| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:54:55 PM | its depends on alot of factors,
there are areas of this country ( the one I come from actually) that it is extremely expensive to have a home/apartment ( we are talking almost 1000 dollars for a one bedroom apartment) so you can move out and have a room mate, and run the risk that they will drop out on you and there you are..stuck with the rent, if you don't think that happens watch one episode of a court show, people are very hard to trust. So if you want to stay at home, pay part of the bills/rent who are you really hurting? most people have reliable partents ( that is to say they won't just come in and say..I'm leaving).Also not everyone starts college right out of highschool, so if someone's in school it doesn't seem that bad to be at home. people also far on hard times ( do you know how many people live paycheck to paycheck in this country, lose that job and poof are in a big mess) would you rather people live on the street? as far as would I date someone, if they were gainfully employed ( I don't care what kind of job) and have a decent reason that they live at home, and have their own life and aren't a 30 year old child I don't see why I wouldn't date someone living with their parents. it's more about a person's character than their living situation, be glad it's their parents and not a drug lord, or a pimp,. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/18/2007 2:22:40 PM | I don't think there should be an age limit..alot of people can't wait to move out cuz they are under the mistaken impression that they can do whatever they want..they have no idea what the real world is like and how lucky they are to have parents who are willing to support them financially and emotionally, allowing them to grow into stable adults. I know that some parents can interfere..there are always exceptions but..we can learn alot from their experence and yes..then it'll be our turn to take care of them.
I woudn't discriminate against a man living with his parents.
He better have a car tho... | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/23/2007 1:26:34 PM | | There are a lot of factors already mentioned. If someone's in school, if the parents need assistance/care, those are all legitimate reasons for an adult to live at home. A good friend of mine lives at home. She and her parents get along very well & she helps them out with things like shopping, shoveling snow, etc. as well as contributing financially. If she moved out, it would be a lot more expensive for her and they would have to get some to assist them with the things she does. So if I met a guy who lived at home, I'd take the reasons into account. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/23/2007 1:30:32 PM | I know lots of folks still living at home at 28, 30, and I know a 26 year old that let her mom move in and gets her to pay for everything she needs.
I think they are all moochers that need to grow up and quit relying on everyone else for assistance. How are you supposed to grow up if your mom holds your hand every step of the way?
There are special circumstances sure, but the 30 year old guy has never lived on his own, pathetic! | |
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Joined: 2/4/2007
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/23/2007 1:46:20 PM | | Not long ago I met someone online, who was over 50 years old, and never was able to make a good enough living to move out of his parent's house. I turned down his invitation to dinner. He sounded very nice, but I am trying to meet someone who can be serious about a relationship. In my opinion, this includes being able to contribute toward shared expenses. It doesn't have to be exactly 50%, but I am not looking to support someone else either, while I run around town bringing in the bacon. I do know women whose husbands bring in almost no money to the "partnership" and they knew this going in. I prefer, then, to live alone and have my freedom. | |
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Israd
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Joined: 10/10/2006
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smyllz
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Joined: 11/1/2006
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/23/2007 2:36:33 PM | Israd - you say in your profile that you are not looking for someone who lives with their parents - fine your choice...but you also add that you cannot date someone with a curfew. Just because someone in their 20's/30's lives at home, does not mean they have a curfew. It does not mean that they are any less a responsible, mature, active-participant in society. I am about to move out of my father's house, but I make my own money, I pay my OWN bills, I own my own car, computer, furniture, etc etc I come and go as I please. Hell, I even pay my taxes.
Please don't label someone who lives with their parents as being any less unless you know differently.
"If you're still living with your parents at the age of 20, you've got serious issues. If you're still living with them past 26, you're unrecoverably ****ed up and should just climb in the coffin with them when they pass on. Get a life of your own, for ****s sake. Utterly pathetic."
Get a life of your own? Not all of us who live with our parents are there because we can't go out and make it on our own. Some have tried and because of circumstances beyond their power had no other option but to temporarily move back home, like me. It is unfair of anyone to bash us because they "were able to go out and do it" themselves. Great for you! Some of us need some time to get our lives back together after a split or divorce or a sick parent. Some of us want to take care of our families. Don't look down on us for it. You have no right. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/23/2007 7:38:50 PM | | Nikos,,,totally admire you,,,and I tell you,,,some lady will be getting a mighty fine catch when they get you,,,and the right woman will also admire you for what you are doing,,,,my parents are both gone,,,but if ever needed to be with me,,,I would take them for sure,,,my son is 23 lives with me,,cause his job dont pay that much and I enjoy the company,,,he helps with the bills and housework,,,so anyone that has a problem with a child still at home no matter the age,,,f**k them | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/28/2007 9:05:56 AM | i am 42 years old, my father's health is failing and my mother is also getting on in years and not always able to do everything. so i moved back with them last year to help care for my ailing father. my parents raised me as a child and made many sacrifices for me, now it is my turn to to do for them. my whole life my parents always gave to others and i will be damned if i will see them go into a nursing home when i can do something to prevent it. if someone has a problem with my situation, then they can take a hike. i want nothing to do with someone that turns their back on a parent in need.
nikos44...good on ya, i know exactly what you mean. | |
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Joined: 2/25/2007
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/28/2007 10:11:14 AM | | Has anyone noticed the latest economic trends? Wages stay the same or go down while the cost of living skyrockets. The old days when several generations lived together are coming back to stay, or at least till the voting (or non-voting I should say) public wakes up and smells the coffee. The only way a government can possibly finance a war that costs billions of dollars while lowering taxes for a priveleged few by the same billions of dollars is to "borrow" (print worthless paper) money. If we don't regain control of our government and let common sense take it's course, we are all going to be living with our parents, and we will be telling our grandchildren stories about an economic catastrophe that will make the Great Depression look like a hiccup in the market. Those who live by the "As long as it isn't directly affecting me" rule are about to get a very rude awakening. At least it will be easier to get the family together for the holidays, because they will all be there to start with. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/28/2007 10:17:59 AM |
Has anyone noticed the latest economic trends? Wages stay the same or go down while the cost of living skyrockets. The old days when several generations lived together are coming back to stay,
Well, are you referring to the US only? Because consumer confidence and spending is still the main driver behind US growth.
