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Posted: 9/6/2009 12:15:18 PM | some guys can't fake a moan...
you just can't always pretend to make a noise if you dont' honestly feel that way. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 2:27:44 PM |
Msg: 1 -- So gentelmen tell me why you don't like to moan or what ever
during sexual relations..?
Easy, it's the conditions under which those experiences were
encountered. Almost ALL of my relations, due to location and the
proximity of those who would choose to PHYSICALLY *INTRUDE*, simply
REQUIRED tip-toeing and TIGHT silence. Face it, old habits are
EXTREMELY difficult to break.
For this reason, no matter how excruciating the pleasure may be, I am
involuntarily silent. FWIW, my response is the SAME regarding pain. I
was beaten frequently as a child, and learned early on that ANY
expression of "discomfort" would result in a more VIOLENT retort.
So, as a result of my life experiences, any response to extreme
emotion is INVOLUNTARILY silenced. However, this does NOT mean the
experience is NOT felt, just unexpressed. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 2:55:57 PM | | I believe in a polite “Thank you ma’am.” at the end of the proceedings | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 5:42:29 PM | Some are quiet but most aren't. They might not make a big, huge, ridiculous performance like some women do but they are quite responsive.
Hey, it's hard to make vocal sounds when you're in seizure.  | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 6:04:44 PM | | Yeah, I don't get it either why guys are quiet! I always find a guy moaning and grunting to be a MAJOR turn on! Why not do something that turns on your woman? It lets me know that you like what I'm doing and many times guys will say that they love hearing their woman make noise too, so what's good for the goose is good for the gander, am I right? | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 7:38:11 PM | Yeah, I don't get it either why guys are quiet! I always find a guy moaning and grunting to be a MAJOR turn on! Why not do something that turns on your woman? It lets me know that you like what I'm doing and many times guys will say that they love hearing their woman make noise too, so what's good for the goose is good for the gander, am I right?
Because if you're naturally quiet (like for some of us, learning to do it quietly as a young teenager, so the 'rents didn't walk in on you), it's not an easy habit to change. And I don't know about anybody else, but if I'm going out of my way to make sure I'm making noises, my attention is split, and the lil soldier starts to falter, so to speak.
Not to be rude, or sexist, but women don't exactly know how it feels to not have your dingle work properly. If you're a little dry, you get some lubrication and everything works fine. If a guy goes limp, what is he going to do? Give it a pep-talk? | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 9:43:24 PM | I have been with enough men to have a pretty good sample, and I have to say that I do not remember a single one being silent. Moans, groans, sighs, telling me they like it, grunts, and the occasional F&CK! as they are cumming.
If the OP found that 70% of men are silent, and in my sampling I have found that 0% of men are quiet, my scientific conclusion is that I must be pretty damn good in bed! | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 12:24:24 AM | | yes, I agree..I like the moaning, groaning, growling =) ,gasping..hot whispers, talking..all of it..I'm fairly vocal myself and I certainly appreciate it when my man is. Now, I gotta say though..some guys are just not wired that way..so you have to rely on the toes curling or the eyes rolling in the back of their heads..lol I guess it is what it is =) | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 1:43:03 AM | My bf was totally silent when we first got together...I would actually stop giving him head and ask him if he was enjoying what I was doing. His response would be a quiet 'uh, yeah', but as I kept encouraging him, he became a bit more vocal, but he probably never will be a screamer. He is quiet by nature, and a bit shy. I however am the complete opposite. When we're going at it doggie style, and he hits it deep, right on my 'cuss button' and I'm screaming obscenities into the pillow, he has been known to actually get the giggles, but God love him he keeps pounding the hell outta me!
He loves that I'm vocal, he really gets a kick out of it, and I can't help my response to great sex. He is opening up slowly, and who knows, maybe one day he may let out a 'yee haw'. I have gotten him to say my name when he cums many times, and he really likes that, but apparently the women he was with before were duds in the sack and didn't teach him much in the ways of kink. So I'm opening up new worlds to him. Hell, he never even watched porn with them! Or used toys together! I fixed that right quick!
Sometimes I just love being the naughty teacher! LOL | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 5:05:21 AM | | It seems to me that 90% of sex is about making the woman happy, I have yet to meet a woman that gave any consideration to what I may enjoy. It seems that most woman think taking off their clothes is enough to make a man happy, so maybe the reason most men don't make noise during sex is because it just isn't that great. It's better than nothing, but it just isn't enought to really rock their world. I'll make a lot of noise if the sex is good, but if I'm just working to please you, it isn't going to be that great. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 5:33:16 AM | | You have to hear something from them, if only to know that you're doing something right....I love that little growl in the back of the throat! | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 10:45:29 AM | Read and feel the body language.
