| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 12/8/2007 4:01:21 PM | Food for thought,, What if you looked at a picture, enjoyed reading the profile and spent time thinking of what to write ( maybe even wrote your email in word first), copied and pasted,, ready to click and send it off and you get THIS PERSON DOES NOT RECEIVE MESSAGES FROM YOU, GO BACK TO IN BOX..
 Is there any difference? really?
Your too far away, too old,. too young, smoke, married, whatever, do you get my point? Do you whine and b!tch because they didn't answer you? HEY, the nerve!!, they blocked you before you even had your chance to turn on your charm.
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 12/8/2007 5:38:43 PM |
If they contacted me or I them, once the contact stops....I get the point!
No need to elaborate on it. No communication speaks to me just as clearly as if words were said.
Nonsense. That's utterly rude and inconsiderate
They may be rude or inconsiderate by not at least replying to my email....true, but I still get the point. I just choose not to make a big deal out of it.
It's been a very RARE occasion when I've contacted someone first (I'm shy in this area, mostly). But if they don't respond, I don't get all uptight or wonder "what's so wrong with me". It’s their choice and their loss….IMO.
There's only been one instance where I was talking with someone from POF, who made the choice to "disappear" on me. The way I look at it, they did me a favor and saved me time and energy that would've been wasted on an unviable relationship. WHEW! Just dodged a bullet! | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 12/9/2007 7:05:49 AM |
Guys, after you make an initial email contact and if they aren't interested in getting to know you, would you rather get an email telling you they're not interested or would your rather not get any email back at all?
Also, when you get a lot of emails from people and you feel really bad because most of the time you know you won't pursue it, what is the polite way of telling them you're not interested? Do you consider it rude when a woman deletes your email without reading?
Personally, I think some type of response would be nice, if for nothign more than closure and good manners. No one wants to keep getting e-mails from someone they aren't interested in, and I would think from a guys standpoint, seeing somethign as simply read but not replied to could be interpereted as maybe they are just busy at the moment, but with some intention of sending some sort of reply.
And I know I am one of the masses that does think it EXTREMELY rude to do the classic "unread & deleted"...cause many times you see they viewed your profile, and then just deleted your letter without even seeing what it had to say. It could have said simply "have a nice day", or it could have been the most heartfelt thing you have ever read in the entirety of your life....but because you saw something you didn't like...you don't even give that particular person fair chance or even contemplation.
I've said it before and I will say it again here. It takes all of 30 seconds to simply hit REPLY and say "Thanks for the interest, but I don't think we would be a good match. Good luck and thanks again." It's called common courtesy and manners.....two things which are all but dead to society at large these days. I call for a revolution to bring about a second coming of the golden age of dating where manners and courtesy were thought of highly and went far with people.
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 3/31/2008 7:13:54 PM | I would have to say that not getting an response is worse than getting a negative response. The reason I am supporting this point is because of the closure factor. If an email is not sent there is not allow an individual to completely write off this paragraph in their scheme of life. If an email is sent with a negative reaction towards that particular individual it does allow a person to move on instead of being left in the dark. Its the difference between getting a clear cut answer and none at all. I would consider it impolite not to provide a response communication to someone because if they sat down and took the time into reading about you and genuinely finding an interest at least afford that person the same opportunity.
I really do not know an better way to explain to someone that the interest is not mutual other than being blunt. Even though people say let someone down easy no matter what way you look at it, it is still a let down. No matter what words are used to phrase it, it will still feel the same. | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 3/31/2008 7:32:52 PM | Guys, after you make an initial email contact and if they aren't interested in getting to know you, would you rather get an email telling you they're not interested or would your rather not get any email back at all?
Also, when you get a lot of emails from people and you feel really bad because most of the time you know you won't pursue it, what is the polite way of telling them you're not interested? Do you consider it rude when a woman deletes your email without reading?
All comments are welcomed. Thanks for your comments!
I personally feel its disrespectful for someone to just read my message and delete without replying. As if they're too good, that too inferior for them to spend four seconds of their precious time to say I'm not interested. I took the time to read your profile, which most by the way are only about three sentences long, and wrote you a message. There are no excuses, none of this "Well I get 300 messages a day, I can't possibly sit there and reply to all of them" Ah, yes you can.
You're not going hurt my feelings, because there aren't any feelings to hurt yet. Get off your high horse princess, your a dime a dozen on this site too. | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 4/2/2008 4:31:55 PM | Rejection can be a blessing, it saves the time of being with the wrong one and get's you one step closer to the right one. When I reject, it's for varied reasons, personality and interest differences, non attraction, etc. I do try my hardest to not make the guy feel bad about himself, it's just my personal taste or bad timing or whatever. There's nothing wrong with the guy, just not for me. As far as me getting rejected, I roll with it when it happens without hurt feelings unless I am completely stupid over someone which almost never happens (thank God). I take in stride and it's painless. Not everyone is for everyone, and that's how it should be.
Email or not, don't care either way. Sometimes I email my response and when it's a spammy type of cut copy paste general letter of interest I am dealing with, I don't respond. | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 4/2/2008 10:00:18 PM | | I always prefer the "thanks but no thanks" over no response.Its called having proper manners,folks.This is a problem on here,but its not always the people's fault.I can't prove it,but I'm sure there are fake profiles put on here by the other dating sites that cause a lot of these problems.I doubt theres much administration can do about it since all you need is a free email account to sign up.I know there are some people who don't believe its nesessary to respond,but I doubt very much that normal people would do that.As for getting too many messages to respond,I haven't had more than 3 or 4 in one day.I still send a "no thanks",if I'm not interested. | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 4/3/2008 3:40:27 PM | | send the email,,,its not rejection,,, its honesty,, if you are going to take the chance on contacting,, br prepared for ..not interested.. same with deleting the email,, she just saved the both of you... | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 4/3/2008 4:18:09 PM | Well, hey. This was supposed to be a poll. So I read through it all quickly, and here's the results I got:
Would prefer to receive or nearly always send a rejection: 123
Don't want to receive, don't bother sending, or don't care: 63
(your results may vary)
It would be interesting to go through again and look at the male/female breakdown, but I got a life to live too!
Many responded saying that if the initial email was well thought-out, then they'd respond. But if its just variations on the theme of "Hey babe, you're hot", then it gets deleted.
Many women also commented that sometimes guys respond to a rejection with rudeness.
So the consensus is: Be yourself! If you're naturally a rude person, be rude! If manners are important to you, show them!
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 4/3/2008 6:13:12 PM | | An explanation is always welcome.....it can be short and sweet...as long as it is genuine and deliverered with mutual respect ...it should be done soon also...I've made my dating mistakes before and there was one guy I should have given and explanation to and did not until it was too late...I always felt bad about that...But the truth is ...I had dating gotten dating cold feet immediatly after the date ...had just broken up with someone and this was the first date I had after my break up...my expectations were too high and we didn't have any chemistry in person and I was really let down...the fellow I had dated before had started calling and toying with me....so I think I finally did explain to the guy my ex had been calling me and it had me a little mixed up....he reacted angrilly b/c I was really explaining it too late....I wish I'd explained I was having cold feet right away....and he would have reacted a little better i think and would have been more fair to him.... | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 4/3/2008 6:37:05 PM | I am in sales and made a good living out of being polite to pp. I believe if you put some effort in your email to someone then they should respond back! Just say not a good match! Something like that would be good enough! I was raised with manners and not to be a jerk! We in this world seams we have lost all of our manners. So sad but true. I know I 'm not like the rest of the pack and I know there are more out there like me I hope? javascript:smilie(' ')
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