| men are from mars......
Posted: 2/10/2006 9:23:28 AM | hi donut.... i hear this a lot.... it seems that there is a whole planet full of romantic chicks with loser partners and a whole planet full of really romantic guys with unappreciative women.... we need to take a step back and ask... what is wrong with this picture???????
lol
say.... you wanna move in with me????? i cant find a romantic tactile gf for love nor money.....lol
6 degrees
I think we might live just a little to far from each other. Darn, lol.  | |
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| men are from mars......
Posted: 2/10/2006 10:16:08 AM | I think that part of the problem is that men and women face different challenges. For a woman, the challenge is to figure out, of the 20 emails she just received, which guy is NOT an a**hole. For a man, the challenge is to figure out, of the 20 profiles he has just read, which one will reply to him if he writes.
The answer is definately not to blanket the web with emails, or to answer every email received. There's got to be a better way.
For me, I look to see if there is some slight indication of interest. If I see it, I'll follow up, one way or another. So if you add me to your favorites, you get a note from me, which may say, Sorry, no thanks, or may say something a lot more positive. But you can be sure you have been noticed. | |
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| men are from mars......
Posted: 2/10/2006 10:20:47 AM | The best way is to get a large cardboard carton, a stick, a string, some lettuce and some peanut butter. Put the peanut butter on a couple of lettuce leaves. Prop the box up on the stick, and place the lettuce under the box. Have the string tied to the stick so you can wait in the bushes out of sight. When a woman comes by to eat the snack, yank the string, dropping the box to trap her. This technique also works on rabbits.
The only way I know to break the language barrier with women is to talk back and forth. I find when I do that I can usually understand what they have to say. Sometimes it takes turning the TV down for a while. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2006 10:29:41 AM | caught squirrel that way ...it climbed it's own tail and BIT me !
I always thought men were from Jupiter or that tiny little ice planet past Pluto | |
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| men are from mars......
Posted: 2/11/2006 4:13:22 PM |
we were talking about new dating situations not existing relationships. And a woman holding back on sex until she's sure that a man who's interested in her is interested in that and more. Not about women blackmailing their partners with sex. That would be awful.
I agree Davina with what you said here about sex.
I just have no patience for anyone who completely buys-in to this Mars/Venus crap. True men typically act one way and women act differently. It's important that your feelings should not outweigh your partner's feelings, that's pretty much my opinion. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2006 7:55:44 AM | I asked you to clarify and you didn't so I have to guess, cause there are a lot of different ideas mixed up in this discussion.
I *think* you're saying that that you don't understand/accept why it isn't women who do the pursuing, wooing and purchasing. You're questioning why men do it, and complaining that in bearing the burden of doing it, you want to know WHAT'S IN IT FOR YOU. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2006 3:46:42 PM | hi davina,
1) women want their men to be romantic with them but dont feel any obligation to be romantic themselves.
2) they think its the guy that has to make the effort and feel no inclination to making an effort themselves. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2006 4:45:20 PM | Yes that's a repost of your original posting. So fine:
1. We've established that women are plenty romantic, though also that the vast majority men are not receptive to romantic gestures. So, FALSE.
2. I want to write something illustrative here but it's not even worth it. Frankly I've met few if any women in my life who didn't expend way too much effort on men and the issues of sex, love and dating in their lives (myself sadly included). Just the preening and strategising and overanalysing alone. It's exhausting. And the vast majority of men are playing or watching a sport or just generally doing something else while all this is happening. Certainly all the women I know are "givers" (in terms of caregiving and otherwise) to the point of their own suffering.
Really, I'd like to ask what the basis of this hypothesis is anyway. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2006 4:56:35 PM |
men are from mars
I'm not; I'm from Brantford dude.
Oh ya, on topic, I found that women seem to work for what they want often now too.But those girls that feel that we should be jumping through hoops to have the honor of a rep[ly or 5 minutes of their time...or a kiss..
can go blow se monkeys.
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Posted: 2/12/2006 6:21:09 PM | | It's information overload. To much reality hunks crap,fake stuff that they eat up. The line between reality and fantasy is blurred and how do we contend with reality t.v hunks or movie hunks and all those comparison and compatability tests that the woman run on us secretly that they get from those magazines and it seems us men are doing something wrong and we're not sure what or why. Maybe we should start reading those sappy magazines so that we can transform ourselves into something we're not.Real romance isn't good enough anymore. Atleast that's what I see. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2006 6:23:14 PM | | I vote that as post of the year. Good job loverboy I couldent have said it better myself. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 9:02:07 AM | firstly, davina, you must live in stepford or something... every guy from the uk that has posted on here has agreed with what i have said and they dont understand either, and i agree entirely with the last post about the nomination for post of the year because i think he has hit the nail right on the head.....
in summary, i think you chicks need to get your s hit together and decide what you want then tell us guys. guys you all need to learn to speak the language that said women like to speak.... bye all and thanks for posting!!!! | |
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| men are from mars......
