| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/16/2007 9:22:06 PM | If a guy gives me signals that he's physically or emotionally abusive, I shut it down fast.
Signals to me are:
Put-downs/unconstructive criticism
That he's a pissed-off time-bomb
That he jumps to conclusions and gets into a total rage over something he "thought" I meant
An attitude of low regard for women | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/16/2007 9:46:10 PM | lessthan and lovehugs have it exactly right; It's about looks first and foremost, and we aren't talking about physique either, at least personally, because I fit tapered 40 off the rack jackets like they were tailored, and I wear them (why wear out a perfectly useful fleece?). However, it isn't looks alone so much as looks relative to what the woman in question thinks she looks like or thinks she can get.
Which I suggest explains why I am being pursued by women my age who are enormous... or those five years older than me who look nice for their age.
Secondly, yes, no matter how nicely you disagree... and you don't even have to look for a subject of disagreement, because a lot of them are testing you on your opinion on such esotericae as crop circles, astrology, raiche, and feng shui (did you know that leaving the toilet lid - not the seat, the lid - up means that your feng shui will be flushed down???) I agree that that is an odd name for it, but I am most definitely not fabricating this... and if you dare to express an opinion that runs counter to their own... good night, Irene. (and yes, I was willing to leave the lid down. I just shrugged and said "no problem. I'll leave it down" Somehow the lack of enthusiasm came through.)
...or even whether or not you want to adopt the shoes she thinks you should wear.    | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/16/2007 10:19:10 PM | Hands down - #1 reason
The man isn't good looking
Women are ONLY and I mean ONLY interested in looks !!
This is so true, sorry to say ladies, I know that the comment "Guys are the same" is about to be said, but women are way more into looks and judging a guy on his looks far more than men judging women by their looks.
How many times do you hear women complain they can never meet a guy who will treat them good.
Yet those guys that they snickered at when he approached her or she said "Whatever" to him, many times those average looking guys are actually decent guys. But women say one thing but mean another. Some come around eventually but most times it comes down to looks, possessions or money.
Yes women say they want substance, but they really want it all, and knowing that no one is perfect of course the good looking guy is going to win in the end. | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/16/2007 11:40:15 PM |
This is so true, sorry to say ladies, I know that the comment "Guys are the same" is about to be said, but women are way more into looks and judging a guy on his looks far more than men judging women by their looks.
I totally disagree!! I think guys are more visual and are more willing to put up with a pain in the a$$ girlfriend if she is hot enough. My guy friends have told me this. Sooo many guys reject us 'curvy' girls - so maybe I have seen lots of the rejection first hand, but maybe its equal but certainly not women do it more than men!! I think age plays a factor too - the older we get, in general, the more you value other qualities.
Yes women say they want substance, but they really want it all, and knowing that no one is perfect of course the good looking guy is going to win in the end.
Sure if we can have it all - why not! ;) Seriously, I have dated very good looking guys who were boring and had nothing to say - I lost interest fast. And the reverse is true - an average looking guy who is funny, confident, whacky, flirty and fun becomes more and more attractive. But if someone is repulsive to you (for whatever reason) then yes, even if they are the sweetest most attentive person in the world, if you don't want to kiss them, then you aren't going to want to date them. | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/17/2007 12:27:05 AM | It's ATTITUDE.
Have you ever noticed that by the time you get to middle age that some of your 'traits' are showing on your face?
If you are a bitter person, you kinda look that way?
It isn't the fact that you're handsome or not handsome -- but that your features are now screaming out "I'm a negative louse who will try and tell you some glib story" -- and it's all in the lines and features of your face?
champ -- i will send you the photos of my ex-husbands (of 8 years each) and you'll see that even average guys get the girls.
ripponfalls -
<div class="quote">and if you dare to express an opinion that runs counter to their own... good night, Irene. thanks and good night to you, too (I'm Irene and I really don't mind a counter opinion -- just ask my ex-husbands....)
I grew up watching Cary Grant and Clark Gable and then saw Jeremiah Johnson (Redford) -- now I'm SO confused I don't know what my next guy should look like and who to reject...
I still say, it's attitude. how you treat others, how you treat your date, your mother, the cleaning lady at work. Graciousness. gratefulness or lack of it. manners. hygiene is important too (kinda hard to sleep with a sewer rat after a while...) | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/17/2007 8:14:06 AM | Okay Ravenn45
You got me thinking again.......................
Guys who think we only date for looks - yeah thats right - like you dont!!!
smothering
pick thier noses in public
call me baby
call me Honey
call me sweety
grab thier balls
Scouting out the room for hot babes while talking to me
Looks like a time bomb waiting to go off
wears funky ass clothes to the coffee date
talks to others on his cell phone - and no - I know its not your kids looking for a ride somewhere
doesnt call to confirm when he says he is
bad manners to others
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/17/2007 8:54:00 AM | Less than, I disagree.. ha ha.. I feel that women reject men that are dishonest about themselves, only want them for sex (dont care about them as a person), or how they look, have no plans for the future, dont have manners, arrogance, bad attitude, poor self esteem, anger issues, just looking for a maid, mommy, purse, obsessed with sports or fill in the blank, and have no interest in building a real, equal partnership, and why shouldnt she?
What is the point?
It is not about looks (to most women), it is security, (having someone that will hang with them while they age, someone to be with them at the end of life) Companionship for fun events, family gatherings, vacations and homelife.
Someone that will treat them as nice as they treat the cashier, waitress or driver at all times. Someone that can disagree without negativity, allowing for individual opinons, needs and wants with respect for the person that will be or could be the most important person in the world to them, one day.
We are not all going to age well, some will have strokes, get cancer, car wrecks, amputations, blind, arthritis, hair loss, droopage, weight gain or severe loss and with the strong foundation built at first, the love and courage to see it through to the end, this is my opinion, feel free to point out what you feel is wrong...
