| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/17/2006 5:52:14 PM | go into a forum that reads: "men looking for smart women"...
I believe there is more to it than that, each person is looking for so many diff. things.
That's why I believe this is next to an impossibility to meet someone here, but
what the heck, it's worth a try. | |
|
| |
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/17/2006 7:44:24 PM | I am Spanish decent althought very successful in what I do but Men always think just because I am Spanish they think I am less and will want to abuse me. Not so, there are weman out there that cannot pay their way and they will except any relashionship to pay their way but not me.
It is so fustrating. | |
|
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/17/2006 9:34:39 PM | | how amazing life is huh.....all i meet are "smart intelligent women"....my friends always meet strippers...they wish they would meet the women i do....and i wish i could meet the women they do.....ahhhh life | |
|
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/17/2006 11:29:26 PM | I beg to differ...with most that was said...and then again...I agree with some.
4 pages worth is alot to read through with tired eyes.
In all honesty...I think your looking at the wrong type of man or something.
I have been out with a few men in the Florida area...and some even off of this site.
One of the qualitys that intrigues them about a woman besides her sensuality...is her personality. Some men are not as shallow as they seem.
Intelligence and smarts go hand in hand but are too different things.
I think that men are attracted to 'smart' gals...and personaly I have been told that they like a gal that can communicate and conversate on a higher 'smarter' level.
It is obvious when a gal is at that level too...through her actions and conversation.
A smart gal hardly ever claims to be smart...it's just not the smart thing to do...lol.
Perhaps, you have been looking at the guys who want something that smarts doesn't factor into, unknowingly...perhaps even stuck in a picking slum.
There are alot of them out there...looking for flings...attraction levels of the highest kind...and sex. There are ones who want to be the hero...need someone to need them...and a smart gal does scare them. Mostly, because most smart gals are self suffient and independant aswell.
Thats rare indeed...from what I have encountered with men from Florida. Lots of men attracted to 'smarts'...just perhaps not the package they come in. | |
|
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/18/2006 3:55:14 AM | | I prefer women who are smart and I'm from FL! I keep abreast of politics and current affairs. In fact, I list law, government and politics as my interest in my profile. So, all of you smart women are more than welcome to contact me! | |
|
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/18/2006 7:03:38 AM | i must say that was intrigued when i saw this posting. clearly i am a single, attractive, and intelligent woman and i have had no problem with people asking its just that half the time i am not attracted to the "showy intellect" or the "brute". i truly agree that it is an issue for most to date someone they feel inferior to but in hindsight it is all a matter of self esteem. one must be secure with their tallents and abilities and realize that no one person in the world could possibly know everything and there may just be a great number of things you can teach each other or discuss. thank you all for starting this discussion, i honestly enjoyed all of your responses. | |
|
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/18/2006 10:03:47 AM | ditto... i agree. It's all a matter of self esteem & insecurity, which leads to "control" issues. "I won't settle & I won't back down."  lisa | |
|
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/19/2006 9:38:17 PM | | u kno....there is no simplistic generalization that satisfys this topic...and any discussion has to really define the term "smart"....once a consensus on what is considered smart is reached, then you can proceed...and since many will say that smart is in the eye of the beholder we are already off on a tangent.....basically its the old adage..."whatever turns you on"...since some women actually enjoy being or playing dumb and some guys like being or playing macho we can only hope these people find each other......if you are a smart girl one would hope you would be able to spot the guy who can appreciate you....or do we lose our smarts when it comes to affairs of the heart....hope not | |
|
| |
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/20/2006 6:39:41 AM | | I have yet to find a decent man in Naples. I have been here a year...divorced with 2 kids. But I have also decided that I am done with the search for a while since I have had no luck here or anywhere. Not bitter, just going to focus on more productive things. | |
|
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/20/2006 9:49:37 AM | It's not that good, confident men don't like smart women. The older, secure men want youth, fertility, and a little childishness. Let's face it. Throughout our entire lives, we're taught to adhere to some obligatory moral code that says "say yes ma'am, no ma'am, hold the door open, don't talk too much about yourself, don't seem too needy, don't directly compliment her, surprise her with this or that, take her out" and on and on and on.
