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| how do I tell if a guy wants a relationship or Just a one night stand?
Posted: 7/17/2008 7:48:49 PM | I think they tend to bring up sexuual inuendos too early in conversation to see my reaction. So look for that one. Ya know like I say I had sausage and eggs for breakfast and he responds "U can have my sausage". So look for that clue.
And if they have anything other than Long Term on their profile I don't give them time cause I believe 'Dating' is a guy who is trying to leave his options open for an intimate encouter person to contact them.
Also check not to allow contact if they have contacted someone for an intimate encounter if you want a serious guy.
And try holding off on even giving your phone number out till u know they are seriously interested. I have noticed they hit me up at night and then never come back the next day. Not sure if they go out partying and come fishing drunk or what, lol.
Just don't be in any hurry and wait for the right one cause there are alot of the wrong ones on here, lol | |
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| how do I tell if a guy wants a relationship or Just a one night stand?
Posted: 7/17/2008 7:56:39 PM | And if they have anything other than Long Term on their profile I don't give them time cause I believe 'Dating' is a guy who is trying to leave his options open for an intimate encouter person to contact them.
Also check not to allow contact if they have contacted someone for an intimate encounter if you want a serious guy.
And try holding off on even giving your phone number out till u know they are seriously interested.
There is a subset of females, who are under the misapprehension that they possess the "golden coochie", and every man is out to get hers. Under this delusion, they tend to believe that they can make all the rules, and men will have no choice, but to do things in a way that leaves them with complete control. I suppose that there are some men, so desperate, or so lacking in sense of their own worth, that they will put with it.
For most people, though, sexuality is a normal and natural part of dating. In fact, it lies at the base of the instinct that drives us to seek out a compatible other.
For me, I don't want to sleep with someone I'm not "into", or who I have no intention of seeing again. I did my share of "one night stands" in my 20s, but found that it's an illusion of intimacy, not worth the drama and hassles that often ensue. On the other hand, if there is mutual chemistry, it's there from the start, and I'm only going to be interested in a woman who is in touch with her own needs and nature sufficiently to act on it.
My 20 year marriage, and any relationship that endured beyond 6 months, all began with first dates that ended with us sleeping together. It's a normal consequence of strong mutual attraction. | |
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| how do I tell if a guy wants a relationship or Just a one night stand?
Posted: 7/17/2008 8:01:11 PM | if a man isn't respectful on the first date, he should take a one night walk (in the other direction). same for the women. if you cannot decipher his intentions, sadly you will be learning from experience. as to his calling or not calling, everyone is different. maybe he has ad/hd! haven't you ever taken down a person's number, just as a friend, and never gotten to it? not everyone falls into passionate swoons when they meet an interesting person. many who do, often fall out of passionate swoons very quickly--so there is no perfect way.
my take on it all, is that if a man is really interested, he will pursue. sure, some may take lots of time and maybe you'll bump into him again, he'll get to know the inner you, you will get married one day and have his babies--but, you cannot force that. it may happen. it may not. just relax. don't be in such a hurry. you'll find that way, you will have "choices" , intead of hurt feelings.
again, every person, man, woman is different. i do think men like assertive women, according to my buddies, but i prefer a pursuing man and i do think it's part of their genes. so, i think it reflects their intentions. still, if you feel differently, that's fine. just see if it works for you!
regarding their "intent" listed on the profile, that is also a variation. some say dating to play the field, others do things a step at a time. take long enough to know him and don't forget to ask him. some say ltr and all they want is a ltr friendship with benefits. | |
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| how do I tell if a guy wants a relationship or Just a one night stand?
Posted: 7/17/2008 8:01:11 PM | I think 'wait until YOU want sex with him!' is good advice, and make sure you get yours as much as he gets his, but don't see it as a commitment thing. That way you wont feel cheated so much if he isn't back for more.
If you're the kind of girl that doesn't want to/can't separate sex from love, or at least serious long term potential , then wait until you've spent enough time together to feel an emotional bond or at least friendship beginning. Surely if that's the way you see sex then you have to wait that long before you have the right level of intimacy to get what you want from it anyway? | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 8:10:40 PM | your kidding of course right?lol
its so easy to find that out.just make him wait before u sleep with him.players or guys wanting just a one night stand wont wait too long to get laid.if u make him wait for it and he sticks around and acts just as interested in u then u know hes interested for more.if u make him wait a bit and he starts loosing interest or he dumps u then u know thats the only thing he wants from u. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 11:32:45 PM | Can't tell..not on here anyway.
