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Posted: 2/13/2006 6:05:30 PM | The tipping the waiter being cheap message is so lame.
Keep on looking Mark, the older we get the harder it is to find someone. And I am only 37. Hate to see how it is when i get to my 40's. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 6:15:34 PM | Thanks Buckaroo, or should I say Doc (?) !!
I haven't given up yet.....
Your tag here reminds me of a favorite movie of mine.
(Methinks there are many folks here that are direct relations of
Dr. Emilio Lizardo - but not nearly as fun to watch !)
Best Wishes,
mark | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 6:36:01 PM | | I hate the way this little article states to save this or that until you are in the relationship....blah blah. Dont be cheap at first, keep the preaching until later. People trying to be something they are not is why we have all kicked someone to the curb at one point or another. That is the biggest problem in relationships. We are weeding through trying to find someone that we are attracted to and can have a relationship of some sort. We can't do that if we start out pretending to be something that you are not. If you are cheap, I want to know it up front, not down the road. If you can't stand the fact that I smoke or chew my nails, let me know and move on, dont let me get invested into a relationship and then think you can change me! | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 6:43:20 PM | | I have to say frosty you seem to know a lot about woman. I have met a lot of the men you mentioned in your message. I am looking for that amazing guy but I think he's really hard to find. I will however continue my search because I know that I am an amazing woman. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 7:05:26 PM | interesting thread...
But couldn't the same things be said of women or do men avoid different types of women than women avoid of men? | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 8:04:07 PM | Great question !
I posted a list I found about that last night - and it mysteriously disappeared
without warning or explanation.....and it was very clear and correct from what
I could see - and different, yes....
If you'd like, you can find a copy of it here:
http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_100/114_dating_advice.html
Best Wishes,
mark | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 11:16:28 PM |
Drama ,drama,drama...Women love it!!!!!!!!!
Well.. you're half right. The STUPID women dig it. The rest of us. Not so much.
I've never dated a badboy myself, though I am certain that some men view themselves thusly. However, they erred in never being anything other than kind and/or fun to be with. One is likely only bad if others see them that way... kind of disingenious if one views themselves that way.
/ramble on that...
Onwards!
Venting about one's past hurts tends to come off as them being bitter.. and they are, but generally, these folks are bitter about the incidents moreso than women/men. That's my theory anyway.
It's unwise to paint every man or woman alive with the same brush, though. I chalk it up to getting carried away.
And yes - I haven't quit trying, I do believe there is one woman someplace that may
be found if only I keep at it...
So if this one were TRULY bitter, as has been opined, he'd not keep believing. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 11:56:04 PM | 1)Stop expecting an outcome..enjoy yourself meeting people.
2) Develop your own sense of humor – don’t use cheesy lines from dating newsletters.
3) Read widely - that way you can converse on a wide variety of topics with a wide variety of people.
4) Treat women as people first gender second - behave the same irregardless of gender in presence...what they dont know is women are generally more perceptive to gestures, body language & tone of voice than men..they can smell you a mile away if your behaviour or mannerisms are "put on".
5) When you are talking to her look her in the eyes..stop staring at her boobs...yes they can tell..see #4.Smiling also helps but..don’t smile like a Cheshire cat..a warm friendly smile works.
6) Give her your fullest attention...don’t go thru the motions of "pretend listening" not hearing a thing she said...and awaiting your turn to talk.
7) learning to like yourself combined with wide reading & humor will give you CONFIDENCE not to be confused with ARROGANCE.
8) Dont continue to GAB on topics that she has no interest in whatsoever...and dont repeat yourself.
9) Dont pester her for her number....if she likes to talk she'll give it to you.
10) Stick to your principles - dont be a "yes man"..backpedalling the minute she disagrees..you don’t have to be rude but..you can politely beg to differ with her opinion..she will respect you more for it.. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 9:26:18 AM | Number 8 is a hard one though ^^^ because each woman is different. And it is hard to figure out what she would like to talk about.
Like one time I had taken this girl out on a date, in 2000, it was to the Gold Medal Game for Women's World Hockey Championships in Mississauga. Canada vs USA, went into OT and Nancy Drolet scored the OT winner. I thought she would find the game exciting to go to, she never told me she was not a sports fan. She told me it was the worst date she ever went on. Never again will I attempt to ask a woman out on a date to a hockey game again. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 9:33:00 AM | OUT of all, ARROGANT guy is the worsest type.
Gawd, that just bad!
The rest can be simply ignored. This one must be shown his spot. Tough.
AL,
ex-p | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 9:37:45 AM | | I disagree....Look what most women like...It cannot be all bad...I keep om hearing from women that beiing a jerk is bad...Well i do not see it that way....The fact of it is there is no shortage of women for jerks...Look at Scott Peterson(the baby killer)he gets mail in the thousands of women that will marry him...This is a fact.... | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 11:20:47 AM | Wow, read the OP, and skipped the rest as I just HAD to comment...
Basically, these 8 "doctrines" can be summed up :
- Be a WUSS, and HAVE MONEY. *sigh*
Seriously, here are 8 ways (written by a woman no less) to make yourself "The Amazing Guy"? Please, it's a trap set forth by another money hungry industry.
Combine all the "what to do"s and you got yourself a WIMP who comforms to what is ASKED/EXPECTED of them. These rules are telling a man to sit there, shut the f*ck up and spend money on a woman they hardly know. Surprising?
Andrea Madison could lower her hollywood standards a bit and GET REAL, all the while curbing her need to spread the poison that HURTS men.
