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Posted: 2/19/2006 5:44:50 PM | I don't mind being spanked but i do have to be in the mood to be spanked......But if u leave bruises on me tooshie you will be very sorry  | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 5:44:55 PM | | Spanking is about intensity of sensation transcending consciousness to directly stimulate the part of the brain that processes sexual pleasure. It bypasess perception and its effect is felt afterwards as an echo. Or maybe that was the echo of the sound bouncing off the bare walls of my apartment. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 5:48:33 PM | what will you do to the person, Give him a dirty Slap after a hot Sex?
Trust me clever ya don't wanna know  | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 5:51:05 PM | | That would be rude and unappreciative, you may never get D*ck in your life again.(Kidding, but you never can tell.) | |
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Posted: 6/13/2006 11:31:43 AM | I want to bring this thread back to life 'cause I'm looking for some advice/help/suggestions.
I recently met a lady and talk turned to this activity. I think the vibe is there for both of us and would like to explore this side of her sexuality...'cause after all, if ur not willing to do anything and everything to make it work, why bother even trying right?
I've learned that the nerves for pleasure are abundant in the buttocks, but covered with a thick layer of adipose tissue (fat) and that spanking can/does trigger these usually neglected pleasure sensors. Hard spanking is necessary to reach through all the fat. I'm concerned about the marks that are left after. Is there any advice anyone can offer regarding how to avoid this or is it simply a necessary evil that must be endured when enjoying this particular form of physical pleasure?
On a good note, I think dating a woman that enjoys a spanking has it's benefits...Say we're having a scrap and I don't want to fight anymore...grab her, turn her over my knee and let loose...if i'm right she gets turned on and we have wild sex...if i'm wrong she gets up and kicks me in the balls...lol...i really hope i'm right more than wrong. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2006 8:18:46 PM | You've got me thinking now.
I love to get a good smack on the a*** BUT......... to me it's the pain, the shock of it, then the turn on......
Then again if a guy hit me anywhere else I'd kill him.........hahha
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Posted: 6/13/2006 8:50:46 PM | 4 out of 5 doctors recommend spanking be done to girls. It gets blood flowing to their ass and makes it all glowing red. Try warm baby oil and then a good hard slap with the palms open. It should make a sound like SPLAT and then followed by her screaming AAAHHH. Go Mavs.  | |
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Posted: 6/14/2006 1:05:25 AM | | Depending on the relationship it is often (in my experience) a trust/domination thing. There are a lot of nerves in the neighbourhood as well, so physicality is not to be discounted. An important factor in any kind of thing of this nature is open and honest communication. If either party isn't really into it or comfortable..It could go very badly. Not to mention that you need to be able to say stop if things get out of hand. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2006 8:11:40 PM | Honestly_Over_Your_Knee
Regarding your last paragraph about the contrast. i know EXACTLy what you mean; i'm the same way. unfortunately, finding compatible men is near to impossible. I adore a good spanking, and if a man can't give me one, i'm not interested. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2006 9:25:45 PM | Hezron,
Not to break away from the original question being focused toward the ladies but (no pun intended) spankings can be an enjoyable experience for men as well. I enjoy giving up that control to a woman that I am intimate with. Key word there being "INTIMATE" as not all the women that have found themselves in my bed have gotten to "smack that a$$" - Intimacy is very important along with extremely open communication without fear of ridicule. On a more personal note, having been violently abused as a child, both physically and sexually, I found over time that the level of intimacy needed for such an endeavor (me spanking and being spanked for pleasure) helped heal and created a very strong bond between that woman and I.
Hope that makes sense! Now having been "opened up" to a whole new world of sexual and sensuality, I have to agree with an earlier post...
Don't knock it till you try it...
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Posted: 6/15/2006 8:45:43 AM | Not into being spanked myself....don't like it...don't do it....if ya do...I cannot be held responsible for my actions | |
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Posted: 6/15/2006 9:30:51 AM | There are many things I'd like to try
like sex on a boat or sex up real high
but lately I've been thinking alot
of this soft cushioned area, her firm sitting spot
In jeans or in panties it doesn't really matter
It's all I can do to not just jump at 'er
The way it moves or even when still
my hands are drawn to those white global hills
Let me spread them and lick them and even a bit more
let me bite them and tease them, let me feel your sweet core
but one small last thing, for it I dearly will thank
just bend over my knee, and your ass I will spank. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2006 3:25:57 PM | I'm leaning towards evolutionary?!?!?!?
