| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/24/2006 11:28:46 PM | Hey Daisy
Well I am 33 I have a 9 year old and 7 year old by the same mother and 2 have been engaged and twice never made it to the alter and I would glady marry a woman that was kind, HONEST, caring, and love kids and would love me for who I am, and not what I looked like or what kind of job I have I know a small miracle but then again little miracles have been known to happen. I have proof  | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/25/2006 3:22:45 AM | | I was married before, but when I was 26 I got divorced. I haven't remarried since. But sure would love to be married (this time to someone with same interests as me). | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/25/2006 3:48:07 AM | | I'm female, 35...never been married and no kids. It doesn't mean I'm selfish, but yes I've worked hard over the years but not a career junkie. And yes, I can be a little picky at times....but realistically....don't you have to weed your garden a bit before your flowers will bloom? And besides, these days...marriage is just a piece of paper...if you find the right person, I believe that you should just be hapy to find eachother. Oh yeah....don't you know that these days 35 is the new 25.....lol | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/25/2006 3:56:27 AM | | Lizards, you're not selfish at all, honey. I'm going to be 31 in January and I never had children either. But I never worried about that. And take your time with the marriage thing. Find someone with the same interests as you and be sure he's nice to you too... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/25/2006 8:03:07 AM | I'm 48 and never married. Yes, I have live with a couple of women (unfortunately not at the same time) for periods up to several years, but never actually got married.
Why would anyone want to get married anyways? If they plan on starting a family, then I could understand that. Or if you met the person of your dreams, and they aren't a resident of your country, and their time is up and have to return to their own country, then maybe get married.
Today there is NO ADVANTAGE, I say again NO ADVANTAGE, for a guy to get married. There is nothing a guy gains in moving from being not married, to being married. In fact, most men have far more to lose by getting married, especially if the marriage doesn't work out.....which is at least 50% of the time, and greater in other parts of the country (i.e. California). Women are they only ones who benefit from getting married.
Before getting flamed, I realize that there are exceptions to every rule, but I'm talking in general here, that only women benefit from getting married. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/25/2006 2:27:52 PM | | Like I've always said, marriage isn't for everybody. It may not be for me neither, anymore. I have lived with 3 men in the past (since my divorce 4 1/2 years ago), but they had other problems that prevented me from staying or marrying them...I think I just like living with them and that's it. I don't know... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/26/2006 3:49:02 PM | | I don't know who you are, but I have to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this post. I missed that Andy Rooney episode. That made me laugh and it made me feel great for being a 33yr. old woman who has never been married, by choice. This post has made me proud to be a woman who refuses to settle for whatever comes along. Thanks again, I'm about to pass it around to some of my single 30+ girl friends and brighten their day. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/27/2006 8:25:21 PM | 35 and never been married. Hope to marry one day. Until then I'll be merry, and after then I'll be merry too.
Honestly, many of us simply lack the knack to know how to get started finding people. We are hoping to get a knock in the right direction so that the path is clear. Until then, though, it seems like a far out dream. For someone like myself who has just been to Peru and the Galápagos on tours, it seems I'm able to do all the hard things easy, and the one hard thing that seems insurmountable is finding a good honest friend to date and marry. One day someone will show me where those obstacles aren't real. Hasn't happened yet. I'm not giving up ever... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/27/2006 8:47:53 PM | Marriage.............just the thought of it makes me wanna hurl.,,,,,,,,
Most people don't take their wedding vows seriously.
When they say for better or for worse at the alter,it's funny how when things get a little WORSE in the marriage,53% GET dicorced in the first five years...............No thanks!The lies already begin at the alter before they're even pronounced husband and wife........................what a crock!
Thank god I never got married.......... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 11/30/2006 8:06:16 PM | | I AM 33 NEVER BEEN MARRIED BEEN SORDA ASKED A FEW TIME WHENI WAS YOUNG..NEVER WANTED TO WN I WAS UNDER 21 WAS HAVN TOO MUCH FUN..NOW I AM SO USED TO BEING SINGLE I DONT KNOW IF I EVER GET MARRIED ITA SAD I GUESS.... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/1/2006 8:18:20 PM |
If you reach the age of 35 there is either something majorly wrong with you. or you are very selfish and can't see yourself with anybody else, because they do not meet your standards. I have yet to meet a single man that is over the age of 35 who isn't either a player, career junkie that lives for his job.
Aww craaappp.... only one year left. Whatever will I do... 
What a bunch of garbage... not everyone needs that level of commitment to be happy.
Some people use marriage as a crutch for thier insecurities... thats selfish. Nothing worse than a person who can't handle being on thier own. Not to mention marriage is a religious institution... and since I'm a heathen I see no need for it other than a tax break. Or if you want to have kids... another thing I have no interest in. Of course some would argue that is also selfish and there must be something wrong with me... so I guess I'm a 2 time loser.
And I happen to like career junkies... more time to myself. I am selfish after all. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/1/2006 8:23:08 PM |
I'm 48 and never married. Yes, I have live with a couple of women (unfortunately not at the same time) for periods up to several years, but never actually got married.