No one has to make any sound when they're having sex, so stop expecting them to. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 10:56:56 AM | You mean most guys don't moan, groan etc? Wow, who knew.
Damn, that first entry, warm against warm, feeling the inner flesh sliding by as the pu$$y is pushed open, has my eyes rolling and vocal chords gasping and it just get s worse from there. Maybe because I am uncut the sensation is heightened from start to finish, but noisy I can be.
As to the finish, it is often a tie as to which one is making more gasps, groans and professing undying love to their pituitary gland. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 12:24:21 PM | from Msg: 54
I believe in a polite “Thank you ma’am.” at the end of the proceedings
I did that with a woman I was dating right out of college. She exploded at me, saying that it made her feel like a prostitute and degraded her. I was just trying to express my appreciation at my first intimate encounter after months of a dry spell. Apologizing didn't help; she ended our relationship immediately. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 12:37:33 PM | | Hmmmmmmmmmm....only once I didnt make a sound but she did.Gotta be good for both to sound off.Just my 2 cents. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 10:54:15 PM | soldiers are dying and you want to know about this subject
come on we need to get real
if someone makes noise
great
if they do not...theat is their choice
preferably quiet noise
i do not want somebody who is acting like he in tennis | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 11:15:10 PM |
But to get back to the men moaning... I know guys aren't suppose to show emotion and all, but it seems like noise would come out whether you liked it or not. Just a general reaction when certain body parts are fondled. I'm going to start sticking some clamps on balls or spagetti noodles down your****to get a reaction. The silent treatment is just not a good thing with me as you can tell. I mean I can tell it feels good by the stiffy that is poking my eye, or I'll ask, "umm does this feel good" and you reply, "hell ya".. but its like watching a fight on t.v. and their not fighting...lol
Wow...insecure much?
Yea, I said that. Insecure.
Why is it that so many women have the same complaint here..."My man is so quiet!", "Why doesn't my man make noise?" wah wah wah. Lookin' for some validation are we?
Jesus...you'd think that the fact he keeps coming back would be a f*cking clue. You need noises too? Why? Why is it so f*cking paramount that you just HAVE to hear noises during sex? Watched one porno too many perhaps? Maybe a girlfriend told you that if your man is quiet it means he's "just not that into you"? What's with the need for antics if not to satiate some seeded insecurity?
If he likes you and likes what you do to him or for him...guess what...he'll be back for more. What if he was mute? Then what? He's gonna scream his hands off at you or in your general direction?
Eesh...
Yea I get that overall women are very auditory and men are very visual...but seriously, is this really that big an issue to post about it so often? This ain't the first time this topic has been breached. Some men just don't like the antics involved with the grunting and the platitudes. You really need the validation that much??
I've been criticized for being too quiet by every lover I've had. I can't help but laugh when they say it too. If they get a murmer, moan or sigh while we're making out then they should consider themselves lucky. When I'm about to finish I'll growl almost gutteral but this is the crescendo to my vocality.
I'm not a noise maker. I actually LIKE and quite prefer the quiet hush of sex. The "oh yea's" and "f*ck me's" and the like is just over the top and not needed. I've said it before and will again...I've even come to a full on stop of the session when she's decided to go all B Level Porn on me. For me, the quieter the better. Your body speaks to me in ways you never could, so don't even bother.
And in turn, don't expect me to flatter you with "oh yea's" and "that's the best ever's" while you happen to be gobbling my junk or riding me like I'm your pony. If you can't pick it up from my body language then you're just lookin' for platitudes and you're already boring the shit outta me.
Get outta my bed... | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:09:51 AM | {"Jesus...you'd think that the fact he keeps coming back would be a f*cking clue. You need noises too? Why? Why is it so f*cking paramount that you just HAVE to hear noises during sex? Watched one porno too many perhaps? Maybe a girlfriend told you that if your man is quiet it means he's "just not that into you"? What's with the need for antics if not to satiate some seeded insecurity?"}
Thank you BDJ I LMAO!
Personaly I've never had this "problem". Only once was I with someone "quiet" and even he moaned!
Maybe thats just his personality, or he's shy OR you just wernt as good as you thought. JMO | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:13:56 AM | | I think it's important to be expressive. Trust me, if you are doing something that is making me feel good.... you're going to either hear it and know it. Silence in my view is for the stoic or shy folk... both which do not apply to me. Hence, I think it has more to do with personality than any specific gender because not every women is expressive either you know. Either way, however, works for me. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 12:28:02 PM | NINJA style here, If my wood that can drive nail's aint enough ,then your loss.
