| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/6/2006 6:18:37 PM | ^^^^
That ain't so tough coming from a married guy.
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/6/2006 6:46:18 PM | | Dearest sweet green eyes, Girl may I start by just saying DAMN! I know how you feel, you are not alone. I am already feeling the tears form in my eyes. I thought I had no more to shed. I actually went all the way and committed to marriage only to be betrayed and left for dead. I am a 38 year old man with a great job, great children (From a previous relationship) And I thank God that the one I promised the rest of my life to and I had no children. She took advantage of my honesty, loyalty, and trustworthyness and cheated on the marriage and our kids. It has and is still a struggle to convince and tell myself that it was not all my fault. I am unfortunately a hopeless romantic yet find myself walking away from potential healthy relationships because of my mistrust towards all women. It hurts deeper than loosing a loved one to death. When someone dies they are gone for good and we hold onto the good memories. When someone we love or loved with all our hearts walks out, lies, cheats, and steals our preacious time they, as heartless as it is, walk away and into and out of other relationships like we never mattered. Yes, I know and understand your pain and hatred. When I read your letter I got goose bumps and thought to myself, "Damn, I'm not the only one"! I don't know you and you don't know me yet we share something in common, a broken heart. I'm still at a place where I walk around thinking about what I did, what I could have done different, and why? The biggest unanswered question is why? I'm starting to think that being a kind, considerate, honest, trustworthy, gentleman is not really what women want. Do I need to put my niceities aside and just be like most of the males out there and not give a damn about anything but my own pleasure and happyness? Should I stop opening doors, seating a lady first, etc? I actually enjoy doing those things. I love to be respected and cared for and giving the same in return. What do I do? I'm not finding what I'm looking for here, I don't do the bar or club scene, I have a job that only brings me into contact with criminals, and I chase after my 9 year old daughter keeping her and I busy. I hate to say it but I'm resolving to the fact that I need to just stop trying, get off of the internet and just be. I just miss the company of another adult and good conversations. What to do? What to do? Well keep your head up and push forward. "They" tell me it will happen again, the problem I face is, am I ready to trust? | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/6/2006 7:17:22 PM | | and what is even sadder is that people like you and me never get a chance to meet | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/6/2006 8:15:48 PM | SweetGreenEyes, you have a beautiful soul,
reading your letter made me think of my first...
Gave her the world; my trust, my friendship, never lied to her,
treated her with respect, never cussed at her nor yelled at her,
and of course, I loved her.
(ASS-IDE to any b*tch-wh0rez out there:
Don't post to say just how boring a relationship this sounds to you,
cause you can f*ck yourself to p0rn and get a life instead of laughing
at others' misfortunes, and then making it a point to let others know
what you think, for the sole purpose of drawing attention to yourself.
That's just desperate, sad and pathetic... First of all, no one CARES
what you think, and second, f*ck do you know about relationships
anyway? So heed my warning and bugger-off.)
And then it happened (long story, so I won't divulge); I hated her.
It wasn't anger, or frustration, but raw, primal, deep hatred.
It flared my soul. (She couldn't untangle her web of lies. lol)
Your letter is EXACTLY how I felt after that, thank you.
The night I caught her, I told her I was sorry.
She surprisingly replied "Wha? Why are YOU sorry?"
I told her I was sorry for thinking she had a soul.
She came right up to my face, trying to suck out any last ounce of attention
she could from me at that point, and with a fake grin she said "But I DO, see!?".
Funny how I couldn't feel anyone else in the room right then.
I looked right into her eyes, but saw absolutely nothing. Not
death, not the blankness of void, not the depths of an abyss,
not even the darkness of a night sky. Just NOTHING.
So with a chuckle and smile, I said "Nope, I see right through you."
Anyway, as for M.I.A.:
You mentioned
...mistrust towards all women.
And
I'm starting to think that being a kind, considerate, honest, trustworthy, gentleman is not really what women want. Do I need to put my niceities aside and just be like most of the males out there and not give a damn about anything but my own pleasure and happyness?
I'm feel for you man.
As harsh as it sounds, I think you DO have to sacrifice the nice guy that you are,
and not give a damn about anything but your own pleasure. It's what everyone
else does, so why not you? (Why else do you only see**** jerks with women
wrapped all around them?) As for happiness... No such thing. Another illusion
this media-influenced world is trying to sell you.
Don't get poisoned by anything anyone else tells you. You only have one
certainty throughout this journey, it's that you get a body for your stay here.
Sorry to be so cynical, nihilistic or whatever, but it's the f*cking truth.
If anyone tells you otherwise (especially a woman), they're just softening
you up so/setting you up for more heartache/disappointment.
Your mistrust is well founded.
Don't assume anything, don't bother helping others,
and never do more than what's asked of you in your job
(do what others do and play ignorant/lackey if you must),
just live for yourself.
Flying under the radar gets you everywhere.
(Which is why I was reluctant to post this, but meh.)
Sad, but you'll be much "happier"...
Good luck.
 This is my opinion and I'm entitled to it, so don't start a goddamn a flame war.
I live peacefully, and in peace. I don't go around starting fights. Why should you? | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 8:44:28 AM | my ex and I broke up under good terms so all I'd say is:
I sure miss the sex we used to have. I've never done any of those things we did since and now I realize how much I miss it. Hope your doing well and best of luck to you. | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 9:30:57 AM | sweetgreeneyes....I so know exactly how you feel. I could and almost have written this exact same thing. Time will cure the pain.... | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 9:36:08 AM |
The hate doesn't eat me up. I am just angry today. Feeling lonely and all that fun crap.
If I don't get it out of me it does eat at me.
Knowing that and exercising that will do you more good than anyone can imagine!!! Good for you for getting it out!!
Hating only hurts yourself and the people closest to you...the person you hate has already shown he doesn't care!!!
JJ
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 9:38:03 AM | YeaIdid....
I wish you the best of luck with your child. No child should have to grow up in an environment like that!!!
JJ
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 9:51:19 AM | | Hi sweetgreeneyes, I read your letter to ex and my ache broke for you .. been there done it ... BUt remember one thing .... hating only hurts YOU ... its like swallowing poison and expecting someone else to suffer . Give yourself healing time , take care of you , treat yourself to extra small comforts that YOU enjoy and take things one day at a time .. BUT what ever you do ... don`t let someone else cruelness and cold heartedness harden you to life ...you are too valueable a person to continue allowing someone else to hurt you when they aren`t losing sleep over it ... Good Luck !! tiggs | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 9:53:34 AM | | Hi sweetgreeneyes, I read your letter to ex and my heart ached and broke for you .. been there done it ... BUt remember one thing .... hating only hurts YOU ... its like swallowing poison and expecting someone else to suffer . Give yourself healing time , take care of you , treat yourself to extra small comforts that YOU enjoy and take things one day at a time .. BUT what ever you do ... don`t let someone else cruelness and cold heartedness harden you to life ...you are too valueable a person to continue allowing someone else to hurt you when they aren`t losing sleep over it ... Good Luck !! tiggs | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 10:39:40 AM | SweetGreenEyes, you wrote M.I.A.:
and what is even sadder is that people like you and me never get a chance to meet
I know you have a beautiful soul and all, but that made even me wanna vomit!
HELLO! What do you think this site is all about!?
You're both fish, so what's stopping you?
In fact, you already did meet!
(At least, in some figurative/virtual way.)
Where there's a will there's a way.
What does it take to plan a weekend trip?
(I KNOW you were generalizing about genuinely kind people meeting the same, but try making REAL connections (and give M.I.A. a shot for instance), and only then will you increase your chances of actually meeting "people like that" instead of coming up with lines that make my pit-hairs curl!--and me wanna hurl!)
You may not "click", and heck, you may not even LIKE him,
but at least you'd have TRIED! So get your a$$ out there fishy!
(You only risk suffocating without water...  )
I hate to agree with him, but it's like ChuckReno said :
Toughin up.
Ironic coming from a married guy looking for intimate encounters, that calls others jerks on bulletin boards HE mocks others for being on (  ), but it's the f*cking truth.
Hmm... maybe I do go around starting fights. 
Peace.  | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 10:46:40 AM | Correction to previous post: The crying emoticon is supposed to be the one rolling his eyes. I distinctly typed in ;rolleyes; ! I guess it works just as well cause the irony is so sad it can make ppl cry, but it really should be :  (See, now I clicked on the icon rolling his eyes, but ;crying; came up, so we'll see what happens.) LOL just thought I'd clarify. bah. | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 11:03:59 AM | I feel & know of your Betrayal.
Don't let his shadows poison your Fountain nor his wicked spirit crush your inner Beauty.
We sometime journey down these paths as we learn & overcoming to excel.
Don't ever lose sight or comprise.
A Tear & A Rose | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 7:46:20 PM | Thank you for showing me your true colours
thank you for bad mouthing me to people at our work
thank you for sleeping with the boss (he was let go)
thank you for becoming management
thank you for 2 years of threatening to have my job
thank you for 6 months of your missed payments on our co-loan
thank you for intentionally damaging my credit rating
thank you for saying that i beat you after i told you i was going to sue you
thank you for then having me fired
thank you for the criminal charges
thank you for the bankruptcy (have fun paying my bigger portion for 3 more years)
thank you for under estimating me
and last but not least, thank God for video evidence , see you in court
if your wondering...i got rid of her first and was never heart broken | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 8:07:15 PM | Wow, that's harsh mysterious5, sounds like a true female...
I think the day all guys carry recording devices on them, the world will be a better place--one that proves once and for all that these 3itches are crazy man...
All males to be implanted at birth with recording devices!!!
Vote me!  | |
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Xavi
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Joined: 1/6/2006
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 8:20:13 PM |
I think the day all guys carry recording devices on them, the world will be a better place--one that proves once and for all that these 3itches are crazy man...
All males to be implanted at birth with recording devices!!!
Only fair that this should go both ways....
All females ought to have built in evidence gathering systems too! | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 8:24:32 PM | ***I hate you for causing great saddness. You have made me feel worthless and unworthy of anything. You have managed to kill my spirit.***
No one can take from us that which we do not give them. No one can kill your spirit, unless you allow it to die. No one can make us feel worthless, unless we allow ourselves to feel worthless. You know you are better than that. Reclaim what is yours, and choose more wisely next time whom you give these precious gifts of yours to. Sadness passes. Self-love, and self-worth, however, does not, and should not.
Hearts mend, and boy, do we ever learn from those scars. Truth is, he was not worthy of you. Now who's worthless? | |
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| some one to share the pain
Posted: 2/7/2006 8:29:53 PM | | Hey sweetgreeneyes,I just got back from the golf to find out that the woman that I have been married to for 4 years decided to cheat on me while I was gone,I have been a complete mess ever sense and have separated,I know I am not ready to see someone else seriously,but would like someone to talk to.Girls seem to have a better time talking about this than my buddys.This is my first letter I have written to anybody since and its been over 2 months and I still feel the pain and dont know when its going to end.I had so much planed for the bolth of us and now its all dust. | |
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| some one to share the pain
Posted: 2/7/2006 8:40:42 PM | I have had a few days since writing my first post and I can say it has done wonders. I got it out and in the open I have received many messages regarding this issue.
If it helps, send me a PM with your anger and get it out and in the open. Release it from your heart so your soul can breathe. | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 8:42:51 PM | To Xavi,
Only fair that this should go both ways....
All females ought to have built in evidence gathering systems too!
I'm all for fairness (I'm a Libra).
You're right it should go both ways.
Women have more empty space to implant em, should be easy...
...As for Kenshiro... Damnit. Another good guy down...
It's like she created a void inside you/your heart where you kept her,
and your chest collapsed as a result, and you have trouble breathing,
am I right?
Best of luck man, hang in there. It takes AT LEAST 3 months... | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 8:46:44 PM | | amen you said it to well i feel the same the words you say fits so well to my x the same and to the x i met here that was no better than the same, the guy i met here will read this but who cares he really played a game he calls now asking what i am doing well its my bussiness . i was divorced and then i let a player get to me he said he loved me cared and god sent me to him well sorry iwas not sent to him by god fedreal express mess up got wrong address and zip code i have had it with liers and users the games stop here , he tells me he dont want a realtioship after he realed me in like a fish well i broke the line and his bait is old and ragged lol | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 8:59:14 PM | As I read what is in your heart, my eyes too teared as I too let barriers down for love - and lost. The hidious pain that fills your heart, the tears that flow for no reason, the reality of knowing that you'll never speak or share secrets again ... it's an incredibly hopeless feeling. Love is a tough emotion.... you've loved - now learn from it - and move on! Remember "No man is worth your tears, and the one who is won't make you cry."
Happiness to you always,
Lianne | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/7/2006 10:43:08 PM |
"No man is worth your tears, and the one who is won't make you cry."
Lovely quote, undoubtedly written by a woman, which is why it's a load of crock.
What happened to "You always hurt the ones you love." ?
I like that one better. | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/8/2006 4:31:09 AM | Thank you for showing me so much love when I saw no other love in my life.
Thank you for making me laugh.
Thank you. | |
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