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Posted: 2/17/2006 7:13:46 PM | | I agree...I always respond..and If I've ever missed responding I apologize. After one nice response telling a fellow that I really was unable to chat as I was already speaking to a few..I did receive a very nasty note back calling me a very bad name..the worse! There is no reason for that...totally uncalled for! Only once though..I generally get a note back thanking me for responding..thank you to the GENTLEMEN out there! (The majority) | |
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Posted: 2/18/2006 7:30:51 PM | | I have recieved several initial contacts and have answered all but one from some poor guy whose reply seemed to indicate he was mentally tortured. If it is obvious to me from viewing the profiles that I would not fit the bill, so to speak, then I am not hurt if I do not hear from the guy. Only one person let me know that I was not what he was looking for and that was fine with me, too. I figure if someone writes me back and chats now and again, that he is interested and vice versa. At first, we do not know each other. We are perfect strangers. If we get to know each other, then yes, an explanation should be forthcoming. Otherwise, no. | |
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Posted: 2/25/2006 5:40:13 PM | I answer all my e-mail whether I am interested or not. It takes a lot of guts for a woman to make the first move. At a minimum she deserves recognition for that.
With respect to the e-mail I send out, I much prefer “read deleted” or even “unread deleted” to “read” with no reply. I’m always left wondering if I should follow up if I get scenario three.
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Posted: 2/26/2006 2:06:42 AM | | Yes i totally agree....I always figure if someone doesn't get back to me then they clearly are not interested....oh well, moving on to the next possibility. I never take it personally, and it is not gonna ruin my day to not hear back from someone. However, if someone has taken the time to write me a long e-mail, I do try to get back to them if I have time. I hate telling someone thanks but no thanks, but I guess if they have taken time to write a really nice email, I feel kind of guilty not acknowledging it. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 2:38:33 AM | What I don't understand is, why do people naturally assume they "did" something? Can't it be nonpersonal to you??
They may have met someone.
They recent may have had a death in the family.
They haven't been back online to even read your email (not *everyone* lives and dies for this site ).
Business concerns can cause a lot of difficulty.
It could be, and oftentimes most probably *is*, something in the person's LIFE that is the difficulty...it ain't all about "you".
I always respond to every email I receive (save the insufferable toads who are simply spewing venom because I had the audacity to be born female ...that has nothing whatsoever to do with me, but certainly says an awful lot, none of it flattering, about them).
nasajack, you and I see eye-to-eye on this one. No response to an initial face-to-face meeting -- or, worse, an "unread/deleted"!? -- I cannot imagine the level of ill-breeding THAT would entail. That's never happened to me; but, hey, maybe I just need to go check. LOL! True, no response gets the message across; but, again, I think it easily could be misconstrued as lost in the mailbox. Ya' neva' know. But why torture yourself? For whatever reason, they're obviously not interested.
Bottom line: takes all kindsa' fishies to fill a pond...each to his own. 
My two cents, 
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Posted: 2/26/2006 6:55:01 AM | @Littlebit70...
...agree with your assessment of the 'unread delete' and reasons why that happens. I don't get 'bruised' by it...hell after a couple of wars and a few banana republic jungle conflicts, a couple of words like 'unread delete' will not leave mental wounds. Just leaves a high degree of couriosity on why that happens. Really nothing more to it...but I do stand by my first response over on page one and the kind of 'feel' it gives.
Anything would do for a reason for 'unread delete'...like..."Not only will I NOT go out with you, letting alone wasting my precious, princess time even responding, is that I'm way above you on the human food chain and looks. I will never date someone who even has the potential of going bald or looks like something that came off the bottom of my shoes, or I think looks like pond scum, a rotting piece of whale sh*t, who I wouldn't even give the time of day to or waste the foam if you happen to be on fire or call 911 if you were on fire. I wouldn't go out with you if you were the last man of earth...because I AM the breeding ground for all beautiful people. So, buzz off and have a good f**kin' day!
You know, something like that, short and sweet...to the point.
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Posted: 2/26/2006 7:24:46 AM | | I would rather get some kind of rejection e-mail than nothing at all---its just common courtesy. Sending no response at all is comparable to a guy saying he will call a woman then doesnt call, its an easy cowardly approach. The thanks but no thanks reply sounds sarcastic and harsh---surely all you women out there who fashion yourselves as "the great communicators" can come up with something better than that. What this whole issue has done for me is cement my opinion that women and men are not as different from one another as one might think. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 9:43:19 AM | I would rather get a nicely phrased "thanks but no thanks" than no answer at all. And I would rather get that than some obvious lame and transparent excuse that was made up for not answering.
If it's the same person contacting you over and over, sometimes people won't take no for an answer and you have to block them. If you're talking about not being able to answer all the email you get, here's one solution. Put a note in your profile to that effect; "I get so many emails that I can't answer them all." | |
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Posted: 3/8/2006 11:07:28 AM | be honest and send a thanks but no thanks email...i think people appreciate it when they know what's going on....
i have had people write me back and thank me for letting them know...also had people who have written me back and let me know what they think of me for not wanting to meet with them....lol...knew there was a reason i wasn't interested in those ones.... | |
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Posted: 3/9/2006 5:47:27 AM | Speaking from a man's point of view. What I do firt is review different profiles in my area and up to 75 miles. I look at pictures and I read the profile. If a profile stands out for one reason or another I will make contact with that person saying what interested me about there profile., I like your interest or your smile. I will ask for interest, and likes and dislikes for compatability.
After the initial contact, I would prefer that a woman read my profile which contains alot of information and read my e-mail. After that basicially tell me if she wants to converse or not.
I don't like doing IM's to a lady without writing her first.
I have had some ladies contact me, and I will tell them if I am interested or not in talking to them. I don't like to long distance converse, because eventually I would hope you are going to meet that person after both parties feel comfortable. Why try and converse with someone who lives 100 plus miles away unless you frequent a location. Have had a few long distance relationships, and THEY DON'T WORK OUT. Better to tell someone upfront that this isn't your "cup of tea" then to lead on. | |
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Posted: 3/9/2006 12:20:07 PM | I would prefer if a guy at least emailed me and said, it didn't click. He can be nice about it. He doesn't have to tell me why... I already know I have a fat ass.. That way, we don't waste each others time, and we can focus on finding someone who we want to be with. Unless, they really do want to be friends only, and are up front with it. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 6:29:50 AM | | I would rather get no reply at all if the woman I contacted wasn't interested. If I check the "Sent Messages" and I see 'Read' and she hasn't responded and not deleted it then either she may respond later or just doesn't care to delete it and will let it slide. I really don't like when my message is "Deleted" and not even read. I hope that type of response comes back to them sometime. It makes you feel worthless for that brief moment when you see 'Deleted'. That's cruel. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 7:07:27 AM | | I agree. Even to hear back a "thanks but no thanks" is so much better then not hearing anything at all. To hear at least something would be nice because no replies does make people wonder. After all we are here to meet people and I know if it were me I would be considerate and tell someone if I am not interested. It's just the polite way of doing things. Besides men, we want honesty and I would rather thank a man for being honest and telling me up front then to wonder if a person is going to respond back. | |
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