| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 12/29/2008 6:31:29 PM | | because on this site they are like kids in a candy store...with so many beautiful women to persue right at their finger tips why settle for just one....they think hey if they could grab someone as pretty as you and have good luck with you who know maybe they can do even better.....but i suppose its better they let you go instead of juggle you and so many others and give you a false hope. | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 12/30/2008 3:39:40 PM | | it is not enough to be "nice"...you and everyone else...you have to be nice plus..what else do have to show them..i come dressed to kill...i could get arrested for the way i dress...but that's just me..my point is pump up the volume, woman. | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 1/4/2009 10:42:50 AM | A bad first date.
Any personal deal breakers
Bad manners
Bad character
Bad representation
Crudeness
Vastly different views
Maturity (both)
Same reasons a woman would not accept a second date.
Most first dates do not represent a relaxed 'you'. If the date was not too very bad, a second might be surprisingly wonderful! | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 3/28/2009 3:43:20 PM | Well, from personal experience, I can tell you that for those of us with very little dating experience, we have absolutely no clue what to do. After meeting someone nice and having a great conversation over coffee for instance, I have NO IDEA, how to tell whether she would want to see me again. NONE. I don't ask for a phone number because I don't want to pressure her with a virtual stranger and because the rejection would be downright embarrassing.
At the ripe old age of 45 the women I meet are so together and nice that I simply don't know whether they like me or are just being nice. I thank them by email and tell them I enjoyed our date.
Some continue to email me. But I don't know if it is just because they are to polite to leave a message unanswered or to tell me I'm not their type.
SO YES, if you women could help us out from time to time. There is NO WAY to know what you are thinking.
Figuring out dating is like trying to nail jello to a tree | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 7/18/2009 7:41:13 PM | 1-Maybe he's just not that into you...
2-Maybe he's been spurned one too many times on second date requests and will now ask only if he's very sure there is mutual interest...
3-Maybe he's got five or six other internet dates lined up for the next couple of weeks and wants to see how those pan out first... | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 7/30/2009 6:19:24 PM | yeah... does it take that much time to say....you know..." I had a great time.. but there's just no chemistry for me... Best wishes on your search! " ??? I swear I won't cry and stalk him.... I have better things to do too.  | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 7/30/2009 7:08:01 PM | heh. It's kinda like all those unresponded-to emails, LuvsLaughs; "It's a waste of time."
Online manners slide into RL, once its back online.
As to the whys - I can only speak from my experience.
What Appears to be a great date isn't necessarily. I've done time playing genial talk-show host while waiting for my date to express any interest in what I like, what I think: if I'm not being talked to - only responded to - I'm not interested in that kind of unilateral work. Jay Leno gets paid to do effortless interviews.
If the conversation can't take on some kind of life out of first gear, well, that's telling too. The interviewee might think that an exchange like this is successful -
"So... you said you like Coen Brothers films; what did you think about "Hudsucker Proxy?"
"It was Ok; it wasn't my favorite, though..."
(Why not? What was? What did I think of it? Dead space.... ask something else, Jay...)
"Which was your favorite?"
"I Loved "The Big Lebowski" - The dude abides, man - it was so funny!
(What did you like about it? How did I like it? Some comment about Jeff Bridges..? Dead space again. Ask something else, Jay..)
I know what you mean; that Jeff Bridges - I love a lot of his stuff. One of my favorite films is "The Fisher King."
(Blank Stare.) "I've never seen it...."
(What's it about? Why did I like it? Helloooo? )
After I get home and use brillo to crape the frozen smile off my face, I immediately look to see what I missed on Telemundo or HSN that I would have enjoyed more.
And, since this post has gone too long already, I'll leave you with that as only a single example. | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 7/30/2009 7:11:58 PM | | for you it can be a good date...but maybe they want something else...of course they should not have said they will call you and do not...but people are not sincere..some are cowards...do not worry about it...do your thing...treat people with respect and you will meet somebody...i know it is frustrating...i just meet somebody descent...unfortunately he is not ready for dating...just friends...which is okay...i want to date..that is life...good luck in your search | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 7/30/2009 7:39:48 PM | From my own experiences it is several difference factors
1the photo shown in profile is way out of date
2the drama in her life is too much
3poor grammar
4just not attracted to her
5dissimilar interests
6different personalities
as many of us have discovered,we seek what we desire and perhaps we often imagine that is a shared dream only to realize that the person sitting in front of us seems to be from a very different planet......................I only hope that they find what they seek and I just move on. | |
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