I don't mind a little play wrestle and butt smacking or a bit of spanking in the heat of a good heated session - but not into spanking for the thrill of pain - that's simply not me. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2006 4:16:24 PM | This is my uneducated opinion. I think it is more common today because men are taking on more feminem roles in society. Men are more civilized and alot of them do not show that natural neanderthal traits as much as they use too. Women are more dominant in todays society and in many relationships. They actually start to miss their submissive side. Seeing their men come out of thier submissive side and act more manly is a turn on for them and being submissive theirself maybe relieves some of the pressures of being so dominant in society and in relations.
Then there is the baby theory. Just the women has been pampered so much, that she craves disrespect and control took away from her. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2006 11:34:23 PM | | nipoleon i would say both ways depends on the mood is that bad | |
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Posted: 7/26/2006 11:37:22 PM | | sangoire i agree were are the men that can do this to many are just lets have sex and get it over i want aspanking lol but how do u tell men this i get embarrassed any ideas on how i can tell them what i want | |
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Posted: 7/27/2006 9:07:09 AM | | For some, spanking can ease the introduction of anal penetration, assuming passion has reached appropriate levels to do so. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2006 11:32:12 AM | I didn't know how much I would love spanking till about a month ago. First time it had happened, and WOW!!!
Had to share, Love the spanking. Don't know if I would like it so much if he left bruises....LOL
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Posted: 7/27/2006 11:43:18 AM | "I'm just curious as to the draw and appeal of it. Is it part of a light domination fetish? Or is it the light s&m that turns you ladies on by it?"
harvey
Basically it's about having your spouse control you... Women want men to be men and in the bedroom it's a very primal thing - Personally, I like to be spanked-lightly, have my hair pulled and then of course there is the dirty talk.... I like the growl... | |
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Posted: 7/27/2006 11:49:21 AM | One needs not to venture too far into the realm of rough sex, foreplay, spanking, etc, to figure out that it it is a form of submission. Some females tend to love feeling weak, or to possess a sense of inferiority with their partner (by inferiority, I mean letting the man have control in bed). As a student of psychiatry, I would agree with Freud's theory on this one. As children, males tend to sexual feelings for their mother and vice-versa for females and their fathers. Why? Perhaps because this is a crucial developmental milestone in terms of sexual curiosity for children. My point is that maybe when female children were spanked as children, although there was absolutely nothing remotely sexual about it, the spankings became locked in to their unconscious. In their subsequent more mature years, the females may enjoy sexual spankings becasue of their "unconscious" memories of being spanked at a time of sexual curiosity by their fathers. In other words, she was a bad girl and got spanked as a child (having hidden sexual feelings for her father), and while being a bad girl at an older age, found it very erotic to have that spanking feeling alhtough probably not entirely sure why they enjoy it.
ANother suggestion from my own knowledge = Perhaps as sex gets rougher and the pelvis begins moving faster and harder, the slap on the ass just adds flavor and shock value to the sex. I was once with a girl that wanted my hands around her throat while we had sex ... it was very kinky.
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Posted: 7/27/2006 1:02:35 PM | I would disagree with the philosophy that an adult interest in spanking is the result of childhood experiences. In fact, there are many women who were not spanked as children but still harbor sincere interests in this realm. I think that the interest comes under the "personal preference" catagory. Just as some men are "breast men" or "butt men" and every individual has particularily unique erogenous zones on their body, it is simply preference from an erotic spanking standpoint.
As far as minimizing the risk of bruises/marks, you first need to communicate with your partner. Every girl needs different things to have the most pleasurable experience possible. Some women crave an extremely sound spanking while others prefer a much lighter and sensual experience. Still others prefer variety in life. Engaging in spanking takes a great deal of trust on both parties parts, so making sure that communication lines are open and discussion/questions are on the table is crucial.
My suggestion would be to warm the tissue and muscles up before becoming more aggressive in spanking, though. Starting a spanking out more moderately and building the intensity will lessen the risk of injury to the tissue as well as allow you to enjoy a longer spanking experience. Also, hydrating the tissue afterwards will prevent later stiffness, skin irritation, etc. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2006 1:17:18 PM | | If you enjoy spanking I see no problem in giving or receiving. Sometimes that tingling sensation can go on for days. While it can be a nice little reminder of your last get together everytime you sit down it can also become quite distracting. What were we talking about? | |
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