| Dating an amputee
Posted: 2/9/2008 9:50:03 PM |
I did date a young woman in high school who lost a leg from the knee down and eventually used a prosthetic leg. She had lost in a car accident. The leg was pinned under a munched dash board to long and didn't survive. She was pretty and smart, great eyes. We had always got along wonderfully since Jr. High. I didn't feel sorry for her, I didn't treat her any differently and we had amazing sex since I never made her feel less then whole. Though we were not going out at the time, I wasn't planning on going to prom, was never into the whole school experience thing, she asked me to take her to it since no one asked her and I did willingly and had a great time. We even wound up dating again for about 5 months until she went off to college.
I also dated a woman who had a breast removed from cancer but we stopped having sex until she was healed and had an implant done to replace and it because she was self conscience about it, not me. I was aound 24 at the time and we were already dating when this happend and it didn't change how I felt about her in any way. We parted when I got stationed overseas for an extended period of time and she met someone else.
something about this entire post sounds like you shed pity on them and made yourself their hero and that you give yourself lots of pats on the back for treating a human like a human. I like the part where you say the sex was amazing "because you never made her feel less than whole" - now that's funny. Are you sure it wasn't just great because she came the way you like or that you had a thing for her because on the inside you felt she was less superior to you? Again, IMO, this just sounds messed up. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 2/10/2008 12:25:58 AM | What do you call a guy with no arms and no legs and who's floating in the ocean?
Bob | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 2/10/2008 3:59:51 AM | It's the same as everyone else. We are all individual . We all hoave our prreferences. WE all have our limits.
eg some post in these boards is a girl who was told by her BF that if she lost 30 pounds he would give her an engagement ring. This guy has a problemm with fat let alone disfigured.
But we still all have our limits, be it amputee, paraplegic, retard, or anything else.
The main turn on still remains horny, the main turn off remains beechy. | |
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| I am an amputee!!!
Posted: 2/23/2008 4:23:46 AM | Hello everyone,
I have lost my right leg to a fight with cancer at 24, the whole leg. I am 29 now and looking to get my romantic life started again. Let me tell you a little something, I used to be that meat head nice musclular guy that looked great (meaning stereotypically great, I still look good but different). I used online dateing when I had two legs, and was very very successful, I met a lot of women and had great fun. Even though women's complaint is that the don't want a guy looking for just a quick hook up it does take two to get to that point, and I was having my fair share of fun.
Than I got sick, lost my leg. Now I am online searching for one woman. One woman to be mine for here and forever, but very few ladies have even taken the time to see if they could be attracted to me. I mean I just got a rejection letter from a woman who I sent two and a half emails to and she responded back. She informed me that I was to wrapped up in issues about my missing leg. I mean two letters and this person has broken me down psychologically to the point that she is recomending to me that I should work on myself before I trying finding someone to love. I just had to laugh, I mean the one with the obvious issue about my missing leg wasn't me, but so she could justify ending communications with a perfectly normal guy she had to place the blame somewhere else (i.e. me). Anyways it's simple, I had two legs I could date anyone. I have one leg now and getting a date is harder. But hey if the roles were reversed I don't know, heck I don't think I would have ever considered a amputee to date. I mean a shoplifter doesn't take the broken items.
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| I am an amputee!!!
Posted: 2/23/2008 5:01:59 AM | | See? People have double standards. You probably wouldn't have given an amputee a second look but you want people to accept you. It's like the stocky men who won't date a chunky woman. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 6/7/2008 7:25:30 PM | | Yes, I would date a woman who was an amputee or used a wheelchair. I don't think it would make her less attractive; if anything, it would just make her more unique and special. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 6/9/2008 4:44:46 AM | | I would most certainly date an amputee, or a woman with another disability or physical difference. One of my greatest regrets in life is that I did not marry an amputee I knew in grad school long ago. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 6/9/2008 6:15:24 AM | | If there was a connection there, I may consider it. Not opposed to it, I look at personality too....Though there has to be some physical attraction for sure...But that doesn't include something that happened beyond control. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:13:13 AM | | I once dated a girl who had lost both breasts to cancer. She was having a very hard time dealing with it - understandably. She drank herself into oblivion regularly and popped pills to escape. I tried to be her friend but she was on a road to self destruction and I couldn't really help her. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:25:08 AM | | i see no problem with amputees or anyone with any disability... i have dated a few and have enjoyed my time with all of them. My present partner has fibromyalgia and severe arthritis and i am diabetic and have had a heart attack. Both of us have a type of disability...we all have some type of disability....the type and severity may vary but it is there. You just have to overlook it and concentrate on the personality....that is the deciding factor that may or may not keep you coming back. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:26:58 AM | If she touched my heart and was attractive in the ways I find attractive yes. I had a friend who had half arm.. and although I think she was scared shitless of me because I was and still am a freak I would have dated her in a heart beat.. She was kind, caring, goal orientated and had a great rack and ass and wasnt hard on the eyes and when she smiled you melted.
Anyways.. still friends with her.. she got married and moved to saskatchewan. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/30/2008 12:21:05 AM | | As an active member of this site and as an amputtee I just want to say that if any man rejects me because of this then.............I dont wanna know him!! Attraction can be a strange thing but I would hope that my personality and humour will win a guy over | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/30/2008 12:39:36 AM | I've gone out with women who had had their brain removed; does that count? 
