| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 5/14/2006 8:00:32 AM | | In addition to my last post, I would like to share an example... there is someone that I email every couple of days that has never replied to me. My emails are always "Read", but never deleted. I find it pretty hillarious and it's kinda like an online diary! I figure she's not interested but since she's not blocking me or telling me to stop that she must get a kick out of it. Who knows what she really thinks of me and I have no idea if she will ever reply but it is kinda fun and it makes me laugh every time I send one and see "read" with no reply from her. Most people I just give up on after one or two, but there is something about this person that compels me to contact her! lol, until she says otherwise. | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 5/14/2006 8:08:34 AM | This site should be to find/met people compatible with each other, either for friendship or something else, if a person that contact us isn't what do U looking for, for whatever reason, just be honest, let that person know it, we don't have to be rude or ignorante, all of us have feelings, so shouldn't be need to be and ass... isn't honesty what most of us are looking for?........ | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 5/19/2006 4:08:26 AM | I think after taking the time to meet someone and desiding that it is not for you it would be vary polite and apreciated to receive an email just to say thanks for the evaning out but I think that we arent going to work out. It would be nice give closure people tend to preceve things diffrent and they don't always know how the other felt. Give each other time to move on.
When Someone emails you and you aren't intrested I dont see a problem with deleteing it how many times do you want to here no thanks. You haven't met yet so when you send an email your asking them to look at what your about if you dont have what your looking for well keep going. I guess an email is kinda nice but if your sending one be nice about it.
Thanks and good luck meeting someone and thanks for your oppinions i will consider them when i get emails.  | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 5/30/2006 8:43:40 PM | I totally agree, just a simple Sorry! or not interested!
For the first little while I was on here I didn't send out any emails, only responded to those who emailed me. Then one night I thought what the hell....what the worst they can do say no? nope ignore you apparently! LOL
Seriously though...the courtesy of a response is all anyone asks! | |
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Posted: 5/30/2006 8:53:36 PM | It's MUCH better for everyone if you only reply to people you are interested in.
First of all, women get so much email they'd break their keyboards from sending out so many rejection letters... on top of that, MANY guys get pissy when they receive those letters and have been known to send back angry, hateful email because they got rejected.
Plus, I have come to simply expect that when someone writes back, it usually mean they are interested. So, when I see a reply, It's a nice surprise - a surprise that is quickly flushed down the toilet when I open it up to read "thanks but no thanks."
Who wants an email box stuffed with THAT?
If someone takes the time to send me a really nice email that is clearly not a form letter, I'll respond even if I'm not interested. But 90% of them are generic "feelers" that just don't need to be responded to.
If you can't handle that, don't online date. Or eat a piece of chocolate every time you see "read/deleted."  | |
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Posted: 5/31/2006 3:38:03 AM | I used to think that I was being polite when I would respond to advise that I was not interested. I quickly stopped doing this as men would become angry at the rejection and send me a nasty email back. I now read/delete. I make an exception if someone takes the time to write me a long email, then I will respond back with a nice thanks but no thanks email.
~Carrie B. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2006 3:29:11 PM | I would much rather have a woman have the decency and honesty to tell me that she's not interested.
And if she's got time, maybe why.
People who suddenly dissapear, are just cowards. And most likely liars who realize that the relationship is reaching the point where you'll find out the truth... and so they run.
Those who never even reply to initial contact... well, I can understand with some of the jerks out there, not wanting to take the time to notice them. Cause they don't deserve it.
But if someone sends a nice, respectful message... it's polite to just say no thank you. | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 5/31/2006 5:26:28 PM |
I used to think that I was being polite when I would respond to advise that I was not interested. I quickly stopped doing this as men would become angry at the rejection and send me a nasty email back.
Carrie, you should know by now--those were not MEN! They might have been male (I'm sorry to say), but a man wouldn't do that.
Personally, I would really like to get something back because it solidifies in my mind that she was not interested and not to try her again. I've heard of women accidentally skipping over or deleting messages without reading them, so unless a guy gets a definite "I'm not interested" email, he might email her multiple times, which would be a waste of time for both of them. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2006 7:29:15 PM | i would have to say that i have changed my mind about this since i first joined here a few weeks ago. when i first got here i was discouraged by the LACK of a rejection letter. but after hearing why some woman do not send them out (fear of getting something nasty back for their efforts to be polite) i can understand why some women just never reply. if i was getting a lot of angry mail i would not want to encourage getting more of it either!
and guys, just try not to lose hope. just keep casting your line out until you do find someone who likes what you have to say and will respond. i have persisted and have met several attractive and interesting women on here and have exchanged emails with them.
it can be done! take care and good luck! | |
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Posted: 5/31/2006 7:37:26 PM | I would like an acknowledgement that she at least got my email...She can nicely tell me she is not interested... To me, it is very rude for a woman to just delete emails without at least telling the sender she got it. Now, if it is a rude, crude raunchy email, then I can see not replying but I have yet to send out one of those and yet the women ignore my emails....
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Posted: 5/31/2006 7:48:00 PM | I would rather not hear anything because if one was interested, one would reply. Like in real life... imagine that.
I do not see anything wrong with the read/delete.
Especially if the email was crass/dirty/rude. Or, when after reading his profile, I do not meet HIS requirements. Regardless of if they had taken time to email me something they thought was insightful, the bottom line is that I do not meet the requirements - why waste time? This is categorized dating so that one can narrow down the playing field.
Having said this, I've had some nasty replies to the read/deleted receipients. Which, for me justifies read/delete further because OBVIOUSLY there wouldn't have been a connection. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2006 11:24:11 PM |
I make an exception if someone takes the time to write me a long email, then I will respond back with a nice thanks but no thanks email.
Something simular happened to me like that. Swapped numerous e-mails with one of the regulars in the forums. I thought we hit it off in a friendly fashion. Then today I tried to send her an e-mail, and found I was blocked. Very odd I was thinking. I've no idea what happened. Oh well to each their own I suppose.
When I have sent out an e-mail to someone for the first time, it's usually to comment on something I've read here in the forums, or something in their profile. I never expect to hear back from them. If I do it's a bonus, I know I've made a new friend. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2006 11:34:12 PM | | I try to be polite and say thank you but I'm not interested. As a general rule I'm not rude, I don't have super high, "have to be model like and gorgeous looks", standards but I have to have attraction. Sorry if I don't, I'm not being an evil bitch, but if you didn't find me attractive would you still consider more? I think not. Now if I liked them as an intellectual friend I'd say that too. Right now thats all I want, so friends works for me but nothing more for now. You never know. I don't look at just physical appearance, I consider the whole package. Friends may turn into more, just not right now. So the unattractive to me men with the "hey you're hot" messages, will be read and politely replied to as "I'm not interested". If you have more to say and we have something in common then I'll continue conversation. | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 10/14/2007 11:56:18 PM | | read and delete is the equivalent of telling someone to get lost...which tells you about the character of the person....so why would you even want to be with someone like that....you can't possibly keep all emails and sometimes its just too difficult to respond properly to everyone, but, it all depends on the email...it its a simple...just saying hi, ther person lives hundreds of miles from you , i'm not sure if thats even something to respond to .....as far as meeting someone on a date..i would think by the end of the date you would have an indication that there won't be a second one,...so why bother saying anything...you're both adults, move on. | |
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