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Diva64
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Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 101 | |
| what do woman consider average weight?
Posted: 3/3/2007 8:32:06 AM | And another thing......
......*note to the man who said we(big girls) run in packs (HA, that was funny but not an absloute so be careful or you'll cause a stampede)
None of my family or friends are heavy. Yep, I'm the big girl in the crowd but I'm also the one who gets a lot of the attention. So there goes blowing your theory all to hell!!**
I'll bet that when men approach me they aren't thinking..."man I love fat chicks"....I'll even go as far as to say many probably don't even know why they are drawn to me but they just can't help it. You hate it, they love it! I choose not to worry about it or make it my problem! The simple truth is......it is what it is! | |
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| what do woman consider average weight?
Posted: 3/3/2007 8:47:40 AM | | As a man,,,I know how to shop for a ladies size,,,and certianly know the difference between a size 8 and a size 16,,,,certianly a size 22,,,,yet the very idea men do ot know,,,and they see your attempt to protray yourself in such a way,,,leads men and women to think,,,,so what else are they misleading about,,,,hummmm the thought comes to mind ,,,just about all creditablity in your profile is lost,,,,or anything you have to express,,, | |
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Diva64
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Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 103 | |
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Diva64
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Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 105 | |
| what do woman consider average weight?
Posted: 3/4/2007 4:37:53 AM | | So when they say..."Paper or plastic, sir?" Which route do you go? I certainly hope you don't make those young impressionable baggers carry them out to your vehicle? | |
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Posted: 3/4/2007 12:43:02 PM | is this thread about POF's "body type" category???
If so... then it has NOTHING to do with weight!
it is about a relative comparison,(ratio), of height to weight, or, you could say, it is about SHAPE, of the body.
No cheating now... (dont look at my profile to see my height)...
I weigh 185 pounds...
If i was 6 feet tall.. id be "slim".
if I was 5 feet tall, id be "large".
if i was 5'6", id be "average"...
but, you all seem to think weight alone is the factor so.. tell me.. am I "slim"... "average"... "extra pounds".. what??????
So.. assume a girl is 225 pounds.. is she "a few extra pounds"? or a "bbw"?... depends on her height!!!
Anopther girl weighs 125 pounds... she's 5 foot. (average?)... oh.. wait.. shes 6'1"... she's "twiggy"! lol.. skinny as a bone on the desert.
If people are being honest in their "body type" description.. what it really means is.. without asking weight, if you look at height, and body type, you have an overall image of the person.
I myself, think it should simply say "weight".. but.. too many girls still have a hangup about answering that Q, even though, as someone said.. were gonna see for ourselves sooner or later.
And remember.. if you are a few pounds extra, or a bbw even... the guy who might have really liked you, cause he was attracted to your body type.. will pass you by because YOU, already lied, and told him you are not his ideal woman(same appies for men.. i see plenty of profiles of women's, who say they WANT a larger man)
The thing is.. if you can't be honest with yourself, and in your profile.. you are setting yourself up as either a liar, or an insecure person who "bends" the truth.. and, when you meet that guy, or gal, who you seemed to have hit it off so well with.... even if your weight would not have been a problem for them.. now it is, becasue you have portrayed yourself as something you aren't, and the image the person had in their head of you, is shattered the moment they see you, and you are now, not who they thought you were.(in other words.. you set yourself up as a liar, about something you cant pull off in the end so.. not only are you a liar, but must be a compulsive liar beacause of the type of lie you told).
Lying is SOOOO easy online.. but... if you wish to hold out any hope of "finding the one".. you must be honest from the start.. if anything... say youre heavier/bigger than you are, and at least then the other person wont think you were lying to make yourself look better, but will instead be pleasantly surprised, that he or she, sees you as even more beautiful than they imagined.
for myself, age, weight, etc.. are irrelevant.. but.. a lie.. is paramount!!!!!
(lol.. years ago... the first woman I ever met from online, told me she was 36, and at the time, i was 38... turned out when we met.. she was 26! Nice girl... and I might have even liked her despite the age.. but the lie ended it at first glance. LMAO.. the next day, I IM'd her, and told her i REALLY wanted to meet again... knowing we hadnt exactl;y hit it off.. she had the balls to say.. sorry.. i dont think it can work.. i said.. really?? why not??? she said... you're too old for me!!.. at which point i said.. if you dont want an older man, why lie and lure one to meet you.. knowing its not what you want?... she was silent.. i said... liars always get what they deserve, which in this case, was nothing, form all your time wasted developing something that was false from the start!.. ok.. done ranting.. lol) | |
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Posted: 3/4/2007 6:43:14 PM | Thank you Diva!!!
