mytoy
| | Joined: 11/14/2004
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| | can men accept someone with bipolar?Page 2 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | | I would like to thank all of you who have replied to this post. it is always helpful to have everyones opinions regardless of good or bad. keep posting.. thank you | |
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| can men accept someone with bipolar?
Posted: 7/12/2006 11:15:30 AM | | Ive tried to be with someone who is bipolar and sorry to all those who do have BP Disorder who are nice and not that bad but its not worth it in my opinion trying to make it work. They dont know what they want in my opinion. They drift. Make decisions on a wim without realising who its going to hurt. In my opinion, they are selfish. Sorry if that offends anyone but everyone does have their own opinion. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 1:50:47 PM | | I used to know someone with bipolar i can understand this somewhat it must not be fun i can even bet it makes it hard for you to make friends or even keep them let alone a relationship listen let me give you some advice find out what medication you should be taking if it is even the right one at that you mite find your taking the wrong one or maybe you need more of or less of remembor this is a chemical inbalance inside you ,so its not your fault its rough having to control some demon, what you need is constant reassureance from loved ones who know and understand is what you need to find | |
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Posted: 7/16/2006 10:17:39 PM | I will tell you something. I understand Bipolar. My 18 year old daughter is bipolar so is my other
daughter she is 24 is married has 2 children. She is taking medication for it. I know it,s very hard i have to live with my daughter. She has many problems. The first thing you have to do is understand it. And medication and support groups help also. I myself see a therapist to help me deal with it. Their our different levels. You can be happy but you have to take care of your self first. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2006 10:33:18 PM | I think it is important that you go on meds; 1 out of 8 people with bipolar commit suicide. Not good. It is not a perfect solution, but it is better than the alternative. Bipolar meds include Depakote, Risperdal, Zyprexa, etc., look them up.
I think a lot of people do not seek treatment for their bipolar because they are in denial. In pop psychology, bipolar="crazy", and who would like to admit that they are "crazy"? Of course, statements like "everyone has bipolar" or "it is made up", and people like Tom Cruise only confuse the situation. Remember, in almost all circumstances, being proactive is better than being in denial. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 12:51:39 PM | I was in a relationship with a woman for 4 years diagnosed as bipolar and manic depressive.
So yes it can happen, does happen and will continue to happen. I know from experience that it can be very difficult and confusing but the more time spent trying to understand the *person* and what they deal with, the easier it is to figure out why things happen the way they do sometimes, and not take it personally, which was one of MY hardest things to understand, but I understood it better over time.
My suggestion is, that if a person REALLY wants to try a serious relationship with someone with BP or any other similar diagnosis is to find the closest support group and go to it. You need to hear from a neutral and informed source what to expect and how people deal with it. These are serious issues that need to be discussed openly and talking to real people who deal with real issues are your best bet.
And for those of you who are tempted to use the word 'crazy' casually or suggest that all women are bipolar... obviously have not taken any time to understand the reality of the situation. Calling someone crazy is just ignorant and inconsiderate, if it were you with a mental diagnosis, I can't imagine you would appreciate being called crazy. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 1:22:39 PM | | Yes I tried and got hurt really bad because I fell in love with her and still am. She though she was allright and stoped taking her meds witch I didn't know at the time that she had this infliction.She went back on them and the sweet person I had met was back but not long after that she did the samething and I had to break it of because I have a young child at home.stay current whith your meds.My hesrt feels for you | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 3:30:23 AM | | I dated a bipolar woman for a while and the problem was, I never knew who was going to answer the door when I went to her place. Sometimes it would be a vibrant fun blonde, all sweetness and light wearing a silk kimono and nothing else; other times it would be psycho**** with raging anger management issues ready to castrate me because I hadn't called her in 6 hours. I suspected she was either BP or had borderline personality disorder, or both. She told me the name of the med she was on which I looked up in the PDR and my dx was confirmed. We discussed how this was affecting any potential relationship we might have and agreed that when she was in the latter state we just would't meet up. Didn't work. I really liked her when she was level. I'm no reincarnation of Abraham Mazlow, myself, and the effects on my own mood state weren't good. We gave it 2 or 3 more tries, after which I sent her packing. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 5:01:43 PM | I was married to a woman that was bipolar.The real problem was that it took several years before the dr's agreed that she WAS bipolar.It was a very difficult relationship. We never seemed to get things worked out.We divorced in 1999 and I haven't seen her since.I don't think I could ever date someone that is bipolar.I know that it's not fair to the new person but
my bad past marriage would mess it up anyway! | |
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Posted: 7/23/2006 1:34:48 PM | Yes, men can accept someone with bi-polar, but I agree with the person who said especially a man who has had past problems with depression.
