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 Next Time Round

Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 25
Why are Jealous or Protective Women Bad?
Posted: 1/24/2008 8:03:30 PM
I don't think there is anything wrong with desiring or yearning for your partner as long as it's a healthy desire. If those needs are being met, then it's easy to say "I'm good," and not be upset if both you and your partner also need to be social and engaging with others. I think that a problem arises when your own needs are not being met. Then anyone else who has your partner's attention can be seen as a threat. And that's when things can become extemely unhealthy quite quickly.

I don't buy into the fact that jealousy and love are entirely mutually exclusive tho. Judeo-Christian and numerous other religions refer to God/gods who possess both traits -- and say that human beings are either created in the image of the former or should aspire to be like the latter. I think it's a matter of balance and moderation.
 sunshine_1969

Joined: 11/13/2007
Msg: 26
Why are Jealous or Protective Women Bad?
Posted: 1/24/2008 8:17:08 PM

Jelousy is a lousy horrible little mean monster. It can only cause problems and grief. If I don't have any reason to be jelous I won't be, I can for sure watch my man across the room chatting to any chick he wants , and I can also be secure with a chick trying to chat up my man, for its in my mind, I am going home with him, not her and I would feel blessed that other women find MY man sexy, BUT there is a line not to cross. I was once with my fiance holding his hand and standing near the bar, another chick walked right up and disrespected me and asked my man out on a date, and to me that was wrong. I didn't have to do anything though I stood there and waited for his response and he told her the right thing , he was with me and no thanks. I have also had another women walk up and start kissing and being all over him, All I could think was I better be seeing MY man push the chick away, if he didn't I wouldnt cause a fight, I would just walk away, she can have him. I want to be with someone I can trust COMPLETELY and there is no: what? if ?ands? or buts? about it.


Sugar n Sweet I TOTALLY AGREE, couldnt have said it any better.....no man is worth a cat fight and I am talking from experience..I walked away...........there is lots more fish in the sea.
 Ignoble

Joined: 10/11/2007
Msg: 27
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Why are Jealous or Protective Women Bad?
Posted: 1/25/2008 9:07:43 PM
RE: First post.

Because women often cross the thin line from Jealous/Protective into Overbearing/Suffocating/Nosy Busybodies. We appreciate the concern. I personally cherish it but women often just go too far, its one thing to express these feelings to me its quite another to make a giant drama about and to actually do things that involve my personal life without my permission. Just because I care for a woman doesnt give her permission to go trapsing through my affairs.
 tomollie

Joined: 3/27/2007
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Why are Jealous or Protective Women Bad?
Posted: 1/26/2008 12:51:13 PM
I have a plaque on the end of my cupboards that says "Jealousy is the fastest way to loose something you want to hold on to!" I have stopped two relationships just because of jealousy on her part........I wouldn't be with someone if I couldn't trust them totally and expect the same in return.
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