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| how do I tell if a guy wants a relationship or Just a one night stand?
Posted: 2/12/2006 5:39:54 PM | | He's not. He would make an effort to call if he wanted to regardless of what he does or how busy he is unless his fingers got chopped off. Ha..I would look elsewhere and not waste time wondering. Move on. Easy said than done. But trust me on this. Been there done that. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2006 11:14:45 PM | I have to agree with this 100%
My Example & Experience:
A few weeks ago I was dating this guy and everything seemed to be going well even though we had only known each other for a short time. He used to call me all the time and make me feel special. Even though I hadn't known him very long, one night we were hanging out and one thing led to another and, well *poof* one night stand. Since then he hasn't called, I even tried to be a bit forward and call him, but one of his friends answered the phone, and said that he had moved. How lame is that?
I have never had this happen before, ever! The last two people I was with it was a serious relationship that lasted about a year and before that was with my fiance of that time. Being completely new to this, I can't say that I will give the best advice...but here is what I've learned.
Yes, it really hurts when you really like someone...and it hurts even worse when you move to the next level too fast, thinking it was mututal, then they disappear. However, realize that he's not worth your time! Why would you want to obsess over someone who is not a gentleman and isn't treating you like the princess you know you are!
I know it's easier said than done, especially if you thought "this one might be the real deal"... but forget the men that don't treat you with respect, and move on with your fabulous life realizing that eventually you will find someone that can put a smile on your face and those beautiful stars in your eyes everyday! | |
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Posted: 2/18/2006 2:49:16 PM | I can't believe what you said,,, laughing,,,"""",uneekguy,"""",,wouldn't it be better, to just keep seeing him,, if he still come's around,, then he want's a relationship,, cause if he wanted just a one night stand,, he wouldn't be back after a few date's,,,,,,, don't you agree,, and if it's alzheimer's,,then it won't matter what kind of a relationship, ,, he wouldn't know eather,,..smile..xx,, | |
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Posted: 2/18/2006 4:12:04 PM | | If you want to see if you are more than a oe ight stand. DOnt allow yourself to be a one night stand. It is by no means using sex as a weapon. I often joke I am hard to get but once so one gets me all the beging or waiting is done. I RARLY say no unless I am sick, exhausted or they have done something so bad that there is not way I have any desore for them (rare). | |
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Posted: 2/18/2006 4:32:46 PM | | Just ask him. In my case so far that is all I want because there just aren't any women that deserve more than that from me. Remember, I am a man/god, put here to enjoy women and if a perfect one does show up and beg me then I will consider giving her more than one night. Billy | |
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Posted: 2/18/2006 8:27:17 PM | easy answer.. and one i think u have picked up on...
basically.. make it a mission not to have sex with anyone you meet for a period of time (this may be a month, although i suggest at least 4).. if a guy is just after a one night stand.. he is not going to be patient and wait.. he will either beg, or will move onto an easier subject.
what goes on though a mans head?
this all depends on the man.. there are ALOT of sex crazy guys out there.. some who just want sex.. with whoever and whenever.
then there are some guys who actually want to know you, not your ****.
if you can be patient and hold out for a few months to test someone, then you are doing yourself a favour, and will see in this time what their intentions and motivations towards you are... it is sad to have to test someone, however today unfortunatly it is nessesarry to help you avoid getting hurt by lust.
btw you can replace "guys" with "girls" as it does work both ways.
best way to find out if someone is "relationship" mateiral.. is to be patient, get to know them, let them get to know you, work on a friendship 1st , see if there is 100% trust on both sides and take it slowly.. rushing into things (weather it be a relatinship, sex or whatever) usually ends up with you re-creating a profile on sites like this over and over. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2006 8:28:54 PM | | in addition to my last post... don't tell the guy what you are doing (eg waiting 4 months).. just say "not now" or something.. if a guy knows a date or plan, he might be willing to hold out.. if a guy is after your **** and thinks he aint gonna get some, any time soon, he will move on. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2006 9:34:58 PM | There is an easy answer that we are all aware of. We just don't want to recognize it for whatever might be our personal reason for not recognizing it.
Regardless if it is from male to female or vice-versa this is how the recipe works;
If person A is trying to get down person's B pants on the first day of meeting, they want you for sex. Period. If the sex is good you'll have a bedfriend for a while before one of you move on. These relationships never last. And for the few that do, they are so few it is not worth mentioning them.
Now, if you meet a person who says nothing much about sex but seems to be advoiding the topic but is definetly interested in you through speech, caring, holding hands, maybe a kiss now and then, some nice hugging and sitting close together you have a person who is checking you out for a long term possibility. Trying to initate foreplay or a run for home plate with this person will more then likely destroy what you have built with them. Wait untill they make the first move. Then always go slowly.
