| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/19/2006 11:44:36 AM | 37 here, never married and have no kids. Spent the last 15 years travelling around the world, focussing on my career and working at becoming financially stable. Had I married when I had the opportunities my life would be very different today and I'm certain I would have regrets. Back then I was much younger, still not sure about what I wanted and much less established financially. I like where I am today and feel better prepared on all levels to start a family of my own now.  | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/19/2006 3:56:55 PM | | I am 34 and have never been married. The older you get and the more relationships you do have, the more you realize what a good one takes. i don't want to be divorced, I believe truly in marriage, completely, just I want it with someone who is right for me. All relationships have struggles, but if you are not both mature and open, those struggles are amplified. There has to be room in there for joy! You also have to bring something of yourself to a marriage and your kids. How can you encourage them to be open and explore the world if you've only been to disneyland? How can you encourage them to be themselves if you are living your father's life? We all need to figure out who we are, then we can share what we have to offer!! Some do that young, some not!!! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/19/2006 5:04:33 PM | lol
[whispers]
I know you are checking, Jasminkar.
Sorry people! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/19/2006 11:48:21 PM | | 32 and never married here. Not happy this way, didn't intend for things to be like this... but, the man I was with and engaged to... passed away a few years ago. Been rebuilding ever since. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/20/2006 8:27:44 AM | not attached yet.i don't 'settle', maybe that's why.And yes, i get 24/25 all the time-i'm immortal, dammmiit!Just accept it.
Actually just finished high school
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/20/2006 2:53:53 PM | I too am 30 and not married, never been married, no kids. I guess it's like a lot of people have said, times have changed and it seems many women want to be more capable of taking care of themselves before they commit to someone else.
I do wish that my the parents of people I went to school with would stop asking my mother if I have a boyfriend yet and when I am going to 'settle down' - because I am such a loose cannon party animal that I need settling  I thought that having a stable job, buying a house, and having animals was a pretty good level of settled myself, but what do I know.
What I find particularly entertaining about many of these people asking my mother is that they have children who have been divorced 1 or more times... and I need settling...  | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/21/2006 2:20:53 PM | Loki, I appreciate your post very much...in our society it seems like once you hit 30, are female, financially stable, and dare I say it, "independent", you are somewhat of a social pariah/enigma...ppl (some well-meaning, others have no meaning at all) don't know whether to place you in the 'party animal' category or the 'cat lady' one or the 'raging feminist' one or countless others I could write ad nauseum...but that really don't mean anything worth defending anymore to me except a forced smile and a catchy comeback :) | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/21/2006 4:58:50 PM | Shardas put it really well, that it's better to be alone than to be with someone and miserable. I'd much rather be single and looking for Mr Right than be married and miserable with some abusive clod. I know that when I meet Mr Right he will be worth the wait.
Oh, maybe his name will be Mr Wright | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/21/2006 9:25:37 PM |
it was back in the 50's when people were more about socially controlled roles.
It is called Morals and Decency!!!!! Pure and simple.I have a child out of wedlock.And my oldest son from my only marriage is adopted by me.So don't come back and say anything about this new age.Was wrong then and it will be wrong in the next 2000 years.We are people not critters in the woods. We should behave as what we know is morally right. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/21/2006 9:54:09 PM | hello Daisy
I am a 34 year old single mom of 3 and have never been married lol I would love to be married one day but i cant seem to find a man with enough money to be able to take care of me and my 3 children so why get married I do ok on my own and i love it most days .
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/21/2006 10:55:37 PM | You hit the nail right on the head. All you have to is look through some of the profiles and
see the effects of deceit. I'm a new member and I was utterly shocked at the amount of
anger expressed towards others because of deceit. I feel it's a vent line rather than a dating
service. And yes I'm 40 and not yet married and no kids. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/22/2006 6:20:25 AM | over 30, no kids, no marriage
when i was under 30, I was not yet grown up so if I had gotten married or had kids I would probably be divorced!!!
so that being said at least when I was in my 20's and a f#ck up most of the time I did have the good grace to not subject anyone to a marriage or bring in kids into this world before I even realized what this meant!
So I am glad I am not married, although I am definately ready now for kids and marriage and all that fun! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/23/2006 7:25:40 AM | 32, never married, no kids. Just the way my life has gone and so far no complaints. i'd like to marry one day but I haven't met anyone yet with whom I had that kind of committment/love/relationship.
