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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/21/2006 10:47:36 AM | Women now have found all the wrongs in us men when we hit our late 30's it seems..more and more of these posts I see that nothing positive is said by practically all women this age or older...they all say we have no stamina, we are set in our ways, we are boring, we live life as a routine daily...and it makes me wonder..did these women never have priorities in thier lives? I mean am sure that 90% of the women who chase after guys 20 years younger have been married and have a couple of teenaged kids..so now they nitpick at us pointing out all our flaws but make it like the guys in thier 20's have not one flaw at all..that they are perfect.
Sure they chase you women, approach you because they all know that older women crave younger men...go to Crocodile Rock here in Toronto, see women over 40 hooking up with men under 30 all the time...guys will know this and so that gives them the green light to know the chances of them getting rejected are slim.
Now us not approaching you women is because I think having 15 years on some of those young studs means I have been rejected tons of times and hurt tons of times in that span of years...so as women do when they keep dating guys who shaft them, I may second guess myself and not waste my time or take the chance, because I may not want to be rejected.
How many times has a 22 yr old guy been rejected? He more or less has started dating for only about 5 years and as a teen rejection is more learning from what you say.
And saying us men are set in our ways, so women never get set in thier ways? That I find hard to believe quite frankly. I think it is more knowing that dating a guy in his 20's women have the upperhand and all the power as he is more thrilled he can have sex with someone that much older...she takes control of everything else.
But truth is yes older men/younger women is practically faded off and that makes it impossible for a man over 35 to get dates...because when women under 30 say no, and the majority of women over 35 say no, that leaves very few to pursue and those who are available will get so annoyed with the tons of men coming to them...
My guess is guys if you are single in your 30's, time to throw in the towel..why waste your energy on being rejected and being told all your flaws? makes you feel like shit big time and then when you feel that way, women say "Oh you got a negative attitude" no win either way it seems.
I may be wrong but it is true that our flaws are flaunted at us while our qualities are never told to us...seems that way anyhow.
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/21/2006 11:21:52 AM | I think generalizations are wrong. If women are attracted to older or younger men, and it doesn't hurt anyone, then that's just what their preference is. Men are the same way. Who cares? What matters is that the person we date or end up with or whatever is good to us and we have things in common.
I think the reason totally depends on the individuals involved in each situation. Period. | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/21/2006 3:09:32 PM | Oh rabid you poor shlep it seems as though some woman has given you a complex. I don't think you've read a word myself and some of the other ladies have said. I may not (and the other ladies may not) be local but, if we feel men our age are the more appropriate option there has got to be some one local to you that feels that way to.  I hope you get through whatever it is though because contrary to what you're thinking there is life out there. Even for you. Here's to wishing you the best and a more peaceful existence.  | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/21/2006 8:18:24 PM | | I don't see anything wrong with dating younger guys. It really depends on the individual & their mind set. I have several female friends that are married to guys 9 or 10 years younger & they are fine. I also have some guy friends that are with younger females & they are happy as well. To each his own, I say. | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/21/2006 9:22:28 PM | | In my experience men my age are 1-married thus making them unavailable. 2- let themselves go completely thus making me unattracted to them. 3- Going after 18 year olds. I find it true that younger men are seriously immature but hell....they can go alllllll night so if you can find one that can shut his mouth (well open it at the right time >;D that is) for a few hours there aint no harm and its a lot of fun! | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/22/2006 8:37:23 AM | Oh man I love it, more and more we guys get dirt kicked in our eyes...I have yet to hear a positive thing about a man in his 30's and 40's from women that age..seems all they want is a HOT LOOKING guy to lay thier eyes on and get all horny over..so then it is true all about the looks...hey there is a web site that encourages people to screw around on thier spouses with others who are married, discreetly...so this just shows being married, getting into a relationship is bound for a failure for me..because if you do not continue looking good for her she will kick you to the curb for a hot 20 something dude who can go at it all night while she is turned on by his looks or go to the web site and hook up with another unsatisifed person who is married.
Are us men really that bad, I mean obviously you women go by about 50 men you met who are older to get your general judgement that no matter what every man who is older is not worth it right?
And here I want to say ALL women want hot looks, money from a guy..but then I would be generalizing right?..But is that not true? Ya it isn't and so then we guys are not ALL not worth it...I wonder now if we are not just wasting our time proving to women we are good as of course we are going to be compared to a guy 12-20 years younger than us...but hey is the times...am I wrong at all? | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/22/2006 10:37:42 AM | | I think there are a lot of good looking & nice men in their late 30's & 40's. There can be great looking men at any age, in my opinion. Personally, I don't think I could go any younger than 10 yrs my junior. I don't go so much by age or even looks, but mostly by how the person acts & carries himself. | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/22/2006 10:40:17 AM | RW...You are taking the posts of a few women way too personally.