I could not have articulated my thoughts so well.
I too have those pounds to loose, but, I am the one up dancing on the dance floor not the one "EATING" as one poster tried to distinguish between thin and bigger. Ignorance is not always bliss - it can sometimes be just plain STUPID!!!
I am honest in my profile, average I most certainly am not! Average is just that average, I consider myself so much more. I too take care of myself. A business professional, my hair is done, make up done, clothes that suit me, a well put together woman. I am often told I am sexy and beautiful and those compliments come from enlightened, educated, and refined men.
 Thank god there still are a few!!! | |
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Diva64
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Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 108 | |
| what do woman consider average weight?
Posted: 3/5/2007 7:38:47 AM | RANT AWAY.....
Hero, I have to say, I don't understand the lying thing.
When you come across someone who has lied about their appearance to an unidentifiable proportion then their WEIGHT is the LEAST of your worries. On the other hand, when you find that a persons weight is the utmost important thing you look for in a mate then again, their weight is the LEAST of YOUR worries.
I see the complaints all over this site about the "few extra pounds" that turn into a few tubs of lard when you actually meet them. BUT understand, Most men put athletic build or average, HA(sorry I had to laugh)!, but is that a LIE, if they believe it? I don't complain because hey, more power to them if they see themselves this way. I think it’s great that men have such a positive self image and think we women could take a lesson.
But I gotta ask .............HOW IN THE HELL DO PEOPLE THINK THEY ARE GOING TO EXPLAIN THE LIE??? I think I just answered my question, THEY BELIEVE IT THEMSELVES so they don't think they are lying!!!
So all the angry people out there might want to understand that these people really think they look a certain way......Don't get mad or HATE.......just say "No Thanks" and move on. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2007 10:57:08 AM | i don't think i've met a man from online yet that was
actually as tall as he claimed to be. i just laugh to
myself and then try to figure out what i need to be
figuring out - if he's a decent human being and someone
compatible for me. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 1:33:21 AM | Oh my... here I was trying to figure out what average really meant and I see people really "communicating"!!! NICE TO SEE! KEEP IT UP! 
Anyways, I've seen a couple posts about weight vs body type and in the spirit of hearing my own voice I need to make a statment. Alot of this is a "self-image". How many anorexic women believe they are fat!? I think of myself for example. I can't put on a pound, thanks to Mr. Metabolism...I'm sure I'll have no problem when I'm 30. But do I care? on some level sure, but for the most part no of course not! The ones I've met who say I'm "Average", or "Athletic", and have definately been larger than what I perceive as "Average" have some other things going on there. Not a professional but sometimes it's just that obvious. The opposite is true as well. I've met girls who said that they were "A Few Extra Pounds" and were definately what I'd call Average/Athletic. But they were even a little out of it. I guess I'm just meeting some real pieces of work so far. Hopin' my luck changes, but let's be honest here... there are some people who can carry extra weight very well! That's a result of their own perception of who they are, which translates to confidence. Still... this is a stumping topic if you ask me. One never to be answered or understood! | |
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Diva64
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Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 111 | |
| what do woman consider average weight?
Posted: 3/19/2007 4:01:41 AM | Guysmiley, how very well you expressed yourself and thanks for not generalizing and saying, "ALLLLL fat women do this".......or "Alllll skinny women do that". I have to say, I feel sorry for the people who aren't being honest about their weight (ie, misleading 50-100 lbs), that is just sad. However, if a women/ man think they are average and happen to be a few extra pounds (I've seen this happen) then WHO am I to say they are delusional? There is a Male self image vs female self image thread that I started that talked a lot about that whole thing.
Guy I wish to GOD I had your metabolism. However, mine is virtually non-existent and hey, that's probably something I could improve with a more effective diet. So I don't get to eat NEARLY as much as my "thinner" friends and I have found more meals frequently have increased it drastically. I will never blame anything on my weight but ME! However, if you would be willing to swap some of the metabolism with me I'd pay big money!!!
Best to you in your search,
Diva | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 7:06:04 PM | Diva...great replies:-).
Really, this lack of honesty on profiles goes both ways. I've seen plenty of men who claim to be average/athletic who have huge bellies and boobs bigger than mine (and mine are pretty darn big), and I think that many of them do it so they can justify their preference for women who are "slim/slender or athletic."
