| Dating an amputee
Posted: 2/13/2006 7:23:34 PM |
I don,t think anyone here has a disability or amputation so we may be sympathetic but how do we understand what they are going through??
uhh... My Ex has said that I don't even have half a brain... Does that count?
OT.. Of course I would. Love is about the person that they are. Not a little piece that is just the outside anyway. Any mature person would realize this. What would be more important was how THEY dealt with the loss. Meaning their personality. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 2/13/2006 8:02:21 PM | | Its nice to see that most of you would over look the disability. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 2/13/2006 9:29:07 PM | | I not only dated a amputee, I married her, It never bother me but I could not convince her of it. I tried to show her I love her for who she was not out of pity. It was the main factor that lead to our divorce | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 2/13/2006 10:59:16 PM | | I wouldn't mind & definetly date an amputee if we connect. The only thing that would bother me though , is if his penis would be amputated . I don't know about that one lol. | |
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kce33
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 2/14/2006 10:04:45 AM | geez one of my best friends is flat chested because of cancer, yet she is still one of the most beautiful women you will ever see, she attracts attention without trying to. its natural
we have tons of fun doing things together.... a great lady
i'm not a boob guy anyhow so its never been an issue for us....
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 2/14/2006 5:50:02 PM | ********************************Dateable...sure. Would I date them?...I turned down a guy because he was missing HALF of one of his fingers. So, obviously I wouldn't date them. Everyone deserves love, I just can't give my love to everyone******************
OMG how terribly rude. Obviously u have never had to overcome a disability, it's a finger...f*ck
*******************************I don,t think anyone here has a disability or amputation so we may be sympathetic but how do we understand what they are going through??******************************************
Be careful what u assume girl....u can never be too sure.
It's good to read most of the responses here and to see how much society has changed.
Some of u, no names, need to look in the mirror.............ewwww | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 2/14/2006 6:18:49 PM | Let's cuddle:
Of course they are datable. They are still people with complete thoughts, feelings, dreams ect. I dated someone in a wheelchair and we really fell hard for one another. It didn't work out but I have no regrets, I met an incredible person. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 2/14/2006 6:21:21 PM | | Dosn't matter want the situation is about a amputee.A person is a person! | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 2/14/2006 6:51:01 PM | for sure i will, as far as she's got a heart beat,cos it would be illegal if she ain't got one | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 2/14/2006 6:51:04 PM |  JenntheLPN
Don't let the one's with low self-esteem get to ya Hon.. they have to diss someone else to make themselves feel better..
Oh.. and if they're dissin' someone who's had to have something amputated.. lets face it.. they have serious issues! 
OT:
To me.. it's not what a person is missing.. it's who they are period!!
Besides..who the hell am I to judge?
I'm far from perfect.. I am perfectly FLAWED!!
Everyone's datable.. well.. everyone but an A$$hole!
Shells | |
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Posted: 2/15/2006 2:03:51 PM | | Ok I'm going to step up to the plate here. I have a slight disability. Many years ago I slipped on some ice and fell backwards and put my hands out to stop the fall. I broke both of my scaphoid bones among others. At the time I was told only one wrist was broken and had only one cast, the other was wrapped in a tensor bandage. In 2002 I started having problems with my left hand, and I'm left handed. I had x-rays, bone scans, MRI, and nerve conduction tests to find the problem. It was the MRI I believe that clearly showed that the bones had not healed in my left hand. one of the broken bones was against the nerves in my hand causing the pain. I was referred to the best hand surgeon in the area, and scheduled for a "wrist fusion". A wrist fusion in my case was where they removed the last two rows of bones at the base of the hand/wrist, ground them up and along with removing bone from my left hip, mixed it with some form of material and filled in the gap. A stainless steel plate 3/4" wide and about 7" long was then attached to my hand and arm bone with several screws. I can not bend my wrist, the last two fingers move very little, and have nerve damage in my hand which makes picking things up etc difficult. I have found very little trouble in finding women friends, after all I'm an intelligent, articulate person. I can't do the one handed un-hook the bra with the left hand, but i'm learning with my right hand now. (Anyone willing to help my therapy? LOL) The only issue I do have is during all this I have been un-employed and am finding it difficult to find a suitable employer to overlook the handicap. So in a nut shell I thank the women who have not avoided me because of my little disability. Now if the Human Resources people were only that way. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 2/15/2006 3:00:57 PM | | From reading this thread it's very clear that people prefer someone with disabiliies over an obese and shallow person... at least disabilities are not self-inflicted! | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 2/19/2006 7:41:10 PM | My friend married a double amputee because she fell in love with him instantly. Something about his smile, and how captivated she was with him when he spoke.
