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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/16/2006 4:54:22 AM | Ok another one of these fun threads about older women/younger men...and I had to reply to it like the others.
Ok so we got the message from you women in your 30's and 40's that ALL of us guys in our 30's and 40's are BORING. I appreciate the fact you all seem to know all of us men. You date 5 guys 35-41 or have been married to one for years in your 30's and so they represent all of us I guess...Thanks guys for doing that.
And now we have young guys who are laughing at us guys because they get all the women and we are sitting there emptyhanded..I suppose.
But now ladies ok you say we are nothing then, so are these guys 23 or 26 going to stay with you for the next 5-10 years? And make you happy, and such? Maybe, but come on, if you encounter some BORING guys under 30 are you at least going to say they are all boring too? Oh wait no way, the sex is awesome so not a chance..and they are so hot and youthful looking...hehe had to be a smarta$$ there come on...
Man it is crazy how a man is always in the wrong in dating these days and we get labels handed out like business cards. If it is not one thing to nit pick about a guy in his 30's then it is he is boring...my god what has the dating scene become?
Guys pursue women under 30 and they are pigs in the women's eyes for doing that...but why is it ok for the women to pursue men under 30 and be praised? Is there a difference really? I mean don't women mature mentally quicker than men? So a woman 24 dating a guy 38 is a bad thing?
And why do women in thier 20's say men in thier 20's are immature? You ladies over 35 seem to think they are way more mature than us? Wow, how it gets good as the years go on...
Not married, no kids over 35 he does not want anything
Has kids, an ex wife, support payments he has baggage
He is over 35 he is boring
So is there any happy medium for us guys or are we just doomed from the get go?
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/16/2006 9:44:08 AM | Well, I don't ONLY date younger men....but they are generally the one's who approach me. I do find that as far as interests go, I have a lot more in common with them. Music is a big one...I love rock concerts and still go to them frequently. I am outgoing and young spirited and that comes across in my attitude about life. I have had some issues with the fact that most of the men that ask me out are quite a bit younger than I. They are at a different "place" in their lives than I am. I have dated many men as much as 12 yrs younger and only 1 that was significantly older (8 yrs). I have found that most of the younger men were just more openminded than the men my age or older...and I am not talking about sex here, lol. As for maturity, one of the most immature men I have dated was a few years older than me, so I don't think that maturity can be based on age. I am babbling, lol! The only time I get approached by men my age is on sites like these...in the real world, it is always younger men....who knows...  | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/16/2006 10:17:39 AM | I don't know...last year I went to 12 concerts and 15 sports events, this year onto my 2nd vacation, having a 3rd in Sept, and already 3 sports events, and will more than likely attend about 10 concerts for sure, plus a bunch more sports events...also I attend the Toronto Film Festival.
But yet I have actually been called boring...made me laugh when i told a woman I met last month what I had done in the past year that I enjoy doing...and I asked her "Does that sound boring?" and well her reply was a more tripping over her words comment. I said yep judge a book by its cover will get you far.
Sure many people my age do not do even half of what I do..but most are married or in LTR.
So I have come to the conclusion that when a woman my age has it in her mind that men this age are boring, there is no way to prove to her she is wrong as she has her mind made up, much like the majority of them. What has gotten into the heads of some people these days I wonder. | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/16/2006 10:42:03 AM | | Myself I like older women.. by older then me I mean 30-40 I find women that are younger then me say 20-28 dont have the same interests like music and things like that, I have better conversations with people that are a bit older also..my youngest friend is 32 and it also seems that its always the older women hitting on me.lol not the younger ones..lol | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/16/2006 10:57:43 AM | Sure many people my age do not do even half of what I do..but most are married or in LTR.
So I have come to the conclusion that when a woman my age has it in her mind that men this age are boring, there is no way to prove to her she is wrong as she has her mind made up, much like the majority of them.
I hear ya! Generalizations abound...it's crap. While I have never been called boring, who cares what other people think? If they are not interested enough to get to know you, they aren't worth your time. I know it's frustrating, don't get me wrong. My problem is that guys my age have said things like.."I feel like I am clipping your wings". Huh, isn't it my decision to make if I want to "settle" down a bit? Who knows...
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Rabidwolverine : I often find myself "attracted" to posters who live in Canada...either by pics or what they have posted in the forums......Whats up with that?..LOL! | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/16/2006 11:12:01 AM | "last year I went to 12 concerts and 15 sports events, this year onto my 2nd vacation, having a 3rd in Sept, and already 3 sports events, and will more than likely attend about 10 concerts for sure, plus a bunch more sports events...also I attend the Toronto Film Festival."
