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Posted: 8/17/2007 7:27:22 AM | "how do I tell if a guy wants a relationship or Just a one night stand?"
Well in Texas to get the girls' attention - some of the Bubbas put a big baking potato in their pants at the local C&W Dance club - the smarter ones put it in the front . . .
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Posted: 8/17/2007 8:22:43 AM | Like another poster said-some use it as this bargainning chip. If all is going right, and the chemistry is there-go for it. We are all adults. If it happens, it happens. (I know, sounds so cliche). But I used to seriously make my head spin in doing the whole "waiting game". Many men Ive talked to, dont hold it against a woman if they sleep with them "too soon". Besides, when is too soon? Ive been in relationships where Ive slept with them on the first date, then on some where we havent and its been quite a while. I cant blame it on the too soon=one night stand. Of course there are ways to tell if its gearing towards a one nighter, but I dont think its so much the fact that it happend too soon. Usually you can tell it by a guys actions or what he says (like another poster said, calling after last call, calling late at night and wanting to come over). If he is calling you often, and showing a genuine interest in YOU and what you are all about, then it could be more. Communication is the key, but kills it if you have that "where are we going" speech too soon.  | |
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Posted: 8/17/2007 8:29:59 AM | | you have to find someone you have some hobby or activity in common with so you have something to do together that you enjoy other than sex, then you have the basis for a wonderful non sexual relationship. If he enjoys it too then he might stick around for the long term. Just my 2 cents | |
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Posted: 8/17/2007 11:47:01 AM | Wow good QUESTION that is hard...
Some guys will say anything to get the "candy" BELIEVE me I have heard it all..lol
I am PROUD to say that I have been celiabet (misspelled sorry..lol) for a year and a half...I won't be with someone unless its the real thing...Point Blank Period.
For me love making starts way before the clothes come off..
I mean kiss me in the rain, dance with me to our favorite slow song while singing off key in my ear, play hooky from work with me and lets spoon all day and watch movies together...things like that make the world of difference to me. But in the end there is no real way to tell who only wants sex and who wants something more all I can say is be sure that whom ever you decide to be with intamitely tells you as well as SHOWS you your worth so that there will be no regrets....
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Posted: 5/23/2008 8:34:46 AM | What do you mean? Women get labeled all the time. If a woman is strong, driven, and opinionated, she's often called a ****. If a man has the same qualities he's called a leader. If a woman dates a lot she's called a slut, whore, or worse (the c- word), but a man is a stud or a ladies man. So, there aren't only labels for women, there are double standards as well.
And, yes, sometimes women may want a one night stand just as much as a man does. But, I don't think that's what this woman was asking. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 7:19:15 AM |
remember one very good looking man said "how long do you want to do this" after we had sex pretty damn fast in our acquaintence (notice I don't even call it a relationship)--- I, thinking I actually know men, mistakenly said "do you mean today?"
Thanks for the great laugh and smile. That was really cute.
While nothing is ever for sure, I do put some stock in how much interest a guy seems to show beyond the physical. Does he seem genuinely interested in you and your life, remember things about it, maintain good eye contact while discussing things other then sex, etc.
I've also noticed that most men who seem purely out for sex will be much more agressive in many ways and move alot faster then the guys looking to build a relationship. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2008 12:59:42 PM | Excuse me guys-- whats wrong-- cant stand giving a woman some power?
I'll tell you why women take their time- because TOO MANY MEN ball a woman
and then never show up again-- and not all women that go to bed with a man are sluts BUT actually had some kind of feelings or hopes early on (encouraged by the man who told her he was interested and wanted to stay around).
Now lets look at this like it is!
Men call women sluts so they dont have to feel bad about what they do to them and how they hurt them with their casual BS attitudes about using women as objects of gratification!
Are men HUMANS or are they DOGS? Make your choice? What are going to allow to be your master? Your dick or your heart?
Sorry ... but women have EVERY right to protect themselves.
As for men-- why wouldnt you want to take your time with a woman? (well we all know the answer to that, dont we?).
Why dont men take it slow and get to know if a woman is sincere and a good fit for him and thus save them all heartache?
Answer me THAT question? Any man dare to?
As for the post that says women are looking for way too much ... what do you expect?
You-- MEN- have created a society of inequality- so women are still the lesser sex and have to fight harder to survive-- that, in the early days, was a MANS responsiblity- but it wasnt given to him to treat women like crap. Of course women want more and have more needs than you -- they are trying to survive... so where are you???? What's happened to the men of today???
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Posted: 7/15/2008 1:10:33 PM | How do you tell if a guy wants a relationship or just a one night stand?
Simple!
Don't sleep with him for a few months...if he is still there, then he just wanted a relationship with you, rather than just a one night stand. Now, that doesn't mean you can't kiss and be affectionate...it just means there is no hokey pokey for some time.
What is going on in a man's head? I don't know!
Personally, I called my fiance everyday after our first date...but, some guys don't want to seem "interested" because they're afraid they will lose you. However, they could just be "not interested"
I don't know what goes on in men's minds. I would stop analyzing it, or living through them, and start living your life. When the time is right, it will happen. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2008 1:54:29 PM | There is no answer to that because each man is different and seeks different things from different women. I've dealt with all sorts of scenario's and each outcome depended on the man in question and myself. Even if you outright ask what a person wants that is no guarantee that they are even sure. The best you can do is meet, see how things go and move on from there. Simplistic I suppose, but human nature is a funny thing-just when you THINK you've figured a person out-they go and do something to toss that notion clear out the window.
I've always followed my heart, but try to use my head. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 12:30:34 AM | Big clue for me is the directness of their communication. If it starts off with sex and ends with sex and everything the man talks about is sex. He's just looking to get laid. Even when you call them on it and point it out to them..."ah baby no, there's so much MORE than that!" Nope. Inside his head? There really is not any thing more than that.
Don't waste your time wondering what's in his head.
Do men spend time wondering what is inside yours?
I doubt it. They probably in fact spend way more time visualizing what's inside your shirt and pants...and thong or cammo? They're men. That's a GOOD thing. We love that about them. But we can't make them women. Then we wouldn't all be happy then either!
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Posted: 7/17/2008 1:14:52 PM | | Can I suggest you look at your user name for subliminal implications - blondiegirl (especially if you've got dark roots) sounds like sex adverts in London phone boxes - I expect you'd get loads of responses. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 4:10:44 PM | | there is no way of knowing cause they r all players until he meets the right 1. Never do a 1 night stand! Try not to give in 2 quick but it hAppens 2 the best of us sometimes. Try to trust with ur heart and hope and pray that u made the right choice because sometimes u fall faster thm what u intended, and whatever u do never tell him u love him first. Let him tell u or else you'll scare him away! | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 5:17:53 PM | I just want to agree with everything foxy628(d1310006) said, i couldn't have said it better myself and it did make me realize, those were the exact words i was thinking of all along, i just couldn't put it into the right sentence , thanks for doing it for me foxy628 | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 6:19:30 PM | MoJo La, I couldn't agree more. Women are truly a trip when it comes to sex. Make him earn the privilage? So it is some big privilage for him, but not the woman. When a man and a woman have sex isn't the woman also having sex?
As to the original question. If you think that there is a possibility that all he wants is a one night stand, simple have sex with him the first date. If he only wants a one night stand, you haven't invested much time or effort in it, and you had some fun too. | |
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