Posted: 2/14/2006 10:05:45 AM | | We're wired differently. Maybe, hmmm..... if I snip the red wire......no....wait......the blue one.... oohh goosssh.....Oh what the hell...it's gonna blow up in my face no matter what. GRAB THE CAT!!! | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 11:28:56 AM | | Well...I feel that I must respond being that I am one of those women who are romantic and love to pamper my man. However, I also believe in mutual attention and careing. If I feel the man is selfish in any way then I simply boot him. It works both ways. Ive found that I myself had trouble deciding what wire to cut. And in the long run it has blown up in my face. We are not much different at all. We simply react different. "6Degree" I really dont think its fare that you compare all women the same. We are not. I am my own person with my own choices in life. I dont hold my friends hand in any choices I make. We are not of the same mold and nor will that ever be possible. It seems to me that your bad luck has turned you into a bitter man. If Im wrong I simply apologize. I have a real hard time relateing to a man who is all about himself. No matter how you look at it, we all get burned one time or another. Its life. I just try not to make the same mistakes twice. Thats just me. | |
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| men are from mars......
Posted: 2/14/2006 11:50:33 AM | | There was no offense intended. The statement was (and I should have stated such) directed at the whole forum in gerneral. It was really meant to be just light hearted clowning around. As it turns out it was offensive. For that I'm truly sorry. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 11:55:37 AM | The right person will pursue you. The right person will want to be with you as much as you want to be with them - no hesitation, no doubts, no questions. They will treat you with all the respect you deserve and show to them.
If you haven't anyone treating you this way, it just means you haven't found the right one yet.
In which case, you've got to just keep searching and trying...
In my opinion, it's far easier to accept and believe that it will happen when it's meant to than it is to constantly wonder and question why it hasn't (yet). | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 11:58:02 AM | amazing what a little loving grease will do for a chasity belt....        | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 12:17:13 PM | ^^^^ hahaa you just said that to get post "69"
to the OP: perhaps it's because you ignored, from ignorance, a woman's idea of what's romantic enough times she gives the hell up, and she's too polite to smack you upside the head for having yer head up yer a***. Just because you think you're being romantic doesn't mean she'll respond romantically with a big sign over her head saying, "hey, dummy, i'm being romantic! pay attention!" | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 12:32:38 PM | ^^^^^^ yup. Sure, he's embarrassed and all that "ewwww ick she can't really mean that in a sexy way to little old me" headtrip stuff. I was like that in my first relationship back when i was 23. I totally didn't think my soulmate was being romantic - outside of the bedroom. I kicked myself pretty good for being so "slow"
then i thought about it. (more like let it perculate) -- it's fascinating how i deliberated put myself in a mindset that wasn't open to her. I was, to be honest, not being a boyfriend to her at all. For a boyfriend simply HAS to give his girlfriend some attention ALL the time. I'd been so focused on what I was doing i didn't leave a "she's my girlfriend" feeler out whenever she was around. I treated her like a distraction - but she was SUPPOSED to be a distraction. a constant welcome one.
oooops. where'd that come from?
Anyways, if the previous poster had done those things to me i'd have been embarrassed - but i wouldn't tell HER that, i'd be busy ripping off her clothes. or not (that vacuuming nude bit was funny!) | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 12:35:11 PM |
I was married for 23 yrs and in that time I did many things to be romantic and try and keep the spice in our marriage.
That's OK! You can come and live in Stepford with me and all the other imaginary romantic women!!!
La la la .... !! | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 12:46:52 PM | | Is romance dead as you have put it - no - has its definition changed I believe so. What once was a case of men coming up with fancy lines, kinda like they do in the swashbuckling movies, romancing the woman or women, has become simplified. It doesn't mean its meaning has changed, just the hows. It has become more about the weekend getaway to a fancy hotel than carriage rides in the forest. Practicality also plays a large part in romance nowadays, mostly because of lack of time due to work schedules or family lives. And believe or not even a what girls do to define something romantic has changed. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 3:02:11 PM | | You know, truthfully I think that alot of times people are mis-matched. There are women that like to be romantic for their man, but want him to make the first moves. I personally would like the man to make the first moves, make me feel special etc etc, and I will do the same for him. I love to show my man how much he means to me with little surprises, but I tend to wonder what is the point when I get taken for granted and the gestures aren't recipricated. Just my 2 cents, but the point is that like not all men are the same, neither are all women. There are some old fashioned women out there that life for the man to take the drivers seat. Keep looking, I am sure you will find one that you are an equal with. | |
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| men are from mars......
Posted: 2/14/2006 4:46:56 PM | Yes it's true were from mars.It's the only place,we can get a word in, edge wise!
joe
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