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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid
Posted: 6/26/2006 5:50:50 PM | IloveSoccer: I think I'm a little bit of number 4 and number 6.
So.....
Men: Please avoid me. 
That was a good list by the way.Well...it was funny too.
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| Sometimes I can be a little of each of these types
Posted: 6/26/2006 6:14:22 PM | | I've read these types of guys and to be honest I'm sick and tired of having to be a certain type. I have to stick to the "rules" and be a certain way because women will anaylze if I'm the "Jock guy" or the "amazing guy" I really don't care anymore. Sometimes I can be predictable so what. I'm not buying in this system anymore where women get to dictate if I'm going to get laid because I don't fit the amazing guy model. Oh well, I guess I'll have to get reaquintated with Palmela Handerson. LOL | |
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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid
Posted: 6/26/2006 10:14:37 PM | I think your list is correct, but I also think you can add this thing about women in general to the top of the list.
The best thing any man can do with a woman is to...."listen" to her.
Most men just don't get it and they never will untill they stop staring at their moving lips or other parts of their anatomy.  | |
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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid
Posted: 6/27/2006 12:56:08 AM | Women who make lists of the sort of men they need to avoid are the sort of women I avoid.
Having only 1 type makes it easier to remember. | |
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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid
Posted: 6/27/2006 3:08:42 AM | So they say all this crap about the type of guy not to be etc. and THEN say oh but by the way.... we dont like game players....well make up your mind sweetheart! You cant have it both ways either take us as we are or be prepared to get played... Personally I just bring me to the table take it or leave it... | |
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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid , who wants to be labeled,
Posted: 6/27/2006 10:26:59 AM | In my greater honesty, I would say I am number 1 Needy guy.
However, - I've had to deal with some really intense dilemnas within my life that were inadvertently out of my control.
But I don't have regrets because I have learned to utilize a lot of my own enormous inner strength because I had no other choice. And that counts, if I was stuck in cave for months with-out any socialization I would go a little crazy but I could lift myself up and keep myself going.
Secondly, because of those hardships I had to deal with, I would go as far as needed to lift up that one meaningful person in my life. And who can argue that virtue? God easily giveth but alas he easily taketh away, I believe. There are no guarantees in life no matter how many measures one has implimented in their life, history has taught us that.
Third, It's made me a better person, I am continuely humbled by my life and forced to become more accepting and considerate to re-evaluate my over-all ideology.
But yes of course, I try to put the effort forth in comprimising on a partners terms. I practice more patience, faith, etc.
 This is the point of my argument, labels are dangerous in the sense that it attempts to briefly and somewhat vaguely describe an entire person's dynamic. I have put a lot of research just into ,who I am as a person and what I find exoticaly incomprehensible is that an entire vast extremly complex universe exists within just me.
A person can label me if they like, I have great honour for free will but I guarantee they'll over-look some awesome elements that make me, who I am.
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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid , who wants to be labeled,
Posted: 6/30/2006 1:54:02 PM | Okay guys, here's a list of women to avoid as seen by the folks at loveadvice.com. I gotta admit that both my ex's are featured in here to a "T". Of course, no one ever accused me of being able to pick a good one either. 
Anyway, I do agree that labeling people is not right because people can make mistakes and they certainly can straighten out their own lives but some simply refuse to accept that they are causing the problems. This list seems to cover those types very well and it also has some good advice at the very end.
From "Ask Dr, Tracy"...
The Achiever
The Achiever already makes more money than you do, and she likes it that way. It gives her power she's too insecure to live without.
On the surface, the Achiever may look like the dream woman of the 1990s. She's bright, witty, and attractive. If you're the kind of guy who's not put off by high-powered women, you find it flattering that she's chosen you over all the high-powered guys she meets at work.
In the beginning, your romance with the Achiever is a rush. You enjoy the fast pace, the time-is-more-important-than- money lifestyle. You even have occasional fantasies of being a kept man, of living a life of leisure on her terrific salary.
Then her secretary calls to tell you that she's off to the airport for an out-of-town meeting and can't make the trip to Hawaii you'd been planning for six months. Or she proposes going into business together. She's got it all figured out, and she can raise the money. Soon after that, your ulcers start. If the business is a failure, your relationship falls apart. More likely, the business will be a roaring success, and you'll never see her without making an appointment with her administrative assistant.
Life with the Achiever means you come after the achievement. Whatever is going on in your relationship is trivial compared with her next presentation, merger, sale, or promotion. And you can forget a home life. For her, quality time together is a round of golf shared with some visiting businessmen. Like the famous scene in the movie "Network" with Faye Dunaway, she won't have sex unless she can reach the bedside phone, in case there's a business call.