But I will admit, I thing I'm a little unusual as most people i know in their 30s are married, separated or divorced. I always feel a little bit like the oddball because of my lack of wedding bells in my past. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/23/2006 9:17:50 AM | I am 33, never been married and cannot have children of my own. I used to get depressed about being the only single person amoungst my friends, but they are all now getting divorced so I am no longer the only single!
Now they are all jealous of ME since I have my house, car, freedom and they have nothing because they lost it all due to divorce. Living at home with mom, living in a rat hole apartment, no money for anything.....all those who used to get on me for still being single are now wishing they stayed single like me.
So now I wonder, did I miss out on anything at all by never getting married? | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/25/2006 6:53:37 PM | I'm with herbs411 --- I'm 42 and have never been married and I don't have any children, either. Just haven't found my "Mr. Right" yet. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/25/2006 7:12:28 PM | | I am not married but I'm still hopeful. I get a little lonely sometimes and I worry that I wont be young enough to be the kind of father that I want to be. I can get girlfriends I just cant seem to keep them. Better luck next time I guess... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/26/2006 5:40:44 PM | what?Thirty and not married.... What should I think now that I turned 40 last week and not married. But like I have read here. We 30 something women spent our energy, building our lives, establishing ourselves, financially, spirtually, emotionally, intellectually. I wouldn;t trade places with any 20 something married with 2 kids. especially if she is unhappy. Somewhere I read and heard the being 30 (and 40) is the new 25. So all those women out there do not despair. I read some of these threads and you guys are hilariious, intelligent, attractive.... and have alot to offer. So don;t settle for anything less than what you deserve. I still believe that it is better to be single and happy than married and unhappy. That is way to high a price to pay just to please others. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/27/2006 9:53:54 AM | | I have never been married or ever had children. I volunteer which some would say is my way of taking a cold shower. I was in love big time 10 or so years ago with the greatest guy in the planet. He knew me but I let him slip away, no date, no nothing. I saw him a while back with a lady it made me feel lonley. So here I am. Being over 30 does not bother me, missing the boat on a really great guy does though. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/27/2006 2:38:10 PM | K this was written by my sister who thinks this is friggen hilarious.
anyways, just a FYI. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/27/2006 5:48:33 PM | I haven't been married. I was kind of worried about it, but not any longer.
I'm kind of enjoying life and not worrying. Its not entirely uncommon. A famous author I admire, Louis Lamour got married when he was around 40. Before then he had worked as a merchant marine, been shipwrecked twice, fought as a prize fighter, worked as a miner, been in officer in the Army during WW2, wrote poetry, and traveled the world.
He got married, had two kids and was happy with his wife for about thirty years till he died in 1988-89. By the n he had been awarded a Congressional Gold Medal and Presidential citation.
He said in his last interview. "I have lived about three lifetimes."
Don't worry be happy! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/27/2006 8:47:14 PM | I don't think be over 30 is that bad. You got to look at it as how much life experience can you bring in to a relationship with someone who can really appreciate that. One of the main complaints from women about men is that we are not mature enough, not ready for a serious relationship, etc. All that should be no problem for a 30 years old man. That's the way you and lots of people should look at this thing of age. Good luck to you.  | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/27/2006 9:24:27 PM | | I'm 30 not married or have kids. I'm a normal guy or so i guess .LOL. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/28/2006 1:54:31 PM | Woohoo!
I'm glad I'm not the only one around here that's 30, or older, and never married, and no kids. Sure, those things may be great, if the right person comes along, but until then...Yikes, I am ok with being single. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/28/2006 9:16:16 PM | | I'm 30, never married, no kids - I like to marry but she's already married (open marriage). And I do and don't want kids; if do, just one is fine with me. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/29/2006 2:46:29 PM | I am 34 single, never married and no kids. I too have been busy with my career and seeing some of the world and living in different parts of Canada. Some people ask me what's wrong with me and why I am still single, I say I am picky and am waiting for MR. Right not MR. Right Now. I am ok with being single, I have nothing to tie me down, I can go where I want - when I want!
If I meet Mr. Right, I may settle down, who knows? | |
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