Some are REALLY REALLY good at what it is they do.
Do the measure of time thing..if there is real interest he will show it with calls..requests to go out..things of that nature. If he ain't getting what he is after..he will leave the scene.................................................................................. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2008 4:17:41 AM | I find this whole discussion confusing! lol I have been played so many times that I care not even remember... the pain is still there. I am trying to learn different ways to be less "available" despite a man's seductive advances... part of the reason for it being so hard
is that I'm a passionate woman who enjoys sex... unfortunately I let my emotions and hopes for a man's good intentions to cloud reality of a man's true nature... I get tired of
hoping and hoping for one of them to actually be nice and stick around.
Had a date --- turned into a weekend date... thought he really liked me... now he's slacking off with the attention.... though I'm sure there can be alot of reasons for it, for me it comes down to the fact that once a man gets sex he loses interest in pursuing you ...
JUST ONCE I wish I could meet someone who actually sticks around... I dont think
I'm that bad in bed! lol
Good luck all... Happy Fishin. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2008 8:29:04 AM | My rule for this is....if I am sooooo attracted and sure that I will have no regrets if he doesn't call me again then I do it.
Of course I do have regrets when he doesn't call....if the sex was that good, I just don't understand why we can't do it again?? and again???
It's rare with me anyway to find someone in that category but it has happened. Now if only I could find one who wants unlimited one night stands! | |
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| how do I tell if a guy wants a relationship or Just a one night stand?
Posted: 7/31/2008 12:59:18 PM | A man calls a few times, seems like theres just something not right about him, there probably isnt. Those are the men that are usually secretitively married, living with someone or has a female in his life. The thrill of having another of the opposite sex on the backslide make em feel like a man. But, in essense makes him a fool and untrustable. They do it for the thrill of seeing how far they can take it without getting caught....It's called sin, plain and simple sin...Count it a blessing that you found out sooner than later. The later could be quit painful. Sometimes, someone in the heat of anger finds out about their unfaithfulness and through their fit of rage kills someone...
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Posted: 7/31/2008 1:06:28 PM |
Do the measure of time thing..if there is real interest he will show it with calls..requests to go out..things of that nature. If he ain't getting what he is after..he will leave the scene
In other words "play games"?
What works is when people are genuine with each other, instead of trying to impose a paradigm onto a human interaction that doesn't have to be complicated.
In any case, if a woman tries to play a game, or work a strategy, she deserves to be played, IMO.  | |
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| how do I tell if a guy wants a relationship or Just a one night stand?
Posted: 7/31/2008 4:24:36 PM | Or if his eyes are not gazing at you when you have dinner (a fancy one). Or if he is not interested in buying you sexy lingeries, fix your leaking toilet, fix your broken garage do0r.
It sounds tacky, but those ones who did care about you will be back for a series of bed sessions with you.
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| how do I tell if a guy wants a relationship or Just a one night stand?
Posted: 7/31/2008 4:28:54 PM |
I think they tend to bring up sexuual inuendos too early in conversation to see my reaction. So look for that one. Ya know like I say I had sausage and eggs for breakfast and he responds "U can have my sausage".
This is good Thanks Scampi!!! I have used this technique before. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2008 4:57:13 PM | Yes.......this is good about watching for clues that they are "playing" but it is not 100%, I don't think anything really is. However, there are signs that someone is interested in you for more than sex, such as they surprise you with flowers just because, they actually spend time with you and don't try to get you into bed right away; maybe you've met their friends or relatives and you know someone could warn you if that's what they really are about.....clues that things aren't right do include the "booty call" protocol, such as calling you late at night, disappearing from availability to you (out of chat, no response to messages, no recollection that you sent/left them a message, etc). While it really isn't rocket science and most of it is instinct, the smarter you are, the harder the playa has to play his game to get you in the sack! Playas aren't always after a one-nighter, but some are after booty call backup. Speculating on the reasons is a waste of time........I've allowed myself to be disillusioned by one I was pretty attached to, and trust me.......it's not fair! It is, however, a fact of life and a waste of time to be bitter about it......they can't help it because they don't want to do anything about it. That's their choice! What's yours?! Keep your eyes open and trust your intuition. It is that little nagging feeling that you've been dis'd or are being ignored (even sporadically), or the timing is always wrong for you (not for him).
Good luck! There are a LOT of them here, but I believe there are good ones, too! | |
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