Anyway, your quoted part of your post opens an interesting discussion, but I do not agree with the whys and the scope of it. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/28/2007 10:32:28 AM | "If the person stayed with their parents to care ofr a sick parent...then I probably would date them. Because that would show me that they care about their family and have a good relationship with them."
Being in this "category", I am not so sure that I like such a rationale for a woman deciding to date me. Why? Because of the implied next steps in that thinking. For example, just because I am caring for a parent does not mean I plan to get married and have loads of kids to care for. It may actually imply the opposite. Or nothing at all!
Thus, I agree with MSG 193's point! Living "at home" is not per se a sign of anything or an indication for a good caring LT SO! E.g. me, I am not looking for someone for MY old age. I am caring for my relative because I would not respect myself if I did not. That does not imply I am looking for an SO "to grow old with". For that, I can get a cat or dog or co-habitate with a small number of friends. So no assumptions please!
(There is a great "Future of Relationships" thread for wider looks at the wider topic of what the future of relationships is)
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/28/2007 10:43:49 AM | No one should be judged by where they live. However, if you are 30 years old, never had a job, and have no intentions of moving on then thats entirely a different story.
I am 52. Lived at home till I graduated from college. Traveled the world, lived on a boat for 4 years, then moved to the mountains where I live now. Bought a house at age 31 around the corner from my folks. Lived alone for 14 years till at age 45, got married and 4 years later lost everything I owned in California's worst fire in history. That was 3 years ago. I have since divorced, moved back in with my parents, and 2 days later my Dad fell and broke both his hips. My Mom was gone for the weekend, and had I not been there, my Dad surely would have died. His health is fine now, and I'm saving my money to start my life all over. I am in no rush to move out, and enjoy what time my folks have left. Its all good! | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/28/2007 11:38:12 AM | First of all...I was never forced out of my parents home..I felt I was old enough to make my own money and now it was time to give my parents their space. Let them be a couple and be on their own. Have to pay bills?...this is a part of an ADULTS life...RESPONSIBILITY!
1) Rent free....sad that a grown person will still expect their parents to pay for them to have a roof over their head (Time to stand on your own two feet)
2)You can live on your own and cause no problems either..(that is the least you can do while your living under their roof)
3)Saving money great...but I am pretty sure your parents would love to go on a trip or do something special to the house with all the money you could have been giving them to live with them (since you are a so called adult)
Why move?...to be independant...learning how to sacrifice....giving your parents a break and letting them enjoy being a couple..living alone.
Children are suppose to move out once of age...No female I know would ever date a man who is living in his parents home....that is not a man....still a boy!
* If the parent is sick or both are then this is different...but to stay just cuz .....GROW UP!
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/28/2007 11:47:37 AM | No female I know would ever date a man who is living in his parents home....that is not a man....still a boy!
1. No female YOU know.
2. Would any female YOU know ever "date" a man whose parents live in HIS home? I wonder!
And now for the sake of argument (as an econ policy analyst):
"Have to pay bills?...this is a part of an ADULTS life...RESPONSIBILITY!"
And providing jobs? Part of politicians' responsibility? LOL
Having a job in the 75% Services job market maybe be relatively easy, but does such a job "yield" enough $$$$ to pay the bills, and for how many? Economies of scale argument: Live with parents or get married to capture economies of scale???? LOL | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/28/2007 11:51:05 AM | I couldn't agree more..the addition to that also I feel is if someone had some unexpected financial setback (due to medical expense or they had a divorce) and it really took alot from them financially.
Not for the convenience though. I feel that is lacking independence and ambition then. For a TEMPORARY situation it is understood, but that has to have a time limit in mind to set a goal and to let one's parents be able to have some life of their own foreseeably also then. | |
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| How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did?
Posted: 2/28/2007 12:42:59 PM | I meant I agree with msg.197.
A guy living at home doesn't appeal to some female when dating it seems. Taking care of that parent when they age is admirable, but then there is so much of a drawback to having a social life if one wants then. I have a grown teen, when they are able to move financially I welcome them to and see what living on their own is about. I am here for them but would like some feeling of "freedom" in the parenting while I am still able to enjoy doing what I want to.
As a parent ages they can have more needs, as a young child does (think of the similarities) and that can be draining on someone. Why does some woman dating need to be subjected to the stress of that after a long hard day of them working and then caring for that parent? It is ALOT to ask of someone in dating then. I have a neighbor that would be appealing to me to know more but he lives with his mother, taking care of her, and he works full time. He has a bus service pick her up to take her to adult daycare but she is forgetful and once he said she got out and wandered the neighborhood and he had to come home from work then and deal with that (she did not get far ). The bus service called and said she was not home to pick up. | |
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