Sure, these could be ways to "attract" women, but in the long-run, chances are that she'll leave you (statistics speak) cause she's just no as into you as she thought she was...
If you wanna get laid, then by all means, read what you want and believe the same, but don't expect a woman to actually LIKE you for doing that...
IN other words....we're all f*cked. Exactly. Women need to understand that just as a woman can be whiny or UGLY, a man can be needy or arrogant. People are different; Deal.
Here's a rule: Be yourself and don't give a f*ckwad what women think.
I'm out.
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Posted: 2/17/2006 7:35:25 PM | | I will have to disagree with you HB...atleast where I am personally concerned. I really could care less how much a person makes. Having a boatload of money will not make someone more attractive to me in the least... | |
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Posted: 2/17/2006 9:57:27 PM | ^^^You mean in maryland women are sensible? Hmmm I guess us guys are going to have to head there then... | |
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Posted: 2/18/2006 1:05:21 AM | Okay I went to the site that had the 12 women to advoid... I am not any of those.
So why does no one want me???? Oh yeah, I keep forgetting men have a tendency to NOT look past the physical! | |
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Posted: 2/18/2006 1:28:02 AM | | LOL I guess this is why I do not get datesd as well with women...they tend to not look past the Physical aspect. Hence why I am single...and now starting to enjoy it after all these years. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 2:11:57 PM | Nikki, speaking for myself only - if someone is from very far away, there is a
very tiny chance we will ever meet at all - so the physical thing doesn't apply
there.
As far as that list of 12 'types' - or the list of 8 'types' of men, there is only
so much caution that a person can have before EVER meeting anyone becomes
completely impossible, and there may be small amounts of all these things
in almost everyone - we each must draw our own line and also be willing to
reconsider it now and then, as needed.
The only complete, 100%, absolute deal breaker for me is the idea of meeting
a person who chooses to smoke - and I have even stepped across that line
several times in my life just to make certain the decision was not a mistake.
Time and time again I have re-discovered that all the smokers I have met
have been 'married' to their habit and a slave of it as well, and that no matter
what else may have been true - the habit is more important to those people
than the love they sought.
In point of fact - smokers, and in particular female smokers - have told me
very openly that they have kept or even resumed their habit to keep 'safe'
from men - because they KNOW it is a very functional 'man repellent' !!!
Best Wishes,
mark | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 2:32:50 PM | To DropdeadRed - If you're truely not influenced by "The Cash" and money really isn't a draw for you, then thats great.
But where I come from, the girls pay homage to success, power, and wealth. I certainly wish I had all of these things in abundance and to an extent I do - but not in the quantity of my pears.
Stimulating conversation flows from an exciting active life of activities and dining with friends and vacations and opprtunities and ALL of THESE things correlate with cash (and good looks I might add). Argueably, the 3 things that have the greatest effect on your life and your dating opprtunities are (1) your looks (2) your wallet and (3) where you live. I'd even say that (1) helps out (2) and (2) helps out (3).
I'm not saying this is a great thing - but thats the way it works in practice. This is why coesmetic surgery is so popular. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 3:07:58 PM | First, I don't drink or smoke. Second, I don't judge people who do. Of course, as far as the smoking, all I ask is that they don't blow it in my face. Anyone has the right to smoke, but no one has the right to make his/her date breathe it. All in all, now I understand a little more of where I have been going wrong. A lady friend of mine once told me that women want to feel protected. They want to find some one who will make them feel secure. I suppose that goes for physically, psychologically, and emotionally.
BTW, as far as most women going into a relationship feeling insecure, my last girlfriend dealt with major insecurity issues. We lived an hour from each other, so most of the time we only saw each other on the weekends. She rarely did anything unless I was included. I finally told her she had no good friends, and she needed to find some. I know not all women are clingy, but if any woman expects to find someone who will fill that void they will spend their entire lives trying to reach a goal that doesn't exist. You need to find your worthiness in the fact that you are a beautiful person, apart from what anyone else thinks, and not on other people's perceptions of you. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2006 9:53:47 AM | | wanna know something...not that you all care..but for the first time lastnight..i got a message the other day from a guy in my town...he hates typin...thank goodness....so we talked for long time on the phone...hes never talked to anyone before this long with...(over 4 hours) what an amazing conversation...we didnt wanna let each other go...we had so much in common to talk bout..we understood alot....thats a turn on for me..lol. is he callin me again..of course he is...an i said anytime ..he has my number....no rules on time . he was interested in what i had to say as i was interested in what he said ...hes taking the time out to get to know me as i am with him...an i like that. even if we dont connect as we both agreed to.. bein partners...then we have a friend we can talk too. i was in aww just like him...everytime we talked bout a topic..we understood one another..what a good feeling. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2006 10:01:28 AM | | ^^sounds like he will ultimately be the friend. Women tend to want those types of men as friends for some reason not anything else... | |
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Posted: 2/20/2006 10:56:19 AM | Here's the female version....
http://mrdudeman.com/view_dudeman_rant.php?rant_id=57/ | |
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Posted: 2/20/2006 11:04:52 AM | | women can be all of those things as well me personally I like when a man shares his feelings with me I have some insecurities of my own I like to let everything out in the open so there's no wondering or secrets in the end I've met someone who accepts my insecurites and is helping me overcome them as well. everyone has baggage from past relationships or even from life experiences in general. I'm able to accept someone who's a bit insecure. | |
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