| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/10/2006 5:49:58 PM | op
i would continue to date someone i had no sexual chemistry with but it would just be as friends until i got to know them and then i would want to meet his friends. i think i would do it to circulate and be in the market
but if i am disgusted by him and can't see us even being friends...no way will i go out with him even once.
i think it would be unwise to continue dating someone whom i have no chemistry with..i would just go with the person a few times because i need to be free to see other people. i wouldn't want the relationship to grow because i would start using him as a crutch. i would rather hang out with him and friends in a group where i can meet other people to possibly date and see if there is a love connection. i wouldn't drop him as a friend....i would keep him as an acquantance. that is if i consider this person someone i could be friends with and hang out with with no expectations on his part for something more.
the idea is to keep myself free for the right one when the right one comes along....but i am still entitled to a social life. and dating is part of that. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/15/2006 11:58:46 AM | Man.. how about being married for 30 years....
Your wife cheated on you before you had kids at 23.... then to be 46 have 2 kids in college to hear.....
I NEVER loved you... I NEVER should have married you.... I am a horrible wife and a horrible mother? And they had chemistry when they met but it seemed to disappear before they got married! All I can say is LiSTEN... if you have any reservations figure out why!!!! | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/19/2006 11:38:31 AM | It takes more that sexual chemistry.
If two people find themselves enjoying talking about everything and anything,
Friendly debates and idle chit chat.
Now add sexual attraction, Lips against lips, toungue searching toungue,weak knees and soft moans just from a simple kiss.
One part Bama Boy, one part Canadian lady.
Watch the explosion. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/19/2006 3:10:59 PM | No. Absolutely not. No question about it. Take it from someone who's been down that path.
I suppose it COULD work, if both of you are REALLY, REALLY uninterested in sex. But how many people do you know who are like that?
If there's no sexual chemistry, but you still feel really close to the person, you MIGHT want to give it a bit of a chance, to see if anything develops. But if it doesn't develop pretty quickly, it's never going to.
It is sad that we human beings are so shallow, but it will save you (and your potential partners) a lot of heartache if you learn that now instead of learning it the hard way, like some of us had to. No sexual chemistry is bad, bad, baaaaaad news for a relationship. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/19/2006 4:06:03 PM | | If there’s no sexual chemistry I let the guy know. Usually when there isn’t, you’re missing some other emotion as well. Save both of yourselves the emotions and headache and let the other person know what you’re feeling. Wish them well in their search and be on your merry way… | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/19/2006 4:37:29 PM | @Medchick: Yes it COULD be created, but it could take a long time, and it possibly might not happen. Lots of people are impatient and won't be willing to make that emotional and time investment.
Personally, I would try to work out bedroom issues before jettisoning a relationship. Especially if the lady had many of the other personal qualities which I value in a relationship partner. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/19/2006 10:31:10 PM | | if "sexuall chemistry" is happening right away, it's called a one night stand...i mean honestly how well did you get to know the other person right away? realationships are built on friendships and ultimately your partner should be your "best friend"..when you grow to love someone the chemistry will be there. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/20/2006 5:09:27 AM | | I think you should go for the chemistry, if while your dateing the chemistry gets gone then I think you had better backout of the relationship. Because, do you wanna wind up marring a person your no longer attracted to? Or do you wanna kepp on dateing someone like that? There are those who fall in love without chemistry, but what if the love goes away, which it sometimes does? Then your left with no love and no chemistry either. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/20/2006 6:45:58 AM | I first look for someone who has a compatible personality. Intelligence, humor, compassionate. Bitterness, harsh comments about another makes me impotent with regard to her. Once a good connection is made, I consider if I want to date this woman. Her looks and weight are somewhat important, but secondary. If I decide the woman is boring or nasty, the date concept is gone.
Sometimes you have a connection with someone but no sexual chemistry. Fine, at some point, the guy needs to let her know he would like her as a friend. Dating stops and 'hanging out' together happens. That is good too. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/20/2006 9:42:19 PM | Personally i believe sexual (physical) chemistry is EXTREMELY important...you either feel or you don't...an instant attraction is amazing, and if i don't feel the vibe early on, no, i would not continue to date the person. If it ends up in a relationship, you're going to need more than psychological chemistry and bonding over coffee to get you through lol...sexual chemistry (sex) is VERY important to keep the relationship happy and healthy...i personally take to 'openly affectionate' men, and things are going to rock if we both have that physical chemistry.. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/20/2006 11:59:29 PM | Wow, would you walk around in shoes for hours if they hurt you? No you would try on a different size... Oooh that sounds sort of bad.. but true. Why torture yourself.
I think that sexual chemistry is what keeps a realtionship alive.. you need some excitement to keep a relationship new and constantly evolving..
I know that I personally feel that you know within the first few minutes of meeting someone if there is a spark..shyness aside you know when you touch,caress,flirt,kiss and just enjoy their company. You are at ease with them but yet feel an excitement that transcends all emotions.. maybe a qiver or a tingle that runs through your body.. a desire to initiate physical contact and an uncontrolable desire to make the moment last.. Physical chemistry is too important for mediocrity. Explore this.. and see if it is true.. I think you will be amazed how important it really is.. Enjoy the moment.. get lost in it... let go.. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 11/21/2006 7:23:25 AM | I suppose if you value the sex more than the person, you would end the relationship if the sex got bad without discussing anything before breaking up. I still think if you value the person, you would discuss the sexual issues before ending the relationship.
I ended a relationship or two based on the "sexual chemistry", but only AFTER discussing the issues first with my partner, because I actually cared about her feelings, and I wanted her to know why I was dissatisfied, in order to give her some sense of closure. I don't discard human beings like spent underwear. | |
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Jroch
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