| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 10/11/2006 10:42:42 PM | | Actually it was not a personal insult to you...seems that you have taken it that way..also noticed that you responded negatively to a prior posting of mine..I would guess that some women might not be attracted to you because you seem a little hostile yourself as you accuse everyone else of being. I was merely responding to a post with more than a little bit of humor..not a personal attack on you..and I personally have not had anyone feel intimidated or inferior while talking with me (at least I hope not)..however I have had many male friends tell me that some women they have met have made them feel that way. So please don't assume that I am talking about all men, because I am not. I have met many nice guys and unfortunatly for some reason or another it did not work out. Don't try to make people out to be something they are not when you don't even know them. | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 10/12/2006 4:20:27 AM | Nor did I take it as a personal insult. It is insulting to men in general.
One would think that women would want to know what men find offensive, but they would rather rationalize and continue the male bashing. | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 10/12/2006 8:19:47 AM | bottom line is it`s your limited experiences...keep dating, the right fish will come along. I have been on dates with "barbies"......only good for one thing. couldn`t wait for the date to end so i could talk to someone that knows more than one syllable words.... | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 10/12/2006 8:27:10 AM | smart women, a problem sometimes, I have dated some very bright ladies but, alas it would seem that smarts and insecurity go hand in hand, personally I don't get it.. I'm probably not as worldly as some and I have a narrow point of reference so my openion is just that.. anyway, everyone have a great day, thats an order!!!!! I think I spelled that correctly | |
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| Why don't men like smart women? A clue
Posted: 10/13/2006 2:29:52 PM | As you read through these posts and become aware of the multitude of typos, misspellings (including intelligent and intelligence (which has to make you smile or guffaw)) and grammatical errors, it should give you a clue to the answer to your query.
Steve
I had to respond to this as I sometimes am guilty of grammar and misspelling errors. Some people do not just look for faults in others and are smart enough to figure out what it is they are trying to say and not get confused over grammatical or spelling errors. There are many ways to be smart, grammar and spelling is just one of them. Being smart enough to interpreting and comprehension skills is another way to be smart. Being positive is another way to be smart. | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 10/14/2006 11:40:05 PM | | I love smart women. Being an aquarius who tends to learn a lot and has tons of information on many different subjects, I've got nothing wrong with a girl who can hold up her end of he conversation. | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 10/15/2006 8:38:16 PM | | Whatever you do, don't EVER , EVER beat him at chess! lmao. Put up a good fight, but make a reasonable, understandable mistake and let him win. They love to one up us all the time! The trick is don't be a bimbo, but don't outsmart him either! | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 10/15/2006 10:37:38 PM | I could care less if they beat me. Good for them. That just means I look forward to the day I bet them.  | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 10/16/2006 4:28:11 AM | smart women = insecurity?????????
Maybe because smart women are intelligent enough to know that they might be lacking in something they want to be better at? They have to try extra hard to get ahead in business, as many women are still not taken as seriously as men...leaving them feeling inadequate no matter how smart they are, or how hard they try...
meanwhile you have women who are just blissful in their ignorance...perhaps they don't feel inadequate because they are fine with their circumstances. I grew up on a side of town where people are fine not going to college, they are fine working menial, minimum wage jobs. They are glad to have the job and don't aspire to do anything more with their lives. My mom has a 10th grade education and now works two jobs at age 58 to make ends meet...she's quite happy living in her trailer out in the sticks, but I would never say she was book smart...street smart (she's a bartender and has to be)....she has never tried to improve her circumstance by going back to college...she is happy the way she is...
as for not beating men at chess...don't beat them at Scrabble either, or trivial pursuit....they get very upset...it's like playing your kids, you play a good game, but in the end let them win to feel good about themselves | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 10/16/2006 9:33:03 AM | I agree Belly that women are underestimated in many aspects of business dealings. The reasons for that are as varied as the women themselves, but as long as we allow our intelligence to be a question to ourselves we have no choice but to accept the same verdict from our bosses. Women who take themselves seriously and do not waver in that are more likely to not encounter a glass ceiling. I believe most discrimination is self inflicted, we set ourselves up to be defined by discriminating factors. I have found this to be true of everyone, as a people we have spent billions of dollars passing regulations to make discrimination a thing of the past but have in fact perpetuated the problem by giving people a reason to assume someone else thinks less of them because of their gender, race, religion, or whatever.
