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Posted: 2/8/2006 5:38:36 PM | well i am 42... i think she just wanted to have a baby. and you are the donor. most women when pregnant will love you hate you alternating every hour or so. she is more hate you and no love....have you talked about child support? | |
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Posted: 2/8/2006 5:53:12 PM | see this thread is still bugging me.... as i read something the OP had said in another thread about his gf... about men dating women with kids... he said.... and this is what is making it more fishier the more i think about it..
i met my gf was pregnant when she wasnt and i was still willing to be w/ her... i been through all the puking and everything lol
this just isnt making sense to me.... Im still going to go with my gut feeling and say the baby isnt his.... as anyone knows ( who has had kids or anyone who knows people that have had kids or miscarriage)... if there was a miscarriage it is the same as giving birth there is no way you are going to have sex let alone fall pregnant unitl after birthing bleeding stops 6-8weeks later and then the doctor will advice you not to have unprotected sex until after 12weeks or until your first period is over as falling pregnant before the 12weeks is up puts you in a more risk zone of miscarriage is you had a miscarriage...
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Posted: 2/8/2006 6:36:56 PM | nunthewiser I have to agree with you... kinda fishy here. Some of his posts might be true, or all of them... but I'm not buying it completely... Sometimes though, people want something so bad they begin to believe it themselves even though they know in their heart of hearts what the real truth is.
You should be able to read anyone's profile... the restrictions are for mailing people. You may want to refresh your browser and sign in again. (Just a suggestion)
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Posted: 2/8/2006 8:15:36 PM | | I would fit the description as an older mom as I have a 25 and 29 year old. I believe she is not being honest with you. All you can do is be there for the child at this point once it is born to do your obligation as the baby's father but I don't think a relationship with this person at this time will be healthy for you or the baby. I would get counceling for yourself so that you can make wise decisions and having a child is tough enough when you are a family. I hope the best for you. Take care. | |
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Posted: 2/8/2006 9:40:08 PM | | Blood test, dude. And develop some self-esteem (GROW A PAIR!) that mind-f%&* biyotch CAN"T STAND YOU! But when she sees you holding the adorable little **stard-to call a spade a spade- she knows you'll be the chump paying for diapers, clothes, toys, shoes ,cars &college for some other dude's mistake! Figure it out, bro! Develop some other interests, immediately- like mature, emotionally available, honest women. As soon as you are hard to get, rather than a clinging, worrying vine, SHE'LL be worried about YOU,for a change-or, for once. But it'll be too late, because you'll know that the kid ain't yours & that you deserve better. Out! | |
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Posted: 2/8/2006 10:57:19 PM | @'HerpesSactoCal'....are you demonstrating an example of how badly kids can turn out if the OP doesn't do all that he can to ensure his child's well-being?
Can't say I've heard many 47 year old men speaking in that manner.
Peace out??? Adorable little b@stard???  | |
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Posted: 2/9/2006 9:18:43 AM | | Ok...**** all of you guys, this is none of no ones business....You want advice Brendan, talk to someone that knows us, not a bunch of internet people...Do you think I want everyone knowing my business>????? Hellz no!!!!!! And the thing about Jonny, I can't believe you opened your big ass mouth....No more chances, i'm done! | |
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Posted: 2/9/2006 9:33:18 AM | If you didn't want everyone knowing your business, you shouldn't have come on here and posted!!
So, why don't you tell us your side of the story since you're here?
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Posted: 2/9/2006 12:40:53 PM | Actually, I am scared to death..And who is everyone to say he is not the father? I conceived november 17th, I slept with only him...Who else's could it be? Or maybe i'm the next Virgin Mary....I know for a fact that this baby is his, or else I wouldn't even bother bringing it up and i'd be going after the real baby's father. Who are you all to judge me? None of you guys know me. I been so sick for the past 3 months...And yes i'm only 3 months not 4, I of all people should know this. I'm the one who was hospitalized twice for hyperemisis and i'm pretty sure I didn't get pregnant on my own. It takes 2 to make a baby so how come all I've seen on here were rudness and bashing against me? I'm the one carrying the child and i'm the one who knows what's going on. Please don't be judging me because of what he posted.
