| Psychology/Physiology: spanking
Posted: 7/27/2006 1:28:21 PM | | When I was speaking of Freud's theory regarding sexual fantasies between fathers/daughters & sons/mothers, one could postulate that childhood punishments (spankings) probably wouldn't stand alone as a "determinant" of suceptibility to the enjoyment of spanking sessions later in life, however it is probable that it remains a contributing variable in correlation with others. After all, I'm sure we can all agree that, from an evolutionary standpoint, "spankings" were first seen as a form of punishment rathar than sexual pleasure in our early ancestors. Over time, obviously this punishment gained modern sexual amusement. Perhaps the pleasure control centers I read about in earlier posts which lay beneath the fat on the buttocks were not present in our earlier ancestors. Over time, the pleasure sensory neurons grew and grew as a result of natural selection. Now I've touched on Darwin & Freud - as per the request on the "Psychology of spanking". | |
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Posted: 7/27/2006 1:37:42 PM | | Untamed Jeff: You are entitled to extend your perspectives on the psychological roots of spanking and I totally respect that. However, that doesn't mean that I am obligated to agree. I believe that we all come to the table with different interests within the spanking realm, some of which may have roots in our experiences in life and others of which are simply core parts of our personality. Or, in other words, a combination of nature and nurture rather than one or the other. And, of course, you aren't obligated to agree with me either! :) | |
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| Psychology/Physiology: spanking
Posted: 7/27/2006 6:36:47 PM | Don't knok if until you try it. Some like it and some don't depending on your brain.
"Scientists have found that areas of the brain that respond to feelings of pleasure also react to the sensation of pain."
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/1694109.stm
Basically, pain is pleasure in its high intensity. | |
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| Psychology/Physiology: spanking
Posted: 8/5/2006 3:38:06 PM | Some girls & guys likes to be spanked cause is a turn on for them.As for me spanking is a turn on for me cause after being punish then guess whats next...yea thats right its make up time and the guy in for a whole lot of pleasure and good times.Some girls likes being bad girls so that they will get punish and the only way to make there bfs or husbends or masters or doms happy again is by makeing it up to them after they punished her.
Now some people may not like it or thinks its stupid or whatever but dont knock it till you try it then if u dont like it then dont do it again.Everyone is diffrent when it comes to kinky things that turns them on and they shouldnt be judge by the things that makes them happy and gets them in the mood. | |
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| Psychology/Physiology: spanking
Posted: 8/6/2006 7:26:28 AM | UntamedJeff--
Did you know that Freud had a cocaine habit? His ideas may have been revolutionary, but imho, misguided. Even his daughter, who followed in his footsteps vocation-wise did not fully agree with his assertions. Oh, maybe that is because she had penis envy. | |
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| Psychology/Physiology: spanking
Posted: 8/7/2006 3:28:37 PM | I happen to know a bad girl that needs a good spanking......
I would be more than happy to give Her one the thing is that I know She would probably enjoy it....
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Posted: 8/7/2006 4:42:04 PM | | Ive come accross many women too who "claim " they like spankings... my personal taste is not so much pain but stimulation... much like this... spank- let hand linger-rub area in circles ( i think this brings blood to the surface more=sensetivity) repeat.... | |
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| Psychology/Physiology: spanking
Posted: 10/12/2006 11:28:42 PM | Hey I don't mind getting spanked, as long as I deserve it, hehe. The paddle is my favorite. It hurts like hell, but feels good afterwards. Its alot more than just the physical act of spanking that provokes pleasure though. To be spanked for no reason, wouldn't provoke much pleasure at all. Its often that fear of the paddle that can stimulate sexual desire. Fear is one of the major precursors to sexual arousal. Thats why guys like to take gals to scary movies. To be dominated at the right times in the right situations can be unbelievably sexually arousing. Its both the psychology and physiology working together. Probably a little bit more psychology though, I would say.
And no, I didn't get spanked much at all when I was kid. A couple of times but only with a hand and no paddle, thats it. And I wasn't physically abused in any way either. I seriously doubt that liking to get spanked has anything at all to do with childhood.
