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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 10/21/2006 11:56:51 AM | | Yes it is a sad fact for some as for me I'm 40 and Happy not being married...Now I can say Iv'e never been divorced... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 10/26/2006 11:23:28 AM | | i'm over 30 and never married, no children. it is very hard to find a man that is in my age group and can say the same. but, i'm not looking for that necessarily, so i don't really mind. i like a man with kids - it's kinda like getting a bonus deal..... | |
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argfin
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Joined: 7/31/2006
Msg: 254 | |
| Thirty and not married
Posted: 10/26/2006 12:43:20 PM | 32, never married, no kids...
Just hasn't happened... Although I have to say I don't tend to look too hard... Not that I've had many offers either! LOL
I have to say I'm not too sure about marriage... Just seems a little scary...I guess when it's right you know??
Just need a girlfriend first! :) | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/5/2006 3:37:04 PM | | One more single male, never married, no kids checkin' in...I actually consider myself fortunate to have lived my life this way, as I now have a better understanding of who I am and what I am looking for in a wife. I have done the co-habitation thing (livin' in SIN!), so it's not like I don't have any experience with LTRs; it's just a matter of finding someone you can be with in the 'til death do us part sense. It's even harder when you consider the issues of finding and sharing a common faith with someone, and having that as the foundation of the relationship above all else. That is a rare and precious woman I have yet to meet, and it explains why I am still patiently waiting. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/5/2006 5:02:59 PM | | Almost 40 and never been married. Still looking for miss right (Doubting she is out there). | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/5/2006 6:00:45 PM | You're not alone. I havent even been close. I used to fret about it but now I dont think I ever want to. I've lived on my own with my kids for years and the thought of someone else being in this house just doesnt cut it for me. Besides, once my kids have fully grown and are on their own, I want to finally have some space and do what I want, when I want.
Thats not to say I wont date someone exclusively but I dont know if I could go further than that. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/7/2006 8:38:24 AM | | 35 and divorced twice. I find that ppl over the age of 30 that have never married probably have lots that they could teach me. I do not regret my marriages, I loved both men and the fact that it didn't work out doesn't mean that anyone has to play the role of the devil. Rather than assuming that those over 30 that haven't married yet/or ever must be "defective or committment phobic," I choose to assume that they are making intelligent decisions in their personal lives. Either waiting for the right relationship or knowing that they are not interested in one exclusive relationship for life. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/7/2006 4:33:02 PM | I'm 33, started dating very very late, I've only had 1 GF so far, and that didn't happen until I was just turning 30.
For me it was schooling & career goals that got in the way. I had absolutely no time or desire for a relationship and all the stuff that entails.
I don't feel I have any major regrets. And I'm certainly glad I'm not divorced with kids at this age...
I still have a lot of goals that get in the way of love, romance, marriage & children, just ask my EX... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/7/2006 6:21:44 PM | | I've never been really married but have lived with a guy for 7 years, which was as close to marriage as you can get, it was a legal marriage just easier to walk away from but I've never been really married and I'm 36. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/7/2006 6:22:38 PM | Well, I am over 30 and never been married. I never really found the one that made me think "that's it, he's the one I will remain the rest of my life with". As silly as it may sound, I do not want to get divorced. I'm probably a spinster in the making, but I can live with that.
In my family, all that were married still are or, and this may sound bad, dead. There are no divorce in my immediate family. Genetics? not sure, but it is something alright.
So until I found that one special person with whom I will want to spend the remaining of my life with and have kids with, I will remain single and be proud of it. There is no shame in it and nothing really special about it.
I have noticed that most men have been married or just separated and are in their early 30's. I would venture that the reason they seem to be in their prim and ready to have some relaxing fun is that they committed at a young age and are now ready to "party". | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/7/2006 6:23:37 PM | shes single again your profile says 29?
But hey, yet another Canadian woman who looks younger than she really is, lol | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/7/2006 6:35:53 PM | 37 never married 2 children 1 custodial.
I was almost 31 before I had MY first child. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/7/2006 7:41:25 PM | 34 and never married. Sometimes I wish I'd married all my serious boyfriends who wanted to get hitched. I'd love to be the little-old-lady who'd say "I think it was my fourth or fifth husband who liked cheese. Now it was my third husband who was lactose intolerent . . ."