The Achiever is hell to live with, but you won't get sympathy from anyone. She'll claim she's doing it all "for us." Your parents will be in awe of her and think you're a complainer, and your male friends will say you got just what you deserve.
The Virgin
--or almost. The Virgin has never had an orgasm before, and may never again without your constant attention. And now she loves you, loves you, loves you, like an adoring puppy. Of course, if the relationship doesn't work out, it's all your fault, since she was a virgin, or almost, before she got involved with you.
Fooling around with the Virgin is fun for a while, but it's like the electric company. Once you turn on the juice, you have to keep paying the bills. And paying and paying. Most Virgins aren't very practiced at birth control, so they often get pregnant, and they definitely don't believe in abortion. So you're stuck, for life -- with the Virgin, the Virgin's parents, church choir, and a very conservative lifestyle.
Of course, it's an ego trip to think that you're the guy who finally broke through her reserve, that only you can make Ms. Frigid act like a sexual lunatic in bed. But the ego massage lasts only so long, and then you realize that the only thing you saw in her was the challenge.
The Man-hater
Accept it. Some women just don't like men, often with good cause. The Man-Hater loves to find a nice guy like you who'll stand there while she takes out her hostility for what other men have done to her. You'll wind up paying for the misdeeds of every man in her life, from the boy who tormented her in kindergarten to her younger brother, her father, and especially her first husband.
Man-Haters look like ordinary women when you meet them, but there are signs of incipient man-hating. Man-Haters consistently put down men and praise women. In the beginning, the Man-Hater pretends that you're different from all those other men who've treated her badly, but soon she begins to see signs that you're really not. By this time, you're in love with her, so you try to convince her by the power of your love that you're one of the good guys.
The trouble with a Man-Hater is that she doesn't recognize a good guy when she gets one. Even the smallest indiscretion, like leaving the toilet seat up or not being able to find something when it's right under your nose, will reveal the permanent unforgivable rotten core she sees lurking inside all men.
The Man-Hater often covers her basic dislike and mistrust of all men with feminist grievances. She's not putting down men, she's defending women.
No matter how much you love a Man-Hater, you won't be able to make up for the wrongs suffered by her and all the other women in the world, which she'll expect you to do. Don't even think about being the good guy who changes her mind about men.
The Waffler
The Waffler just can't make up her mind. She can't decide if she wants you or someone else. She can't decide if she wants to have a relationship or just fool around. One week she's a member of the girls-just-want-to-have-fun club, and the next she's talking about having babies.
The Waffler hates making dates in advance. "Call me Friday and we'll talk about Saturday night." Or "I won't know until I talk to my veterinarian to see how my sick cat is doing." Greed keeps the Waffler from making any irrevocable decisions. If she commits to going out with you too soon, well, something better may just come along and then where will she be?
The Waffler breaks dates all the time, because something better does come along or because she simply changes her mind. The Waffler has a fantasy man in mind and a fantasy relationship. Since nobody's reality ever lives up to her fantasies, a Waffler who makes a date ahead of time begins to dread the date as it approaches. She knows you can never be as terrific as she is hoping you'll be.
One reason the Waffler isn't fun to be with is because she's never happy in the moment. She's always yearning for someone else, someone taller, stronger, richer, better in bed -- someone she'll never find.
The Walking Wounded
Because she is just divorced or ending a long-term relationship, the Walking Wounded needs a interim relation- ship while she figures out what happened, who she is, where her self-esteem went, and what she's going to do with her life.
Should you make the mistake of accepting the assignment, you'll be in for an unlimited amount of crying towel duty. The Walking Wounded will spend hours telling you how that monster did her wrong. She'll replay her last relationship ad nauseum, and your life will be filled with stories of what he did yesterday and today and what he's going to do tomorrow.
She spends most of her time talking, thinking, wondering, worrying about him instead of you. You'll always feel like she loves him more than she loves you even though he treated her so badly; and so you try harder to treat her even better. You bring flowers, you tell her you love her forty times a day, you buy her presents. But no matter what you do, the shadow of her broken heart hangs over your relationship.
Let some other guy be her interim relationship.
The Supervisor
The Supervisor is a perfectionist who goes around assessing the performance of the world to see if it lives up to her exalted standards. Since nothing is ever perfect, she's constantly telling you what's wrong with everything.
At first, it can be flattering that someone with such high expectations and good taste has chosen you. So it's you and she, the two perfect people, lined up against an imperfect world. But soon you start to realize the imperfections in each other, and you turn on each other.
She realizes that your lapels are three-eighths of an inch too wide and that you're wearing last year's cuff. No sooner does she get all your clothes updated than she realizes that something is wrong with your job, or your car, or your apartment. Finding things wrong with the world is her way of life, so she can be very difficult to live with on an everyday basis.