It's nice that you're so active but that doesn't mean you're not boring!! It doesn't mean that you can carry on an interesting conversation or have a good sense of humour or have any common sense. I'm not talking about you in particular, but a laundry list of interests doesn't necessarily mean a person is interesting. | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/16/2006 11:44:32 AM |
It's nice that you're so active but that doesn't mean you're not boring!! It doesn't mean that you can carry on an interesting conversation or have a good sense of humour or have any common sense. I'm not talking about you in particular, but a laundry list of interests doesn't necessarily mean a person is interesting.
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/16/2006 1:44:45 PM | hahah I am the guy that you would blame for your cheeks being sore from laughing so much and your ears falling off from talking to you about everything...sorry for the so called laundry list..I was saying how I am a guy who enjoys doing things, I gotta wash my clothes soon so that list can be listed if you want....
I am faaar from a boring guy, and I am always one to have conversations with alot of people about practically anything.
That is why i can't get where the boring thing comes in for when someone is saying it is my age that makes me for sure boring... | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/16/2006 2:21:50 PM | Strange how people assume about others. In an earlier post a woman commented about men her age do not have the same taste in music. I feel the same about women my age. I am 45 and went to see "Nine Inch Nails", "My Chemical Romance". "The Used" and more. I've always listened to alternative rock.
What I see as a problem at my age is the mentality of how women think nowadays. I lack trust in most single women my age because they seek physical relationships when chasing the youngers guys. They know they are being used... but don't care. Why would I ever put long term trust in women like that? I still believe the long term effect of this type behaviour will cause a lot of women to be old and lonely, eventually. Myself, if I know she has that sort of history behind her.... I'm gone.... I don't wear disgarded shoes (so to speak).
Today, I saw a profile of a woman that I liked. In her profile (5 last posts in a thread) it brought me to this forum/thread. So much for the interest in her. | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/17/2006 9:48:11 PM | | I think we all generalize too much these days by using a handful of people we know or meet as the basis on labelling and judging others. | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/18/2006 7:06:20 PM | | Broken soul...waht the heck are you talking about?????....where is your pride?...your stamina man...lol.....the young ones dont stand a chance in the stamina department....Im 43....can go all night.....and ake her up in the morning too about 5AM....my girl treasures me.....I think we get BETTER as we get older | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/18/2006 9:57:01 PM | you know what sucks!!!!! getting hit on by guys that are younger, BUT men my age are too chicken to come up and say HI! The word intimidating comes to mind...what gives a man the right to make an assumption because we appear to be confident, or take care of ourselves...If you guys would let your guard down and just make conversation not all women your age are going to diss you...I am always nice... | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/19/2006 1:20:17 AM | There are a few issues going on here so I'm gonna try to address them one at a time:
Older women use younger men for sex ok well that's probably no more or less true than older men using younger women. There are a few posts here that acknowledge this is because at different times in our lives we have different needs. Confession I've only dated a significantly younger man once, after my divorce I was 26 & he was 18.........I still laugh about the silliness of that situation. In my defense I had been replaced by a 19 year old  and at the time felt the need to 'prove' I could do it. He was a sweet kid and dare I say as loyal as a puppy but, I broke it off intellectually we were not a match.
Women being reffered to as 'disregarded shoes' (for any purpose) dude there is a reason why you're still single in a word: get over yourself no woman worth her salt would put up with this kind of damnation. Sometimes we all have indiscretions before we realize what we want out of life and the opposite sex, you live and you learn and hopefully everybody has fun there's no harm in that.
Men get boring as they get older  that's an interesting situation to find yourself in 'dance for me boy' I find that women and men who are comfortable in their own skin find less of a need to be entertaining. Maybe women with hobbies & other friends would be easier to deal with?