Look, we like who we like, and we are all entitled to our preferences regardless of our attributes, but let's be real about who we are. I'm a big girl, I am in school, and I work out a few times a week, and I play sports when the weather cooperates (tennis and basketball). I am not a stereotypical "fat girl" who sits on the couch, wearing sloppy clothes, desperate for any man to pay attention to me. I'm not going to say I'm a "few extra pounds," when I'm more than that.
Why don't more people be real...I'd rather meet the men who are open-minded about a woman like me, or even prefer a woman like me, than someone who has hangups about having a skinny girl. I am not going to be pressured to be something I'm not. Regardless of how I "became" fat to begin with (I've been big all my life), a lot of people don't get the fact that even with exercise and diet, I may not lose enough weight to be considered "thin." And even if I do, weight will always be a struggle for me in a way it's not for people who are naturally thin. I am looking for a man who loves me and appreciates me and doesn't see dating me as "settling," and by being honest, I expect to attract nothing less than the best.
I have one other thing, directed toward lookingformygirl:
"Fact is only 2% of obese people actually have a medical condition causing it, so why are we trying to be nice to people that have abused themselves, and now wants someone to "love me the way I am"?"
I am a statistician by trade. So tell me sir, where did you get those statistics from? Did they come from a peer-reviewed medical journal, using proper methods? Or are you playing armchair psychic and assuming that we're all a bunch of people who abused ourselves? You know the saying about people who assume...
Look, when it comes to the "war on obesity," there is so much misinformation, even from the health profession, and little in the way of hard facts. You don't know me, or any other fat person on here, to assume what I do with my life or how I "became" fat. And even if what you say is true (it isn't, btw), you know what, every person, regardless of their flaws, deserves someone who loves them for who they are as a person. Except you, perhaps? Maybe some girl with like you...just as long as you look the same as you do now and you have the same or more money than before. Good luck with that . | |
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Posted: 4/1/2007 4:30:22 PM | | that people who criticize others about making assumptions make assumptions themselves in the same paragraph? wow | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 3:01:13 PM | I have met several people who listed themselves in this catagory. They have been anywhere from 120lbs to 250lbs. I will the most recent girls who listed average were that, or even fell more into the slim, or fit/athletic catagory. So its like rolling the dice on them, especially if there is no pic. Even if there is, you dont know til you meet them. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 4:20:56 PM | I am not average and never have been.I am 5'7 and I currently weigh 278...Thats alot I know,but I was 530lbs and I have lost a lot...I had some health issues and I am doing better and still losing,but most would sat 20-25 lbs is a little overweight.I think that there are some that will never be attracted to larger people and that is fine but don't worry..If you aren't interested in bigger people there are plenty that are and to each his own I always say...I was married to a great guy I,I left because he deserves a love that I can't give him,but I am now wtih a guy that is 5'3 and he is about 170lbs...We are happy and doing great and he had a problem,not because of his weight,but because of his height....I guess we all have our "little issues" right?
happiness to you all and I hope you find what you are looking for...I'm glad I did...   | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 7:25:34 PM | | I'm just curious as to how many "average weight" people bothered to comment? My guess would be maybe 1 in 10. I think weight is a little more telling for girls because they don't bulk up on muscles like guys do. The question for us guys is, 20 lbs of fat or 20 lbs of muscle? I'm capable of dropping 2 or 3 inches off my waist without losing more than 5 lbs. For the record, 5'07, size 38, 197lbs or so. BMI is probably, give or take, 20. I think I'm average, perhaps going on muscular. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 3:03:07 AM | Beautiful women come in all sizes. Isn't it what is inside that counts?
...reminds me of a bumper sticker I once saw:
"I'm FAT - you're UGLY. ... I can DIET" | |
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Diva64
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Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 119 | |
| what do woman consider average weight?
Posted: 4/21/2007 4:26:02 AM | YES, inside counts.......but I gotta say........MY GOD TAKE CARE OF THE OUTSIDE TOO!!!
Now before I get a rush of mail saying..." NO FAIR" .......I'm serious here.
No matter where you are TODAY weightwise, (skinny-fat) there is no need for not being impeccably CLEAN. Hair groomed, FINGERNAILS filed and CLEAN (an emeryboard is .50cents PEOPLE) and fresh clothes that look like you pulled them from a closet not off the floor or a garbage bin. I mean REALLY?
Soap is cheap and smells better than most colognes(for me) I want to smell you not last nights sweat or today's heavy cologne....
So average or above average (I LOVE IT) or below average weight......
the issue is THIS:
DON'T LIE.........POST RECENT PICS.........BE CLEAN!
