?
5. Where did you get the notion of that a person's worth or capability is based on their living situation? A poster in another topic brought up a great observation...If he had $100M and lived with his parents in a 12 room house or large rounds. Would you turn a man or woman who wanted to date you and refused to leave home still?
I know these are some ballsy questions. But, these are questions that need to be asked. And again, for those you who have such a strong opinion about this, help us who live at home understand your logic behind this. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 1/4/2007 9:36:39 AM | | I briefly dated a 51 yr old man until I found out that his so called living arrangement with his mother was just an excuse for being a lazy bum. He had told me he moved back in with her over a yr ago to help her thru chemo and I admired him for doing so. But as the relationship progressed the truth started coming out. He had actually been there for 4 yrs and his mom had been cancer free for 3 of them. He had also used up all his saving until he was down to his last few bucks and THEN decided to look for another job, lmao ! In the mean time, he`s on a dating site trying to hook up with women.... honestly, how did he think he could afford to date anyone even if you did go dutch ? I dropped this loser like a hot potato! | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 1/27/2007 4:18:24 AM | | By your mid twenties you should well be out on your own and taking care of yourself. IMO, there are very few circumstances which would or should permit anyone older than 25 to be at home: Pregnancy, loss of spouse, major financial distress, divorce, rehab, or just out of prison. College may be on the list but by the age of 25 that should be history, and you should still be out on your own. I realize that some don't start college until they are already in their 20's, but if that were the case they shouldn't be relying on their parents -- they've already gone their own way. I would not date anyone who still lived with their parents after 30 unless there was a damn good reason for it...to me it just shows irresponsibility and a severe lack of initiative. Prolonged dependance on anyone, especially parents, is a sign that the OP is most definitely not ready for the responsibilities that come with a relationship...with anyone. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 1/28/2007 11:55:30 PM | Kay
Have to drop in my 2 cents worth
There are circumstances when living "with" your parents is just fine. My mother and I SHARE a house for a variatiy of reasons, I'm 30 and the reasons are valid.nuff said.
However, my 25 yr old brother lives on our couch and has his life in total disarray, not cool to be living with your mom and sis.
So, a little of this and a little of that and if that is reason enough for a man to not want to date me then....what can I say.
Trust me I have plenty of valid personality flaws. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 1/29/2007 12:34:42 AM | Depends on WHY they are living with parents.
If they are a HS dropout, living in the basement, smoking pot and not working... 17 is too old.
If they are caring for a parent who needs the help then any age is just fine.
It used to be considered normal for 3 or 4 generations to share a house. Grandma helps care for thier grandkid's babies (and kibitzes the housework + cooking...). Father and son do the farmwork and the mother and daughter-in-law take care of the house.
If someone wants to have that traditional setting, it can work.
Anyone else remember "John Boy" on "The Waltons"?
Its not really a question of if the persoin is still living with thier parents, its a question of if they have matured. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/4/2007 8:47:27 PM | Agreed. I would not, and no one should, judge a person by where s/he lives, among other things. Living with parents is not necessarily to say the person is needy or lack of maturity. It can mean many different things, as stated by some of you in this chain already. Nor does living on your own equal to maturity.
Ok, too much of that! After all, it is not a crime to be dependant & needy:-) And we all know that there are people out there who might even enjoy dating criminals:-) My point is, we should be truely grateful that we live in a world where diversity is encouraged:-)
So, back to the original qiestion- it is really a personal question of "Do YOU like the person enough to date him/her?" It is about your feelings, your values, and your life. Ask yourself & listen to no one but yourself:-) | |
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