You begin to realize that no matter what you do, no matter how much you let her run your life, it's still not perfect enough. When she realizes that you can't do anything right, she takes over living for you. Eventually, either you succumb, have a frontal lobotomy, and spend the rest of your life following her around; or you grow a beard and start wearing clothes from the Salvation Army to get her out of your life.
How To Avoid Them
Getting more serious now, the best way to avoid witches, ****es, and crazy ladies of all varieties is to understand that they have neurotic needs, whereas normal women have normal wants.
What Normal Women Want:
Marriage
Children
Girlfriends
Family ties
Laughs
Sympathy
Romance
Shopping
Presents
Attention
Affection
Kindness
Sex
Agreement
What Witches, ****es, and Crazy Ladies Need:
To use you for their own agenda without caring what happens to you
A man to make their lives okay
Everything all at once
Unconditional love
An endless party
If you're attracted to a woman who looks like one of the classic witches, ****es, or crazy ladies, or if she seems to have a neurotic need, stay away. If she's really sexy and coming on to you, it's hard to say no, but you can reprogram that first reaction. Instead of thinking, "I wonder what she'd be like in bed," try thinking, "Whoops, there goes trouble for somebody, but it isn't going to be me!"
And remember, if you want to find happiness, try falling in love with a normal, well-adjusted woman. | |
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| THE TYPE OF MEN TO AVOID.....
Posted: 7/23/2006 4:24:40 AM | I just wanted to add the 'commitment-phobic' man..... you know the one: they come on really strong in the beginning, they're more into you than you are into them, dote on your every word and action, try to *woo you* with excessive gifts, flowers, etc. They try WAY too hard to make you like them.... and think all along that they have you fooled. These anti-social, sociopaths are as obvious as the day is long :-). The funny part is they think they're really smart.... smarter than everyone else in fact.
Take note ladies: it's NOT normal for someone to come on REALLY strong in the beginning and do/buy seemingly everything to make you like them. If someone can't offer *themselves* without *dressing it up* with all kinds of deeds/purchases/etc, they obviously don't think they themselves, on their own accord, are worthy of love.
RUN FOR THE HILLS, girls! This is an incidious and anti-social behaviour that will most definitely result in a dysfunctional, controlling and unhealthy relationship with someone who can't commit. Irony: they were the one that was so into the relationship at the beginning. | |
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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid
Posted: 7/23/2006 7:30:49 AM | | well why can't we just follow the advice of some of the girls on the forum and around here and most of them all say ( just be yourself ) either they dont know what to say to you or the majority of women need to relax about the dating scene and quit trying to change guys | |
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| You've truly made my night, and I thank you !
Posted: 7/23/2006 7:44:23 AM | All kidding aside, all OP did was break it down analytically. These categories are real, and aspects of imperfect personalities. Nobody is perfect, the thing to do is have some aspect of the least offensive of these traits, in moderation. Otherwise you are a robot. The problem is when a personality can be defined by one of these characteristics because it is so overpoweringly how they present themselves. Be yourself, but always work to try and be better, that's all.
I just reread this. I didn't souind too emotional and needy, did I? | |
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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid
Posted: 7/23/2006 7:45:45 AM | 6.THE ARGUER
This type of guy turns every conversation into an argument. When he takes a woman out, he makes her feel like she's in debate class rather than on a date. And in doing so, he makes her feel defensive and self-conscious.
Why he is so unappealing: A date should be a pleasant experience, but if she's on the defensive the whole time, she will not be enjoying herself. Remember this: Constant arguing and debating is a stress -- and you certainly don't want her to associate you with a stressful experience.
This one is the one that i avoid and there are a lot of men on this site that are like this I have turned them all down. I read their emails I listen too there words and well.
Another one bites the dust.
I will not date this man. I do not want this man in my life, all he dose is complain, ridicule, he has to have the last word, he makes excuses for ever thing, everything is a battle with him. they CALL IT 'DE-BAITING'.... but it is not you can talk for 6 hours on a subject and end up just agreeing but the arguer will never allow you to be right.
This is the man also WHO REBELLIOUS AND WILL NOT CHANGE FOR HIS LIFE DEPENDED ON IT.. so NO thank you.
Last of least this is the man who want to fight to have 'great sex' but what he teaches his women is Too fight back once she dose THE WOMEN JUST TOUGH THE MAN TO ABUSE HER TO GET SEX"
I will never fight with a man and if you think MAKE UP SEX.. you are knocking on the wrong door. YOU are not going to get sex fighting with your women.. It is bad sex it might be passion but it is lethal and dangerous at the same time. Ouch! Remember that next time. | |
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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid
Posted: 7/23/2006 8:01:04 AM | I think those types of men do exist, and I think for a woman whose paying attention, most of these types can be found out with a decent amount of conversation before seriously dating them.
