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Posted: 2/6/2006 12:18:43 AM | WOMEN'S ADS:
Average looking............. Has a face like a basset hound
Free spirit................. Junkie
Friendship first............ Trying to live down reputation as a slut
Open-minded................. Desperate
Outgoing.................... Loud and Embarrassing
Passionate.................. Sloppy drunk
Poet........................ Depressive Schizophrenic
Romantic.................... Looks better by candle light
Social...................... Has been passed around like an hors
Voluptuous.................. disproportionate figure
Wants Soulmate.............. Stalker
Oh boy! You would have a field day reviewing my profile. How long have you been in the online scene? I like how yours is light, funny, and simple. I don't understand the word simple:)
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| Codewords: ....Knows How To Treat A Lady
Posted: 2/6/2006 12:40:26 AM | All too often *NOT ALWAYS, just too often* what it means is this:
I expect you to wine and dine me at (expensive) restaurants, take me (expensive) places, and buy me (expensive) trinkets -- then when I get tired of you, I'll find someone else who'll do the same.
Not all of us are looking for that. Treating me like a lady means treating me right. With dignity, repsect, HONESTY!!!! Yes Honesty! Oh yes and lets not forget, patience, realizing that sex on the first, second or whatever date isnt' the end of the world, I get it that it means you respect me. I dont' need fancy resteraunts or expensive places or things. What I want and need is you! Its that simple. I can be content with a walk on the beach where we can talk. A movie night in where we can snuggle on the couch. A dinner in ....which you cook. And telling me I'm beautiful not because its the thing your are supposed to do, but because thats what you really see when you look at me. Listening to me, and I mean really listening. Phoning me or texting me in the middle of the day just because, for no reason other than I was on your mind your not to macho to tell me. And last telling me you love because you really do, once again Men not because its what you think we want to hear, but because its how you really feel. Oh yes and honestly I love little surprises cause when you saw it you thought of me. Yes this all goes both ways. Its the same way I treat a man I care about because like someone else in here said, do unto others as you would have them do unto you....or well they said something to the same effect!
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Posted: 2/6/2006 12:53:28 AM | And telling me I'm beautiful not because its the thing your are supposed to do, but because thats what you really see when you look at me. Listening to me, and I mean really listening. Phoning me or texting me in the middle of the day just because, for no reason other than I was on your mind your not to macho to tell me. And last telling me you love because you really do, once again Men not because its what you think we want to hear, but because its how you really feel.
Oh yes! Ditto. If you are only doing and saying things you think we want, and not really because you feel that way, the relationship is probably going to fail. Better to find a woman that inspires you than be doing it for the little head.
And it does go both ways. I have emailed or text'd during the day little messages of affection while the man is at work. I have bought little gifts and expected NOTHING in return. I have written TONS of poetry and put it on scented paper and slipped it in his pocket. In fact, I did these types of things far more than he did. I did it because it made me feel good, because I thought he was worth it. And because it made him feel good.
And I feel guilty when a man tries to buy me a gift or take me to a restuarant if it is more than I could afford. I try to do dutch or pay myself quite often. Some men actually get annoyed at this. go figure considering so many guys get pissed thinking we want to bankrupt them. Granted, I don't make much money so it is more likely to be the park with a picnic or a home cooked meal. But I have saved up for a surprise night on the town. I have worked to pay all the bills when a mate was not working, and I have been jobless at times. It goes both ways. Would I like to be completely cared for and provided for the rest of my life? Sure I would, but that is not practical. That is not the real world.
And I would do it again. Even knowing I would get way less in return. Because I know how to love a man. Hmmm.. Heck I do know how to treat a man, even when he didn't know how to treat me. Does that make me stupid? nahh.. someday the right man will come along and all will be as it should be:) | |
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Posted: 2/6/2006 1:20:52 AM | What I want and need is you! Its that simple
Again, she said it perfectly. Who needs expensive sh#t if there is love and respect and thoughtfullness. That is so much more fulfilling than things. But some men do not know how to do this, and they overcompensate by buying things. Then get bitter when the woman is not happy. They just don't understand. That is why I don't want a man with a lot of money, I don't want him to keep a running list of all the things he has done for me in relation to money and use it against me. He will say.. "What more do you want?? I give you everything".. No, you don't. I want YOU.
If you have a lot of money but are not giving emotionally, what is the point? I don't want to live in a gilded cage and love starved. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2006 10:47:22 AM | "All too often *NOT ALWAYS, just too often* what it means is this:
I expect you to wine and dine me at (expensive) restaurants, take me (expensive) places, and buy me (expensive) trinkets -- then when I get tired of you, I'll find someone else who'll do the same.
