| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 3/18/2006 4:37:08 PM | | I don't know of too many women or men that 'are' married who would be in agreement of their spouse scouring a dating site for a friend of the opposite sex. What happens if the wife per say was to find this absolutely hotter than hell man and wanted to spend late evenings just talking, or playing cards, or just sharing a bag of popcorn at the movies? And would licking the popcorn off each others fingers be over the line or just a friend helping out another friend? And the same for the husband who suddenly hooks up with this amazingly beautiful and not to mention stacked woman? Would the wife be okay with this? I highly doubt it but suppose in some freaky alter -universe it could happen. | |
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 7/17/2006 10:05:06 AM | Chris Rock said it best and i quote:
"Men don't have platonic friends. We just have women we haven't YET"
"We do have some platonic friends, but they is all by accident. A platonic friend to a man is a woman he was try to (expletive) and made a wrong turn somewhere, and ended up in the Friendzone"
I know this was true when i was young and is still true today. Of course, if you have no desire to have sex with a woman, you can be her best friend. If you hang out with a girl too long, you can develop sibling feelings for her which will/should ruin the sexual desire for her. But not otherwise. It's a fact, a rule, carve it in stone.
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 7/17/2006 1:55:12 PM | | I have women friends whom I am just friends with and have not wanted to "get with them". They are great feriends why ruin that. | |
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 7/17/2006 4:16:41 PM | I have female friends that I have dated in the past, and decided to just stay as friends, then I have female friends that I never dated but have gone out as friends. We would hook up with other friends downtown and just party. There isnt anything sexual , just hanging out and having a laugh or two. When you meet good people and like to be friends with them male or female it`s all good. Besides she could be my insider on her friends and hook me up. | |
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 7/18/2006 1:12:34 PM | | Yes men and women can be just friends, my best friend happens to be a guy, I've known him for a long time, we both value our friendship. Him and my ex used to hang out when they were younger and when I met him, we hit it of, I seen him thru his up and downs in life,as he was a big help in mines as well, and I'm lucky to have him as my best friend. | |
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 7/18/2006 4:19:49 PM | | I actually get along better with the opposite sex. There is no competition on who gets to dance with the hot guy or who has the best boyfriend and what not. So I would have to say yes, a guy and girl can be the bestest of friends. | |
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 7/18/2006 5:14:33 PM | | One difference between my long-time male and female friendships is that I have thought/wondered/fantasized about putting my penis inside each of my female friends at one time or another. | |
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 8/14/2006 9:49:58 AM | well kind of......you might as well sleep together and relief the tention then just be friends......hahahaha
I find one or the other always trys to cross the line. | |
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 8/14/2006 10:18:50 AM | Men and Women can be best friends.
I have alot of men friends. We keep in contact now and then because we moved to different places. Whenever we happen to be in teachothers home town we drop in. Some of them are married and I am friends with their spouses to.
There don't have to be anything personal envolved to be friends or buddies. | |
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 8/20/2006 8:11:34 PM | Yes if it is obvious there is absolutely no physical attraction to one another. Otherwise, it can be dangerous......esp if liquor in the picture..  | |
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 8/21/2006 3:39:09 PM | Sure they can. I have a few friends that are women. IMHO You can only have one romantic interest at a time. Seems like it would be a perfectly good waste of people and very limiting to yourself, if you were exclude 50% of the population from being a friend.
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 8/21/2006 3:48:46 PM | I hate to say this, but in my experiences... men and women rarely become simply friends... there is always one party who wants more, whether it's spoken of or not. I've tried to be friends with a few guys... they usually disappear completely when they see that I'm not going to fool with them, or when they get a date... My favorite is when you message them asking them how life has been, and they reply with an "I've been bored" comment... Leaves me thinking that they'd rather be bored then call me up to hang out... I dunno... blah!
In alot of cases, (not all), I find the novelty wears off, unfortunately... | |
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 3/11/2007 8:47:23 PM | "Just friends"
Thats saying alot!
Maybe what we need to redefine is our definition of friends, not who can be one and who can't.
True friendship takes alot of vulnerability. Can just any man and women handle it? No, but some can and it turns out to be the best thing they have both encountered!
Don't you think?