But back to the focus of the topic I think it's great for guys to read and think about. Problem is a lot of those guys don't see themselves as that type. Some will read them all and say, yeah I know a lot of guys like this, good thing I'm not one of them! Oh, well. | |
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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid
Posted: 7/23/2006 8:25:56 AM | ^^^^^^ oldschoolqueen
read msg:208
those types of women do exist more-so than a lot think they do, and the women who are like that-- don't see themselves as those types either!
and then lets not forget the
"Disagreeing type" either,
she'll dissagree with you on everything, every subject, every topic, etc. until the end of time - you're never right on or about anything in her mind! Add that one to the list that I've had long term relationships with!
Can we say "No thanks!?" lol | |
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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid
Posted: 7/23/2006 10:26:59 AM | | I read your post with sadness. Some women are like that yes. Not all, first you get back what you give out. So if you don't give out the hand holding, cheek kissing, hugs and so you don't get them back. Now a GOOD MAN is one who allows a woman to just be herself and accepts her she is. Warts and all. No one is perfect. So in closing I say to you look at the good in people and be true to yourself. J | |
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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid , who wants to be labeled,
Posted: 7/23/2006 10:39:25 AM | | Having read your posting I decided to check your profile. I have a question for you. . Do you not like women? You cannot dump every woman into the same bag of women that have hurt you. We are all trying to get by the best we can . . .That includes you to my friend. I class myself as "normal" Never felt the need to marry even tho we had 4 great kids. The list applies to men as well. Come on lighten up. Make someones day by being nice to them. O! and I hate shopping. Me I like red, wine hand holding, hugs, paddling in the sea playing on the swings and SO much more. | |
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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid
Posted: 7/23/2006 10:58:00 AM | "In the years I have done this, most women SAY they want to be loved and cherished, BUT
what that seems to translate to is that they want a guy with MONEY, a BIG job, fancy
STUFF, a brand new car, and plenty of extra $$$ to take them on world travels."
So not true. A) many women like myself are attracted to personality first and then physical attraction follows. Yeah, if someone is grossly obese or totally lacks personal hygiene than all the jokes in the world aren't gonna win us over, but for the most part its honestly true. I have dated very attractive men and ones who were a bit heavy, or short, or whatever . . .but they were all very attractive TO ME because of who they were.
B)Most women today have their own careers and income. Money isn't really an issue. Yes, we want someone to have fun with us and treat us well, but that could just as well be drinking a cheap bottle of wine in the park and renting a movie as taking us out for an expensive meal. Men who think they can buy my affection are a real turn-off.
What's also a turnoff is someone with a negative attitude who assumes all women are golddiggers. I'd never date someone with your outlook on life. | |
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| You've truly made my night, and I thank you !
Posted: 7/23/2006 1:23:43 PM | | I sometimes wonder whether other species are actually the 'lower' ones, or if it is us. Very few wage war and destruction on the same level we do. Their mating and relating is much more straightfoward than our mish-mash of lies and games... just some food for thought :) | |
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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid
Posted: 7/23/2006 8:37:23 PM | I guess I've got a touch of all 8 "Avoid-me" issues... but I s'pose most of us (regardless of gender) are, at one point or another, one or more of the "dread 8". I'll admit to being more predictable than not -- I really don't care for surprises myself, and "the daily routine" has a certain amount of appeal. I like knowing what to expect (for the most part) day after day...
Aahhh, maybe I *AM* f#@%ed... I'm imperfect. Hate that. | |
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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid
Posted: 7/24/2006 8:12:26 AM | I have my own list: I avoid men who:
Smoke
Drink excessively
Use Drugs
Does not communicate regularly
Cancels dates without enough notice (unless its an emergency)
Men who are extremely obese
Men who are abusive/rude
Men who initiate sex too early (like the first date)
As for a comment on here that women pick the good looking guys-- actually I go for the average looking guy mostly-- if a man is average but dresses nice, its an added turn on. I really enjoy seeing a man in a suit and tie, a uniform of any kind, or a nice dress shirt. That increases a man's odds of attracting me considerably. MJS | |
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| 8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid
Posted: 7/24/2006 8:48:25 AM | | Uh, what about men who are looking for a "sugar momma" -- it goes both ways you know- I run into lots of men who wont date me because I'm a student on a limited income. MY income is ok, but alot of these men will only date a woman with a top job, nice car and owns her own home... uh, its that ol' double standard, boys... MJS | |
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