I'm the one who has to get sick every day, i'm the one who get's into bad mood swings that I can't help and i'm the one gaining all the extra pounds....Thankyou for the ones who never said anything bad about me...This whole posting about my pregnancy problems is none of you guys's business...Now I'd advise to stop posting stuff right now because neither me or him will be comming on here anymore. This site has brought me enough pain as it is after promising me he wouldn't go on dating sites anymore...I think it's wrong and I came on here to prove a point, and let me tell you he didn't like seeing my face on here so it goes both ways. None of you people know me, or him, none of you people have the rights to say anything about this, because for all you guys know he could be lying. We both know he's the father because I started power puking right after christmas and we been together since November 8th. I am not a cheeter, and I think he made that quite clear that i'm not a slut. This is painfull enough as it is and I don't need to be reading all that stuff from strangers thinking they are DR Phil. This is an Internet Dating Site, not a counselling service. So i'd appreciate it if you guys keep to yourselves and stop meddling in my personnal business...This issue has been taken care of, me and him are doing fine and he said he was sorry for posting personal stuff and I accepted the appology. Now there is no more need for advice because this stuff will be resolved by the both of us and the both of us alone.
This is the last time either of us will log on, so if you all wanna keep on talking smack and upsetting me go ahead, but it won't be read by neither of us. What goes on in our lives stays between us.
If we need counselling, we will seek professional help, but no more "help" from complete strangers off the net. I am totally against it and he realizes it.
Thankyou all for taking part of my business and hopefully I will diliver a healthy baby.
But the fact is that this is my 1st child and i'm scared to death because I have never been through this before....All new mothers can relate to me and 99% of my friends also thought it was wrong for him to post personal stuff about me on here for the world to see....For those who are inlove, I would like to see your men/woman post personal stuff about you on here, see if you won't be upset...This is extra stress that we don't need. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2006 6:30:06 PM | Sure Princess...whatever you say Princess. We’ll all do what you tell us to do Princess.
Your boyfriend will do what you say too if he knows what’s good for him...
Wasn’t there a baby somewhere in this picture…it’s hard to tell since you never once mentioned the baby’s welfare. Oh that's right, poor little you is the only one who matters.
My apologies for forgetting that the Universe revolves around you.
I always wondered who 'frenchchika' was.
New mother’s can relate to you huh? Of course we couldn't because we were never new mothers. We skipped our first pregnancies and moved right ahead into the second.
You didn't really expect me to believe you wouldn't stomp back here after your tantrum and read this did you? "this is none of no ones business" makes it everyone's business. Have you considered attending a few high school classes so you can comprehend that double negative and at least be in a position to teach your child the alphabet?
A child having a child is bad enough but
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Posted: 2/9/2006 6:38:43 PM | | frenchchika - From one mom to a soon to be mom... I hope for the sake of the baby, that you do grow up quickly and realize that the baby is the most important person in your life. The world does NOT revolve around you, it revolves around the baby. Please do the baby and yourself a favor, get some counseling and take some parenting classes before the baby is born. Being a young parent is hard and you will wake up very quickly once the baby is born. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2006 7:03:00 AM | To frenchchika, in response to your message:
"This whole posting about my pregnancy problems is none of you guys's business."
Your guy came on here for advice. We gave it to him based on WHAT HE SAID ABOUT YOU. Obviously he then turned around and told you about it. All the whining in the world from you isn't going to make this sound any less fishy. Please. You were only ever with him? So you met a guy and gave up your virginity the first time you went out because he was so awesome? Yeah. BTW, you are only three months along. You shouldn't be gaining any extra pounds yet. The baby weighs a few ounces. That's like a candy bar.
"Now I'd advise to stop posting stuff right now because neither me or him will be comming on here anymore."
Sure you will. You have to make sure no one is talking about you. Especially him. I hope you have roped him in and retrained him. He was getting away from you.
"because for all you guys know he could be lying."
What reason would he have to come on here and lie about some girl who is pregnant and claiming to have his baby and not wanting him to touch her? I can see why YOU would have reason to lie. You have to cover up.