Why would anyone want to get married anyways? If they plan on starting a family, then I could understand that. Or if you met the person of your dreams, and they aren't a resident of your country, and their time is up and have to return to their own country, then maybe get married.
Today there is NO ADVANTAGE, I say again NO ADVANTAGE, for a guy to get married. There is nothing a guy gains in moving from being not married, to being married. In fact, most men have far more to lose by getting married, especially if the marriage doesn't work out.....which is at least 50% of the time, and greater in other parts of the country (i.e. California). Women are they only ones who benefit from getting married.
Before getting flamed, I realize that there are exceptions to every rule, but I'm talking in general here, that only women benefit from getting married.
I agree! Unless you find the love of your life, men only stand to LOSE out in marriage, they gain nothing but more stress and a whole host of other garbage... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/1/2006 10:35:27 PM | I'm 34, single, never married. Guess I haven't found my better half yet. Not complaining, life is good right now for me. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/2/2006 2:26:39 PM | I was married twice. You are welcome to have either one of them.
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Beautifully put Greneyes
Seriously theres so much absoloute garbage these days that marriage is some sort of magic key to a happy life untill you actually get married.
And then a second load of garbage that, if you divorce the barstard, then you will be happy. when in fact most people are totally miserable after divorce.
There has always been so much whining about single people but I still don't know why.
Single people
- can party till all hours or just veg the entire wekend without any backlash
- don't have to be in two or three places at th same time to cater to the requirements of the spouse, the kids, and work.
- can dress as far up or as far down as they like.
I really dont' see what the hang ups are over. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/3/2006 1:24:45 AM | Never been married over here.. no kids plants or pets.... and I haven't been in a serious relationship much less a long term relationship since I was about 24 or 25....
I think I just suffer from some bad luck sometimes *chuckles*...
And trust me, I feel like sometimes I'm the only 32 year old living this life.... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/4/2006 1:06:02 PM | Hi there,
I'm 37 and never been married. Haven't been sowing my wild oats either... Have dated 3 girls in that time...
Sxxx | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/4/2006 2:07:18 PM | i'm 31 never been married been engaged a few times. I don't have any kids but i have a dog and a nefew i adore and a niece i'm just getting to know ( she is 2 months lol..) i haven't been in a relationship for over a year and a half, I'm trying to get rid of the a$$hole magnet that seems to be stuck around me somewheres...( no offence guys, I know not all of you are a$$holes, just the ones i seem to date!?!?!?).
have a good one all.... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/8/2006 9:08:56 AM | WOW according to that chic up yonder I need to find a man and get married in the next 10 months or I have serious issues. LMAO
Personally I am proud of myself for not just jumping on the get married band wagon. Yes I would love to find THE ONE, but I'm not gonna lower my standards just to brag about being married to a few losers in my lifetime.
BRAVO to all us "mature" guppies holding out for something we believe in. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/8/2006 9:47:24 AM | im 31 and never been married , also made made it to the grand old age of 31 with no children. Does this mean im a player the answer is no, just never met the right person who going to make my heart miss a beat everytime i see them and give me butterflies in my tummy for the next god knows how many years. Maybe she doesnt exist xx
trev x  | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/9/2006 5:46:08 AM | 31 ? - you are just a bit of a boy!
i am the big 4-0 on december 25th and still no kids or ex wife/partner.
been out with my share of single mums but end up liking the kids more than the mothers.
i didnt leave home until i was 32 as i looked after my ill dad until then but since finding internet sites like this i have made up for lost time
i go to plenty of fish parties and meet people of my age but i am the odd one out as most are preparing to become grandparents while i havent even succeeded in the previous stage. i would love to be a dad - no not just father a child but do ll i can for it after the conception too but it needs to be with the right girl. if it happens it would be great but it has to be done naturally.
try the plenty of fish parties trevsky. lots of lovely people at them. everyone is nervous at first but once they realise we all feel the same way (or have had a drink or 3) then things settle down | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/9/2006 4:18:28 PM | Almost 35 never married, have a 13 yr old daughter, lived with one person her father and we broke up when she was 2. My thing is I will only do it once and I better make sure its the right person for me..I dont think anyone gets married to have it end. Just I knew with guys Ive dated .. They werent the one for me. They were Mr. Right Now
My personaly fave about that is when Im asked "What is wrong with you?" Cause I never married and only had one kid  | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/9/2006 4:54:55 PM | | hahaha This is true........ but never looked at it like a marriage........ I guess now I wont live with anyone else or get married since I did it once | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/9/2006 6:30:16 PM | | I am so glad I never got married early. I had a few chances to do it, was heavily involved with more than one (at different times) but always left, just packed up and left when I'd had enough, last one nearly got me, I'm so glad he didn't. I might never get married and I don't care. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/9/2006 10:09:42 PM | | yeah but as i learned did u live with them...................... but i think men and women think different about marriage............. living together for a short while....... who cares | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/10/2006 8:00:33 AM | | I'm 36 and have never been married. I can say that I am glad to have not been married because being single means that I would have gotten divorced. I was engaged once but it never happened. | |
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