Happy life!
BL | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/17/2007 9:07:44 AM |
Spelling comes to mind.
I agree *social~impact* that on POF, the number one reason for rejection would be spelling.
Personaly speaking, I feel that the focused judgement on spelling alone is an inherently flawed logic in terms of finding love but it is very clear that spelling is the top reason for rejection on Plenty of fish.
And I wish to exit this thread as it seems most negative.
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/17/2007 9:41:08 AM | without reading every single post,and assuming that we are talking about the very first time I set eyes on a man;
PERSONAL HYGIENE AND GROOMING. OK it's one thing if you meet an attractive guy in the course of his daily work,or he's participating in an athletic event, and he's sweaty, or has grease on his hands, or dirt on his jeans. But if he shows up to meet me, or he is at a social establishment or event, he should be clean, clothes tidy, hair and/or beard(if he has either or both) neat. I don't care if his clothes are stylish or expensive, as long as they are clean,fit properly,and are appropriate to the setting.( Showing up for church in ratty jeans says DISRESPECT to me, and a guy sitting in the stands at a rodeo wearing a 3 piece suit is just absurd LOL)
Now, what might cause a rejection after passing the "looks and smells OK" test, that it a way more complex issue.
Cindy O | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/17/2007 6:31:32 PM | Hi,
You hit just about them all but you left out GREEN TEETH or PEG for teeth. I mean come on this day an age. Meet this one guy who I know has 100% dental coverage. Give me a break.....YUCK. Then there was the guy who actually ate out of my plate then asked for all my garlic bread. Yes you guessed it come time for paying the bill he asked me how should we split this. How cheap can you get.
But your right not paying for coffee is cheaper.
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/18/2007 8:46:09 AM | I think my number reason for rejecting a guy AFTER I meet him is getting a feeling of dishonesty. If his statements begin to contradict, or he tells an outright lie and then challenges me to prove he's wrong, I get aggravated. Wait... that makes him confrontational.... Anyway, men don't like drama queens and women don't like a$$es. I especially hate it when the guy doesn't look anything like his picture! Sheesh! Everybody has a camera phone or knows 5 people who do. Post current pictures!
Honesty, kindness and consideration go a long way to making a happy date and happy people. | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/18/2007 9:18:28 AM | Well I put down grooming/hygiene as factor One, to encompass the possibility of meeting guys OFF line( y'know that DOES still happen) say a guy bought you a drink at the bar, or started chatting you up at an auction, or in the grocery store, or on the way out of church? Unless you TALK to him, you know nothing about his employment, education, goals values...
as for criteria to reject a guy BEFORE meeting him in person, for me that would be A LOT about attitude. Yes I know many guys don't communicate well in writing, but I'm looking for attitude( and yes, an unusual amout of contradictions/inconsistencies in his information) over employment,education, income level or material possessions. Don't get me wrong, I won't be sugar mama to a lazy bum, but just because a guy is between jobs(provided he's doing his best to FIX that) doesn't mean I'd reject him JUST on that basis. Actually, with my particualr demographics, most of the guys who are out of work/broke aren't even looking to date or get into a romance because they still have some pride left. Whether this is right or wrong, smart or dumb,isn't the POINT...it's just the way things work in middleaged middle class mid Michigan.
So, meeting first OFF line, personal hygiene( no green teeth!)and grooming.
meeting first online, attitude, and "red flags"( inconsistent/contradictory statements, lots of name dropping and bragging, indications that he might be a married cheater)
That's MY story, and I'm stickin' to it !
Cindy O | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/18/2007 5:57:10 PM | 1. BAD TEETH----believe it or not I see lots of guys with terrible teeth with women
2. poor hygiene----biggest turn off for sure to women
3. too much baggage--depends on your age, women in their late 30's and up want men who have kids, they think something is wrong if a guy has no kids and never has been married over 35
4. no job-----more like type of job. Have a title in your job and women think you make alot of $$$$
5. long hair---wrong, long and short are acceptable to so many women
6. negative attitude--agree, is my downfall, but when one loses their confidence then this is what happens
7. cheap---again if a guy works just a job she will assume he makes crap $$$ and is cheap
8. extra pounds---not so, lots date guys who have some meat on them, not obese
9. dumb---hahaha..next
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Did I mention tattoos?---oh man more and more women themselves have ink, they love it when a guy has ink too. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 6:19:45 PM | Not definitive by any means, but close to it.
1. Bad breath
2. Body odour
3. Cheapness on a first date, as in the guy who for some reason known only to himself couldn't offer to buy my coffee on a first meeting
4.Boring....dull dull dull....YAWN!!! | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/19/2007 5:38:21 AM | Hummmmm, It seems to me most of the complaints I hear from women about men is we are shallow (I.E. like womens looks) and that all men are liars.
Incidently, These same women have dumped a man because his "shoes" were dirty and don't see their obsession for "shopping" as materialistic.
As far as lying goes, these same women claim they are overweight and can't help it and they have no "time" to workout.
Oh! and I almost forgot. These same ones will post "where are all the good guys?" When we all know that's not what they are looking for. The truth (if they new what that was) would be for them to post (where are all the arrogant jerks who will treat me like crap, because that is what I'm really attracted to.)
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/19/2007 5:47:47 AM | | Not me. I have dated overweight guys with okay looks because of they way they treated me, with love and kindness. A woman just has to be willing to give it a go with a less than attractive man. For me, as I become more attracted to thier character, I find myself becoming more attracted to them physically. The man I had a crush on now is quite over weight, tho very attractive to look at. Havent gotten to know the personality yet, but if he is kind and considerate, bells will ring. | |
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