I'm 30, I've dated me in their 40's that were awesome! Spenc and Dar come to mind right away. Both are total gentlemen and are still very dear friends to me. Why am I not with either of them at this time? No it had nothing to do with money, nothing to do with stamina, and trust me, both are awesome eyecandy! so that's not it either.
They are both stable men in touch with their inner child. Things just didn't work and we have decided to stay friends.
Not all women are concerned with age...and that is why dating a guy 5-10 yrs younger than herself isn't an issue. Those looking for eyecandy and stamina...well lets face it...most are looking for a "toy" to play with that boosts their ego...no different than older men who only date younger women.
To each thier own. I'm dating a guy 9yrs my jr. Eyecandy?? To me he's attractive, not just "eyecandy". I didn't ask his age (just like I didn't ask Spenc or Dar). I was actually quite shocked when I learned he is 9 yrs younger as I thought he was perhaps 2-4yrs younger.
Everyone has their preferances and some of those change over our lifetime. I remember a time when I would not date anyone younger than me. I even got weirded out and eventually broke up with a guy because he was 9months younger than me. I've had stages where if you were blonde you were hot, if you were blonde you weren't.
Do you have no prefereance in the person you date?
Is your choice soley on personality?
Let's face it, some ppl like older, some ppl like younger, some ppl like their own age, and some ppl don't care because age is only a #.
~M.A~
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/22/2006 11:02:58 AM | See how I see it is, most women now view us guys as lazy, out of shape, unattractive so they look for youth for that..and so that means without being eye candy we are no longer desired. Pretty sad when a guy can treat and woman terrific but because she encountered a few bad apples that were 35,39,45 say, that we are all grouped in and because they experience exstacy with the 20 somethings those guys are it...and hey how can any guy over 35/40 compete with a youthful, good looking guy in his 20's? Not a chance...
Now I may be going by the many women on here who praise the young guys and bash the old farts..ok so that is how I get my view and it may not be fair I know...but I do have to say we had it coming to us eventually and so some of us are pawns in this game...is all..have to accept it and go on with our life.
I just feel insulted that being a 37 yr old guy I am tossed to the curb as one of the TYPICAL guys my age...makes me say why bother with any of them?
if I was to pursue any young women who seem to for some reason view me in a totally opposite light than women my age, that would be what women call a pervert...and so name and so that is a no no..age is just a number to women who are older, not to men who are older..this is a different time is it not?
Where older women chasing after men 20 years younger is praised and men chasing after younger women say 18 year younger is disgusting...and if both are doing this for sex, then the older guys is a total pervert and pig...why??
Also do women never get set in thier ways as they get older? I always thought that is all part of growing up but is it though that women are allowed to be and men are not?? Seems strange how that phjrase about men being set in thier ways is a total turn off...never knew it was a guy thing only...guess now we do? | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/22/2006 11:19:18 AM | Okay, allow me to set myself up for a verbal bashing (I'm sure), but seems to me that women are still coming into their own in alot of ways. Women today are exploring themselves at every level. We are taking on careers in male dominated areas, we are not just "house-wives and mothers" anymore.
You want to discuss double standards? You think that the standard today is "It's okay to be a cougar (female) but guys that do it are Perv's" How about the "Stud with 3 black books of first names only and the *hore who can count her list past 30 names".
Women are becoming more independant. We don't always need the "older man" to "provide for us". Women are in a new sexual stage...We have discovered that we can have pleasure too! Women are no longer limited because they are women. What is it that really bothers men about an older woman with a younger man? We had to deal with it for centuries. Men can create offspring right up until the die. Women have in the past had to fight to maintain a spot. We hit "the dreaded age" and were replaced by younger women that could provide more children AND when this was most prevalent women had no voice...we weren't real ppl yet.
We are moving out of the "It's a man's world"...Women are no longer just concerned with the house and the kids. We are exploring all the area's men have enjoyed for soooo long. Does this make men any less? NO...but rather than a pity party of "What chance do I have, ALL women want younger men and what chance do ANY guys over the age of 30 have..."
How about Great let them have their fun, we had ours and eventually everyone finds balance.
Not ALL women want younger men, not all women want older men. Now that we have preferances and are not afraid to say so, we're to be comdemmed yet again?!?
Get over it! Everyone likes something different at different times in their lives. I know older women that wonder how they'll ever find someone because they are "old". puleeeease!
Can both sexes quit whinning?
We are all different, that's what makes everyone interesting.
Let the bashing commence...
