Ldygmr
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Joined: 12/19/2005
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 6/15/2006 6:04:18 AM | So what women are saying is they want the immediate wow when the forst set eyes on the guy they meet? Don't care if he can't hold a conversation, don't care if you do not have any interests of any sort the same, don't care if he is a****ead or decent guy, don't care to know what he is all about at all...unless he makes you go wow and tingle with sexual excitement?
Man no wonder the dating game is all out of whack these days, women expect us guys to wow them in no time or no chance of a date...makes me kind of glad I accept being single for life. No complications. No expectations of me upon meeting me. Cuz sorry I know for a fact no woman has ever gone wow when meeting me or felt a tingle. The women I did date back in my 20's all took a liking to me from getting to know me, not an immediate sexual chemistry or sexual attraction. I guess that was then and this is now.
Getting to know someone just seems not to cut it anymore, seems no one can get attracted or build chemistry while getting to know the person these days. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 6/17/2006 9:22:38 AM | | all depends on the person if he was a nice guy and had all the qualities i wanted in a man then i would talk to him about it and try to come up with a solution to where we could feel the chemistry if that failed then its time to move on.when u love someone in my opinion it should be done with the heart BODY and mind. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 6/17/2006 9:26:19 AM | | ^^Holy crap another real woman posting on a thread...I am beginning to believe there are actually some decent, real and level minded women still around...you sure have surprised me with that post there Sexychocl8te..very imprssive. Most would toss the guy to the curb for someone better regardless if he was a great guy. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/6/2006 10:55:12 PM | | Sex is a huge part of any relationship. Without sexual chemistry there is no relationship. Someone is bound to cheat eventually, so why bother. I can not believe anyone would date someone that they were not attracted to. You are asking for disappointment and eventual failure! Use your heads people! Would you buy something at the grocery store and leave it in the fridge hoping that someday your you MIGHT aquire a taste for it? | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/6/2006 11:18:36 PM | | Ive been down this road. I met this man he was wonderful, good looking,educated and a true gentleman. One thing was missing, chemistry. I told myself this man was everything I wanted and that it didnt matter, I was young and didnt know better. I married him and spent 15 years of my life in a marriage without passion. Im sorry that I put myself in this situation and Im sorry that I hurt him in the process. From my experience I can tell you that without chemistry it will eventually end in heartbreak, It is essential in a healthy relationship. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/6/2006 11:48:50 PM | | rubyred6301 You have just proven my point with the best example possible. Sorry to hear about your story, it truly is a sad situation. However, now you know, and thanks to your story now the rest of us know just how right I actually was in my response. It's nice to hear from a more mature point of view sometimes. It validates for me, that my theories on life may not be so jaded and filled with lack of experience as I might have thought! | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/7/2006 12:41:13 AM | if there is no spark, the fire won't start. However there have been many people who grew to love one another. As time goes on their love also got deeper. A case of love the one you marry. I married the one I loved, but she loved the green card. not even 2 years. sucks. Well history now, but it makes me re-think many things.
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/7/2006 5:05:52 AM | To me chemistry is the feeling that it's so right but if you start discovering things that are so wrong, you get put off and poof...all gone, although he's probably still feeling it, you know that feeling right?
Don't think it's fair to either of you to continue in that case but if the relationship is just moving to a more comfortable zone with less pulpitations (which I think are triggered by the insecuruity of a new relationship) then you should stick with it if it's good thing and find ways of bringing the sparks back. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/7/2006 5:19:35 AM | well..... i met an amazing woman... beautiful and successful... smart and funny. ive taken her now on 9 dates... from brunch to movies.. to 5 star dining... to cooking for her... and meeting her friends...
she wont as much as french kiss me.. let alone have sex with me...
yes.. we hold hands... we hug... i get a peck on the lips...
ive brought it up to her.. and she says she is cautious.. and wants to take things slow...
LOL... slow?>> as much as i am falling in love with this woman.,... the lack of affection and physicality perhaps will just make me run away....
i have tried to not push.. but... when is enough..... enough? | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/7/2006 8:17:34 AM | Use your heads people! Would you buy something at the grocery store and leave it in the fridge hoping that someday your you MIGHT aquire a taste for it?
I am using my head. Hmmm, let's try to make a worthless analogy, I'll equate a living, breathing, thinking, sexy, intelligent, thoughtful woman to a head of lettuce. Or a kumquat. That really makes sense. If thoughts like this are what validate your theories on life, I shudder to think about the remaining shallowness. Life isn't that simple. I haven't had one perfect sexual partner, each one has had some sort of quirk. But guess what. Those quirks weren't the reason why I left the relationship. I did leave one relationship AFTER discussing that sexual quirk with my partner in a thoughtful, intelligent, and caring manner. When she took an inflexible position and not even consider making a change, I left. Personally I think people can grow, evolve, and change if they want to. Mature and responsible folks understand that the relationship GROWS. I'd never want to be in a static relationship.
Rubyred, I'm sorry you had such a long "unfulfilled in a physical way" marriage. It's hard to say whether that's worse or if my scenario is worse, never having been married because maybe I'm very particular when it comes to certain issues. Communication is the key to any relationship. Not sexual chemistry. Personally I believe you can have both--good rappore and great sex. | |
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holdmy
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Joined: 11/2/2006
Msg: 68 | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/7/2006 9:31:23 PM | | Laughing Out Loud !!! Couldn't even use a short form there. My god bike man, lighten up! Your right, life isn't that simple, and with an attitude like yours that lacks any ability to make light of a difficult situation, yours is probably MUCH less simple the most men. At no time did I say anything about about "perfect sexual partners without quirks", you brought that to the table. I would never want or expect perfection from a partner. What I actually said was that sexual chemisrty is ESSENTIAL in a relationship. You are the one who made this topic into an entirly different one!!! Maybe you should read replys a few times before you go off on a tangent that has nothing to do with the subject. FYI...Who uses the word FOLKS these days!!!! lol Thst was my shallowness talking! | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/8/2006 12:28:52 PM | | "Folks" means my feelings apply both to men and women NGIT2. I've read so much stuff here like "oh she doesn't put out, no way I'm dating her", "he's just two nice, I can't date him" crap. I'm just suggesting that two people (folks) discuss their issues before summarily dismissing the other. I'm sure people are ultra-fickle around here. That's all my point is . . . now back to your regular programming . . . | |
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