| I Need to Know IF What I did is worth what happened to me
Posted: 2/15/2006 12:41:26 PM | yes....what you did was unforgivable!!
1) never ever feel you have to sleep with some guy you hardly know, you are so much better then that. but we have all done it at some point in our lives...so..bleah bleah bleah
2) You are a single mom who took money that could have fed or clothed your kids not to mention 101 other things that kids need money for and gave it to some guy who is more then capable to finding work somewhere to get his own ass out of debt. shame on you!!
3) Why!!..oh Why!!..would you resort to the childish game of creating a profile pretending to be someone you arent to try to trick this man? You have brought yourself to the same level as he is, by having to lie and decieve him.
4) and I am sorry to have to break this to you hun. He played you and got away with it!! Of course he didnt know it was you on this fake profile,but this just gives him the excuse not to talk to you anymore and put the blame in your court. He is just doing this to make you feel guilty and to end this situation you have got yourself into.
My advice....take this as an expensive lesson, learn from it and be wiser next time. forget this loser and move on!
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| I Need to Know IF What I did is worth what happened to me
Posted: 2/15/2006 12:50:16 PM | | I learned a long time ago not to loan money that would put me in a bind if I didn't get it back; I have what I like to call the $50 test; if they ask, I'll loan em a fitty; if I get it back and they continue to communicate, it's all good; otherwise, it's worth the cash to me not to waste more time on folks like that...(only had to use it once so far, and it worked;) | |
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Posted: 2/15/2006 3:02:12 PM | I can't believe some of the people on here. NJ, I can tell by your profile you are smart enough to know who to listen to.
I agree with Soleil24, Calgarychick, Bladeaz and some others. These people have a good head on their sholders and are not here to tear others down just to pump themselves up like some others on here. The others belong in the same category or worse as the guy who used you.
I think this applies to this thread:
"Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world."
~ Wayne Dyer
Well said, Soleil24
Bladeaz, I wish you were just a little older and lived a lot closer | |
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| I Need to Know IF What I did is worth what happened to me
Posted: 2/15/2006 4:02:52 PM | My friend got scammed for $8,420, and she is a single mother of three kids.
MESSAGE TO ALL WOMEN OUT THERE:
Never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, okay, get it, NEVER. And I mean, never, never, ever, ever...give money to a guy. It just ain't right.
You got scammed..you didn't deserve it. It was $200..it could have been worse.
I would tell all men here never to give a women money too, but if you do, you deserve to lose every cent you idiot...that's an old trick. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2006 5:01:56 PM | | Nice try msannthrope. I guess I should have said "some" of the others instead of "the others". That sentence followed the one that already said "some" of the others. Hey, I didn't say "everyone else". | |
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Posted: 5/23/2006 10:41:44 PM | Generosity is not a flaw, but a virtue!
I am constantly criticized for being too generous.
I paid for dinner for an Ex and her friend last week. I gave a girl as a breaking up present diamond earrings. I knew that the writing was on the wall and knew she wanted them. Best stop as this is a long list...
I may be a chump, but that is better than the alternative.
Don't waste your time or emotional energy on a looser that would take money and then treat you like dirt.
If you want to work on self improvement, try being more direct. The sparks may fly a little sooner, but that may be all for the good.
Cheers,
- Rick ;^) | |
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| I Need to Know IF What I did is worth what happened to me
Posted: 5/23/2006 11:05:35 PM | Yes Yes to all your questions. Really you got off kind of easy, it could have been much worse. Like $270,000 that my ex of 10 years ripped off from me. That was a major lesson for me. So, Thank the "Powers that Be" a few cds and $200 bucks nothing to cry about and you learned a valuable lesson. The fake profile, was it really worth compromising yourself ? Was he really worth playing games over ? Obviously not because he wasn't worth your time to begin with. Sweety, Just because someone tells you he loves you doesn't mean he does. "Actions speak far louder than words"
Take care,
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Posted: 5/23/2006 11:06:43 PM | | oh the games people play now ~~ everynite and every day now~~..1st lesson never ever lend money and expect to get it back...if you do get it back your lucky..I just lent someone ..a guy $100..he told me he would pay me back ...but ! and here is the difference between knowledge and ignorance...I knew when I lent it to him I would never see it again...and I don't lend money ...but I knew he needed it ..he had no food or gas and was trying to get a job...so I said pay it back when ya can...knowing I would never see both again..but I went into it knowing that! #2 If a guy is into you he will go to hell and high water to find, be, see, talk to you and nothing can, will, stop him...so again...he just isnt that into you..the fake file thing....why would you care or bother??? he didn't appreciate what you did for him ...$$$ soup juice travel company caring so he is now dismissed...get it! good. Mysta | |
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Posted: 5/23/2006 11:17:17 PM | There are con men and women born everyday. Be glad you didn't marry one.
Yes, to mess 86:
"As Judge Judy would say Chalk it up to experience and don't be so stupid.
First mistake: Sleeping with the jerk.
Second mistake: Driving that far.