A man reaches a certain level of experience where what becomes important isn't being able to "score" by following these rules, but by being able to set his own rules. One of the rules often set is "I want younger, funny, not so sophisticated women".
Perhaps it's not their problem that they want young "bimbos". Perhaps it's yours because you've lost a little youth in all your successful endeavors. I don't know your position, but I do know that of a confident, successful man, and I can say that we often prefer women who aren't so hell bent on making a statement. We seek balance.
So, lighten up, be a little more girlish, and they will come flocking to you  | |
|
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/20/2006 11:10:37 AM | Grow up Arlie, anyone who still has mullet and flexe's in his profile with your muscle man shirt looking for a desperate date at age 37 has little to offer, Besides problematic adventures
Intelligence is captured not bought. The lady wants stimulation not ejacualation. | |
|
| |
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/20/2006 11:17:06 AM | | I use to work in the Caribbean...... Stop your insightful insanities....Why are you on this site. Your wife is the breadwinner not you sir, but you continue looking | |
|
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/20/2006 11:28:20 AM | Your are somewhat of a intelligent man. Most people carry intelligence and goodness.
Thru a series of betrayal and insensitive behavior they become uncertain and numb. Everyday I see this just watch the news.
I like your views you have a shot.
Sometimes when I shop at a local market I see the down syndrome person working and staying positive. That person is the most intelligent person the store. For he/she posses the great earnestness, survival, responsibility and commitment to life | |
|
| |
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/20/2006 3:31:03 PM | | Well maybe you need to start looking outside of SOUTH FLORIDA! I live in Central Florida about 35 miles north of Orlando. I do have some college and I have been to the school of hard knocks, so I guess I can be fairly intellectual, I can keep airplanes flying and keep them in the sky with out the engine stopping in flight. I can articulate fairly well on the phone and in person because I’ve never had anyone not understand what I’m trying to say. AS for rocking your word, well that’s the hard part being you don’t want to look out side of SOUTH FLORIDA, but that’s OK. I want a woman that can hold her own in anything! It helps when it comes time to make any decisions to have intelligent input and help coming up with the right answer. I would love to have a woman with brains, a woman who can think for herself but knows when it is time to ask for an opinion or help. That is where the true a intelligents comes from. | |
|
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/20/2006 3:49:33 PM | | Hey there. I saw your post and couldn't help but agree with you 100%. I grew up here in South Florida. One of my biggest complaints is that the atmosphere here is extremely shallow. Every other commercial on tv is for some plastic surgery joint. Men are definitely lacking in original and stimulating intellectual thoughts. It's a travesty. Unfortunately it's an epidemic that is spreading like wildfire all over. I've gotten to live all over the country, and encountered this problem everywhere. But have faith, there are some good ones left still. Haven't found 'em yet myself. Hahaha. But there are some who aren't all zombies. Good luck in your search. | |
|
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/20/2006 4:02:56 PM | | It is in my belief,that men that have a problem with women's intellect have little intellegence of their own. It should be a learning experience and knowledge expantion. Men that have this particular problem,obviously feel that they must be superior to women.Redneck,if I may. Men must be over women. Balony! This is the 21st century and women have much to offer humanity. Let's take advantage of it, and give God's other half of creation a chance. They deserve it,they have earned it in my opinion. | |
|
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/20/2006 4:16:24 PM | | Hey buddy,obviously from your dialog,know what that means? You are way over your head intellectually. Print a re-traction. Your looking for a pretty picture first. Irrellavent to this forum. | |
|
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/20/2006 4:23:24 PM | I wouldn't say that they don't like you as much as they feel threatened by your intellectual prowess. Articulation is easy to come by there are plenty of articulate men around here. I like so many people down here am not originally from this area, but NY ... yes I know surprise surprise. Anyway back to the subject at hand. No matter where they originate from there are articulate guys down here. I know I am one, (in my own humble opinion) and I've spoken to others at length. Do I feel threatened by intelligent women of course I'm a man ....duh. LOL