Example: the gal on here who loves her husband "...when he buys me a Jaguar..." *sigh* "
Yup... not to mention, always gives me my way, never calls me out on doing anything wrong, let's me get away with stuff a guy can't, will spoil me, will give me all the emotional support I want but demand little in return... in short, it translates to "I want to be spoiled and treated litle a princess and put on a pedestal, all with minimal effort on my part."
When I was 22, I thought "treating her like a lady" was the way to go. At 28, I've learned that 'tis better to treat her like a an equal human being... and if she's not happy with that, move on because she's not worth your time or effort.
So, a word to the wise, if you're a woman looking for a guy who has decent self-esteem but also wants a relationship that doesn't consist of little more than "I treat you like a goddess, you give me sex"- DON'T say you want to be "treated like a lady". Whenever I see that phrase in a woman's ad, I pretty quickly move on to the next profile. That one little phrase tells me more about her real personality than the whole rest of her profile... | |
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Posted: 2/6/2006 1:19:14 PM | I've never put that phrase in my profile but I do expect all men to treat me like a lady. The way I ensure I get treated like a lady is to act like one.
With the exception of two psychos (who were probably still married anyways) every man I've dated since going online has told me that I carry myself well and that I have class.
So, if you want to be treated well, act like you deserve it and treat your partner well. It always comes back tenfold. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2006 2:35:37 PM | Well put BryantinFL- any woman who deserves to be treated great doesn't need to DEMAND it!
If a woman treats her man like gold, I've got no problem doing the same. The problem is so amny woman seem to expect... nay, demand... being treated like gold... and tyreat the men in their lives like servants at best ...and crap at worst. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2006 6:31:27 PM | | I think it means just what it says. Of course she has to BE a lady, not just act like one. Most of all, I just think it's being respectful, considerate and mannerly. Not necessarily just opening doors, or pulling out her chair, but maybe asking her if she's enjoying herself out on a date. Does she look like she's having a good time. If she's shivering, maybe offer her a jacket if you have one or try to find a place that's warmer. Just being considerate of her comfort and enjoyment. Doesn't have to be grand gestures either, but it's nice to know that someone's being considerate of you. | |
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kymbie
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Joined: 1/22/2006
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Posted: 2/6/2006 6:44:47 PM | even when i'm old and grey i will still expect to be treated with dignity and respect...to spoil and be spoiled in return...and still expect my man to be everything i never knew i always wanted.
like i said before though...in todays society those men dont exist...now days they go from thinking with their "little" head in their younger years to not thinking with either one in their senile years. | |
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olio1
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Joined: 1/28/2006
Msg: 39 | |
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Posted: 2/6/2006 7:10:56 PM | - A man who will be there for her, to protect her
- A man who will understand her
- A man who will be mature and compassionate
- A man who adores her
- A man who can be trusted 170% all the way
- Opening doors, pulling chairs out for her, getting her into her coat etc etc are all niceties...not necessarily determinants of one's " gentlemanly " character | |
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Posted: 2/6/2006 7:27:18 PM | | olio I'm with you. The OP a man, has deleted his profile. Wow, surprised? I didn't see it as something that needs to be translated either, sometimes things just mean what they say. Only word I can fathom that would need explanation is "lady". Any man who doesn't know what a lady is, well what can we say? Isn't a gentleman, perhaps? Is lady an archaic word? The whole idea, concept, whatever you want to call it of a gentleman and a lady is something that should be eternal. Old fashioned? I HOPE not, if manners and consideration are "out of style" then that's one society and world I'd rather not live in. Manners and respect are one of the aspects of any society that makes it worth living in. And I'll dare to say that the concepts of gentleman and lady have NOTHING to do with equality or feminism. I am blessed and fortunate enough to be in love with a first class 100% gentleman who ALWAYS 24/7 treats me like a lady. And we're also equals. Completely, and are partners in the truest sense. We enjoy the equality we enjoy the differences. He is very much a man and a gentleman and I am very much a woman and a lady. It SO works for us. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2006 11:18:39 PM | @rareorchid
I know not all women are that way (and no "lady" is that way by definition) which is why I emphasised it. It just happens too often.
**Sudden thought** This MAY be what some of the "Nice Guy" posters are referring to.
I agree with everything you said otherwise. | |
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kymbie
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Joined: 1/22/2006
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Posted: 5/17/2008 10:06:41 AM | All it means where I come from is "Must be decent".
I've never put that phrase in my profile but I do expect all men to treat me like a lady.
Same here. To me, it's just such an obvious thing that it doesn't bear mentioning.
Also, it's sort of like talking down to men. Are they considered so stupid that you feel the need to remind them to treat you decently? You gotta remind them to wipe, too?
Seriously, guys. I'd be a tad offended by that. | |
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maybe it means exactly what it says. I do not see it as hard to understand.
Reminds me of this joke women tell:
