| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/8/2006 3:41:00 PM | Now why would i write a letter to my ex.....He died three yrs ago...
Anyways as for asking Sue.. Who r u talking to and what about??? Steve.. and the name is SasiEBelle..
Not getting invloved in this stuff.. Have enough fo my own things to deal with.. Your one keeping things going..
Please do not email me again | |
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AxyL
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Joined: 12/1/2005
Msg: 52 | |
| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/8/2006 3:50:39 PM | Wow cool thread here's my contribution,
Dear Ex,
No More
Talking
Or YELLING
In Front
Of The
KID’S
Thank you for your co-operation…
Have a nice visit…
XXXXX….. | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/8/2006 4:05:28 PM | | hey sweetgreeneyes...though i understand your pain,(my husband did the same exact thing after 7yrs and three children)you should stop blaming him for what he did and just realize that god has a different plan for you. no matter what that might be the pain you feel he may have caused but YOU allow him to take your power, emotionally you need to take control of your life and realize you cant change the decision he made.. he didnt make you feel worthless or unworthy, you allowed those negative feelings..but make something good out of a bad situation, there is someone who will ENJOY AND APPRECIATE YOU FOR YOU AND TREAT YOU AS YOU SHOULD BE TREATED...just close your eyes and take a deep breath, and let yourself forgive because even though you dont agree with it...grudges take a lot of energy that you could be putting towards yourself. ;) | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/8/2006 4:16:11 PM | | I read your words several times and am sorry that someone cause you such pain, however it seems that you are inflicting even more pain on yourself by re-living all the hurt. It is important to purge emotionally....to rant..to cry, but at the end of it all there has to be closure so that you can heal and move on towards a life of peace, joy and happiness with your soul mate. I believe that person is still out there for you and if you close your heart by not trusting in yourself and others you will never find that person and will remain a victim. | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/8/2006 4:25:31 PM | Wow, everything that I somehow wanted to say in words has been written, what a powerful message.
The only thing that I can say is, time time time, I didnt believe it when I first heard that or when people would say 'oh you'll get over it' I looked at them as if they were from some other plant, how could they so easily look at me and say that, could they not see the pain I was going thru, had they never gone thru it?- but low and behold, yes although it took 4 years - they were right.
I wish you the best of everything that life has to offer- | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/8/2006 4:41:57 PM | Hate is such a powerful emotion... it destroys people and the lives around them.
Forgiveness is such a powerful emotion... it rebuilds hope, trust and spirit in people and the lives around them.
Hate sucks the energy from you.
Forgiveness makes you want to move on with new energy of a wiser soul.
It's sometimes easier to hate than it is to forgive.
Writing letters that you never intend to send helps get you to a place where you can get rid of the hatred, anger, mistrust, disappointment, sadness...........
It's a great thing to do!
First thing about forgiveness though, is often in order to forgive anyone else you have to forgive yourself. (yeah, I know you may have done nothing wrong, but does that stop you from thinking... why did I let this happen, I thought I was smarter than that, I should have known.... etc.....)
All the best sweetgreeneyes! (and others)
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/9/2006 11:48:43 AM | bravo. if we were allowed to post names on here, i'd make a dedication. | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/9/2006 11:54:31 AM | A song I wrote..
©2006 Lyrics/Music SOCAN
"Do Broken Hearts Ever Really Mend"
Each and every day
Starts out the same way
All I can think about is you
The heartache and the pain
Never seems to change
And I don't know what I'm supposed to do
Chorus:
Do broken hearts ever really mend
Does the pain inside ever really end
Do the memories ever fade
Do they ever go away
Do broken hearts ever really mend
They say that it gets easier with time
But I wonder if that's really true
It just doesn't seem to matter what I try
In the end my heart still belongs to you
Chorus:
Do broken hearts ever really mend
Does the pain inside ever really end
Do the memories ever fade
Do they ever go away
Do broken hearts ever really mend
They say that it gets easier with time
But I wonder if that's really true
It just doesn't seem to matter what I try
In the end my heart still belongs to you
Chorus:
Do broken hearts ever really mend
Does the pain inside ever really end
Do the memories ever fade
Do they ever go away
Do broken hearts ever really mend
Do broken hearts ever really mend | |
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AxyL
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Joined: 12/1/2005
Msg: 59 | |
| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/9/2006 3:09:54 PM | MBL4Some,
I'm interested in hearing the next installment to this as you begin to answer the questions you ask! | |
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Xavi
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Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 60 | |
| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/9/2006 7:54:31 PM | Letter to my ex:
For more than ten years now I have dreamt of having a redhaired baby girl in my life.
Five years ago I met a gorgeous redhead guy but was too shy to tell him I was interested.
Last November that guy contacted me. I thought it was too good to be true when you said you wanted to be with me, but you insisted, told me you loved me and brought treats for my kids. You asured me I could trust that you really loved me, and wanted a long term monogamous relationship. So I trusted, and trusted to the point where perhaps I took for granted that you would always be there after you gave me a ring and told me you loved me yet again.
You backed off when things went off track and instead of fighting, I cried and shut you out, thinking you didn't think I was good enough for you. Realizing what I was losing made me hurt, and in combination with a lot of other mess in my life I have spent two months trying to sort myself out and figure out just what I did wrong; not knowing if I should try to win you back or push you away or what I should do. As a result I did a bit of each and found only one constant. Life without your love and companionship is nothing but painful.
My friends tell me I deserve better. I just want someone who will work things out with me and have the patience to stay by my side, and I had real hopes that you would be the one to father that little redhaired baby girl with me. I still believe you are the better guy they tell me I deserve. I suppose only time will tell.
I'm willing to work on things, to make any changes I have to make so things will work. I think being with you is worth that much effort. I can only pray that some part of you misses me and feels the same. | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/9/2006 9:03:18 PM | Dear 3!tch,
I was right, and you were wrong.
You thought I was weak for believing in you.
Wait... Maybe I was wrong...
Uhm... Gotta rethink this one... 
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Dear Xavi,
You were wrong to classifying yourself under "average ladies",
nice pics! 
(But your letter confused the hell outta me  )
lol, take care.
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/9/2006 9:38:33 PM | Hating him feels good...and God knows I have those days. But lately I've been thanking him. Because I wouldn't be the person that I am now; the person that I really like and respect, and am so proud to be, if I hadn't been married to him.
I've learned to love myself. That I can be happy. And someday someone will love me again in the way that I deserved to be loved; in the way that I loved him...and they get to have the new and improved version. And what a lucky **stard he'll be!
The power resides within you SweetGreenEyes. In hating him you allow him to have power over your happiness, over the very essence of you. The best revenge is in the ability to move on and not look back. | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/9/2006 10:34:52 PM | This letter was written to my ex after she blatantly lied to me over the phone, then ended up having sex with another person approx. 24 hours later after I had to find out from someone else:
To Kat,
After a while I need to just tell you like it is. That way I can finally move on.
After three months of dating you decided to break up with me. What bothered me is the fact that you couldn't tell me the truth to my face, by phone or even by IM or email. Honestly to say, I think it would have been better if you simply told me that you were dumping me and just disappeared than broke my heart the way you did.
Then you tell me that "we could still be friends," when in such a difficult time that I have been through in the past month, you were NOT there for me at all. As I expected, you were able to get over me very quickly and find someone who did look better than me, as I also expected. And from your blog it does seem that all you want is instant gratification without doing any of the work.
I thought that you were different than all of the other girls that had a pretty face. I thought that you were kind, sweet and actually had a good personality.
In truth, you are just like all of the other girls that I have dealt with. And I say 'girl' because you are no woman. You are a shallow, petty, self-centered **** with no remorse toward the people you hurt. You only want what is best for yourself, and could honestly care less about what other people do, think or say. It's all about you.
You are a despicable excuse for a human being. And the worst part is that you still claim to be a buddhist. I hate to also say this, but buddhists believe in karma, and I have a feeling that very soon, there is going to be some catastrophic event in your college life that will force you to grow up, pull up your pants ,put your shirt back on and finally realize that people do have feelings. You can't be fake to everyone forever, and once you do show your true colors, more and more people will begin to hate you.
It's sad when all those times you said you loved me and all those promises you made to me were nothing but lies.
I can't believe I wasted three months of my life on you. I can't believe I was nice to a shallow **** like you.
Just remember, what goes around comes around, and when you fall, you are going to fall very hard. So enjoy your shallowness while you can, because when that day comes when you can't control other people, you'll finally see what pain feels like.
And through all this I know your two obvious answers would be "it happens," or "I don't care." You will when things no longer go your way
I don't think I need to continue any more. I have made my point.
Again, don't bother to respond to this. I'm done going off on you.
-A.J. | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/10/2006 8:24:17 AM | | This poem is very painful to read. I hope that you get custody & give them the love they deserve. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2006 8:33:50 AM | I made my ex feel worse by telling her that I didn't like what she did. I said I loved her still but couldn't be with her and in due time I know my feelings will fade. I also said I harbor no ill-will towards her and wish her the best in life. Then I requested she never contact me again. Love John.
I don't wanna post the e-mail here, but I don't think HATE is a good word to use in a letter towards an ex, even if you do hate them. Personally I think the best insult is pity! | |
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Posted: 2/10/2006 12:44:36 PM | "Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who wouldn't give up on them."
So true. Sooner or later they will realize what they have given up willingly and they will be the one hurting. | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/10/2006 12:50:40 PM | | Time will heal your broken heart, forgiving will make you stronger, and a better person, and being kind will show them just how foolish they were to willingly walk away from someone that loved them heart and soul. Believe in yourself because if you don't nobody else will. Remember how you feel and how much pain this person has caused you...because they will come back asking for another chance. As they say...fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2006 1:07:31 PM | Hello Sweet Green Eyes,
I read your mesage and was inspired.
I am going through a break-up of my own. The difference is that I am the person who is ending everything. I suppose what I am trying to get across is that there are always two sides to every story. My side of the story is that I am almost postitive that my ex thinks that I am some sort of crazy freak for breaking up with him. The truth is that he is unable to let go of his ex-girlfriends. He has lied to me on almost every subject for the entire time that we have been together.
I feel cheated somehow when I find out certain pieces of information (buying his ex a beautiful watch for Christmas...she bough him joke condoms) I feel betrayed and cheated but most of all I feel like a complete fool.
I ended the relationship. I also stayed in the relationship because I believed, trusted and took a chance.
I hope that you find your way. | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/10/2006 3:53:43 PM | I don't know how much more I can talk or think about this.
But somehow it never goes away.
Is it that I am just affected by the reasons why, or could it be that I am missing you and what
I thought we shared?
As more time passes, I'm quite sure that it's the reasons why, and not you.
I've always been the one ending relationships, not the other way around.
As I always said to you, I would find it very difficult.
Now, here I am.
When ending a relationship, you are ready for space, time to grow, and just be on your own.
But when you aren't the one ending it, you aren't ready for any of those things, but become forced into them.
In the end, we are all thankful for what time alone, space, growth...does for our soul and well-being.
I know, that I too, will appreciate this time on my own.
I've thought a lot about whether or not I was truly in love with you.
Or, was I just ready to have the arms of being-in-love wrapped around me?
It's hard for me to completely discount what I felt for you, as I know that
I am a true feeler and when I don't feel "it", I just don't.
But then, I am reminded that I am an emotional person, and always see the good in people,
believing they won't hurt me. Then, I tend to find myself in emotionally compromised
situations and wind up getting hurt.
So, it's a tough call...
One thing, however, is very clear in my mind.
After being rejected for so long, you were emotionally starved for love.
You sought me out, knowing that I love like you.
You jumped into things, promised things,and then fukt with things.
After you decided to stop talking with her, you deleted, erased & threw everything out that was HER.
But the lesson you have just learned is that, the mind will not erase anything that the heart so desperately yearns for.
I know you feel badly for your choices with me, especially since you say that you didn't realize
what you were doing.
I know you regret being in a relationship with me, and wish we just stayed as friends.
I know you feel the pain of not having me in your life.
You miss all the little things we used to do, the conversations we used to have, my advice, my perspective and lending ear,
being goofy with me, laughing with me...the list goes on.
Silence, says a lot.
I wonder if you'll try to contact me.
During our time together, you spoke of missing your friendship with her.
You were tortured by ending a 10 yr. friendship, and cutting someone off.
Did you really feel that way, or was it your buried feelings peaking through?
While you are with her, will I haunt you the same way she did?
Will you want to leave her too, just so that you can talk to me?
Will you contact me while you are with her?
Or, will you be so happy with her, that I won't matter?
It feels like a death.
One minute you are there, the next you are gone - forever.
We used to say that nothing is forever, well maybe this is.
It hurts so much that I fell in love with you, and I thought you did as well - but now you are with another.
We don't even talk. It's been over 3 weeks since we last spoke, and even then it was a 2 word exchange over msn.
We last saw one another 39 days ago. Do you even miss me? | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 2/24/2006 5:09:40 PM | In response to your "toughin up" no one sets out to be hurt. Sadly people (men and women) are used (intentionally or otherwise) all of the time. To respond as you have is a because you have not the scars of being used. It hurts.
The question is, how do you go on from there? You heal, in anyway you can. You give yourself time and love yourself again. Mostly though it really does just takes time. Be good to yourself. Good luck to all of us trying to find what we seek. | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 10/30/2006 11:10:45 AM | Dear XXXXX...
I have concidered at great length all you and I were together, I am sitting in the smallest room in my home, soon it will be all behind me.
(what is the smallest room in your house?)
M
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 10/30/2006 12:05:45 PM | | One day I saw a message outside a gas station: Never complain that which you allow. Don't allow anyone to steal your joy and happiness. Good luck | |
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| A letter to the ex
Posted: 10/31/2006 7:52:34 PM | I sent my ex a letter almost 9 months after he left. As I finished the letter I told him that I would forever miss him and always love him. He has now moved to a different state with his new lady and child.
In writing him that letter I said goodbye to him and all we had together. Yet each time I look at my kids, I am reminded what we once had together.
I am happy with my new bf. He treats me like a queen. | |
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