~M.A~
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/22/2006 11:29:50 AM | Ok so I am 100% in the wrong for asking such immature questions..I agree that we men today have no chocie but to pay the price of the past men and thier dominating ways over women..true..
Life is over as we know it guys..enjoy it LOL.. | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/22/2006 11:42:10 AM | Again RW...I don't see anywhere that any women have said "If you are over 30 give up it's a lost cause" Perhaps at the age of 30 my glasses need to be replaced. My point is this:
Women have just as much right to have different preferances as men. Men have just as much right to have different preferances as women. Not ALL women want younger men, not ALL men want younger women...I must admit that reading your childish response to the fact that SOME women prefer to have younger mates is a total turn off!
I like men that are confident, goal-oriented, are at peace with their inner-child (I like a good snowball fight and puddle-jumping..not the whinning, I can ask my kids for that), that aren't afraid to dream big and go after it...even if it looks impossible. Does this mean only the "younger" men have these traits? Hell NO!
But alas..it must be what I'm saying and ALL women are saying that very thing right? Please get off the pity party. Great your over 30 and you want a woman your own age...congrat's and guess what??? Are you sitting down?? THERE ARE women out there looking for their own age...just not ALL of them.
Again...a preferance is just that and it's different for everyone. Why bash women who want to have some fun? Why bash women who can find a "mature younger man"? I'm not male bashing in the least...perhaps you should really read my responses. Just like anyone and everyone, we all have the right to explore...be it sex, travel, looks, education, etc...
It's sad that you take these posts so personally and not for what they really are. Varied opinions and PREFERANCES.
~M.A~
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/22/2006 11:57:42 AM | They are all preferences and I took some comments personally...is what being a guy is i suppose...but in the end I often wonder are we at all allowed to make a mistake and over react to somethings? Depends on who the person is and what it is about...hey all the best and no hard feelings to those who want to have fun..I know I always do..and hey go for what you like...I guess for me it has been seeing so many women my age that I have tried to approach or online to talk to and got many times I am into younger men..etc..so I guiess i just overreacted to the whole thing...but at the sametime I encourage it.,,,go for it...
As I often have said I sure cannot compete in any which way or form with a young guy...it sucks but is reality...so ladies definitely date younger men. I believe it was said best by a few i know that said men get boring after 30, get set in thier ays and are absolutely no fun, and if they are it is a total turn off because it seems odd that a man in his late 30's or 40's has fun like a 20 something...just is not right...and I agree to an extent.
Women are young at heart, men age faster, and women do not. So it makes sense to have many women see the fun with a younger man as he is more open to alot of stuff when us guys are always close minded..and have baggage anyhow.
take care and all the best to all, have fun..see ya | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/23/2006 5:31:33 PM | Rabid, dude, I think are burying your self here...
This is the net man, things here are different, I turned 39 last Sunday, but I live a much younger life.
I have noticed that there seems to be a large contingent of women on the net, especially in the US versus Canada, that when they are 30-40 years old, they date perhaps a year or two older and much younger men, according to their profiles. I have only just started dating again in the last 6-9 months. I took time off to heal from a breakup from a relationship ( she, now 34 ).
What I have found without a doubt is that in real life dating is that I attract and get dates with women age 28-38. It just so happens that we have the same things in common, music, athletic ability, zest for life and drive.
I joined here to just cast my net a bit wider, you know? You never know who is out there kind of thing? While I have found a couple of nice friends here, I have seen a more realistic dating scene in the real world.
So you know what? Women on the net that say they want a younger guy? Who cares? Why does it matter, they can want who they want. I am sure if they ( POF girls ) saw me ripping XGames style on my snowboard then hanging out with all my great friends with a smile on my face, caught my great aura, they would not think I was nearly 40. Most ladies peg me at 31-35 at least in this time of my life.
I will say this though, most of my 35+ year old female friends who keep going for the younger guys keep getting hurt. They seem to be the most lonely and unsettled at times too. I understand that this does not apply to all people, but it seems to be the prevailing circumstance, at least in this little ski town.
Age is irrelevant. You can shape your life into what ever age you want, sure, we all get older, but we don't have to become boring, lazy, bitter or any of that.
Be young! It's all in your head!!