Third mistake: Never give money to any man, EVER!!!"       | |
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Posted: 5/30/2006 9:49:13 AM | | I agree with the previous poster that we dont know the whole story. How does anyone know if this man scammed her? How do we know that she wasnt the one who was so willing to drive to another state and was willing to just "give" him the $200 (she stated that she gave it to him). Do we all know for sure that he asked her for the money or did she offer it to help him out? Did he ask her to bring him juice and soup when he was sick or was she just trying to do something nice for him because she wanted to? Maybe he stopped talking to her because maybe he felt she was suffocating him or something? Who knows because we havent heard both sides so we shouldnt be so quick to assume that he was a scumbag or something. I am not judging either person in this situation as I do not know the full story but if what the OP says is true then she needs to chalk this one up to another one of lifes experiences and learn from it. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2006 10:14:32 AM | So it's true! If a guy drove 200 miles to bring you soup, you'd write him off as a loathesome wuss. Fellas, there's a lesson to be learned here--treat them like crap and they'll never quit thinking about you. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2006 10:20:20 AM | The unfortunate thing is that people (like yourself it sounds like) who are kind and wish to think the best of people are the ones that get used...people like the "BOY" (and I use boy not MAN for a reason!) you were seeing are so good at zooming in on their targets sometimes it's hard to see untill much later after the fact...He's a USER! Be glad you found out now before it could have been much worse for you..I am a single mom of 3 and have been used by men in the past BUT...people do treat you the way YOU allow them to..Stand up for yourself, be proud of who you are...but don't be a sucker for every sad story out there cause they are a dime a dozen...don't put yourself in a position of being so afraid of being alone that your willing to sacrafice yourself or your family's needs.
You didn't "deserve" to be hurt but my advice to you is this:
>cut your losses...$200.00 and some dvd's is significant but not terrible..could have been worse...Learn your lesson!! Don't be a fool and lend out money...it's hard to say no at first but don't worry - you get used to it...When you can account for your belongings and money you'll be glad you did!
Keep smiling...there's better "fish" out there..take your time so you catch the one you don't have to throw back!! :-) | |
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Posted: 5/31/2006 9:28:04 AM | I have adopted a new philosophy because of a book I read. The book made so much sense and is relavent to evry aspect of life. It's called "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay. Her Philosophy is this:
"We are each responible for all of our experiences. Every thought we think is creating our future."
She believes that we draw people to us that are the way we truely percieve ourselves. I used to get walked on by people all the time. I thought to myself "I am a good person, why do these bad things keep happenning to me?" Deep down, I was not feeling like such a great person. I never felt good enough. I criticized every decision I made. These "bad people" came into my life because I was sending out signals that drew them to me!
As for the question if you deserve what happened to you? You were only treated this way because you deep down felt you needed to be punished for something. You probably have underlying guilt issues. You felt in your subconscious that you "deserve" to be treated this way and so you were.
After all the rambling, the bottom line is that we have to love ourselves in order to find true love. After that, everything in our lives will start to go the way we want it to.
Just a thought 
Paganbutterfly | |
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Posted: 5/31/2006 10:46:32 AM | | hi i would just like to say that you did get played not scammed becouse it was only 200$ but when a guy any one is talking to needs or asks to borrow money he sure is playing you and you dont want a man to take your money you want a man to give you money. the only thing you deserved was a lesson and you got it and trust me your not getting your money or dvds back even if in a couple of months he tries to talk to you just to shut you up he will sneak his way out of it .dont give him the power to keep doing it stand up and act like he was nothing and he will be eating out of your hands in no time | |
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Posted: 5/31/2006 12:49:58 PM | njcutie72
i think you did only 2 thinsg wrong...
you deceived him with that fake profile. decepetion is a lie and its fat wrong.
you should ahve used honest means to search for your answer.
other thing wrong is...
the guy isn't just screwing you, he out right crapping on you kindess. and in my mind, that goes right to the core of ones inner being.
so you should be hanging him by the balls!
send him a ITEMIZED registered letter demanding all be returned.
state a "due" date 10 to 21 days later.
mayeb he will do it, maybe not. cost you $2 to try
depending how many cd's your out, maybe worth small claims court.
now about the guy.... he is a total peice of shit.
not worth the kindess and effort you gave.
he took all you offered and crapped on you.
that does not mean you are desperate. it means your a caring person.
just need to become a better judge of men.
but don't become oen those women that are saying you make other women look bad.
fact is you do make them look bad! and that is their fault... not yours.
all those things you done fro this guy, try to save it for the ones that clearly deserve the dedication.
hard to tell whch sometimes, but please stay "willing"... just more guarded.
seems is just as hard to find a good man, as it is to find a good women.
apparently both are becoming rare. | |
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Posted: 10/25/2006 11:19:15 PM | | I think you should get even, he is scum. Take him to court or have someone take care of him. Never let anyone mistake your kindness for weakness. Your a good person no matter what your reasons are. Like a hunter he saw weakness and the rest is a lie. All he wanted was sex and money, make sure you show him it does not come cheap. | |
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Posted: 10/25/2006 11:35:57 PM | One you have kids- your FIRST PRIORITY. No matter how much you want to get laid. Think of all the money YOU spent going to see him, the time YOU spent traveling, The money YOU gave him. No man should ever be put before YOUR kids. Next time you meet someone, be sure they are local or come to you. Never go to them.
LENDING MONEY - NEVER lend money unless it is something you can live without. 90 % of the time you will never see it again. So give it with the thought you will never see it again. YOU will feel better.
Men: You could have gotten laid WAY closer to home. No need to travel. As any woman can tell you - you simply have to agree to have sex...and most men will do you. No need to pay for it.  | |
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