I look at it this way if your getting off on whats going on then wheres the prob,?I've had my share of tooth sucker's ohhh yahhh's and the like ,but I gotta say as long as your azz in coming off the sheet's and you'r into it please oh please leave the porn star talk's at home ........JMO | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 12:37:49 PM |
Funny I can relate. After 17 years plus of a loveless marriage where sex was either infrequent or not at all - the last few years have been an eye opener to say the least. Most men, you are right, dont say a peep - and coming from where I came from..... okay sure. Then I met a man - and yes the noise he did make, lol I must say it added a whole new dimension to the lovemaking. LOL I can now say I have a preference. GIVE ME NOISE, MOANING, and Calling Out My Name. Yeah Baby
Whoa.I could have written this verbatim with exception to the "most men" comments.I found vocal man the first time out of my marriage.My lover now makes more noises than I do when I am coming,let alone when he is coming!
Talk about a GREAT CHANGE!
IT'S ALIVE!
Sometimes just listening to his sounds....put's me over the edge.
Nothing like vocally sincere enthusiasm to induce passionate orgasms.
OP.....They aren't all the same.Keep listening....they are out here! | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 12:47:32 PM |
Wow...insecure much?
Yea, I said that. Insecure.
Why is it that so many women have the same complaint here..."My man is so quiet!", "Why doesn't my man make noise?" wah wah wah. Lookin' for some validation are we?
Jesus...you'd think that the fact he keeps coming back would be a f*cking clue. You need noises too? Why? Why is it so f*cking paramount that you just HAVE to hear noises during sex? Watched one porno too many perhaps? Maybe a girlfriend told you that if your man is quiet it means he's "just not that into you"? What's with the need for antics if not to satiate some seeded insecurity?
If he likes you and likes what you do to him or for him...guess what...he'll be back for more. What if he was mute? Then what? He's gonna scream his hands off at you or in your general direction?
Eesh...
Yea I get that overall women are very auditory and men are very visual...but seriously, is this really that big an issue to post about it so often? This ain't the first time this topic has been breached. Some men just don't like the antics involved with the grunting and the platitudes. You really need the validation that much??
I haven't been here as long as you and this is the FIRST time I have read this subject and YES...it's a TURN on to be validated by a man's vocalizations.Sorry you can't seem to muster any up.But damn if you don't sound REALLY ANGRY that the women you were with called you out on this issue.
I've been criticized for being too quiet by every lover I've had. I can't help but laugh when they say it too. If they get a murmer, moan or sigh while we're making out then they should consider themselves lucky. When I'm about to finish I'll growl almost gutteral but this is the crescendo to my vocality.
I'm not a noise maker. I actually LIKE and quite prefer the quiet hush of sex. The "oh yea's" and "f*ck me's" and the like is just over the top and not needed. I've said it before and will again...I've even come to a full on stop of the session when she's decided to go all B Level Porn on me. For me, the quieter the better. Your body speaks to me in ways you never could, so don't even bother.
And in turn, don't expect me to flatter you with "oh yea's" and "that's the best ever's" while you happen to be gobbling my junk or riding me like I'm your pony. If you can't pick it up from my body language then you're just lookin' for platitudes and you're already boring the shit outta me.
Get outta my bed...
My pleasure with that attitude...damn.
WOW...Defensive much?Platitudes? How about just some basic appreciation in the MOMENT. Jeez Man.Why does it make a woman insecure if she needs to and enjoys HEARING that she is pleasing her man? I thelps get me all the more motivated to give intense pleasure to a man who is actually REACTING in some way beyond his hard on down my throat.But....it's not worth freaking out about.It just ADDS to the situation.
Silence sometimes makes a person feel as though the SUCK in bed.
Oh...and don't forget....a hard-on isn't considered personal growth. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2009 7:43:45 AM | | Alright, I will admit to not reading the whole thread. But most guys grow up masturbating at home, usually when there is family in the house. So, we learn to come 'quietly', and that never changes. Teenage boys masturbate often; how many women have ever heard their brother's moans and screams of 'I'm coming I'm coming I'm coming!', or 'Ooooooo, ohhhhhh, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!' from the next room? Probably none. And most married men also masturbate. How many get caught doing it? Few; we're quiet. For us, moaning, groaning and chatting during sex usually doesn't really enhance the activity all that much. | |
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