So for those ladies who want the younger guys, let them be. Some will be happy, but some won't as they try find their own youth in someone else.... | |
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Posted: 4/23/2006 7:05:23 PM | I am a Woman that will be 40 years old in August. Since I divorced 7 years ago I have dated nothing but younger men---not on purpose---but it seems like all the men that approach me are younger. When I tell them my age--they tell me I don't look it and if they don't mind why should I. I definitely do not date anyone younger than 30 but to be honest the few men that
I have met that are in their 40's act like they are so old. I don't have any kids and maybe that has kept me young at heart but for now I enjoy dating younger men. | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/23/2006 7:23:50 PM |
so this just shows being married, getting into a relationship is bound for a failure for me..because if you do not continue looking good for her she will kick you to the curb for a hot 20 something dude who can go at it all night while she is turned on by his looks...I wonder now if we are not just wasting our time proving to women we are good as of course we are going to be compared to a guy 12-20 years younger than us...but hey is the times
Wow....I was just reading this when this thought dawned on me: I remember when women had this fear...it was almost common 15-20 years ago to see men do this and it was almost considered part of married life in some circles.
Times have certainly changed. | |
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arri
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/23/2006 7:31:27 PM | Times haven't really changed all that much, they have just become more gender neutral.
Dating is the easy part. We don't need to be that discriminating. It's the long term potential that complicates things. | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/23/2006 8:38:40 PM |
^^^ Be careful. Some of the cougars think that you might want a relationship with commitment and want to get married
SO??? Older women are ok for certain aspects of a relationship, but not marriage ??? What an assinine comment! | |
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Posted: 4/24/2006 3:57:50 AM | Here's my story for you to pick apart:
I'm a Goth. I look like a zaftig Morticia Addams, and as odd as this sounds, I'm too old to want to change this. This does not mean I'm immature or trying to relive my youth, as I was in my 20s when I started my path in this scene. I like my spooky look, my spooky music, my spooky decor, and my spooky interests. It's just how I am.
Now how many men my age or older do you think approach me that aren't slime?
That's right, it's damn close to zero. I like normal people, and the men I've dated have been fairly normal.
But the oldest one wasn't even 6 weeks my senior. The rest of them (including my ex husband) have been 4 or more years my junior.
I'm open to see older men, but the ones that do approach me are either married and looking to expand their harems and of course all goths are all morally bankrupt, or they're just looking for h0tt sexxx--I've got teenage daughters, that's not a good example!!!
Younger men act more open-minded about my lifestyle, and they don't assume that because I'm a freak that I am immoral or a drug-addled idiot. They don't tell me that I should wear more bright colors, they don't tell me I would look so pretty without the ring in my nose, and they don't tell me to grow out the parts of my hair that are shaven. In a word, younger men act as if they are willing to accept me as I am and as a mature woman at the same time.
So far, older men act around me like I'm abnormal and therefore I'm stupid, I've no self-discipline, I do drugs, I party constantly, I'm incapable of settling down. They seem surprised that I'm a military veteran, multi-lingual, mother of two very normal and bright girls, capable of carrying on a profound conversation about current issues, an active voter, etc.
Yet it actually gets tiring to be the senior in a relationship all the damn time. To be the one that remembers what B&W television was like, life before microwave ovens and remote controls and VCRs and CDs and home computers. I'd really like to meet a man my age or older that doesn't judge me instantly based on some stereotype about my personal style. But it just ain't gonna happen, so I'm stuck dating the young guys.
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/24/2006 12:27:43 PM |
Younger men act more open-minded about my lifestyle, and they don't assume that because I'm a freak that I am immoral or a drug-addled idiot. They don't tell me that I should wear more bright colors, they don't tell me I would look so pretty without the ring in my nose, and they don't tell me to grow out the parts of my hair that are shaven. In a word, younger men act as if they are willing to accept me as I am and as a mature woman at the same time.
What a sad commentary that post is.
You are obviously well-spoken with priorities intact, etc. I am not all that amazed about the men who will accept you and those who won't. I go through the very same thing. Not because I'm goth ~ but because I am very active in civil rights, domestic violence issues, and so liberal minded that most just flatly can't stand my crusades. I can honestly say, I am genuinely sorry that your story is as it is. Individuality is the key to a long-lasting relationship in my opinion. I have loved very few men in my life, but of the three from my past, they were all individuals and most likely NOT what everyone expected of me. Too bad, they accepted me and I accepted them. You will find the same, and when you do ~ all these "others" will regret missing out on a great person. (PS...I didn't read your profile, but here you look great....I'm mystified actually!!)
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/25/2006 5:20:05 AM | | I don't think that I would ever date anyone who was more than just a few years younger than myself. As I get older, the last thing I would want is to have someone on my arm, that just by visual contrast, reflects that I am older. I want to grow old silently and gracefully, in my mind going out with a visually younger man would be like having a billboard by your side that basically shouts out, "Older woman, coming through." eek! No thanks! ha ha | |
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| Ladies who only date younger men
Posted: 4/25/2006 11:01:40 AM |
Older woman, coming through." eek! No thanks! ha ha
I gotta tell this one to the older women I worm with, they will laugh for sure..good one Forumbound | |
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