About players, male or female. I put them into three catagories.
The runner; they shop till they drop and go home empty handed or till they find a piece of what they need for that day feeling fulfilled. They have scored again! And they'll treat you like your their lost lover! These people will usually have money when tracking a new vic to impress them.
The watcher; they take their time, they are usually picky but will settle for a second best. They will talk about sex like their talking about weather to see how you sit with it and within a couple days or a week tops they'll have made their move on you.
The waiter; this one is the most dangerous for your heart. This is the person who will not bring up sex. They will treat you right, respect your personal area and will always be there for you. They will be genuine with all they do but they have a hollow soul that allows them to dump you once they tire of you. What you don't know is while they are giving you most of their attention, they will usually have at least one old vic they keep seeing. People continue to luv these types after they know their is no future with them. This type can't let go of the hope that one day they will be honest and do the right thing in a realtionship so they keep one or more from the past around. They hate to be alone. This type might wait months to get into bed with you. Then it'll be fireworks and all that jazz till this type finds a reason to get you to reject them. If they can't get you to break up, they'll break it up. Usually by going out on you. The way to test the water is to tell this type you are waiting for marriage before you have sex again. If they believe you are serious, they will slowly fade away, but politely. If they think your words are just wishes, they will test you to see.
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Posted: 2/19/2006 8:48:50 AM | No Winnie, not necessarily so... I mean I was a slut but I am getting better. If I truly have no use for someone's lifestyle and outlook on life I will not f on f dates. They will be lucky to ever see me again actually. eg. Liars , junkies, cheats, etc... these people are actually harmful to a persons life. Maybe that's how it should have been the whole time...... | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 9:12:56 PM | baddest shark, i love your response because it is a individual thing and something
worth having is worth waiting for. I have had the question answered quickly. I
have made it known right up front I have not been a quickie or one night stand
and sex will not even be considered until I know where things are going. The ones
who never called back or emailed told me exactly what was wanted.....Thanks for
being a caring person who has some old fashion ideas respecting yourself and the
one you date...... | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 9:38:33 PM | | I will assume the guys are about your age-early 20's? If so, they probably are not looking for any long term relationship. The hormones are raging and its time to propogate the species. When I was that age women were a conquest. I didn't have a clue about how to treat and respect women until I was about 30. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 9:51:39 PM |
Sometimes men really confuse me. They ask for my number say they will call me and... they never do. Or they call me for a couple of days and then tell me to call them and they are too busy to talk or just walking out the door or something. what goes through a man's head? I don't want to know all of what goes on just enough to help me decide if a man is worth my time or not.
it took Me a while but I learned the hard way,many mornings I have woken up with a wet fifty dollar bill in My hand going WTF!!!??....She used Me..
Now that I'm older,It has been My experience to follow My intuition,whether or not She just wants Me for a one night stand,or not.
The same applys to Men OP go with Your instinct... | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 10:58:14 PM | | HOW BOUT LADIES ... TAKE YOUR TIME ... CHECK HIM OUT AN NO MATTER WHAT HE SAYS LOL DONT BELIEVE HIM just kidding ... read body language etc etc dont try to go on too many dates cause nature takes its course, maybe just maybe go out with friends see how he interacts cause an insecure guy is the one that wants a one night stand YOU CAN QUOTE ME ON THAT lol a secure guy will look at you and say ... hey wann ahave sex and laugh but the insecure ones want nothin to do with your life and how you do things | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 11:17:56 PM | | yeah but its human nature to lust ... i mean everyone is attracted to eachother, things should just run there course. You shouldnt have to say anythign ... any girl can see through b.s after a couple of dates especially if they dont add up to what their saying ... one night standers are b.s men, but i still agree with you ... it doesnt hurt to just say something but alotta guys take that in the wrong due to their own stubborness | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 11:20:45 PM |
how do I tell if a guy wants a relationship or Just a one night stand?
you dont worry about it... you do what you want... If all your worried about is what he wants then your going after a one night stand, make it known that you want a relationship and if the guy uses and abuses hire an assassin....lol.... nah but seriously, have fun. If you want a relationship and you think sex will not get you what you want then keep your legs closed. It's up to you and only you what you plan to get out of an encounter, don't meet a guy for one night, do him and then go crying to your friends that he used you. Hunny you are a part of it, you had to be willing to open up. But also dont use sex as a reward either, do it when you feel its right. Don't let anyone other then you influence your judgement, intimacy with someone is to personal a thing to just throw to ever tom,**** and harry you come across. Just use good judgement.
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