Would I date an amputee? Absolutely, if the magic was there.
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/9/2006 10:17:11 AM | I think that a disability can add an intersting an unique aspect to a relationship.
I have always had a preference for women who are amputees.
Am I a "stump fetishist"? No.
Is it a turn-on? Yes, it often is...if she's otherwise fit, funny and intelligent.
Will a missing limb sustain a relationship? Of course not...there has to be something more...chemistry, mutual attraction, trust, and more.
JP | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/9/2006 10:44:42 AM | I can't say its something i look for but, I met a lady not long ago that was in a wheelchair, I have no idea why, we only met once, and I flirted with her, she seemed to like it, I would love to see her again, and go out with her. I think she was a little shy, so I probebily wouldn't have gotten a date if I asked, and I thought we would see each other again, but I haven't, so now I wish I was more forward then.
So no it wouldn't bug me a bit, if it was someone I liked. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/9/2006 11:48:48 AM | I think it would be an interesting dimension to a relationship - mad at him for being a goofball? Easy - hide his leg/wheelchair/crutches until he's a good boy...  | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/9/2006 12:04:10 PM | omg I'm shocked at some of the shallow responses, I know I shouldn't be shocked but so many people who are less than perfect themselves are going to write someone off for missing a limb , or even half a finger?!?! what if *you* got into some kinda accident and were the one missing a limb?
oh meh , I always lose a little faith in humankind when I read these threads.
interesting too how the pickiest people don't seem to have too much to offer themselves, hmmm long single lonely future for many! | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/10/2006 3:05:33 PM | Well i have dated a few men with half a brain in my time!
What a shallow way to look at people, just because they have had the misfortune to lose, legs, arms, fingers, breasts etc, they are STILL people, STILL worth the effort in getting to know and love. Gawd what about all the ugly people in the world, they may have all their limbs and be ugly, they also STILL need to be loved. There but for the grace of god springs to mind! The treatment for cancer in a lot of cases involves losing limbs, they may be altered physically, but still be the lovely person they were before being struck down, does this mean they then become nonentities...........
Some people are beautiful on the outside and horrible and nasty in their personalities. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/10/2006 4:52:29 PM | | I feel all people should be able to experience love no matter if they are not good looking, have a disabilty, missing a limb, or have a run of bad luck, whos to judge who someone should and should not date. I once met a carpenter who was born with a half a arm their was nothing he could not do with one hand that some men with 2 full arms could do. Seeing him hammer a nail with one hand was very impressive on how he hammerred the nail and it was in a fast motion. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/10/2006 6:32:59 PM | I went out with a man for about two weeks before i even noticed he was missing his baby finger. Didn't change my attitude about him at all.
When in love, it doesn't matter!
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 9/28/2006 5:54:13 AM | Sure I would whats that matter anyway, if a person is what you are looking for its kind of shallow to judge on that...Plus who knows you could be like that in the future, think how you would want treated | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 9/28/2006 6:17:40 AM | I have a younger cousin that was born with a hand deformity, my aunt lost both of her breasts to cancer and I once dated a guy that was missing some of his toes.
To balk at someone just cause they are not "whole" is shallow and disgusting. They are not any less of a person cause of their disability, it's the people that pass judgement on them that are!
Would I date someone that wasn't "whole"? I have and would again in a heartbeat! Love is love!! | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 9/28/2006 6:28:15 AM | I can only think of one time that you couldn't date an amputee.
When you look at them and see a pathetic creature, to be pitied, to feel sorry for. Somebody that you date as a favour, and not becasue you enjoy dating them.
Relationships depend of the twon cornerstones of love and respect and sympathy/pity still remains the sweetest for of contempt that you can show towards somebody. | |
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