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| It's not your profile, it's....
Posted: 2/12/2006 6:22:24 AM | Ummm...guys...
We're on POF...instead of out socializing....are we all tools....???
Hey anyonme ever tried using a electric screwdriver as a corkscrew....I can't find mine... | |
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
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| It's not your profile, it's....
Posted: 2/12/2006 2:09:46 PM | mssannthrope...what an awesome post.
Personally, I just like making my profile easy to read, and entertaining, that's all. Anyone who ever contacts me, contacts me after reading my posts in the forums.
Sometimes good...sometimes bad.
But those who contact me (rarely) after reading only my profile, only say short qips, like, "catchy profile, I had a good laugh," or, "Do you guys seriously still live in igloos? That must be cold."
I respond to them all, of course, but those who conact me from my posts on the forums are the ones I end up meeting or at least talking on the phone with.
Regardless, it's true that no matter how great a profile you have...if you're a tool, then you're a tool. Plain and simple.
Some people have terrible profiles, but once you start talking to them, you realize that they're worth getting to know, because they're good people.
All the same, I still like getting feedback about my profile now and then, just to see what the general opinion is, and if I accidentally offended anyone by something I said, that I thought was funny, but someone took the wrong way.
Great thread, mssann. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2006 9:53:06 PM | We're on POF...instead of out socializing....are we all tools....???
Oh my gosh!! This is EXACTLY the kind of existential introspection I wanted to promote, but didn't think would actually happen! I'm so...moved.
I like to think if I helped JUST ONE PERSON not be such a tool, all my efforts will be worthwhile.
*wipes heartfelt tear*
P.S. Thank you for the nice words, Garf. I don't think you should worry so much about other people being offended by the things you say. After all, I never do, and I practically rule the world. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 5:16:55 AM |
...existential introspection ...
that one gave me a brain cramp this morning, maybe I'm becoming a tool?
There must be varying levels of "toolness". Do you start as a Basic Hand Tool and move on to become a Power Tool? | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 6:49:25 AM | With mine I just said f#ck it and put what I like....and my mentality which is....IM AS CRAZY
AS A S#ITHOUSE RAT!!!!
If they dont like it..I couldnt give a f#ck. | |
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| It's not your profile, it's....
Posted: 2/16/2006 10:32:12 PM | I'm sure someone will find it ironic and obnoxiously arrogant for me to say this but...
It boils down to conceit.
The conceit to think that YOU should not be rejected.
Conceit to think that with one half-a$$ed attempt at an email you will get a hottie interested in you that would never give you the time of day IRL.
Conceit that nothing on your profile could possibly be a deal-breaker to anyone.
When conceit is run up against the cold brick wall of reality, anger ensues. Self-righteous anger that anything would mess up your little dream of what a great person you are.
Kicking and screaming, a tantrum ensues. Do-gooders come forth to comfort and placate, because nobody wants to be pragmatic and admit that you win a few, you lose a few. Give the whiner a cookie, a beer, a mercy fawk. Reward the tantrum because the poor soul has been hurt enough, and shouldn't life be rainbows and sunshine for us all? Turn the whiner into a winner and you symbolically do the same with all your own failures.
But despite blowing so much sunshine up his a$$ that he will glow in the dark for a week, he's still never, ever going to get to date outside his own species.
Despite the glow coming out of his anal passage, the only thing he will choose to learn from this is whining gets rewarded in these forums. Being justified by strangers is what he will have to settle for instead of a real, live date, because heaven forbid anyone should lower their standards for dating!
We ALL agree that it is better to be alone than with some yucky thing you don't want. And our delusions of our own grandeur will keep us picky and lonely and "only here for the forums"! Until some day either the truth dawns, or our fantasy lover by some miracle sends us an email. At which point we'll pick apart their profile and decide they're not quite what we're looking for anyhow.
Tools&Fools-R-Us. | |
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| It's not your profile, it's....
Posted: 2/17/2006 12:13:45 AM |
As long as there are do-gooding sympathy mongers who will respond to the whiners and blow sunshine up their hineys, they will continue to whine.
I'm certain that for the most part, people are downright mean to the majority of the 'whiney sect'.
I firmly believe that one can tell the whiners the truth without being completely mean or nasty. Besides, it's not mean to tell a whiner that they are a whiner, but sometimes, people here really go to town on them.
"Accept me for who I am or kiss my patoot!" is the battle cry for online dating. Basically that is stating you feel you are perfect and are unwilling to strive to be worthy of love.
I don't think such a mindset is limited to online dating specifically. I don't see what is wrong with wanting acceptance without having to change yourself to get it. Should gay people change to be accepted? Anyone of a different race? The handicapped? I should hope not.
I personally have no intentions of changing myself until I discover something *I* don't like. I'm already worthy of love, imperfections and all.
It boils down to conceit. The conceit to think that YOU should not be rejected.