So get out those paddles, floggers or whips! Just use them for the right reason and use them according to reason. What a turn on it can be! LOL! | |
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| Psychology/Physiology: spanking
Posted: 10/13/2006 12:52:17 AM | | spanking gets blood flowing and usually naturally makes people blush and get hotter, tip no skin breaking no farting in some ones spanking hand | |
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| Psychology/Physiology: spanking
Posted: 10/13/2006 3:04:25 AM | | My memory takes me all the way back to grade one when Mrs.Woods, my teacher, came up behind me as I was standing on the chair to look outside to see if it was raining........She lifted up my skirt and gave me spanking in front of the whole classroom!!!!!......At the time I was very embarassed yet a feeling of overwhelming emotions passed through my little body!!!!!...........Been hooked ever since!!!!......HMMMMmmmmmmmmmmm???......Wonder if she is still around??????? | |
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Posted: 10/13/2006 3:30:08 AM | | still others are excited by the feeling of causing some one else pain. pass me the paddle please..... | |
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Posted: 10/13/2006 5:29:54 AM | Im not a spanker, but as a male I have to say when I see a woman's big, round, naked cheeks I do get the desire to do that sometimes, just never dared to, but they just look made for it, somehow....
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Posted: 10/13/2006 11:59:15 AM | If he knows what he's doing, there's nothing better. If he doesn't, there's nothing worse. A sloppy spanker ~ no thanks. A seasoned pro ~  | |
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Posted: 10/13/2006 1:30:49 PM | It's a shame we live so far away !
I'm actually looking to have a relationship within which spanking would be a small dynamic !
So if there are any ladies out there who might be interested, please have a read below :
I guess I'm just and 'Old' fashioned gentleman type looking for a woman with a view to a long term loving relationship that would include spanking and discipline, I'm well mannered, polite, romantic, kind and very caring, softly spoken and a fun person to be with, modern minded in my outlook in life but also believe in the merits of good old fashioned discipline as a vital dynamic within a loving and lasting modern relationship, so although I'm very much a 'happy-go-lucky' man you will find me gently masterful and sensuously dominant when the need arises.
I like to have an active and varied social life and am always willing to try new things.
I like and appreciate all the finer thing's that life has to offer.
I'm more of a 'two's company, three's a crowd' person so you should expect my total commitment and attention at all times.
So on some evening occasions I'd like to go with you to a country pub for a couple of drinks and some dinner, other times to a restaurant for a candle lit dinner before or after the cinema or theater.
During the day, trips away for a nice long walk, shopping or whatever it is you would like to do.
Time permitting weekends away both in this country or Europe.
I've really been bitten by the travel bug and my choices of destination no longer only includes surfing destinations, I plan for my next trip to visit Malaysian Borneo, maybe you would like to come too ?
But most of all I will want get to know you, learn how to make you happy when you are sad, love you and cherish you. Make you cry through happy laughter and to share exciting and fulfilling life with you.
I am quite experienced in the art of spanking either for erotic play or for disciplinary reasons having practiced spanking for both the reasons I've just mention in two previous relationships.
I would describe my spanking and disciplinary style as soft but deliciously stingy and erotic completely THE OPPOSITE from severe and brutal. However, I do like to spank quite soundly and so, on occasions you would find yourself with a very hot and sore bottom and a very sorry lady indeed, once I've taken you over my knee.
Over the knee is my preferred spanking position because of the warmth and intimacy and I love the feeling of you laying over my lap while I gently spank and warm your bottom with my hand whilst all the time lecturing and mentoring you.
Sometimes your corrections will be spontaneous at other times you will have to wait for s specified day or time. In which case I will sit you on my lap whilst also sitting on the spanking chair, as we discuss the issue of your forth coming chastisement and set a time, place and position.
The waiting and anticipation of the spanking more often than not will be as effective as the actual spanking it's self.
Maybe, for what ever reason, you desire a spanking, then you just have to ask, no matter how difficult it will be for you to do so. Once I get to know you and read the signs, this will be less humiliating for you in that you will not have to ask but equally humiliating due to the awkward questions I'll ask as slowly but methodically raise your skirt or take off your slacks or jeans and then slowly pull your panties down to your ankles, sometimes proceeded before and after corner time.
There are far too many scenarios to write about in this brief introduction.
My Ideal Person:
I'm looking to meet a slim, attractive, sexy and elegant woman, who is fun to be with and would appreciate all the thing's that she would dream of in a vanilla relationship but one that would also include, from time to time, a spanking and disciplinary aspect.