Honestly, I've never had the opportunity one way or the other; I like to think it wouldn't make any difference. I've known amputees, and I know I didn't look at them any differently; but I've never been in a situation where a romantic involvement was a possibility.
On a seperate note; my ex was a therapist; and we would go to wheelchair basketball games. Talk about a blast; those guys are amazing! The games are very fast, very physical, balls to the wall, and their shooting is incredible. Sometimes when basketball players start shooting crappy shots they'll say "His legs are going away." You should see guys shooting who have no legs; completely smooth, and total skill. I highly recommend going to a game if you get the chance. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/30/2008 4:41:24 AM | I haven't ever dated one, but if I met someone who was and they were nice and stuff then yeah...
Physical stuff doesn't really bother me.
And it shouldn't bother anyone else for that matter!  | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/30/2008 6:17:51 AM | | Friends yes ,, date NO , i do not find missing body parts attractive , i need attraction ,, and for ppl who wanna get all pissy saying im close minded , don't bother im simply answering the question b4 us, in my opinion . I could say " hey Sally " i think your great , but not in a sexual way . My loss , i would date a women with 6 thits tho !! | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/30/2008 6:36:21 AM | I thought about this before when I saw this hot runner on TV who had a prosthetic leg...
Yeah, I definitely would, as long as they weren't down about it. If there were two girls, one with both legs, and one missing a leg, and they both liked me but the one with two legs was a superficial gal, and the other was a very deep, caring person, I would choose the one missing a leg. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/30/2008 7:33:10 AM | Absolutely I would, check out Kelly Knox on the cover of Marie Claire. Wow she has crazy gorgeous eyes.
http://www.mailonsunday.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1039730/I-born-left-arm--I-modelling-contract.html
I've never really considered physical beauty the primary goal. I'am attracted to extremely intelligent or 'bright' women. Physical beauty is so fleeting and really I'm looking for a long term commitment. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/30/2008 8:40:24 AM | That camping joke was hilarious.
I give a lot of credit to the woman who said she had a wonderful relationship with the man who couldn't achieve penetration with her but pleased her orally and otherwise. I think I am too shallow to date a man whose penis didn't function. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/30/2008 8:44:59 AM | | Have I dated a disabled person - not yet, would I - you bet. It's about friendship, companionship and one doesn't need all appendages to make love. I have an invisible disability that requires lots of pain meds for me - I've had no problems finding a date. I haven't found one I want to keep yet but I know he's out there. What sets people apart is outlook on life, not counting fingers and toes. | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 7/30/2008 9:07:15 AM | | I would much rather date someone without a leg, arm, or eye than someone without a heart! | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 8/4/2008 9:21:56 AM | I'm amputee, yet I'm not shouting that to everyone. I know there are people who cant imagine to be with someone who is missing some parts.. I just want to tell my story, if it helps anyone.
My leg was ambutated when I was 16 years old, due to cancer, and my longtime bf chosed to stay single, and I thought I'll never find a boyfriend anymore - and I was so surprised that I was as "popular" as I was before. Well, I think most boys felt sorry for me seeing me walking with sticks - young, happy, pretty girl and had a cancer.. and they came to talk with me. At the time I was so young there was no sex planned, just having some fun together.
When I started to use prosthesis, I felt like I was cheating men.. they still liked me, but they couldn't guess I'm missing some part.. so if somebody seemed to be interested of me more than just talking, I was gently telling that I'm not totally what he see, and told I have prosthesis leg. Nobody never said :"ok, bye then"!!!! Maybe I was filtering myself those men who could dislike me :) who knows. But when you talk with someone, you'll get to know better, and you know if he/she is worth of you... Anyway nowadays when I remember those days as a single, I'm very proud of these men I met, they were gentleman! I got married at the age of 23, and my hubby has never had any problems with my disability. It's only part of me ..
To James, I think dating online may be harder for people with disabilities. People don't know you, they cant see your personality, they only make some kind of images in their heads of you. The best way is to go out and conquer the women with your personality :):) | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 8/4/2008 11:42:57 AM | NO not in a million years. Ask Paul McCartney how that turned out!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 8/4/2008 11:57:47 AM | I have no doubt that dating is harder for people with disabilities, yet there are definitely people out there who would welcome someone with disabilities into their hearts. Most of the women I have loved, starting with my first middle school girlfriend, have had some type of physical difference or disability. I regret none of these relationships. and believe that I have been much more fortunate in love than most people.
Sometimes people who like you will be shy, so it is fine to take a little risk and be the one to take the first step. I know that can be hard.
I wish you the best of luck, and send you and others with disabilities or differences the best of encouragement.
-Gray | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 8/4/2008 1:31:59 PM | | I wonder how hard it is to date for someone after she have had breast cancer... | |
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| Dating an amputee
Posted: 8/4/2008 1:42:04 PM | I wish he would tell us if his divorce has nothing to do with her beatiful wife not having her own leg. lol I guess I could like him ;) He's not prejudice.
Well.. I just need to say: don't compare anyone to Heather Mills and what you can see when you are looking at her - she has lots of money to spend in her prosthesis, where as we "general" people can only imagine for the leg like that! lol | |
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