Everyone is different. I was never bi-polar but I did struggle with depression when I was younger. Here is my advice based on what worked for me.
1) Stay away from alcohol and drugs.
2) exercise regularly, the more the better.
This will help you feel better but it won't help you get better.
In order to get better I had to change how I thought. I had to quit using words like always and never. When you are upset right your thoughts down on paper. Read what you wrote later when you don't feel so upset. You may realize you are drawing irrational conculsions. It takes awhile to change the way you think, after all negative thinking is basically just a bad habit. I highly suggest reading Albert Ellis.
Meds didn't work at all for me. I tried prozac and zoloft.
Lastly, you might want to avoid any serious relationships. If you are already depressed getting dumped can be devasting. A lot of people think finding the right person will make all the difference. While it is nice to be in a good relationship you ultimately have to take responsibility for your own happines. I'm not saying that you are thinking this but often people do rely on others to feel happy. Regardless of what you try just keep trying different things until you find what works for you. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2006 8:26:54 AM | | well all i say is yes we can i have a gf that is bi polar since i have known her in the last 4 years she has tried to kill herself and ran off with gambling and sex but i know that she cares for me so i accept her. and love her hope she gets better and have a decent life | |
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Posted: 8/4/2006 8:00:48 PM | | Yes, I know after seeng a couple where the woman suffered from it, they were married for 52 years in fact. Any man who wouldnt be willing to accept a condition like that, when he loves her, isnt worth it any way. Personally, it does not scare me at all. LOL, more terrified of the perfect ones, with no faults , baggage etc. They would be more likely to dwell on my many problems/ inperfections! Good luck | |
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Posted: 8/5/2006 10:37:09 AM | I was with a BPD wife, for 10 years...she refused medication, and never lasted long in therapy. My advice to any man, in a relationship with someone who has a mental disorder, is to make sure you don't sacrifice yourself. Do not allow yourself to believe you should "take it like a man". I did that, and all it did was bring continued heartbreak. If they are refusing treatment, then they don't truly care about those around them. They will suck the life out of you.
I wouldn't consider accepting anyone who's not trying to get better, with professional help.
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hiss
| | Joined: 7/16/2004
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Posted: 9/5/2006 9:04:16 PM | | My toy my heart breaks for u and all people with mental heath probs. i was married to a women who was b/p knew her cycles like the back of my hand.The spending the affairs the raging but i stood with her till she finally left me.She still has my heart and always will.There is someone who is purposed to love u know matter what better or worse -hope u find him and when u do when ur not manic let him know that his support is everything | |
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Posted: 9/6/2006 12:05:56 AM | | I myself am not bipolar,but someone very close to me has it.He is one of the most creative,funny,talented,loving people I have ever had the pleasure of knowing.The best advice I can give to someone who is considering dating someone with bipolar is not to take their down periods personally.If they are in a grey mood,you really cant cheer them up.If they need space during that time,it isnt personal and in no way a reflection on your relationship with them.I dont think its really a matter of ,"can a man accept dating you because you have bipolar."Its a matter of finding someone who appreciates all of the wonderful qualities that make you who you are.I think if a bipolar person is diligent about taking their meds,and has positive supportive people in their lives,they can sometimes excell in life even moreso than the average person who doesnt have it. So many people with bipolar are wonderful artists,musicians ect.Its a shame there is such a stigma in our society regarding mental illness.We all have our "things" we deal with in life.JMHO,Kat | |
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Posted: 2/19/2007 11:28:26 AM | | I think that some men can accept women with bipolar, while others cant. Being honest with a person is number 1. I myself am bipolar and it scares alot of men away when I tell them the truth. But remember Love conquers all, and the right one will understand. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2007 6:55:39 PM | | I was bipolar and I have short term memory loss and I find it hard that many people can't accept me for what I have. | |
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IaMale
| | Joined: 3/12/2006
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| can men accept someone with bipolar?
Posted: 3/16/2007 7:12:01 AM | | I would have to say from experience, it is hard to deal with someone who has B/P. The love of my life had it and it was a real roller-coaster ride. What a lot of people don't realize is that a lot of B/P's also have drinking problems which inhances the drug effects , mood swings, ect. But it wouldn't scare me away from someone who has it. It's not like guys say " Hey I'll think date a bi-polar chick"! In my experience I met my gal sober and fell totally in love .......but had to deal with raging alcoholic episodes for 3yrs later. I think people need to be educated when dealing with this type of illness, not all people act the same ya know. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2007 4:33:29 PM | i have bipolar and not many people understand that. i know this makes realtionships difficult. i want to be happy and sometimes i am but then somethimes not. any advise?