Finally to somthinthirty who has gone out on a limb to say that men are intimidated by independent, confident women  I find this to be true in my recent choices. I haven't quite figured out what it's about yet though. It's like all the things that you've worked so hard to achieve in your life somehow make you less attractive to intelligent beings of the opposite sex. I'm still working on it though, until then the gods of irony are smiling on us all | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/19/2006 2:25:30 AM | here's just a general comment that most people who have replyed to this post seem to have forgot.
at the end of the day everyone is looking for love and happiness, and that love and happiness can come in the unlikeliest of forms.
maybe i'm being a touch on the 'romantic heart' side, or possibly naive lol, but we all want to be loved, no matter what age or cred we are, and if that happiness comes in the form of someone young or old, then what really is the problem, its not our life, but theirs and they're happy and hopefully in-love.
we all have differnet tastes and personally i would never consider a relationship with anyone less than 5 years younger than me, but if i found someone who had the interests the personality and all the little things we all look for in someone then maybe i would give it a try, its all about compatibility and two people looking to head in the same direction in this road of life.
aren't we supposed to be living in the 21st century, all the barriers to most situations have changed, in a world with so much despair a little happines is what every one needs, surely!
here's to optimism and love, lol.
Maybe i'm just a hopeless romantic, i blame my nan for all those saturday afternoon films, lol.
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/19/2006 5:59:12 AM | Here-Here darks1de couldn't have said it better myself and it is all about the end of the day is it not?  | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/19/2006 6:39:30 AM | I think that because many women in thier 30's and 40's have had a failed marriage, and so either they left or he left, the kids are in thier late teens or early 20's now. So the women see that ok, no need to be making dinner, doing laundry etc...they have more freedom. So the best match is the youg guys. What could us old guys possibly offer them? We do not party, we do not go out to bars, we have become content to an extent being single and grew a lifestyle out of it. And most women in thier 30's and 40's are probably not looking for another relationship, so they know that most old guys are.
Funny thing is, I wondered why I am always looked down upon by women because I am single, no kids and never been married...well after asking some people I know about this, they said because technically you are not at all close to what women who have been through a marriage and have kids have gone through. And they sure do not want to experience it again. They do not want kids, etc. So no way are you a match for them.
Women like that will date younger hands down. Those guys are good looking, know what they want, are more mature and way more fun, even though I may be fun, not a chance I am more fun than those guys.
Might sound like it was more a put down but it is not. It is the truth.
Sure I used to approach women in my 20's like it was nothing, but now? Barely I will as I figure she will not accept me for the fact of my job is one example. And very true.
So unfortunately guys if you are in your late 30's and 40's and single, it will be tough to meet women who will give you a chance.
There is no way we can compete with the young guys, we can just hope some women may think twice and say sure he seems decent why not give him a chance...always hope...that is all we can do. | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/19/2006 9:53:10 AM | | LOVE younger boys here...they can keep up and are so much more open to things. I wouldn't go younger than 21 tho...that's a little TOO risky. LOL | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/19/2006 9:59:10 AM | | ^^Good stuff..I guess 37 is old and over the hill huh? Good to know these preferences and I am more accepting that women in thier 30's refuse us..nice to know though. | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/19/2006 1:49:55 PM | I gotta say it here as I've said it in other threads like this...the Older men and Younger women only...is fading.
It's not always about age. I met my sweetie through his roomie (who was on this site) at a Provincial Party we had. We started dating and I didn't know his age...it didn't matter. We share common interests, goals, etc...I found out after a couple weeks of dating that he is 9yrs my jr. Did I toss him because of a "generation gap" fear, or because "what will everyone say when they find out?" HELL NO! I've fallen in love with the MAN...not his age.
I really feel that ppl who say "I'll never date someone 'X' number of years older or younger than me..." are missing out. Happiness and love have nothing to do with age, race, religion...those things are only 'indicators' (in the words of fitbird on another thread).
I don't think "older guys are all boring" or that "younger guys have more stamina"...generalizing like that shows narrow-mindedness...SAD!
Just my 2cents...
~M.A~
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/19/2006 3:45:02 PM | | I actually want someone my age or older! If I were to go younger my cut off would be 3-4 years.....I'm a woman, I don't want a boy! | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/19/2006 5:54:52 PM | Not all the boys today are just boys...just like not all men today are really men
same goes for women, some are girls...some women...age does not determine that! | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/19/2006 8:02:13 PM | | I seem to attract alot of guys 29-31. They are much more fun and baggage free. However if a guy my age wanted to get to know me then thats ok too | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/21/2006 9:44:52 AM | I agree 'meandmonkus' I don't want some one younger than I am. I just don't see what we could possibly have in common. However 'rabid' I'm not sure that I disagree with a woman who won't date you because you've never had kids. Only because children are a huge issue and if she's done having the babies and you want to make with the having of the babies then it'll be splitsville for the two of you and you've both wasted your time. I'm not really sure what marriage has to do with anything though?  | |
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