Someone who likes to have an active and varied social life, likes to travel both in this country or Europe for weekends away and exotic long-haul holidays further a field, has dreams and ambitions in life and who wants to achieve them, and who is looking for a long term loving relationship and commitment.
Someone to be my best friend and lover, is open, honest,loyal and trustworthy.
Maybe there are other thing's you would also like to do and explore , well you just have to ask ! | |
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RitaZ
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Joined: 6/2/2006
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| Psychology/Physiology: spanking
Posted: 10/13/2006 6:44:10 PM | | Um, how to explain it. My man is so gentle by nature. Nurturing, caring, loving, protective of me in every way. He would never ever raise a hand to me. Never harm a hair on my head. So a good swat from him during sex, one that leaves a red mark and makes a loud noise, well, it's just such a stray from the norm, and reserved only for the most sexual of moments, that it sets the moment apart. Does that make sense? And yes, he does rub it after which really gets things flowing. Yikes! | |
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Posted: 10/13/2006 7:20:33 PM | it pretty much depends on the sex mood................if my partner and i are being romantic then no, leave the spankings for another time, but then again.............let's just say my ex b/f used to grab me, throw me to the bed and say "bend over baby and assume the position" then i got my spankings for being a naughty good girl....... or was that a good naughty girl........ whichever one it was i still enjoyed it and it got him excited too. that and a little hair pulling. sh*t, why the hell do i wanna cut my hair? | |
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| Psychology/Physiology: spanking
Posted: 4/5/2007 9:46:34 PM | Someone asked how to avoid bruises from a spanking.
I am a total spanko, been into it since I was a kid. The only relationships I am in these days are ones in which spanking and domestic discipline is part of the entire thing. If the guy won't or can't spank, I don't date him.
The key to giving a good, sound spanking is a warm up. It is essential.
Use your hand, and start slowly and lightly. Spank her bottom all over, but not too high. Low is great, we call that the "sit spot"
BTW, a warm up also conditions YOUR hand so it doesn't bruise, works both ways.
Anyway, spank lightly and slowly progress to harder. Slowly is the key. A good warm up should last somewhere between 5-10 minutes. The bottom should go from pale, to pink, to red. It should change from cool, to warm, to hot.
If you do the warm up correctly, you can actually start spanking quite hard with little marking. (hand)
Obviously, if you start playing with hairbrushes, paddles, belts, etc., a bottom with no tolerance will mark. So, again, experiment, slowly.
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| Psychology/Physiology: spanking
Posted: 4/6/2007 3:05:14 AM | It's probably a mix of both. Basically any form of pain during or preceding sex has the effect of giving a tangible contrast to pleasure. This has the effect of heightening the experience of pleasure after the pain. That is the reason why so many people are into kinky sorts of things that involve receiving pain then sex. Some really kinky people get conditioned this way so that pain alone will bring them to orgasm.
This concept of contrast extends to other senses too, cooks choose tastes that conflict such as sweet and sour. Artists know which colours to use with others to enhance a picture. Sound is used the same way bass and treble. We wouldn't even know an air freshener smelled good if nothing ever smelled bad. So I digress, but you get the idea I'm sure.
The most basic forms are pinching, butt slapping, biting, clawing, or a good old spanking before the main event. Just be careful not to break the skin if you are not completely sure of the safety of being with that partner. | |
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Kazot
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| Psychology/Physiology: spanking
Posted: 6/3/2007 3:36:21 PM | I guess many of the reason here are good.
Both of use would have to trust each other and their has to be an understanding of of cues so there isn't to much or to little.
For me I just enjoy giving her a good spanking.
Yipping and yelling, swearing and cursing , whining and begging.
The realer she makes it the better it is.
Of course she has to know she deserves it and wants it.
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Posted: 6/3/2007 5:34:54 PM | | I like being spanked, and I was spanked as a child, and not lightly at all! and i was never told sex was was a bad thing. So i do not think it comes from not being spanked. I'm turned on by a little bit of pain. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2007 6:56:38 PM | | some girls...as well as guys like to recieve a bit of agression in the bedroom...they also like to do something that is innocent but still a little naughty.....like pulling hair; its not that hard to understand | |
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Posted: 6/3/2007 6:57:58 PM | | i don't like to get spanked btw...its sort of funny....well i could care less.......hair pulling though.... | |
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