Please don't take these comments the wrong way. I do not mean to be obnoxious or insulting or just plain rude. I'm also not trying to pick you up. However all that being said, you must understand although you like most women can characterize men as being stereotypically insensitive and stupid, (and in some instances that stereotype is right on the money) there are us out here who know just as well as you do that women are still centralized on finding that one good provider even though statistics and demographics indicate that the era of the one income family is truly gone and that the man's role as "breadwinner" now all but diminished completely women are still trained by society that this is what to look for in a man. That idea is still not completely out moded or without some basis of truth though because I saw a television news story on this that showed how some couples cope in different situations ei. the man was a stay at home dad, (bum without a job) and the woman claimed head of the household and another situation where both parents worked and yet still two more where the traditional roles where intact and the man the "breadwinner". In the story all situations were rocky except the two that had the man in the traditional role of provider. Even the "dumb blondes" know what to look for...and that is money. It is especially true of women around my age. I am 41 btw. They do not care so much about looks. So how much time you spent on your hair is inconsequential. It does not matter how well endowed you are or if you have a cute butt. Women DO NOT CARE......they want money. Just like the Beatles song. That's what they want. If you ain't got it .....you're a loser. Personality and charm are one thing but that only get's one's proverbial, "foot in the door" as they say. To keep a women's interest you better stop talking the sh** and shell out the green. Colorful political discussions aside women will not be able to respect your opinions if you are unable to afford the admittance fee to have any say so as a politically involved taxpayer. So in the end it's money that makes the world go 'round. I am a hopless romantic, but I'm also a realist. Sorry if I insulted you in any way. | |
|
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/20/2006 4:30:59 PM | is it just me? Every time I read one of these threads I often wonder if "thats the real reason".
I mean when we all say "nice guys finish last" or "men dont like intelligent women" I am forced to wonder is the "real" reason that folks arent connecting?
I mean its so crazy to even start a thread like this. I think that we (dont worry myself included) often use phrases like "iam too independant", "i am too beautiful" etc...to safely say:"its not me, its you".
I mean who doesnt like a nice person? who doesnt like an intelligent woman?
I think that we often use these "excuses", if you will, to reflect any possible failings that we may have. By doing this we can safley dismiss the notion that there maybe more "wrong" with us than being too smart, too nice or too beautiful.
By saying im too nice or too smart it means that there is nothing wrong with me ..its gotta the other person.
Just some food for thought...ill stand back now and let the flames fire.
Incidently ...I dont like anyone thats smarter than me man or woman...so I basically hate everyone...its safer that way!
 | |
|
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/20/2006 4:44:23 PM | Oh one more thing the tv news story I referred to in my previous post aired about two months ago on either MSNBC, (channel 30) or channel 29 which I'm not sure. So why did I make mention of my tv viewing habits? It was a very interesting show and it aided me in proving my point because in the situations where the man was bread winner this was the most copesthetic relationship. Does that mean that men are right? That you should settle for this type of arrangement? No ma'am it sure doesn't you can be and do whatever you want but be aware that most men are very sexist in attitude and so in order to be happy in a long term relationship I guess it is what men want you to do. At least most men seem to force women into that corner. Should you allow that to happen to yourself ? No, I'm definitely not saying that. What I am saying is a lot of these broke articulate losers out here won't force you into a position like that in a relationship, but they won't be happy either...you will :-) LOL!! The one with all the money has the upper hand I'm pretty sure. Just me being a realist again. Have a nice day ! | |
|
obliq
|
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 100 | |
| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 6/21/2006 2:21:47 PM | It seems that most posters have missed the point of the original poster. Human relationships are generally not like magnetism. People seek those that are similar to them. The original poster laments a lack of aligned interests from men in her area.
I can relate. Although FIT and NASA are in my area, there is a vapid void of disinterest in anything outside television, pot, or driving around aimlessly at night.
But we all have standards. I would love to meet and hot woman with large breasts and a pornstar body that has a degree in physics, a liberal attitude, and an athiestic belief. But I know it ain't going to happen. | |
|
Home
login 