If you weigh 280 lbs and you think your average, well I just have to think, maybe they have some 400lb firends so they see themselves as the median not the mode..(is that right?)
I've met people who have had in their profile........."AVERAGE"........and I thought to myself when I saw that...........hell I'm changing my profile and going with a few extra pounds then damnit! But as I've said, I AM NOT A CRACK HEAD, I KNOW I AM NOT A FEW ExTRA POUNDS..............one day though.................ONE DAY! | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 6:44:10 AM | first of all .. has anyone noticed that the first TWO pages of ppl commenting, those ppl do NOT have a picture on their profile .... which opens up a new can of worms ... what are those ppl hiding and to criticize those of us who have completely filled out our profiles .. Pictures and alll .... step back darlings and quit bein so judgemental
next ... Im pushin 46 end of may ... and from what Im reading here and I could be wrong . sounds like this dating site is for all the "BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE ... who look like movie stars, swimsuit models or barbie dolls" .. and if ya dont fit into one of those categories you are NOT gonna get a date ...
I must say what a SHALLOW POND those fish are swimming in ...
I flat out tell someone .. Im no model of any type .. traded my barbie doll figure for the life long after affects of having 3 beautiful children .. genetics also factored in there too .. so Im sorry to those looking for the TWIGGY MODEL figure that aint me ...
and I do agree with one point tho ... there has to be a physical attraction to the other person before any type of a relationship to flourish.
UM have any of you ppl been to the mall lately to ppl watch .. have ya noticed what the "average" size of both men and women whom are shopping there ?? Have you noticed that the America Dress Society /Those Fashion guru's in NY state the average dress size is a 16 .. a 16 will swallow a Twiggy .. and look nice on the average person .. and be too tight on the extra pound person ...
its no worse in men whom I would venture to guess the average waist size to be somewhere around a 38/40 ... how many of you men are near there .... how many of you try to understate that by a size or two ..
Im looking for a man who his weight is in proportion to his height as he stands in front of me ... not by what some stupid BMI PERFECT WORLD we DONT LIVE IN states. He must be kind and considerate and know how to treat a lady and also be able to accept my height / weight proportion ...
I am far from butt ugly and I do have an awesome sense of humor .. is a cryin shame tho the men of this site wont ever know it cuz they are too SHALLOW and looking for that ARM CANDY during their midlife crisis to make their size 38/40 waistline feel like its back at a 30/32.
The administrators of Plenty of Fish need to revise the site name to ... OVERCROWDED SHALLOW POND.
now come on ppl .. get a grip on reality and broaden ur parameters just a bit ... | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 8:13:58 AM | On the log in page they have been 'advertising' successful unions between former POF members.
Odd isn't it ...not one Barbie Doll in the bunch ...just wholesome average females, or twenty, thirty, forty lbs overweight etc. Hmmm wonder why males prefer that "brand" than those with a book full of conditions and criteria and expectations and needs and desires and et cetera.... Is it possible that at the end of the day the male would prefer to court the simple, down to earth woman? Whose gonna watch your back ...Barbie Doll or Plain Jane? | |
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Diva64
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Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 123 | |
| what do woman consider average weight?
Posted: 4/21/2007 10:36:31 AM | Yep mark, I think I said that when I first came on here......check out all the success stories!! (stealer) Very everyday kinda people.
However I also like that you said and what a lot of people miss........whether Barbie Doll or Plain Jane? Niether one is predisposed to better behavior or morals than the other.........in other words.......there are just as many Snotty plain janes and chubby chicks as there are Barbies. Or because someone is overweight they will be gullible or stupid or any "nicer" along with accepting of ANY behavior just to have a man.
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Posted: 4/21/2007 10:38:07 PM | OK that's it "Diva"!!! ... is there no monitor person in these rooms? How much am I expected to take? I can read between the lines ...you are saying that I am fat, plain and snotty... I don't need to get rejected by every woman I ask out and then come here and be insulted by another. For your information I have a glandular and sinus disorder and I am 'plain' because I don't have time to put on my make up, (such as yourself) insofar as I work four jobs.
By the way, everyone knows that your name spelled backwards is "avid" which means eager, dedicated, or enthusiastic.....it is a subliminal sexual message and THAT is the only reason why you are getting some. Well some of us still get a man the old fashion way, by getting him drunk, getting with him in a seedy motel room and then tricking him by saying we are pregnant. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2007 7:03:05 PM | | snownautumn, where did I make an assumption? | |
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