| The complete package........can it be found or are we being unrealistic?????
Posted: 2/7/2006 3:32:23 AM | *********LILMISSXY**********
I am starting to think that the complete package is not attainable.........you can come close, very close but there is always going to be something missing. It's just being able to accept all the rest of the great things that that person has to offer and work on the things that they dont. Relationships take time, patience, and understanding and if there is a lot of potential ...........then I believe the other things will eventually fall into place.
No nothing is ever formed over night.........
Thx for the input and enjoy your day.
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| The complete package........can it be found or are we being unrealistic?????
Posted: 2/7/2006 3:33:59 AM | NATURE: I don't think it's the word that is wrong...I get ya totally! Sometimes levels just have to shift over time to work it's way to an even keel. I hope that makes sense cause I'm half asleep..lol
But if it something you can't deal with what-so-ever, of course it's not worth the effort! | |
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| The complete package........can it be found or are we being unrealistic?????
Posted: 2/7/2006 3:44:24 AM | @MUSTANGSALLY..............
Well wake up will ya!! Going on three hours sleep here.......way too much energy lol
No, it is not something that I can't deal with........there is so much more to the relationship that it makes the effort oh so much worth it to keep working at it.
Posting another thread as we speak.........check it out. "Someone" has got me hooked on these things...........hmmmmmm
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| The complete package........can it be found or are we being unrealistic?????
Posted: 2/7/2006 5:13:18 AM | hey mustang............
Yeah same for me with the coffee thing..............
Back to the thread............no one seems to answer part 2...........what would u be willing to give up and why? What would be the least important thing to you in a relationship.
I guess my personal answer would be: spirituality.........we all have different spirits and religious beliefs and we can only learn from each other about their religion or spiritual beliefs. Whether you are a believer in god or not. I dont believe there is any one perfect religion personally.
What are you going in search of sally?
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| The complete package........can it be found or are we being unrealistic?????
Posted: 2/7/2006 5:57:26 AM | I went in search of your other thread NATURE!!!
On the part 2...I don't have real list or anything, not even actually seeking a relationship but I guess there are a few things I couldn't handle...or could...
I could handle them having children (I don't have any, but I love kids)...
I could handle certain vices I guess, depending on how often, how much and how legal...
I couldn't handle someone not accepting me hanging with my buds and/or family
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| The complete package........can it be found or are we being unrealistic?????
Posted: 2/7/2006 6:14:21 AM | @MUSTANG......................
Completely agree with you on those ones.............friends and family are important and they ultimately came first before the relationship even began.
I have been the victim of mis-trust and believe me , it can kill a relationship as fast as I can say.........fish.
Also been the victim of control...........not pretty.
Glad you liked the new thread.........thinking of another.
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| The complete package........can it be found or are we being unrealistic?????
Posted: 2/7/2006 6:26:29 AM | Oh I like it...you are just hot right now! Keep it up!!! But I can tell you I can so relate to you on your comments on this last post here!!! You just might end up inspiring me..."SOMEONE" did before and it's still going...
I think that you will have a better idea of what you require in your "package" after you meet someone that feels right on most levels and then build on it from there... | |
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| The complete package........can it be found or are we being unrealistic?????
Posted: 2/7/2006 7:25:08 AM | Completely missed Part 2....
What would I be willing to give up? Easy.... My yestedays ... my cherished memories ... because if I ever chance to encounter that one person who offered me ALL of herself, even if it isn't that "complete package", every dream those chreished treasures of my past represent WOULD be her.
It's when the hope to which those dreams gave birth collides with block walls of jealousy and fear the whole thing that is me comes crumbling down ... for what is a man without hope.
Guess one part of the package IS a must: She has to be mature enough to understand that past loves are gone. It's the hope each one of them inspired that's still alive ... waiting to be realized in that one special person.
There's a reason we all speak about past loves.
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| The complete package........can it be found or are we being unrealistic?????
Posted: 2/7/2006 7:33:15 AM | I do not think people should be overly picky , some end up complaining that they are alone for years and call themselves independent , unless they have occasional lovers and flings but to find the person to love for those years and to cherish them is not by chance or magic , one creates a realationship with someone that you have something in common with .
Most women are very very picky and have an idea of the kind of price on his white horse that will sweep her of her feet . Guys also have an idea , though mor physical with specifications of physical beauty , a slut in bed and the momma of his children etc...
Life will present you with a partner thet you will decide to choose , women have much more choices because normally and regularly , it is the men who presents themselves to women , women can push the reject or accept button from the many suitors that present themselves , ofcourse women have to be out their to be seen , guys do to but have to do most of the foot work . Women here love one more step of not doing the foot work ... having the perfect man com along tooo , even less work , I see that as a falicy a castle of sand , one little problem and it may be great disilusion for you ladies and breakup . You do not care to work much because it is your now evolved life as a woman , less work in a relationship and all the gravy , right ?
