| How do you handle the issue of Sexual Protection ?
Posted: 5/3/2008 9:59:28 AM | Well at the risk of sounding like a complete jerk for the first time on POF, Im gonna risk it anyway. LOL
I am a 30 year old man, Im not sleeping with the whole neighborhood and their mothers. I dry-humped enough in high-school. If someone wants to play, Ill help you , you help me kinda foreplay, thats fine. But if I were in a serious relationship with another consenting adult, I would be involved in adult intercourse. Ya know the kind where two adults take responsibility for their own actions? Wet skin on skin lovin? So basically I am saying IF I am going to have sex it should be enjoyable for us both. If it cant be, then we shouldn't have it, plain and simple.
Now, if the scenario is different, and you all are talking about dating, dates, one night stands, multiple partners, orgies, circle sessions, breeding parties, and slave rape, yall lost me, so Im out of that portion of the convo! haha
Bottom line is if you are responsible, mature, consenting adult, I fail to see the problem of natural intercourse.
For those of you who analyze peoples responses and like to eat them up! LOL .....
NOTE: Responsible, mature, and consenting are criteria here, if you dont meet one of those criteria it changes the bottom line. (Example) if you are not responsible...... | |
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| How do you handle the issue of Sexual Protection ?
Posted: 5/5/2008 4:03:07 AM | I myself have no problem handling the issue, I will wear one no matter what, and if the female looks at me like I'm suggesting she has something...thats too bad, because if she dosen't know where I've been...I sure as hell don't know where she's been
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| How do you handle the issue of Sexual Protection ?
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:46:52 PM | | I don't carry condoms and tend to shy away from men who are too 'prepared'. I've also noticed that the eagerness and how dismissive a LOT of men are these days about unprotected sex. Safe sex is not oral sex either-- and I had to say it because a lot of guys don't know it. I think some chances are safe to take but not all. I don't want to get pregnant-- that is my fear but I also don't want some re-occurring raspberry bumps showing up ANYWHERE on me because I was convinced the wrong guy was 'safe'. I don't sleep around with more than one lover at a time. I think it's fine to date multiple people without disclosing it up front; I think it's okay to sleep together before having an 'exclusivity' talk. I don't think it's okay to be sleeping around with more than one person and not letting your partner know that you are currently sexually active. There are a bazillion things that can be hiding inside of a person not revealing that they aren't currently active. One partner could get pregnant or be sleeping unprotectively with someone else. It can get out of sorts and perverted if people are not approaching intimacy with respect and integrity. | |
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| How do you handle the issue of Sexual Protection ?
Posted: 5/6/2008 7:36:04 PM | Forget tact.... when it comes down to it, hand him a condom, and if he doesn't like it then I agree no glove no love.
Guys, before you get funky cover your monkey.
A buddy of mine was dating this girl and one night she starts crying. He asks what's wrong and she says she's sad because she can't get pregnant. He thinks it's great because now he doesn't have to wear a condom. You can probably guess that she was lying. She used the guy for his sperm. No sooner did she find out that she was pregnant and she dumped him. So now he has to pay child support (and she's on welfare sponging off working people) and hardly ever gets to see the kid.
A few years ago I had a gf who hated the fact that I used a condom. I think she was trying to play this same game on me. Needless to say, that relationship didn't last. | |
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| How do you handle the issue of Sexual Protection ?
Posted: 5/6/2008 8:00:36 PM | Protection?
I find that pepper spray works well. But better yet would be a Taser... cuz, you know... some people just don't get that no means no... unless you're in europe...  | |
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| How do you handle the issue of Sexual Protection ?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:29:41 AM | | lol some gys try to pull this one , they say "o im too big and cant find condom that fits me" dont be fooled these guys dont care about your health and are not bothered that as they do it, u r busy worrying rather than enjoying the act. no protection no sex its simple ... and i carry my own | |
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| How do you handle the issue of Sexual Protection ?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:06:57 PM | WTF Ciara? Has someone ACTUALLY used the "I'm to big to find one that fits" line? sweet Jesus...
Guys have been carrying around condoms in their wallets since they were 14 in the hopes that they may one day get to use it. Personally I shoot blanks, but I have a supply of condoms ready should the need arise. It's about being responsible, not birth control, or anything else. They may not know they have an STD, and I don't want to be the one that has to find out that they did... | |
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| How do you handle the issue of Sexual Protection ?
Posted: 5/8/2008 3:02:44 PM | I hear ya,
But in any case....
If a man cares about his woman, he should be prepared
and not leave all of the responsibility to his Gal.
"Be a Man and women will respect You more"...
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| How do you handle the issue of Sexual Protection ?
Posted: 5/8/2008 3:15:27 PM |
how do we bring the subject up tactfully?
To heck with tact...just be straight with 'em.
Now...if you really do want to be "tactfull"....try switching to tactical...
Don't mention it, just slip one in front of your lips and let it unroll onto him as your lips glide down his shaft...if done right he might not know it's even there. | |
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| How do you handle the issue of Sexual Protection ?
Posted: 5/8/2008 3:19:58 PM | | I don't get involved in casual sex with anyone I date. I only become involved with someone whom I have built a real relationship with and that I have come to know about and his history, and of course it doesn't hurt to have tests to make sure he is clean. I would rather wait for the right one who was safe than sleep with everyone I date and have to "protect" myself against them in case they might have a disease. | |
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| How do you handle the issue of Sexual Protection ?
Posted: 5/8/2008 9:43:58 PM | I'm not the one night stand type of guy. I try
to get to know someone before sleeping with them.
When the time comes, I always let them know that
I use protection no matter what.
I've actually had one older woman question me on
why I wanted to use protection? She asked me if
I thought she had something.
I just said that I respect myself and my partner. | |
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| How do you handle the issue of Sexual Protection ?
Posted: 5/10/2008 6:09:15 AM | I find it hard to believe in this day and age that a man would not want to wear one.. sure they are a pain in the a$$ but so is pills, ointment, doctors vists when you get something!
something that kind of made me go WHOOO.. was i went in to get checked after my last relationship because she cheated and the nurse said wow I think that is great we never see people come in to get checked out before a relationship! EEEEEK!!! | |
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| How do you handle the issue of Sexual Protection ?
Posted: 5/10/2008 2:40:51 PM | well sorry but i tried carry a box of plastic wrap.....man what a pain....sticks to everything except what it was intended too....and beside it makes me gag.....for use with oral sex on the ladies.....dont use it and dont use condoms....so dont email me....unless u like it au natural.......
signed....
and oldtimer.....LOL | |
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| How do you handle the issue of Sexual Protection ?
Posted: 5/10/2008 3:20:32 PM | Any one who doesnt use protection is a fool.
I know 3 local women who got caught out after sleeping with a bouncer at a club.
They all got AIDS.
I personally got caught out with a regular girlfriend and ended up passing blood.
She had a bacterial imbalance and kept on infecting me.
By the time they found out what it was my bladder had been damaged and is still not fully right now.
What is odd is I never caught anything from one night stands but actually got something from a regular relationship ! | |
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