| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 2/18/2006 1:44:33 PM | Romantic**stard, first off your name is an oxymoron.
Perhaps if you took a look at the profiles of the women on PoF, or any other website, or talked with women anywhere in the world the majority of them would likely disprove your theory.
The thing is, though they may like romance, romance is often not enough. What about love, and attraction, commonality, trust, security. There are a number of factors to consider and not all of them are going to add up to what you would like them to be. If the last 3 women used your romance against you perhaps you need to put yourself under a microscope and ask yourself, "What are these women really saying?", "What signals am I giving off?", "Is my romance too much too soon?"
I am a romantic myself, but I reserve the right to be romantic for someone I cherish and adore, it is not something that I throw around frivolously. Let it out a little at a time. | |
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 2/18/2006 3:49:33 PM | | First off, the only person that you should be worrying about romancing is your WIFE! Second, how a man describes and discusses his past partners is very indicative of his inner self. By refering to your ex-girlfriends as "stone cold ****es", what does that say about you?! Third, every person, male and female, has a language of love from which they absorb loving affection, including romance, best. If you are striking out in the romance department, you obviously don't know what your partner's language of love is and thus, have MUCH bigger problems to solve! | |
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 2/18/2006 4:39:21 PM | well i for one love to be romanced ,I enjoy the warmth of strong arms around me , the slow sweet kisses ,candle lite, love touching having a sweet hand rub my face , i enjoy a guy that is all into me while we are together
i hope your next 3 dates are as good as my last  | |
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 5/20/2006 5:49:55 PM | Well i for one love to be romanced , but it seems that now days men and women both get sex, love , and romance confused . I want the romance first to see what the guy i am dating is about . If he does not know how to romance me and make me feel like a lady and not just a possible one time sex partner then this is where the parting of the ways begins . A nice dinner , little vine maybe even bring a rose, just because he thought of it .If the romance feels right then you can move to a higher level and you both can get what feels right . | |
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 5/20/2006 7:03:34 PM | I think women no longer like men, not romance. I could specify and say, the women I meet don't like me. But that fails to transfer the problem to women in general.
I was just reading through ads on a site advertising women who want to come the US from other countries. The language in the ads is about love, affection, making a home and a life together. It is romantic. It speaks to me. In comparison, the ads here and elsewhere online, at dating sites generally, are not at all romantic. They are angry, confrontational, demanding. The most common theme is "I am tired of losers, most men are losers, prove you aren't, and then I will call the shots or kick you to the curb". The ads for the Ukrainian women read like dreams, not declarations of war. | |
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 5/20/2006 7:50:24 PM | Romance isn't gone from us "older" ladies either, down here in Texas.
It is the simple romantic gestures that women are looking for, in the beginning, or anytime for that matter. IMO
He lightly brushes the hair off my face so he can see my eyes better.
When he comes home after being on his feet all day, I give him a footmassage.
He offers his sweatshirt to me because we have been all the beach all day, and I am getting cold as the sun sets.
The next time I see his mom, I tell her I am proud of her for raising such an honorable kind gentle man.
His guidance of his strong mans hand on my lower back as we cross a crowded room.
I bake brownies and as I pull them out of the oven, he comes back from the store with the milk I forgot to pick up.
Yes.....
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 5/20/2006 8:09:17 PM | Name of a Feather nails it. There is a preponderance of angry, hateful, resentful, domineering women both not only online, but in the real world. Look across the room and tell me what you make eye contact with. Usually it's something that makes me feel like shrinking an inch or two, or vanishing completely. It's those kinds of looks the unpopular guys used to get in jr. high.
The exception to all that, of course, are Southern women. Yum yum yum.