When life presents you with someone , they will have things that you may call a defect or an undesireable habit. As mature adults we have learned to accept certain attributes in a person especially as you age , you are more accepting of certain things than when you were younger , those things are trivial , you are not just settling , it is just not as important as it was before.
Young or old , when you meet someone , and start a relationship you grow with eachother as a new couple things get accepted others are changed by themselves to apease the other .
If both are mature in thought and soul eachother will become the others package , too many people look for a prefabricated custom made person , I see that as an immature way of seeing life ... like a finiky cat . To me life should be like being a dog , a goofy kind of love that accepts his freind forever yeah and alot of fun humping too.
I was married , I am a widow now , I know what I am talking about , my wife and I were as different as night and day , we were mature for our ages , we grew together as a couple it was easy , to be mature and to love without condition really made a different , change wans not painful when love was involved , I in a way made her my dream girl and me her dream guy . We never had a fight , I was not in love with her but loved her , I know how to love , alot of people ,
We both knew how to love , when I found out that she knew how to love , I decided to marry her my new best friend , I was not in love , that came later it hit hard .
I have noticed do not know how to love but dream of having it all without any work at all . Love implies giving without demands , it implies some work , not hard work but letting yourself go , you are worth it the person may also be worth it , being overly selfish implies the opposite of love , narssiisitic self indulgence in life , life has become so easy that no one cares about the other , just themselves.... what is in it for me attitude , I want it all , I deserve it , and one false move and he or her are out , right ? You would not do that to your child because you actually know how to love him , you have the answer in front of your face those of you who have children and you do not apply it to people or the one you will be with .
Women here who comment with all their seemingly mature virtue still seem to think like little girls , when will you grow up ? After your 4th divorce ?
People are never exactly perfect unless we are programmed like robots , we are living people , your total package will change one day , you and the relationship will change the total package , we are living , life changes , you dream about the hook and having that person never change , you can make it change for the better or worse , it is up to each one of you and the person you choose .
The quality of the soul of the person you choose is important , not what they do at the moment .
My wife was full of surprizes , if I describe her to you guys you would not think she was all that great in the begining but describing who she became after a while you would think a girl like that is impossible to find ...a pipe dream and a dream girl , guys who new her later in my relationship would ask me where I got her , I would tell them that we both made eachother the way we are .
You would be blown away if I described her all would seem insignificant too bad she is in heaven now ...
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| The complete package........can it be found or are we being unrealistic?????
Posted: 2/7/2006 8:02:22 AM | SDDUDE....................
That has got to be one of the most amazing posts that I have ever read.......truly inspiring, thought provoking, touching, eloquent, and has changed my total perspective forever.
You are correct in everything you say, our world has become one that has been deemed the
"throw away partner generation" and it is truly very sad. We quickly move on to the next one , not stopping to think of the damage that we inflict on others as we pass through.
I sincerely thank you for your comment/story..........I know that it has affected me and I am sure many others that read it.
Hard work and the act of love..........what a beautiful way to put it.....and true.
thank you and I truly hope that you will be able to find a love like that again, probably nowhere close but a lasting love. | |
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| The complete package........can it be found or are we being unrealistic?????
Posted: 2/7/2006 10:55:46 AM | | I would think that as we age that our concept of the "complete package" changes.In my 20's/30's I had a totally different view of what my "perfect mate" would be vs. now...so it might be the "complete package" when you find it but may not be next year...things that bothered me then, have no impact on me now...same as things that bother me now had now effect on me then...so in finding the complete package...I think we can...I think as a couple that compliment each other makes you a complete package (at that time)..There is nothing that says that the "complete package will last forever... | |
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| The complete package........can it be found or are we being unrealistic?????
Posted: 2/7/2006 11:07:52 AM | *******KYMBER********
That is probably one of most realistic and true statements that I have read so far. What is good for you at a certain time may not always be what you are looking for in the future. So very very true! It is how two people compliment each other at the time and how they work to become a total package together.
Your age most definitely plays a factor on what you are looking for in a mate.......your wants and desires also change as you get older.
Very insightful.........thx
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| The complete package........can it be found or are we being unrealistic?????
Posted: 2/7/2006 11:16:33 AM | hmmmm.. total package eh?
well I have to admit I've seen a lot of people here that are obviously holding out for a "total package" yet I have not seen one single person that could even remotely claim to be that.
before you seek a total package you should first ask youself (honestly) are you a total package? to the same degree you hold others too.. making no allowances for any short comings you may have. Or in short, are you yourself that perfect?
I don't think so...
as for myself, I don't mind if my package is bent, spindled or somewhat mutilated... just as long as it can arrive in one piece. | |
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| The complete package........can it be found or are we being unrealistic?????
Posted: 2/7/2006 11:59:37 AM | | one person may see a package as yuck another may see the package as a dream come true.. Sure none of us are perfect and each has dreams, hopes and wishes. each of us are what ya see is what ya get.. perhaps we even bring along extra baggage with the package..In other words some may view the package and say PERFECTION. My package is aged but I am me...perhaps full of imperfections but still me as a unit... | |
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