*shakes magic 8 ball*
"Your future looks grim"
Lets face it. Not very many people can deal with someone with bipolar, and those that think they can do it in a way as to act like a doctor-patient, so the relationship isn't a genuine one.
I think a lot of people do not seek treatment for their bipolar because they are in denial. In pop psychology, bipolar="crazy"
You should not blanket your personal opinion with a medical diagnosis, and perhaps be re-educated on the topic. Crazy and bipolar are two separate things and if you invested your time to read up on the issue, or even ask a psycologist, you will get a different answer than the comment you projected at the community. Oh, and I am sure the issues are dealt with psychiatrists and not psychologists, so there is no psychology in it. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2007 10:27:11 PM |
Bi Polar people off meds are just plain crazy.
I don't take meds, I am bipolar, and I am not crazy.....imagine that?
Meds don't work for everyone.
As far as the OP's situation.....It won't be that easy....a lot of people don't know much about it, and pretty much throw it in the same catagory as being psycho or something to that affect.
There are people out there that will accept someone with the disorder, there are some that will understand how it affects you(seeing as it isn't the same for everyone who has it).
There's always hope, just have some patience. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2007 7:21:36 AM | have bipolar and not many people understand that. i know this makes realtionships difficult. i want to be happy and sometimes i am but then somethimes not. any advise You don't catch 'bi-polar' like the flu or something so no offense but 'having bi-polar' is not possible . You may BE bi-polar which means literally two poles, this is a metaphor to explain the mental instability of people who have extreme mood swings and mood changes spontaneously and randomly. It manifests itself most of the time in irrational and un-exaplainable . MOst people THINK they are bi-polar but are actually just either bored, unhappy, emotional or depressed...despression can be exhibited or expressed by people with bi-polar disorder, but because someone has croni depression does not mean they are bi-polar. The same goes for people who are very emotional, they are not bi-polar simply because they are moody and cry a lot. They are bi-polar if at one moment they love you, then the next they are trying to kill you by throwing a glass ash-tray at you. Most of the time people who are bi-polar are frustrated because they cann9ot control these swings at all.Unlike other people they are at the mercyt of the chemicle imblances that culminate in chaotic mood swings..
I hope that helps. I have family that is diagnosed clincally as being bi-polar. It's pretty ****ing crazy to witness. | |
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theeyb
| | Joined: 3/17/2007
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| can men accept someone with bipolar?
Posted: 3/21/2007 9:08:27 PM | | This is a serious question i'm asking; If the bipolar want to be understood and loved, if the majority of those without this disorder struggle with this, why aren't the bipolar turning to each other for realationships. I Googled this disorder and all the sites seem to agree that 1% of the population have this diorder. THAT's A LOT OF PEOPLE! So are any of you looking to each other for comfort, or just complaining that no one understands? | |
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Posted: 3/23/2007 9:53:45 AM | I *completely* understand!
I was married to a woman who appeared to suffer from a combination of bipolar/manic depressive behavior. (She was never officially diagnosed with a particular condition - but had been to therapists and psychiatrists as a teenager, after she attempted to commit suicide by swallowing a whole bottle of Tylenol. She was put on medications, but apparently quit seeing the doctor in the middle of their experimentation to find a drug that worked.)
When I met her, she seemed normal enough, but was trying to get out of what she claimed was a really bad relationship with a foreign guy who was trying to get his U.S. citizenship. In hindsight, this was probably a "caution flag" in and of itself - but she had explanations for everything, and I guess I wanted to believe her.
I made the mistake of believing in the "love can conquer all" mentality. It seemed like she was simply a good person who really needed a guy to put up a few "guardrails" along her road of life, to make sure she didn't steer herself off the edge every now and then.
After we got married, problems escalated when I lost my job and money got tight. It became obvious she wasn't capable of holding down a job for any length of time. She was always able to impress an employer during an interview, and got jobs easily enough. But within weeks or months, she was always terminated. (And as usual, she ALWAYS had a creative excuse for it. Things were NEVER her own fault.)
She started making really irrational decisions, like deciding to "go back to school", and then making a really poor choice in schools (non-accredited college with HIGH tuition). Of course, she didn't even finish - and owes thousands in student loans for nothing, even today.
Finally, she up and left me one day, while I was at work. She claimed we just "needed some time apart to fix things" -- but that apparently included her cleaning out every last item of value in the house and taking 2 vehicles (with the help of a cousin of hers)! I filed for divorce and never looked back.
I ended up losing everything, had to file Chapter 7, and start over from scratch. A good friend of mine with a diagnosed bipolar wife went through some scarily similar stuff, and some other "interesting" problems (including her smashing out all his windows in a fit of rage/jealousy and killing his dog - and then acting like it was "no big deal" a few days later). | |
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