That much said... I raised 2 brilliant, gifted children, mensa material, and I'm no slouch in the IQ department. If I have learned nothing else from my experiences I have a deep understanding of how similar the extreemly gifted and the intellectually challanged have in common. We share many of the same behavior and social issues. Both groups are on the ends of the scale and as far from normal as is possible. I can understand why anyone would be intimidated by that. Men who aren't attracted to smart women have a very good reason for it, especially those women who define their entire existance by their brain capacity. It is mentally and emotionally exhausting to maintain a relationship on those terms.
As for losing at games in order to make a person feel better about themselves, forget that!! It's a game, it's supposed to be fun, it's suppose to kill time, and it's supposed to challange the players... it's not about winning or losing, did we learn nothing in little league? | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 10/21/2006 6:10:38 PM | "but the one thing that I keep missing is a fairly intellectual and articulate guy that can rock my world"
come up and see me sometime, I'll chomsky your ear off! | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 11/1/2006 6:53:53 PM | We dont like smart women because we cant pull the wool over your eyes easily.
Like when we were out all night because of a flat tire, and the jack wouldnt work, so I had to wait for a tow truck, and the driver didnt get there untill 4am, and then his truck broke down on the way to the service station, then a tow truck came for his truck, and when he finally got there, he got lost, and we finally made it to the repair shop at 8am, they fixed the flat, and then I was able to get home by 9am.
They would never believe such a story, and we wouldnt want that!!!!
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 3/13/2007 5:13:32 PM | | The real scary thing is the statistic I just read on this site... of the 26 thousand people who are members here, only .07% like intelligent conversation. I can remember not to long ago when I could easily find a complete stranger to engage in intelligent conversation. I have almost completely given up the chase... at best I can expect a look of horror like 'how dare you speak to me’ from the manipulated and brain dead masses. No personal insult intended, Just a wake up call for anyone capable of independent thought. Humanity is all but dead... Who did it, who allowed it to happen, very sad indeed. | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 3/13/2007 8:01:48 PM | | Says who? I tend to PREFER smart women. I suppose I could just limit it to a Mensa pool or something. I supposedly would qualify, but intelligence is subjective. There are 'street smart' women that have a LOT of appeal. The thing is, intelligence to me means broadened potential (not just degrees or income--both of which can be had through clever hoop-jumping). Conversation should TAKE YOU SOMEWHERE...otherwise it's just discourse. It's like a good story or book, it should develop or expand. You wrote about breaking out of the suburbs in your profile. Yes, to me blandness and conformity aren't fertile territory for change and stimulation. You have to think outside of that 'box'. I think there are plenty of men around that appreciate a smart woman. The thing that I suspect a lot of us like is to feel something coming back as well--reciprocity. If you want to be admired, only, it may get difficult...best of luck to you :) | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 3/14/2007 10:00:47 PM | Texaspamc,
So if I say Nietzsche your aren't going to say Gesundheit? You know that the Mexican border doesn't pay $450 a month for a room over the garage? You know the difference between Osama and Obama?
We are out here, you must not be looking in the right places, or you are attracted to the wrong things.
Try things like bookstores, take a cooking class, join (not just go to) things like art museums, symphonies, opera. Unless you say "yawn" to those. In that case, I don't know many PhD's that like NASCAR (I do BTW...Go JR!) for anything other than analysis of thermodynamics and the direct relation of ambient temperature and tire pressure to crash ratios (I'm an engineer...).
Define further a smart guy. You mention education. To quote one of my favorite songs from one of my favorite artists...
My father's father was the wisest man I ever knew
Sixty years of education
Seven years of school
Farming kept his body strong
At night the only books he owned
Kepted his mind sharp as a tack
The family bible and the farmer's almanac
When to plant
When to havest
How you weed just what you sow
When to look for rain and who to turn to when it don't
There was a plan for early frost
Salvation for the lost
Words to live and die by front to back
The family bible and the farmer's almanac
One came from his mother
Handed down the day she died
The co-op sent the other
Every year at christmastime
He knew the seasons to the day
Knew Paul and Peter by first name
He could answer any question he was asked
With the family bible and the farmer's almanac
When to plant
When to havest
How you weed just what you sow
When to look for rain and who to turn to when it don't
There was a plan for early frost
Salvation for the lost
Words to live and die by front to back
The family bible and the farmer's almanac
He knew the way to get
Through this life to the next
While others spoke of faith
He found the facts
In the family bible and the farmer's almanac
I've seen people holding worthless pieces of sheepskin that proved they were educated beyond their ability. Look at every president since Reagan and tell me I'm not right. Look at every Prime Minister since Thatcher...and so on...Thatcher would have been a kick a** president, but then again, since we can't elect Arnold, Margaret is also out of the question...