I don't want children, and can support myself; so i may never be married. However, if I fall head over heels someday again, I would love to have a huge 3 day wedding, just for fun. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/11/2006 7:36:52 AM | | hi there i'm 49 and never married i was with one man my entire life and did'nt need a piece of paper that said we loved each other and then when he left no hassels over who took what i just think if two people are happy together they don't need a piece of paper to tell them that this is just another have to do because thats what society says to do . If you love someone just go for it and let it be your choice to walk down the aisle not society. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/11/2006 7:40:55 AM | So what is it with us? Are we too picky? Too busy? Too uncertain?
meh.. I'm just not so sure I have the time to find what I'm looking for...
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/11/2006 8:10:46 AM | Well...38,no kids,never married and a romantic and a nice guy too....maybe some one should just shoot me now ! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/11/2006 1:31:02 PM | Who cares about getting married?
What's the big deal?
Have you seen people who get married, than divorce in less than 3 years? Unreal, ehh?
I would prefer to not be married and 30, than be married with a ton of problems (assuming you married the wrong person).
Just my opinion.
Thanx. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/11/2006 9:39:36 PM | OK ~ I have been married ~ and as stated above...it lasted less than 3 years so what kind of "acheivement" was that?
I know one great gal who is 40+ and never been married, and, my sister is 45 and lived with a man for 18 years but they didn't take the step to marriage.....so what does that little piece of paper really mean these days? If you aren't fairly religious (and even those who are tend to ignore that divorce is a "sin" if it suits them) marriage seems pretty pointless to me.
I will admit I got married more from the expectation of my mother and to make her happy than for actually wanting to "be married" myself. We were brought up in what is likely to be the last or next to last generation of children fed the image that you need husband/wife/2.5 kids and a picket fence to be happy. | |
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bigcol
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Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 270 | |
| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/12/2006 7:03:22 AM | im 31 going on 32 never been married. Ive asked n got knocked back DOH!
Ive no kids either......that i know of lol.
I should be concerned that ppl will probably asume that coz im a stocky guy who's been known to stand up to ppl in bad situations, that its me with the faults, like that means im the agressor in every situation from now untill forever in any relationship i have.I guess thats what makes girlies run for miles and guys scared to leave me alone with their wives. Truth is, im a im a genuine guy hopeing for the right lady to come along but if she dont im comfortable with myself to wait and just be happy, its my choice to be single at this time.
Single and loving it! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/18/2006 12:40:34 PM | | hi, just read this message of yours. I found it very true. lol. you are so creative and understand women. I thought I say hello. I am in my 30s and not married. Everything you said was true lol | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/18/2006 5:45:26 PM | im 29 ys now and never married but i like to busy to take family . i want fall in love and married i wait and wish that ...i have husband and baby to take care..
i wish everymoring i go to work then come back at evening and together with my husband to take care baby, cooking, and relax: watch TV or go walk...i love simple life where is have my love and it can help me feel warmer and stop lonely too. i dont afraid of hard work but i worry and dont want alone.
" Babys 're cupids, they very lovely how is..." " who's man can help me get my wish?"
Look and keep and make our life to be nice and happy.! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/18/2006 6:16:19 PM | I'm 38 and have never been married...I rarely meet anyone my age who I share this in common with. My views are that not everyone meets someone they want to spend the rest of their life with, and not everyone wants to be a parent. I'm sure if I ever meet my lover AND best friend, I would be eager to take the plunge. As for the parenting part...that is a personal choice that I made long ago, and I am happy with that choice. I do find it rather amusing how society seems to be so much more accepting of a woman who has children and never marries, and at the same time, seems to view a woman who is childless as abnormal | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/18/2006 8:25:46 PM | I do find it rather amusing how society seems to be so much more accepting of a woman who has children and never marries, and at the same time, seems to view a woman who is childless as abnormal
Thank you dog mommy, I couldn't have said it better myself.
I am 35, never married, no kids.
I have been engaged twice, cohabitate three three times. Currently single for the last four years, actively dating for the last two. Guess what? I am probably the most grounded, focused and happy that I have ever been.
I too, feel that there is a bias towards childless women. The last gathering I attended a comment was made to me while I was holding my Great Nephew. "Hey, that baby looks good on you. When are you going to settle down and have one?". That was family speaking to me!! I hear it all the time from family, friends and strangers.
I still believe that if I meet "the one", then sure I will have kids. I haven't met anybody that I felt I would spend the rest of my life with and have children with. It is my opinion that raising children is the most important thing one can do. I take it seriously and wouldn't want to assume the responsibility as a single parent.
Do I have trust/commitment issues? Am I too selfish? Am I a hedonist? What is my problem? Perhaps non maternal? Go ahead and judge me and try to analyze what is "wrong" with me. If you figure it out, let me know!
In the mean time, I will continue to educate myself and aspire to be the best person I can be. Knowing that I will be happy with myself regardless if I have children or not. | |
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