| I'm losing my faith and respect for women
Posted: 10/31/2009 3:34:53 PM | shore66:
There is a school of thought that postulates that we are attracted to those who will recreate the unresolved issues of out childhoods, giving us the opportunity to have a different outcome. However, unless and until we learn different ways of coping, we will keep meeting the "same" person, and having the same unhappy result.
Quite true. Patterns repeat synchronistically. rather eerie how the same people, physical/personality archetypes for better or worse, will keep coming around us, and it is us who are "generating" this outcome/pattern from the software of our past experiences, some of which we don't even remember consciously. | |
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| I'm losing my faith and respect for women
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:57:15 PM | Ah yes, and what about men who are players?
Yes I work 2nd shift Mon-Fri. I am not insinuating anything, but I feel like I am always on the back burner. The guy may spend 2-3 hours on a Sat eve with me. I am here all weekend, why is it such a big deal unless he's playing games with someone else? Hell I bet he's married.
Huh, I give up at this age. I am content by myself. Just nice to have a companion. Well if he's full of games, the boys will scare him off. | |
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| I'm losing my faith and respect for women
Posted: 11/1/2009 7:43:40 PM | Okay, I think you need to understand transactional relationship theory. What do you have to offer a woman, and what does she have to offer you? You will notice that very wealthy but physically unattractive men will date very young beautiful women. Or a woman who wants to stay home and have children will marry a guy she finds dull but is a steady provider. Do you have a lot of money? A good sense of humor? Are you fun to be around? These are things you can trade for the qualities that you want. People are not required to provide themselves to you for nothing.
Maybe in order to spend time with this woman, you need to take her out for dinner all the time, and accept the fact that she spends time with other guys. Is it worth it to you? If it's not, you need to move on. You cannot change people. And people will never give you something for nothing. If you are happy in a relationship it probably means you are taking more than you are giving, which creates an imbalance and signals the end is near. The fact that you are unhappy means that she is taking more than she is giving, and you are letting her. The only chance for mutual happiness is a type of steady state where you each have qualities that you find value in each other and are able to be exchanged for a result that is more than the sum of its parts.
I agree with you that women are mercenary, depraved, and selfish. But I would extend that definition to those among us with a Y chromosome. It's a childish way to be and sometimes childishness can be attractive - the qualities that make you despise her are probably closely related to her characteristics that you find alluring. It's my instinct that you would not be satisfied with a level-headed, loyal, and straight-forward woman who insists on paying for her half of the dinner. You just wouldn't because it's not in your nature (or that of most men) and it's your cross to bear, and manage as graciously as you can, just like many women are attracted to the "wrong type" of man who often has a lot of sexy qualities (not a coincidence).
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| I'm losing my faith and respect for women
Posted: 11/1/2009 8:48:20 PM |
You and many men here in the US are sick and tired of what you mentioned plus more - it's called "feminism". This is a disease amongst most western females. Many men here in the US are boycotting western females altogether and going with meeting up with foreign women not using personal sites but going to their native country (eastern europe seems to be popular) finding that woman void of any westerized garbage disease of the brain, marrying them and living there. They will not bring those females here in the west, because if they do they'll in time be Americanzied and then they'll be a lost cause like most of them already here.
Just go to dontmarry.com and see the multitude of threads pertaining to this.
I've adopted living the Lifelong Bachelor status as it was my choice than to deal with westerized female trash on the MOST part.
women in western culture have more choices today than ever...so it's natural they make use of them. unfortunately, some women (and some men) aren't particularly nice...you can't blame western culture for that. it's mere opportunity, that perhaps is not available to women in other cultures...for better or worse. at any rate, you're chasing a red herring...ie blaming the wrong thing...and why blame at all....if it did any good....but it's wasted....you gotta move forward.... | |
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| I'm losing my faith and respect for women
Posted: 11/1/2009 9:57:35 PM | Is it "western women", and men who are stuck with them?
or "current people" and those who are stuck with them?
What you look for, you will find. You might have a few tainted apples in the bunch; but if you are sure you are going to find decent, relatable, respectful and fun, you'll find it.
If you are convinced you're going to find uppity, entitled, prima donna-ish, playerish men OR women, you'll find them.
For every player, cheat or liar you come across, there is one less to wade through before you hit a person who is what you believe is out there.
The second you believe and lose respect for women or men? you will be disrespectful, and you will breed more of what you fear is out there. But it is originating from you.
Isn't it nicer to think positiviely and give the benefit of the doubt, just like you'd want someone to do with you? Nothing mroe attractive than positivity; nothing more ugly than cynicism and negativity. Put the positive out there, and find the good eggs. There are lots out there. | |
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| I'm losing my faith and respect for women
Posted: 11/1/2009 10:04:33 PM |
Isn't it nicer to think positiviely and give the benefit of the doubt, just like you'd want someone to do with you? Nothing mroe attractive than positivity; nothing more ugly than cynicism and negativity. Put the positive out there, and find the good eggs. There are lots out there.
I agree with this, it's much better to be around people who give off positive energy, than those who suck the life out of the room! | |
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| I'm losing my faith and respect for women
Posted: 11/2/2009 1:56:39 PM | ...
let me say that again.
the strongest women are yet meek (please don't think this is weak) and ...
may she be able to share in that.
rather than the confusion possible "if anger bring ill of competence."
which translate as the negative 'if anger maker her disabled'.
its good to think in positive terms. | |
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| I'm losing my faith and respect for women
Posted: 11/2/2009 2:03:44 PM | | You say you're losing faith/respect. However, if it's so easy to cast aside, you never had it. Don't think you're fooling anyone, especially 'women'. You reap what you sow with women. If you don't want to make the effort, then deal with the ho's you get. | |
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