As far as passion goes (in my best Jerry Seinfeld voice...) Meh! With the right person maybe, but why waste a valued emotion like that one someone that wouldn't appreciate it? Especially on the first date or two? The whole pearls before swine thing. Don't waste your passions on someone who doesn't appreciate them.
Beliefs? Me well, more than anything I'm an objectivist. Atlas shrugged and so did I. However, I own two bibles, a copy of the Torah with all sorts of added information, a translated copy of the Koran, Gita and many Buddhist teachings, along with tons of books on Philosophy. My belief is mine, based on and only on what I have experienced and the results of my translations and interpretations of those experiences.
If smart was based on an IQ test, on a bad day I'm at 168 (hungover and suffering from a lack of sleep...and yes it was 168 and under those conditions).
I've met people that score higher that are absolute idiots. Einstein was a genius and an idiot at the same time. I've met people that scored much lower and are wiser beyond anything I could ever hope to attain.
Don't troll bars looking for something that isn't there. I know me, personally, a bar is for one thing only, I go to a barber shop to get a haircut, a bar to drink. Good luck in your search.
The same way I'd never go to a church looking to find a mate, I'd never go to a bar expecting to find one either. Where did you find these disaster dates? | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 3/28/2007 8:43:08 PM | smart women rule!!
I have another question, Are blind people as shallow as some of the sighted? I mean do the visually handicapped have the same criteria for a partner with regard to aesthetics as persons with the gift of sight? Makes me wonder..
I also think that the dynamics of choosing a partner is more chemistry than anything else...I also think that personality plays a large roll in the continuity of relationships..either good or bad.. some people just shouldn't breed...... | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 3/28/2007 10:15:52 PM | | Well, if you are smart, i.e. above average, that means that necessarily most guys are dumber than you are. The smarter you get, the larger the percentage of guys who are dumber than you are gets. Now, if you are in South Florida, that exponentially increases the amount of guys who are dumber than you and the percentage by which they are dumber. Go to Hollywood Beach, and you are in big big trouble when looking for intellectual stimulation. The most intellectual they get over there is when someone orders eggplant on a pizza. Now, add to this that you love country music... wait, I am not dissing country, but it does make me want to claw my eyes out with a garden tool (except for Hank, Patsy, and Johnny Cash.) I have dug myself into a hole here. I am just trying to say that when guys are looking for some intellectual stimulation in a woman, they don't necessarily head for the nearest country music venue, so you may be missing a large percentage of the guys who might appreciate your smarts. I have really dug myself a hole here. What I am getting at is that it is probably difficult for most guys to hang with you because they probably feel intimidated. So, it is not that guys don't like smart women. It's just that nobody wants to feel outclassed, and the percentage of smart men is very small, and you are good-looking, so you probably even forget the geniuses you meet who aren't hotties and don't like country, so I am betting it only looks like guys don't like smart women from your vantage point. I can tell you probably really are smart because you are a Texas Democrat, and it must have been hellish trying to keep that up for more than a few months, let alone years. I was just living in Austin last year, and that is a sweet little island of Democrats, but as soon as you get outside Austin proper, well, you know. I guess you are out of the frying pan and into the fire. | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 3/28/2007 10:32:31 PM | | YOur question implies that ALL men don't like women and that, in it self, is stupid. AS is your general sentence saying: All of the guys want empty headed dolls. That is stupid also. Perhaps you do not reconize intelligence. Your only true and intelligent statement is, " your limited experience" | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 3/29/2007 12:59:07 PM |
[Now thats what im talking bout... want to add a 26 yr old to that list ]
sure -lol, but would probably take a while to train you....lol
Damn That Hurts | |
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| Why don't men like smart women?
Posted: 3/29/2007 1:08:29 PM |
as for not beating men at chess...don't beat them at Scrabble either, or trivial pursuit....they get very upset...it's like playing your kids, you play a good game, but in the end let them win to feel good about themselves
I cannot speak for any other men, but for myself, this is a sure fire way to get me mad!
I cannot let someone win just so they can save face... How in the hell are you going to learn anything that way? And, I certainly don't want to be allowed to win ... you might as well cut off my nads if I am not man enough to take a good beating and not learn anything from it! | |
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