I don't feel that I should be rejected, but I am keenly aware that I will be (have been). Not every single time, but many. What I don't feel however, is the need to verbally assault anyone who isn't into me. Nor do I feel the need to whine about it to have my a$$ kissed... er, I mean ego stroked by people I don't know. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2006 1:14:46 AM | if you respect yourself, you don't degrade yourself to a "tool" 
for me: QUALITY counts, not the number of responses
it is not difficult to write a profile to receive many responses (just benchmark the top500 people, and make something similar), but do you really need that?
if your self-esteem depends on your popularity ranking, you are not really an independent proud free man, but just a puppet that follows trends...you have zero inner value...you are not original, just a clone of fashion 
people of quality = NOT tools | |
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Posted: 2/17/2006 9:14:40 AM | Astrosky, what you said was an eye-opener: the conceit of people who think OTHER PEOPLE should adapt and accept them, despite their typical laundry lists of perfect traits their targets must have.
Alex: Yes, yes, we aren't talking about people who have the balls to be individuals -- we're talking about people who endlessly search for some outside reason why the cheerleader always rejects the nerd. In this case, it's not even about looks, it's about attitude. And the people on the top 500 list are NOT their for their stellar profiles, sadly enough. They made it on looks alone. Nothing anyone can do about that.
Lux: Sometimes people are "mean" or impatient to whiney tools, but all too often, groups of fellow tools spring indignantly to their defense with such gems as "women who don't like you are all lesbians/man haters/sluts," and anyone criticizing said whiner is "a loser," "troll" or "big giant meanie pants who just doesn't understand."
Nor do I feel the need to whine about it to have my a$$ kissed... er, I mean ego stroked by people I don't know. That's why you're not a "tool." | |
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Posted: 2/17/2006 9:24:42 AM | | ^^ funny how the definition of a "troll" has changed isn't it? If you make a single post in a thread supporting the majority, you're ok. Make a single post against and......TROLL. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2006 9:58:07 AM | IF there's a 100 people in a room and 99 like me and 1 despises me,rather than be grateful for the 99 that like me I gotta know what's up this 1 guys ass....
Now if you'll excuse me...I'm about to transform into A GRINDER.... | |
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| It's not your profile, it's....
Posted: 2/17/2006 10:18:48 AM |
Lux: Sometimes people are "mean" or impatient to whiney tools, but all too often, groups of fellow tools spring indignantly to their defense with such gems as "women who don't like you are all lesbians/man haters/sluts," and anyone criticizing said whiner is "a loser," "troll" or "big giant meanie pants who just doesn't understand."
One could also argue that those whining in the first place are being mean to us... subjecting us to their woe. Sometimes, the truth is construed as being mean. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2006 10:54:34 AM | | My dad always said "the truth hurts, don't it?" Not sure where he was coming from though, he was doing half the women in town....maybe it hurt him he couldn't get the other half. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2006 11:06:28 AM | | I swear to god if i ever find that inner child in me that wants to WHINE i'll choke him unconscious! | |
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Posted: 2/18/2006 3:39:00 PM |  finally I realise Im not the only one who reads these threads and wants to give them a nice taste of truth and reality .. but realise I'll be banned for It
Yep deff enough of people trying to get the best lookers then claiming that everyone attractive Is shallow for not wanting them .. never taking Into account they are the actual shallow tool for being obese or well below average looks but only aiming for the 8 -10 looks scale.. then wondering why they are laughed out of the water. YEP might make YOU shallow and delusional for expecting your " great personality " can conquer everything else and everyone should bow to It.
End of day It's glaringly obvious wether on the net or out and about If you keep approaching a certain type of person ( slim fit gorgues whatever ) and you keep getting rejected - the only common donominator between all of them and you .. IS YOU. Ie you are out of your league - get over It and go out with someone on the same scale as yourself..
Oh and the Im 350 pounds but everyone owes It to me to love me beyond my looks - get over that too - no one owes you nothing. Some will find you attractive - some wont. But fairly obviously you arnt likely to get a fit taught partner with a great body. Why? Because they had to work for that body more than likely and fitness and health mean a lot to them - they dont want to sit on the couch guzzling bill & jerrys by the ton with you.. they probably find fat repulsive - hence the reason they themselves go to the gym to try to rid their own body of it - If they didnt want tyres on themselves - they aint gonna on the partner. So stop trying to convince them they owe you a chance due to personality and either lose the weight to get the type of person that you are after ( not that your shallow OHHH NO ) or take one thats not perfect like yourself.. thats what the rest of us do! We aint ange so we dont try for the brads of this world! | |
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Posted: 2/18/2006 3:45:46 PM | Dansdog --I'm with ya, especially this bit:
...enough of people trying to get the best lookers then claiming that everyone attractive is shallow for not wanting them
This contradiction never ceases to amaze me. But it's not limited to "fat" or even "fugly" people. It's basically any and all whiners with entitlement issues who are, ultimately, TOOLS.
---One question: did you mean "sit on the couch, guzzling BEN and Jerry's"? If not, who are Bill and Jerry? | |
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Posted: 2/18/2006 8:16:01 PM | | umm hello? is this thing on?? *taps on mic* umm hi my name is Yader and I'm a tool and I am guilty for falling to the level of whining and self pity with a hint of the dreaded *nice guy* lines. | |
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| It's not your profile, it's....
Posted: 2/22/2006 7:31:11 PM | OP your posts have been a great read in this thread.
just thought I'd put that out there.
I hate hearing people wine and moan about why people aren't hitting them up.
stop whinnin and moaning.. its amazing what happens when you aren't self loathing.
self loathing sucks. | |
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