| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/18/2006 10:12:19 PM | Hello Daisy,
I am in exactly the same situation as you but I am not meeting those nice guys. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/18/2006 10:21:16 PM | Well I am over 30 and never been married. And I think thats Honerable. Never met the one that i could say ya to. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/19/2006 4:43:29 PM | | never married, turned 31 this year, havent found anyone im compatible with honestly... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/20/2006 6:35:04 AM | I am beginning to close in on thirty and not married, for the second time.
The thing is, I still can't think of a reason to accept the pain and suffering of marriage, when I can avoid it. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/20/2006 12:07:43 PM | I'm 39 and never married. In my culture, if you aren't married by a certain age you are considered an old maid. My reasoning for not being married is I still haven't found the right guy yet. It's not about being picky. It's just that I am hapless or luckless. I don't know. That's why I am on PoF. I am always looking to find the right guy to come along.   | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/21/2006 5:31:19 PM | Daisy,
I'm 37 and have never been married.
Girls dream about it from a young age and you might be surprised to know that most guys do to. We would daydream in class back in school about how we would propose to the pretty girl sitting next to us and what it would feel like for her to look into our eyes and say 'yes'. Then how it would be to each say 'I do', buy a home, raise kids, go through ups and downs, retire in Florida and live happily ever after.
In the past year or so, my brother, three cousins, two close friends and countless others where I have been the DJ (a side job) have gotten married. I envy them all, yet realize that at 37 there is no way I would consider all this now. What was 'supposed' to happen was supposed to happen 10 - 15 years ago. Sometimes some of us went to 7-Eleven for milk on the fateful night that we were supposed to go to the supermarket and bump into and meet our beloved or the boss asked us to stay late with a special project and when we stopped to fill our car at the gas station, she had already been there hours ago. Sometimes in life we make little left turns and miss our destiny.
Does this answer your question?
Scott | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/22/2006 7:26:28 AM | Howdy Folks,
I think people are just not ready to settle down/wanting more from relationships/establishing themselves career wise and onwards. Myself I was engaged for a year and a half and we dated two and half years before that. Having parted ways in May without getting married, I felt pretty lost for a while (still do a little).
I'm happy it didn't take a divorce to realize that it wasn't meant to be. Where to go from here, well..I'm getting more positive about that. :o)
Dan. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/22/2006 3:03:12 PM | | personally i have a theory....any man that's over the age of 37 and has never even come close to being married is a confirmed bachelor....lol | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/22/2006 3:09:11 PM |
personally i have a theory....any man that's over the age of 37 and has never even come close to being married is a confirmed bachelor....lol
37 here and left at the alter twice --- your theory is debunked | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/22/2006 3:16:32 PM | ^^that's harsh, sorry about your luck...
Can't even imagine how that must feel...
But I guess left at the altar is better than divorce?
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/22/2006 5:46:29 PM | 34 never been married. Lived with my xbf for over 9yrs. He gave me a ring with NO proposal.
Soon as I dumped him I was proposed to 4 times in 2yrs (none of them note worthy). I think young guys just like to propose to older gals.  | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/23/2006 11:05:43 AM | | If you reach the age of 35 there is either something majorly wrong with you. or you are very selfish and can't see yourself with anybody else, because they do not meet your standards. I have yet to meet a single man that is over the age of 35 who isn't either a player, career junkie that lives for his job. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/23/2006 6:33:25 PM | I'm still not married, but since this thread started, I am a year older.
Lizzie40 wrote:
"any man that's over the age of 37 and has never even come close to being married is a confirmed bachelor...."
No, I was close to being married. I drove past a church, during a wedding.
It won't be so long, and I will have reached the age of thirty and not married, twice over. Shall I go for three times?
The thing was, I think I forgot to get married. I can't think of any other excuse.
Either that, or I am a misogamist. A misogamist is a marriage hater, you know, someone who understands marriage. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/24/2006 12:11:34 AM | I have a different point of view on this question. I also hope to be married and have kids and no, I do not think that at this age it is too late to be happy with a family and a loving wife. Perhaps it just takes longer for fate to match some of us to our loved ones. Don't look back or you will miss when it happens!
Many of my friends are getting married or are married with kids now. Sure, I would love to talk with them about these things in my life and hope that I will in the near future.
Now... where are you my darling?? Don't give up and write!
Good luck to all and may love find us ready. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/24/2006 12:22:33 AM | In some cultures,if you're not married by the age of thirty,you're considerd a disgrace to the rest of the family and relatives will approach the parents and say stupid things like....'We're sorry you had such a bad son or daughter'.......and they'll console the parents.WTF!ARE you 30 and healthy......that's what's IMPORTANT.
That's society for you,and its stupid conditioning. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/24/2006 5:16:22 AM |
If you reach the age of 35 there is either something majorly wrong with you. or you are very selfish and can't see yourself with anybody else, because they do not meet your standards. I have yet to meet a single man that is over the age of 35 who isn't either a player, career junkie that lives for his job.
Lake Erie:
What??? What a generalization!!! Obviously you haven't met many 35 year olds to make a statement like that!!!