~Aurora | |
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 5/20/2006 8:45:55 PM | romantic**stard: I notice the exact same thing. Women tend to use it against you or
they have no time for it. A guy being romantic these days makes a women think they are
weak and laughable. It's too bad because they're missing out on a really great part of
a relationship. | |
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 5/20/2006 9:41:43 PM | | I dunno, I never met a woman who didn't like romance. I think some of these guys want to think it's romance the women don't like, instead of them. Sort of a variation on the "women don't like nice guys" theme. | |
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 5/20/2006 9:51:42 PM | shore66: Nice try, but I'm talking about women you've been in a relationship with or
women who have asked the guy out as well, so it has nothing to do with any kind of an excuse. It's just a fact of life that women don't appreciate romance for the most part. | |
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 5/20/2006 9:52:06 PM | ^^^ Aurora
A look from a lady across the room to a man - with those eyes that say come hither
-like you are the only person on the face of the earth at this time and place.
Or are men that much different and there knees don’t quiver…..only to look the other way missing another bit of romance? | |
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 5/20/2006 9:52:21 PM | Not all women are after a mans money! Who are you to judge all women like this? If you keep making statments like this you will probably find you have no friends and that women are hating on you. "Or to just see what they can get??"
That is total bullshit. There is alot of girls who actually like guys because of how they make them feel or because of who they are or could be, and all the sudden if they have money everyone seems to think that is all they are after. Go put on a nice shirt and pants for a change, do your hair nice, throw on some makeup or (sweatpants) lmao...sit around thinking about him all day,. then you can tell me that your not after something he can offer you.
I have tried to stay away from guys that have money, . and then people assumed that I couldnt get any better or I dont care about myself or who im with, which isnt true at all.
I wouldnt open up to you and show you my true self, (friends, or help each other learn, just see life in a different perspective) even if someone hit me in the ass with a shovel since you are so judgmental already.
Have you ever been with a guy who has money?
Have you ever been with a guy who has no money and you supported him and helped him get back on his feet?
There isnt alot of girls that will do that for a man.
Maybe you need a little more to back up your opinions.
Some women are sick of men treating them like nothing more than a peice of ass, which is probably why they have given up on romance.
keep it real
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 5/21/2006 6:07:25 AM | shore66: Nice try, but I'm talking about women you've been in a relationship with or
women who have asked the guy out as well, so it has nothing to do with any kind of an excuse. It's just a fact of life that women don't appreciate romance for the most part.
Why would you enter into a relationship with a woman who doesn't like romance, if it is so important to you?
And as for a woman who asks you out, well, she may want to meet you but perhaps then realizes that there is no spark - and in that circumstance, romantic gestures make her feel uncomfortable. I know I don't want some guy to be over-the-top romantic when I barely know him.
As for your "fact" that women don't appreciate romance, don't you think it odd that the women posting here are refuting that? Perhaps we need to define what romance means, since apparently we women want it, and you say we don't. | |
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 5/21/2006 12:05:26 PM | lol...can't beleive what I'm reading here...a woman who doesn't like romance? since when? ok, I know some women who don't like the "lay all over me thing" in public...but they still like romance...it's different things to different people maybe. just need to communicate and get to know your significant other?
mail order bride...LOL | |
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 5/21/2006 12:10:05 PM | | ok I just stepped into this forum...romancing your wife?!!!!! the man who started this post is married? sorry, new to the forum's and just browsing...but if so...hmmm, wellllllll | |
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 5/21/2006 12:13:21 PM | | I don't believe that's true, most women I know complain of just the opposite that most men arfe n longer romantic. It depends on your view of what's romantic. My cooking and serving you, while you watch tv is not my idea of romantic. Neither is buying me a gift that you want or a household appliance. So, what's your definition of romantic?? | |
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| It seems as though women no longer like romance
Posted: 5/21/2006 12:30:27 PM | | household appliance...lol...that's a man and in his way trying to make your life easier...I think anyway...haha...my idea of romance...it's the very little things that cost next to nothing...flower's picked from a field somewhere on a walk or a job and brought home, hand holding is a biggy for me...it's the little subtle things, that no one else knows about about cept the two of you...little notes left here and there...yeah there are actually some people who do that..lol. knowing what you favorite candy bar is and buying it for you...doesn't have to be champagne and roses to spell romance. | |
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