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Jade67
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Joined: 12/12/2006
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 3/11/2007 9:17:54 PM | | I think they absolutely can be friends if they are both on the same page,but if one of them is secretly harbouring thoughts of desire,it will end up in heartache. | |
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 3/11/2007 9:26:04 PM | | Me and my ex are trying this right now, so its interesting to see some of the answers. I think its extremly difficult, especially if there is a sexual past there. If theres no intrest whatsoever, then why not be friends? It just gets harder for each party when one of them enters a new relationship and then the other starts thinking "what if.." and thats been the biggest problem for me in the past. | |
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:10:19 PM | hmmmm... as I recall this is much more than a " dating site". People have several choices of categories in which to join...not all of which translate to " looking to get laid" aka intimate encounters. Yes men and women can be friends without sexual tension and assorted crap. And yes married men can have female friendships cultivated either before or after the marriage. Just as married women can have male friends... the definition of friendship is such where certain boundaries are not crossed...simple concept. The thought that it could not happen is as ridiculous as saying a straight woman cannot be friends with a lesbian because ..."well you know... the sex thing will get in the way".. or a man cannot have a gay friend... For the love of god ..grow up people.
Here is a piece of news....as shocking as it may seem ...not everybody is looking to have sex with every other living person on the planet regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Sometimes friendship is just that .. FRIENDSHIP...
As for those just looking to get laid.. here is a piece of friendly advice: CRAWL UP A CHICKEN'S ASS....AND WAIT.... | |
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 3/14/2007 8:08:48 AM | | I'd like to think they can be friends...as pretty much all my friends are male...however I'm beginning to doubt it. Keep finding things out...this "friend" really wants more...that "friend" wants to be friends who sleep together....I really do have some that are just friends though (as far as I know!) So it is possible, and can be great, but there is that extra element of attraction you have to address that you may not have to with someone of the same sex (if both are straight). | |
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Joined: 12/27/2006
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 3/14/2007 3:51:11 PM | ^^^^ nods
There are just some people you click with on a discussion, party level, that you just don't even feel comfortable thinking about them differently than that. If its two way, you can have a good opposite sex relationship.
Whenever you get involved seriously its time to re-evaluate a lot of things, including some of your other relationships. I don't drop my friends for relationships but a serious relationship takes priority over my friendships. I've had male friends while in serious relationships but there are definate boundaries there and you have to put some effort in to make sure your SO is comfortable. It's unrealistic to expect people to be perfectly secure....just provided their insecurities don't control them.
I wouldn't be hunting for friends on a dating site though if I was married. Sorry to those who are, but I just wouldn't be. If I had an SO doing it, I'd be a little worried too.
I can see being on this site single and making friends so you don't want to leave or being drawn to the forums but to be seeking friends on a dating site when you are married seems like merky waters. I'd be really worried that my SO would be uncomfortable with it. My SO would take priority over some website. | |
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 3/14/2007 4:06:08 PM |
I think its extremly difficult, especially if there is a sexual past there. If theres no intrest whatsoever, then why not be friends?
I was going to say absolutely, as long as there was no sexual desire by either for the other. I think that is the key, sexual desire. Damn sex can ruin it for everyone...ok..maybe just for the person that doesn't have it(the desire) and the other does.  A large age difference makes it easier for men and women to be friends ( in my case anyways) and (also in my case) the there is no way in hell she is interested in me but damn we get along insulting/teasing each other. The right personalities of people that are realistic says YES to the question!!!!  | |
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 3/14/2007 4:19:52 PM |
the there is no way in hell she is interested in me but damn we get along insulting/teasing each other
LOL couldn't have said it better myself Mang.
Tim
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| Can men and women be 'just friends'?
Posted: 3/14/2007 6:45:14 PM | I have a female friend and we have been friends for years , and no we dont even think about it.why? well its simple we are not animals who go and play pokey poke with who ever has an open oriface Gawd are people so paranoid as to never trust ? ok if my g/f had a male friend who she wanted to have coffee with thats one thing but licking the pop corn butter from his fingers? holy crap what is that?
Look some people have to grow up. men and women can be friends. its the integrity of the person you should question. not the preface of male female relationships. | |
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