"I am not a cheeter, and I think he made that quite clear that i'm not a slut."
I'm sure he knows that because you've told him repeatedly. Let me tell you something, the one involved is the last to know what kind of person they are really with. Love truly does make you blind (at least for a while).
"This is the last time either of us will log on"
Could you loosen his leash a bit? Are you worried he might get some advice and use it? If you have nothing to hide, nothing we could say would discourage him. I like how you speak for him. Saves him from the trouble of writing what you tell him to.
"All new mothers can relate to me and 99% of my friends also thought it was wrong for him to post personal stuff"
I like this. So, the guy comes on here to get advice from strangers who don't know you. However YOU go to ALL OF YOUR FRIENDS ****ing about what he did. I guess that's ok. They know both of you. Now, how many girlfriends are going to tell you you're wrong?
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Posted: 2/10/2006 7:25:10 AM | | get a blood test, if it yours take responsability, but I would stay clear from her. The hormones are not going anywhere, they will be there for a LONG time | |
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Posted: 2/10/2006 7:37:28 AM | | Wow, I've read through his posts and her posts. Neither of these people are ready to be parents. I feel sorry for the poor baby. I hope they come to their senses and put this baby up for adoption. Hopefully they will use birth control from now on and grow up before either of them makes another baby. What a sad story. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2006 7:54:03 AM | | I am a registered nurse and worked in OB and Labor and Delivery for a good 20 yr. I can't sit in judgment of either of you but only want to be supportive. Please go to child birthclasses there is so much guidance in the community to benefit you. Explain what is normal and what isn't .expectations and such to alleviate your apprehension. This should be a joyful time shared by each parent--please allow your boyfriend to share this with you. This can be a good bonding experience. Please give a listening ear to medical advisors and the educators regarding your pregancy rather then family.This is your experience --try to make it a pleasant rememberable one. Yes hormones go wacko during this time--some individuals worse then others. Discuss this with the professionals--they understand and can guide you. Seek advice from the professionals--their are numerous free agencies to gude you. God speed | |
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Posted: 2/10/2006 8:08:44 AM | Get the blood test!! It may save you heartache later. A relative of mine got his girlfriend pregnant when he was 19. He loved his son and help support, care for, etc while going to college. After graduation and some job experience he has an impressive career. You guess it the mother took him to court for more child support...someone required a blood test. The child turned out to belong to someone else. By this time the child is 10, and a part of the extended family. The child has not been told that the man he thinks is his father isn't. The father was heartbroken to find that his child really wasn't his. What a mess!!!
If the child is yours...be active in his life. My friend's son got his girlfriend pregnant, had the blood test, etc, etc. After a few months of being a mother, she decided she didn't want to deal with it anymore and handed the child to him.
As the mother of two daughters, I would want the father involved with their pregnacies. Providing that were not abusive to either my daughter or the child. My children were teenagers when their father and I divorced. Being a single parent is tough...I can't imagine raising a baby alone. Yes, hormones can sometimes make us do strange things...but I think she's taking advantage of you. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2006 8:14:28 AM | I think she brought up the blood test thing cause SHE needs confirmation. Yes, when you are pregnant, your hormones do some different things.. But also like someone else stated when you are pregnant, you usually want your partner with you for support through the process.. Looks to me like she is just pushing you away.. Definitely get the blood test and if (he, she) is not yours, get the hell away from her, cause I think she is playin games with you...
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Posted: 2/10/2006 8:42:55 AM | Istn't this thread about a pop music song... 'all that she wants... is another baby... she's going to get you...boy'.
wise up young wrestler.
ps... for the benefit of all the softees: 'i'm sooo sorry your going through this...'
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Posted: 2/10/2006 6:19:45 PM | The father was heartbroken to find that his child really wasn't his. What a mess!!! I imagine this would be heartbreaking for a man...and it's not like they can just stop loving the child they believed to be theirs.
Men have the right to know from the start whether a child is theirs or not if it's questionable. It's just not fair to play with their heart in this way when there's any possibility that they can lose all rights to the child after.
Many men are willing to accept children who aren't theirs but their right to decide if they want to open themselves up to the implications shouldn't be taken away from them. | |
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