I married at the age of 24... for me that was too early, I didn't know me yet.
And some people who are 40 still haven't found someone yet. That isn't about something being "majorly wrong with you"... it is about waiting to find the right person to marry... not ANY person.
And do you know all of the circumstances around that person's life to make a judgement like that??
Have you thought perhaps that life has thrown THEM a few curves?? (You see, it takes two people to make a marriage happen)
One of my good friends is over 40 now but had fallen deeply in love with someone - they were together for over 10 years (through school, starting careers, etc)... on the night HE was going to propose, she annouced that she was breaking up with him. It completely b roke his heart and took him quite a while to be ready to love again.
Why does society put so much weight in being married? Why does society pressure people into thinking like Lake Erie does that there is "something wrong" with you if you don't marry young.
Marry when you are both deeply in love with each other and don't look at the number of candles on your birthday cake!!!
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/24/2006 5:26:03 AM | Lake Erie said
If you reach the age of 35 there is either something majorly wrong with you. or you are very selfish and can't see yourself with anybody else, because they do not meet your standards. I have yet to meet a single man that is over the age of 35 who isn't either a player, career junkie that lives for his job.
Well I guess accoring to you PHD in Human Psychology in conjunction with your Masters in Sociology that I must have something very very very wrong with me, which is sad - I was so looking forward to oneday being married -- that day could not come too soon
But I guess as I am a player ( yeah I have slept with 3 women in 17 years - I am a big big time King of the Players) and i see my job onnly as an income not a lifestyle that there is no hope according to you as I will be tagged with your indepth analysis of myself and that of other men in my predicament
Thank you very much for this free comprehensive analysis into my current social status
I know now that according to your prognosis I should find the nearest tree and hang myself as I obviously will not be desired by any woman in her right mind.
Playfull Kitten said
on the night HE was going to propose, she annouced that she was breaking up with him. It completely b roke his heart and took him quite a while to be ready to love again.
Now thats interesting to me from the standpoint that the exact thing happened to me - and I thought i was the only one hmmmm --- | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/24/2006 6:26:02 AM | [If you reach the age of 35 there is either something majorly wrong with you. or you are very selfish and can't see yourself with anybody else, because they do not meet your standards. I have yet to meet a single man that is over the age of 35 who isn't either a player, career junkie that lives for his job.]
Lake Erie - a perfect example of why guys would rather be single than settle for clowns like you. if u run fast enough, u can probably catch the circus before it leaves town. u will crack them up for sure.
i am 33, single, never married, no kids, intelligent (not to mention bloody hilarious) and have a good career. i get the impression alot of people miss the point that guys (and girls) my age, me being one of them, can actually CHOOSE TO BE SINGLE!!! i have been asked out a dozen or more times this year by girls i have been mates with for a while and who want a relationship with me. sure i think they are nuts, but that aside, the fact that I choose not to have one doesnt make me a freak or weird, it reflects my comfort in knowing want i want out of life at this point in time. and i want to be single. You dont always have to dig too deep to work out why people my age are single. we are grown ups and can make conscious choices without heaps of baggage to go with it. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/24/2006 11:25:06 AM | If I am such a clown. Why is it I have been married twice. Once 5 years and another 17 years. I wasn't afraid to share myself with someone. Like most single people over 35. If your still single at 35, chances are you are going to stay single the rest of your life. I actually pity anyone who hasn't been married and is over the age of 35. Because they have never really experienced life................ | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/24/2006 11:38:17 AM | | I disagree. I worked 3rd shift with days off during the week for close to 10 years and that affected my social life tremendously. It was very hard to meet people (outside of work) on a more traditional 9-5 schedule and make a relationship work, if you haven't worked a shift like that then you don't really understand everything that goes with it and if you have then you know what I am talking about. But I eventually did meet somebody and we were together for close to 5 years until it ended (she moved back home and its even harder to make a long distance relationship work in that situation) then I went back to school where most members of the opposite sex are 10 + years younger and whollah....35+ and not married but not any of the others either. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/24/2006 5:50:07 PM | Lake Erie - 35 and never married does NOT equal 35 and never been in a relationship - and by that i mean a serious relationship, including lived together or however people choose to define that. and to say that if you have never been married at 35 means you wont get married (which is what u r saying), is simply a blanket generalisation. my brother and sister both got married in the last 12 months and are in their late 30's (luckily not to each other ) and i know of others who have too.
i just think u perhaps need to broaden ur perspective on the issue. people are getting married later than ever before. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/24/2006 6:10:09 PM | | Lake Erie: I seriously doubt that having been married TWICE is something you want to include on your list of personal accomplishments....btw....I too have been married twice. It escapes me that you (a person that's had not one, but TWO failed marriages) would even consider handing out a sermon on the mount to intelligent, happy single men/women who have either not found a person they WANT to spend the rest of their life with or simply CHOOSE not to marry. Frankly, if more ppl knew they wouldn't be happy married and therefore didn't marry.....would probably cut the divorce rate smooth in half. Jump down from the soap box and do some reflecting. | |
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